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i can get sort of nervous around guys. so i tend to stay away or just not really talk to them unless sometimes i just let my gaurd down and everything is fine but i still laugh nervously. the other day i was with this guy i like and i think it was okay but i still dont know. what do you think i should do about my nervousness???? (link)
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Heellow. I totally understand. Most girls are usually nervous around guys they like. If they're not, there's something wrong with them. But why be so nervous around all guys? It's alright to be nervous around the guy you like though but hey...cool it man...there's no need to be so self conscious around all the guys.
Most guys don't really study you from top to toe like a specimen on microscope. Just act like yourself and make yourself comfortable around them.
Before you go out, make sure you look good and after that, forget bout how you look and just concentrate on what your guy friends have to tell you and heck-care bout worrying how you look like or behave in front of them. Just listen attentively to them and yea, let your guard down baby! Don't worry so much bout it man. Enjoy yourself with no constraints. Keep practicing that and you'll find that you'll stop being self conscious and nervous.
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my eye has been hurting for the last few days. Atfirst it felt like there was something in it, like an eyelash, but that feeling went away quickly. It's been red and it hurts to blink, everytime i do i feel a sudden headache on that side of my head. Also it's become swollen, so my eyelid is like twice the size as my other one! could i have popped a blood vessel, and what else could have caused it to feel like this? should i go to the doctor? and what can i do to make it feel better.
thanks sooo much any advice can help! (link)
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It could be conjunctivitis and it's contagious. I had it b4 and the blood vessels in ur eyes will look like they're reaching out to grab your pupil.
It could also be that you rubbed your eye too hard and ruptured a blood vessel. Gently use warm water to clean your eyes if it is itchy or irritating you. Go see a doctor. And don't rub it anymore. Don't worry, it's nothing serious.
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I stumbled across this site by accident. I seriously doubt many of you have the qualifications to give real people proper advice. After reading some of your responses to people's inquiries i was quite astonished as to how teenagers find they are able to give quality advice and information to real people in need with such little life experience. If you ask me you are not in a place to give your "personal opinion" when people truly believe you are giving them the right answer simply because you claim "people think i give really good advice". (eg. i am still at a loss as to how a 17 year old girl thinks she can give advice to someone regarding conceiving a child) I know you try to come across as a "godsend" to poeple who are in some sort of personal crisis and need a fast easy answer but the truth is, in the cases where it really counts, there rarely is one; at least not from you. (link)
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Wow Thanks! You just made all of us more united...against U.
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ok so my favorite pair of shoes are these ballet flats that YOU CANNOT WEAR SOCKS WITH cuz it would look WEIRD and UGLY! so i wear them a lot but not like every day anyway they make my feet smell SO BAD so like what should i do to keep that from happening? cuz i love the shoes..... (link)
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Hey I have stinky feet too. And I love ballet flats like shit. What I do is I put powder on my feet and in my shoes. You can use the powder that I'm using - St Luke's prickly heat. In addition, you've gotta clean the insides of your shoes at least once a week too. (which btw, is something that I do once in a few months)
Oh and I know I'm beginning to sound gross but I have to tell you. This is the impt thing you must do to get rid of the stinky smell. The insides of your toenails sometimes trap dirt which smells like salted fish. Use a toothpick to get rid of those suckers and cut your toenails regularly so that they dun trap these stinky assholes. All the best to your smelly feet.
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"Goodness, why is everyone on weed?! I know this'll sound cliche but why are you making yourself a slave to an addiction? You've paying for something that's destroying your lungs, liver and your looks. " Weed doesn't destroy your looks. Weed doesn't destroy your lungs... you can't get lung cancer from it. And the liver isn't affected, unless you somehow hurt it from all the food from the munchies. When you smoke weed, you don't get all the tar and the shit that the cigarette companies put in. There have been 0 deaths from pure weed smoking.
Evidence to back up that weed smoking isnt linked to cancer: http://www.webmd.com/content/Article/122/114805.htm?pagenumber=1
Weed is just a plant, and people need to realize that. Alcohol is even much worse for what it does to your liver and causes crashes. If you've gotten stoned and gotten drunk, theyre two completely different highs. You have much more control in a car when you're high, unless you smoke a LOT. I'm not saying to out and smoke and drive, but my main point is that alcohol is much worse for you than weed, but people are too un-used to the idea of calling it a drug.
Sorry for my rant, but I don't like it when people get their facts wrong, including the government. :P (link)
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Haha. Ok alright alright. I got my facts wrong. But the important point is, an addiction IS an addiction and it'll make you crave for more and more and more. And there's really no point in denying and not telling your mum cos your mum already knows you're on weed. Besides, don't you feel the least bit guilty for doing something that is disappointing your mum?
And you're kinda making weed sound harmless. I know that you may not be doing that but it's the impression that I get. Forgive me for being honest but I feel that you don't wanna own up to the fact that you are wrong for smoking weed. I really don't know what you want and I really have nothing more to say. I won't blame you for rating this a 1.
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What's the differnce between french kissing and makeing out? Cause people always say there's a differnce, but I see them as the same. Cause they don't they both involve tongue? I don't know, I'm confused. What's the differnce?! (link)
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French kissing is the subset of making out.
Making out can include french kissing. Making out means a lot of other things other than french kissing as well; such as hugging, touching, etc.
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Hello, first I would like to say that I am a 16/m and I started smoking weed every weekend and some weekdays since August. I went off to go hotbox my friends truck tonight and we did, and we had a blast. I was out from about 4-9, and we didn't smoke til about 6. Anyways, when I came home about 30 mins ago I said hello to my mom and then I started eating. My mom was like "What's wrong with your eyes... oh my gosh.. what have you been doing?" And I said "What!? Nothing! What do you think I've been doing? I stayed up really late last night watching a movie and then I woke up early and then I drank an energy drink so I'm really tired!" well then my mom was like "then go look in the bathroom mirror." and Oh my God. My eyes weren't TOO bad, but they were still hella glossy and a bit red, and wow were my pupils dialated. I simply said Mom, I DONT do drugs. I'm really tired... that's all... and she was like "whatever. take out the dishes." What I'm wondering is how do I deal with this? My mom will probably think that I have smoked before and then she will get mad, even though she used to smoke weed when she was my age. Thanks for any input, sorry for the long story :P (link)
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Goodness, why is everyone on weed?! I know this'll sound cliche but why are you making yourself a slave to an addiction? You've paying for something that's destroying your lungs, liver and your looks.
Your mum obviously knows you're on drugs since she's been there and done that. I guess what she really wants is for you to be honest with her. She's really disappointed that you are lying to her when she said "whatever, take out the dishes". Your mum doesn't wanna force you to admit to her. She wants you to tell her the truth on your own accord, and you should cos she's your mum and she cares bout you. You should quit weed-ing. Tell me, what are the pros of weed-ing as compared to the cons? You should have a good talk with your mum and see what she has to say. Cos I think she's waiting for you to make the first move.
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ok so i have a housekeeper, but i always feel so sorry for her..well one because she is a housekeeper, a single mother with 2 kids whose husband left her, and she has a lot of different jobs. and because we are a really annoying family..like i feel bad for her because i'm always having her take me for a smoothie or something after school (but i always pay her back) and i'm picky about dinnner,etc... but i'm really nice to her. she's really nice and i dont know i just feel so bad for her..and she can't speak english that well either so we sometimes have communication problems. but my mom is sometimes sooo mean to her like she would start like yelling at her being like "why didnt you spend 4 hours this week cleaning the bathrooms?! this is our promise when you started working for us!? how are you going to make this up!" and omggg its horrible and the housekeepers like on the verge of tears and says that she'll work an extra day next week,but my moms like "nooo that wont make up for this week waht are you going to do!?" and she just keeps pushing it ! you don't even understand how mean my mom is she was like yelling at her .. ughh idk i wish my mom would stop being so mean i was like "mom ill clean the bathrooms!" because i couldnt stand it anymore and my mom got mad at me. i seriously hate my mom i don't understand why she has to be so mean and pushy to everyone..yeah i know she pays the housekeeper but htat doens't give her a right to be so rude? helppp..? (link)
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Did you try talking to your mum? Tell your mum that your housekeeper's human too and explain nicely to her that by shouting at your housekeeper, it's gonna make everyone unhappy. Reason it out with your mum. Like for eg, explain to your mum that the housekeeper offered to work an extra day next week so why not accept her offer, see how it goes before scolding her.
The key thing to get thru to your mum is to reason with her and try not to get impatient. Don't hate your mum. Ask her why is she raising her voice at your housekeeper and try to rationalise the matter with her from there. Try to be calm and don't raise your voice at her.
It's good that you're nice to your housekeeper. Continue to treat her warmly and by doing so, you're encouraging her and helping her deal with her tough life. You could also help her by reducing the amount of mess you make at home too. Try to help a little by wiping off wet spills immediately or small little things which you can clean up by yourself.
I hope everything goes alright =)
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which do you prefer on guys?
tattoos or piercings?
and if either or both...which part of the body?
thanks for reading (link)
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I prefer piercings. Tattoo's fine with me as long as it just occupies a small part on the body like just on the arms.
I like guys who have one of their ears pierced. That's my personal preference. I don't like piercings and tattoos in excess. Just a little piercing and tattoo is enough to turn me on =)
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ah, okay well this guy *joe has liked me since freshmen year [im currently a junior], but didnt tell me till a month ago how he felt. well its been making it hard, b/c we'v been best friends since middle school. i think i have feeling for him, but im hesitating because i dont want to wreck our friendship because it means a lot to me. but yet i dont know what to do with these feelings. so if i could have your point of view on what you feel is right? i know im capable of making my own decisions and all, but it is nice to hear others input on the situation. =] (link)
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I would go with him. But I'll take it slow. I'll slowly progress with him from friendship till a relationship stage.
A guy and a girl will get together first as aquaintences, then good friends, then best friends and probably to the stage where both of them like each other or could be a one sided crush.
At this point, when nothing is done bout it, both of them will most probably move on and establish a platonic relationship and it'll be hard/wierd to go into a relationship anymore. So if you really like him, you should go with him. Cos if you two just keep your feelings to each of yourselves, then the friendship might turn into a confused and probably an awkward one since you two don't even know if you're just friends or in a relationship. Blearrgh...it's hard to explain but I hope you get what I mean. I just feel that it might confuse everything. So yea, I'd go with him if I have feelings for him.
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is it bad....i mean im 13 and im addicted to it....i wish i could stop but its like a drug!
HELP (link)
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No masturbating isnt bad. It's a form of relaxation and release from tension. To break the addiction, you need more activities to do other than just thinking bout sex. Go out and play, go shopping with your friends, go read books, go clean up your room, water your plants, etc. Just try to stop watching porn or looking at sex-related stuff to reduce your masturbating rate.
But don't worry bout masturbating; it doesn't have any side effects.
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there is this boy at my school. let's call him S. S has a girlfriend, yet he keeps flirting with me. i don't know what i should do because the girl and me aren't really that close but i don't want to be accused of messing around with her boyfriend when i'm not doing anything. he's constantly touching me (not in inappropriate places), whispering in my ear, and trying to make me feel his abs! And on top of that, he'll jump on my lap and rub my leg...i guess he's trying to turn me on or something. but it's really getting hard not to do anything back! PLEASE HELP!!! (link)
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Hey don't do anything back!! Don't fall into his trap! Obviously he just wants to be intimate with you with no strings attached. Think bout the future. I know it'll feel good to do those 'things' with him BUT
1) It'll be hell if his gf finds out bout it and you'll earn yourself one more enemy.
2) Even if he breaks up with his gf to go with you, there's no telling when he'll cheat on you with another girl
3) You'll be caught in an emotional tangle with you hankering after him and him possibly ignoring you after having enough fun with you.
Push him away and tell him to stop. You've gotta exercise self control girl. Go mix around with other guys. He's a jerk for cheating on his gf.
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im a girl and i sorta have a moustache.
should i pluck it?
do u girls pluck it? (link)
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Is your moustache very obvious? If it isnt that obvious it's alright. But if it is, and it's making you self conscious bout it, then you should pluck or wax it off.
Never shave it off though! I think you should know that too. Every girl has a little bit of moustache. I have it too but it isn't very obvious unless you look very closely. Some of the guys I know have commented bout my moustache but that didnt stop them from liking me. So dun worry too much bout it.
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15/f. today in gymclass we were at the pool and we were doing our hair and wat not and then this one girl that was always a troublemaker goes and tells "anne" that this boy likes her and apparently anne already knew and i kne that this boy liked anne but i never said anything because that boy told me not to tell anyone so i didnt. anyways so after school the boy pulls me aside and says that the troublemaker told him that i told anne that he likes her. i told him it wasnt me and he still doesnt believe me. i cant tell him it was the troublemaker because she would want to fight me and i dont want to deal with that drama right now. what should i do? should i just tell him or have him angry at me thinking that i told her? please help. thanks alot. (link)
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Is anyone else present when that troublemaker told Anne bout it? If there are, you can just tell him that the troulemaker's the culprit.
If there's just you, the troublemaker and Anne that's present, you should still tell the boy that its the troublemaker at fault. Tell him not to tell the troublemaker bout it so that she won't come running after you. What's important is that you clear up the misunderstanding between you and him.
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ok if i masturbate does that mean sex before marriage....does that mean im sinning every time i masturbate??? (link)
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Hell no. Masturbating is not equal to sex at all. Sex is when a guy insert's his penis into a girls vagina. I should think this explanation is explicit enough for you.
So no, you are not sinning everytime you masturbate.
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i hurt my knee snowboarding it was swollen up like a melon and really bruised, the doctor told me to stay off my knee until its comfortable to walk, i havnt really been doing that, and it still hurts when i walk but i just ignore it cuz it doesnt hurt enough to make my flinch, someone told me if i didnt stay off my knee and let it heal properly that next time i hurt it, it would be much worse and i could perminantly damage my knee, is that true? should i stay off my knee for the next few days (link)
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Yes it would permanently damage your knee. You should heed your doctors advice. If not, why did you even go and see a doc?
It's like making jelly. If you keep shaking and disturbing the jelly and refuse to let it settle down and solidify beautifully, you're gonna get a messed up jelly. Similarly, if you don't give your knee a break, your knee's not gonna heal properly.
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Whenever I try to watch videos on YouTube I can only see about the first ten seconds before it sends me to the What Again? Or Share? Buttons. I’ve tried a whole bunch of different videos and I let the whole video load of course but when I ask it to play it never plays more then the first ten seconds before stopping.
Anyone know what could be causing this and/or how to fix it? (link)
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I don't really know what's the exact cause of it but it could be due to the youtube server being busy or your com being lag/busy/having too much heavy memory programs running.
Normally, I'd do either of the following
1)end all those uneccessary heavy programs from my task manager
2)restart my com
3)just stop watching videos from there for the time being.
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I love a boy, not naming names.
I think about him so much and I cant take it.
I think about him from the minute i wake up
and to the minute i go to sleep and sometimes I cant sleep becuz I am thinking about him.
Yes, he knows who I am and we used to be really really good friends
He has a girlfriend ..yet he stares at me.
Several times we did sex type things .
He doesnt talk to me anymore,barely.
Theres the occasional small talk but nothing more like it used to be.
No, i cant talk to him or call him or email him or any of that becuz knowing him he wont take it seriously or ignore what im saying.
What does this all mean
and what should I do about it?
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You should leave him. Cut off all contact with him. He's causing you agony and pain. Don't torture yourself anymore. Get out of that rut. He's not worth waiting for cos he's a jerk. How can he be intimate with you yet refuse to commit into a relationship with you?
First things first, you'll feel better if you accept the reality that he'd rather stick to his gf.
I know its difficult to accept this reality and all you want is for him to accept you. But please, try to see if from a more objective point of view and be smart bout it ok?
If I were you, I'd pity his gf and not myself. Cos at least I know I'm single and I don't have a bf who cheats on me. Even if you get him as your bf, in time to come he'll cheat on you and cause another girl the same grief as what you are going thru right now.
Go out and enjoy yourself. I assume you are a teenager so don't waste your teenage years on him cos when you look back, you're gonna regret not having fun during your teenage years. Go mix around with your friends and build on your friendship with your good friends. Do things to get him off your mind. I know it's gonna be tough to not brood over him; but do try.
Listen to the radio, chat with your friends over the phone, get busy with stuff and don't let your mind wander back to him. You'll be happier the moment he's out of your life; trust me, cos I'm telling you all this from an objective point of view.
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When I was a two or three everyone in preschool used to trouble me a lot.I came home crying often.When I used to play with the children from the building they used to bang my head on the wall.I do not remember exactly what happened but I remember I was about 5 and all the kids playing down gatered around me(I don't remeber what they did) and then my nanny had to hit them and take me home.In art class when I was eight evey one was against me(The mother of one of the children there asked why every one was against me.I remember her asking that clearly.)In the sixth grade this eighth grade and a huge group of buiding children used to bug me.I was bullied by atleast 8 people at a time.When I hardly knew this girl and the people in the building were playing truth or dare she said I couldn't play because I was under 11(That happened a month before I turned 11.My brother had it much worse.Every one in the building used to tease him.really large amounts of people,some of them were adults too.People used to hit him and run away at school.Whenever he went out of the house or met someone in the lift the bugged him.
Why are people so biast against us? (link)
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I can only guess why are the people prejudiced against you and your bro cos I'm not there with you.
1) You are the minority race in your town/country
2) People discriminate against those who are ugly or physically handicapped. Especially young kids, they tend to befriend pretty or handsome girls and boys.
3) Someone spread a horrible rumour bout your family.
As for your brother, he is getting it too cos people tend to bully those who are related to their 'bully-ee'(which is you).
Did you tell your parents bout it? Its horrible to have people disturbing you. Lodge a police report if the harrassment gets worse. You should let the authorities handle this cos it seems like its spinning out of control. If the situation doesn't improve, I suggest you leave that town or country and start fresh elsewhere.
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Is being too skinny and flat-chested unattractive to guys (even if the girl can't help it)? (link)
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No. But being inconfident bout yourself is unattractive to guys.
If you're skinny, I'm sure you have other assets such as having nice leg, etc.
I've loads of friends who are skinny and flat chested but they're cheery and confident bout themselves and they have tons of guys interested in them.
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