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I'm a qualified colour therapist and I'm doing a course in psychotherapy and councelling. i have the letters SNHS after my name which means i have a diploma from The School of Natual Health Sciences.I have life experience in mental health, agoraphobia,bullying,parents divorce.
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15/f
Okay so Idk what is wrong with me. Like Im convinced bad things are going to happen to me.
like when I'm 16 I cant get my license but i think to the future and picture myself getting into a car accident and like i actualy believe that this is going to happen to me.
And i read a story in seventeen magazine about a women getting murdered in her house and i think to myself oh that will prob. happen to me. like im convinced that something bad is going to happen. Like every bad situation I hear I make myself think its going to happen. Idk why but I dont think its healthy, and i freak myself out. Like I seriously think im going to prob. die in a car accident when i can drive.
please help!
You have something called Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD), i have this too, it's where you have very disturbing thoughts and conviced bad things are going to happen.
You should go to your doctor about this, he'll most likely refer you to a therapist, one who deals with children, this can be treated, but if left untreaed then it can spiral out of control and just keeps getting worse.
It's a very common disorder, it can come in different ways such as constantly washing your hands, or having to repeat a certain phrase or action, fearing your going to hurt someone, or like your experiencing, images of bad things happening to you.
It is very treatable though and with the right help you can over come this.
I left mine a long time before i got any help which is why it developped into different kinds of OCD and progressing worse, but it is getting easier now, and yours will too aslong as you get the right help, so see your doctor and you'll be on the right track :-)
You dont have to go with your parents if you dont feel comfortable, you can take a friend or go on your own.
love chakra
16/f
well me & this guy have been talking for about almost a month now and i really like him and he really likes me.. the problem is he doesnt want to be boyfriend and girlfriend because we live 20 minutes apart and he cant drive yet and he doesnt have a phone..but i rly want to go out with him and weve hung out like 4 times during the three weeks weve been talking. he just wants to see how the summer goes and keep hanging out. but the thing is that we act like were going out. we kiss and hug and call each other babe and tell each other we love them when we say goodbye and we hold hands everywhere.. and were supposed to hang out today around 1:00pm. i dont know what to do. he wants to do "things" which i wouldnt mind if we were going out but i dont know. im still a virgin and i wouldnt mind losing it to him cause he is such a nice guy and hes sweet and really funny. but i know i wont have sex with him unless we've been going out for a while.. i cant stand not talking to him and i miss him when i go places..we talk almost everyday cause his sister has a cell phone & when shes not home he is usually at his friends house on the computer and he always IM's me...what should i do?
It sounds like he wants to be friends with benefits.
He says he loves you and wants to do sexual things with you, yet he doesnt want you to be his girlfriend.
His excuse is so ridiculous! Because you live 20 minutes apart. You must know thats a really lame excuse.
20 minutes is absolutely nothing, you can walk it, go on the bus.
And because he doesnt have a phone. Yet you talk on the phone to him nearly everyday
Don't let him use you.
You should save your virginity for someone special, a proper boyfriend, who loves you.
You should find out what he really wants, if you really like eachother and want to be boyfriend and girlfriend, then living 20minutes apart is going to make no difference at all.
ive been dating this amazing guy for about a month now and we met online. i know him through a friend but we met online. the only thing that sucks it that he lives 40 mins away so i wont get to see him much. hes an amazing guy and i never want to lose him. should i keep working at it?
40 minutes is nothing. i used to travel half an hour on the bus everyday to school and college so that 40 min distance should be no problem.
i'm guessing your young if you think it is, although you dont say how old you and your boyfriend are.
I'm not sure if you've met in person yet, but when i was 16 i met my boyfriend online and we were together for 2 years so yes it can work, he lived about a 2 hour train journey away from me and we saw each other 4 days a week so you have to trya nd come to an arangment so you can keep your relationship going.
If you havnt met him yet then i would do as a month is a long time to be "dating" someone you've never met.
Although play it safe, meet in public and dont go anywhere quiet with him, when i met my boyfriend for the first time we kind of had a 3 day date, as i went on holiday with my family just so i could meet him, it was actually my mums idea. so they got a holiday too.
We met in a town though and stayed in busy places, thats the safest thing to do so if you meet your boyfriend then make sure your in a public place.
If you really like eachother then you can make it work, long distance relationships take more effort, but 40 minutes isn't long distance so you should have no problem x
My sister is the youngest in our family and suffers from depression and anxiety. Unfortunately, she also suffers from agoraphobia and has been housebound for over six years. She still lives at home with our mom who seems to be enabling her condition. (My mother is separated from my dad and would otherwise be alone in the house.)
Although I live a fair distance away, I try to go over when I can and get my sister out of the house by taking her to the store. But otherwise, she doesn't bother going out. I have a couple of other siblings who are of no help.
Additionally, as my husband and I get closer to retirement age, he is starting to get concerned that once my mom passes away, that my sister will become my responsbility.
My question is how (and if) we should get her to take that first step towards recovery. I know from personal experience that one must actually WANT to get well before actually doing so. However, it's been a LONG TIME now and doesn't seem to be taking an steps toward recovery. (She's refused all offers of counseling.)
Any ideas you can give me would be much appreciated.
Hi, being an agoraphobic myself, i know how hard it must be for your sister.Although I am battling this fear now, i was totally housebound for 4 years. Being so icolated for so long has left me with a huge social phobia and during those times i was so depressed which of course left me unmotivated.
Your sister will be feeling so depressed and alone, So although she'll want to be living a "normal" life she wont have the motivation to do so. it's such a vicious circle.
When i became agoraphobic i just sat in my bedrom for years just waiting to get better and the harsh reality is, thats not going to happen.
She has a long road ahead of her but she can get through this. Although i still panic when i'm out, i've got to the stage where i WANT to go out and i ask for my boyfriend (who is my support person) to take me out.
I have an agoraphobia diary online which i wrote for my first steps out in january and everyday since i've been out (although it does need updating now). i wrote it so other agoraphbia sufferers know exactly what steps i took and how far you can progress if you really try.
http://www.my-diary.org/users/222189
i also have an action plan that me and my boyfriend worked out to help me beat this fear. I've stuck to it and it's working. i started trying to beat this fear in january and i have come such a long way since.
It's quite long so if you could send me your email address then i will email it to you along with some support groups and my diary. if your sister sticks to it and really works hard then she can beat this, but she really needs to put all her effort into it if she's going to live more of a "normal" life.
*I know someone below has said take her to a shop or a resturaunt but this should NOT be done. This is only going to make everything so much worse.
You build upto the the big scary stuff, i'm still panicy in shops, sometimes i can manage but other times it's just too much.
Going straight from being housebound and having panick attacks at just the though of going outside, then going into a shop is not going to happen.
She needs to take little baby steps to start with. Otherwise she'll never make progress throwing her straight in at the deep end. it's a gradual process.
Also, people telling you how much your missing out on life adds to the depression. i got suisdal because i was so depressed about being stuck inside and being alone and missing out, people telling me just how much i was missing out made the depression loads worse because i already knew that, and people telling me these things who dont understand what agoraphobia is and how it affects a person make me feel so much worse. i just used to think "you haven't got a clue how i'm feeling, you've never been through this", it's not just scared of going outside, it's extreme panic that makes you feel so ill even just thinking about it. Plus the extreme depression, suisidal thoughts and huge social phobia, it's just like an impossible task and the loneliest feeling ever.
Click on the bit that says ask me a question and tell me your email addy and i'll send you the plan i stuck to, and maybe if you or your sister would like to chat to me about the agoraphobia then i could send my msn addy to you too.
love alison xxx
Ok, well I just downloaded a bunch of stuff from thesims2.com
but it's not in my game.
After I downloaded everything, after each one actualy, it said to double click a content pack or something?
Anybody ut there who can help me?
thanks
Lauren
Search "All files and folders" for EA games
Click on EA games
Click SIms 2
Downloads
Then, one the webpage that you download things from, RIGHT click on the item and "Save target as".
It will start to download
A grey box will come up, then click Open Folder
If it's a RAR file (lloks like books) double click on it
If it's the other kind, then right click on it and click "extract to here"
Rar file - a folder will be highlighted, dont click it, click on "extract to" above it on the big folder picture.
*you may need to download a thing so you can open rar. files.
If it's the other kind then click on use evaluated version and wait til it's downloaded.
Then your documents folder will pop up, and it will have a folder with your downloaded item in.
double click it, and there will be a Word document, right click the word document and copy and paste it into the EA games Sims Downloads folder that you opened at the begining.
If it's the other kind of program then you'll just see the word document and you can just copy and paste it the the EA games sims downloads folder.
15.f
Hey, Well for some time now I've been having problems, i have been extremely "out of it" and everything. And I have talked to 2 of my friends about it (one is my bf) and both think i have this thing called dissociation or something. I am really concerned that if i tell anyone or ask about it. They will think i'm crazy. I mean i think i'm crazy myself, but Still. i don't want them to think that. My bf espeshally (sorry about the spelling). He told me to talk to my parents about it. I really Don't want to. I don't have a good relationship with my parents at all. They will judge me, or something. Well i really just don't want to. Please help. What can i do? :(
You really need to see your doctor if you think you may have dissociation. Your doctor will refer you to therapy, someone who deals with this kind of mental health problem and most like a therapist who deals with young people and possibly medication to help ease the symptoms.
Unfortunatly, there are alot of people that don't understand mental health problems, i know from experience as i have quite a few of them, but you don't need to tell everyone if you have any, just the people that really need to know.
Go to the doctor with your boyfriend or your friend if you don't feel comfortable telling your parents yet, and see what he says and what he diagnoses you with.
If your parents need to know then ask your doctor if he can explain it to them.
This website tells you more about dissoacoation, it tells you what it is, what the symptoms are, what causes it...ect
http://www.sidran.org/didbr.html
Even if you don't have it, you maybe suffering from something else, so it's still best to see your doctor and get the proffessional help you need.
Also, dont be ashamed if you do have this or any other mental illness, i was ashamed of what i have but recently i've got to thinking "why should i be ashamed, it's part of me. and there's millions of other people with mental illnesses, alot lead normal lives".
Dont ever apologise or be ashamed of who you are, it's the arrogant people that dont try and understand and who show no compassion that should be ashamed, not you.
Chakra xxx
Okay like 2 days ago i shaved down there for the 1st time.. but like now i havve these little red bumps all down there and they hurt a little bit but there better than what they were yesterday there like getting less hurtful but what are they!!?!?! and like will this happen every time a shave... and can i have some tips on how to shve without getting this?!?!
I never shave down there as it's a very delicate area, what you are describing is shaving rash, it can happen on your legs too.
Instead, use hair removing cream for the "bikini area", it will say it on the box, it's painless and leaves you smooth, if you can, buy one that comes with a smoothing cream too for after x
Hi, i'm gonna start off saying that i'm 14 and i'm going into grade 9, i'm not that populare in my school but i'm conseterd a normal. well anyways, i have a whole bunch of mental disbiletys(spelt wrong but w/e) i have a serous Depreshion, Buy-Polar (it's a mood swing thing), Anger Problems, ADD, and some other one were i blank out lots. well i dont take any perscripton druggs for these things.. and i feel so horable everyday.. i was an abused child.. so i'm not that smart cause my head was always bashed into things. and well i cant always deal with this.. i've tryed suicide lots.. but it hasent worrked.. i was to die but yet i want to live.. i see a terapist but he isent helping.. do you guys have and ideas of something i could do to get my mind off my disorders.. or some movie about how to deal. any little thing can help... Thank You so much.
I can help a little bit with things to do, i suffer from mental illnesses too including depression, social phobia, agoraphobia and panic and anxiety attacks so i know how important is is that you keep your mind occupied as being bored makes the depression 10 times worse and can bring it on.
When i'm feeling panicy or depressed or i'm in a situation that i know will bring these feeling on, i have my comfort things around me which are also distractions to eas these feelings and make me forget about them.
Videos and dvd's are very important to me because TV is always a good distraction, and if theres nothing on tv then you always have stuff you can watch to take your mind of how you are feeling. I tend to tape alot of programs off tv to watch at a later date, i have alot of friends epidodes on video and dvd which are also my "comfort videos" because they are easy watching.
Also you could try magazines, puzzle books, reading, i like being creative so if you do too then you could draw, paint, makle collages which will be a great distraction but you can also express how you feel and keep hem to decorate your bedroom with.
you could make jewelly, maybe play out with your friends, when i was your age i used to love playing football just in the street with my friends, you go go shopping, to the cinema, make jewellry, join forums for people with mental health problems so you can interact with people who know what you are going through and who wont judge you because they have similar problems.
You may also want to concider seeing a different therapist, someone you like, i've had loads of different kinds of therapy too so you may want to look into what other kinds there are or something more fun like art therapy x
I think I might be pregnant.. I had sex with my boyfriend without using a condom..about 2 weeks ago..He was supposed to pull out in time and he claims he did.. but "down there" was wet like "his stuff" was all over it... as if he pulled out as going ...!
I know this was a STUPID thing.. to not use a condom and whatnot.. but its too late.. and i want to know if you guys think im pregnant!?
Im like paranoid now.. and feel dizzy all the time.. ! My periods not supposed to come for a while either.. so I dont know.. plus, its realllly irregular and I dont even know when to expect it!
HELP!!!
You need to see your doctor quickly!
You could be pregnant, especially if your periods are late.
Your doctor will make sure if you are pregnant or not to put your mind at ease, if you are then he will go through your options with you.
He may also check for STD's, especially if your boyfriend has had sex before/
what is the legal consent age for sex? some people say tis 16 and some say its 18. which one is it?
In the UK it's 16
I know another boyfriend story sorry.My boyfriend is in new mexico we have been going out for 4 months now and he pays for minutes and I know long distance but does it hurt to call me.He told me he would call once a weak. and he never does he did not even call on my birthday i had to wait all day [that crushed me] then i called him and all he said was i'm sorry and i have to go i'll call you back later that was on the 25 of june. I mean he did not even say happy birthday. everyone says he treats me pretty badly all the time with the things he says and stuff he does or does not do. people say i should break up with him. When i get mad at him as soon as i hear his voice i'm notmad anymore. my friends say that that is an abusive relashionship.verbal wise what do you think and should i break up with thanx sorry it's so long.
In my opinion, you should dump him. he's treating you like a fool. it can be hard to call sometimes but if he loved you or cared at all he would make the effort, more than once a week!
he didnt even call you on your birthday.
dont let him treat you like this, his heart is obviously not in the relationship so get out of it x
I am 18 and my girlfreind is 13 but will be 14 in 2 weeks. We have tried to have sex on a nuber of times but my problem is after pettin and stuff as son as she touches my penis i cum. We have been unable to even try to get to putting it in becsue it cums right away how can i stop this from happening
I'm sorry but i cant answer that question and i'll tell you why, what you are doing is illigal, in the eyes of the law you can be arrested, especially if you have sex with her, you'll be seen as a peodophile because your having a sexual relationship with a 13 year old child and you are an adult.
My boyfriend is Constantly working so I never get to see him the last time i saw him was Thursday and I miss him so much im crying! yeah i know well he cant call me either because hes either sleeping or working so I hardly ever get to see or talk to him. i only see him on his days off (which arnt that many) and he cant ask to take days off (its complacated(sp?) so dont ask) I'm sorry if this is a hard question to answer but what can I do? I want to see him SO BAD!! he lives in a diff. city than I do (about an hour away) and I dont know where he works at either so I cant see him or call him because he doesnt have a cell phone and no work phone. I miss him so much what can I do? and im always thinking about him and it makes me cry because i miss him so much. and i have a job too but i only work a few days a week and for only about 8 hours and he works everyday all day. and another thing is dont say something like "go hang out with your friends or family" because my family is out somewhere and my friends are out with THEIR boyfriends so theres no where i can go to get him off my mind im stuck at home with nothing to do, noone to call, and all i have left to do is think about him and its making me depressed. and DO NOT say break up with him because I LOVE HIM. is there anything i could do? anything that would make me happier? thanks i will rate and leave really good comments!
if it helps any im 14 and hes 15
if he's only 15 then surely he cant be in full time work, thats illigal for a start and doesnt he have school too?
i know you love him, but it doesnt seem like he feels the same way because he cant just work and sleep. what about going out with his friends or when he's at school, or relaxing watching tv?
Last year when my boyfriend was at uni (2 and a half hours away from me) and on teaching placement then going to work an hour after school, he still found time to call me because he loves me and cared about me.
He came to see me once a week and although it's hard because we missd eachother so much it worked and we have stayed together.(although we live with eachother now).
It just doesnt seem like your boyfriend feels the same way you do, otherwise he would make the effort to call you everyday and come and see you as often as he could.
As for helping yourself to be happier, you need distractions. tv, dvd's, computer, going shopping, going for a walk, read books/magazines and be with your family when they are in or see if they can take you out somewhere, if your friends are at a loose end and not with their boyfriends be with them, or arrange a girly day,
Take up a hobbie such as card making, jewellry making, painting, photography ect.
Next time you speak to him ask him if you can talk every day or every few days, even if it's not for very long, you can ring his home when he's in or he could ring you, it's not much to make a phonecall to your boyfriend/girlfriend if you love them.
Hey!
So my boyfriend and I have been just about everywhere there is to go as far as dates are concerned. We've done the dinner and a movie thing a million times, we go to Barnes&Noble/Starbucks for books and coffee, etc., but it's all getting dull.
There aren't any museums in town except for an art museum, but we've already been there!
If you have any date ideas involving food, books, or the like, I'd greatly appreciate your helpful advice!
Neither my boyfriend nor I can drive, and we're not of drinking age. =)
Go to the park for a nice walk or a picnic, ice skating, roller disco, sports game (basket ball, football ect) , the zoo (this is good because it's not an everyday thing, it's different and you can enjoy all the different animals together), farm, swimming, wall climing, trampolining at a lesire centre, walk in the countryside.
okay. So I recently started shaving my crotch area. But now it like .. hurts when I have to go to the bathroom. Do I have like an STD or is from shaving? Because I know that area can get infected easily. God, I'm so scared. I really hope I don't have an STD.
Like the others said, STD's are sexually transmitted diseases and since you havent had sex it's not that.
It's a shaving rash, instead of shaving that area as it's very sensitive, use hair removing cream instead. it's easy and it's painless and leaves you smooth x
Theres this kid, that I like, well he wanted to bang me, & he got mad because I wouldn't.. but now were ok again, should I not talk to him though anymore? because he wanted to bang me, & everything? I really like him. But, I'm only 13. & like hes kinda a bad kid. & all my friends say to stay away from him. But, I just really need another persons opinion. Please help me out.!
(I'm a girl, if you didn't already know. ha)
You should deffinatly stay away from him, he got mad at you because you wouldnt have sex with him, he's a user and he's manipulative (getting mad at you because you wont do what he wants).
ALso, if he used the words "bang you" then he obviously doesnt care about you or love you, theres no love or tenderness there, and you are only a child.
dont let him use you or treat you like this again, just stay away from him x
I'm a 17 year old virgin. I haven't engaged in any sexual activity. I've been with my amazing boyfriend for almost a year and we have had conversations about sex. He's told me he likes when a girl shaves down there. I've never done that! How do I go about doing this before we do anything sexual? I don't want it to get irritated and not look right. How do I make sure it's smooth and what steps should I take?
I wouldnt use a razor down there because if you cut your self it's going to really hurt and you'll be left with a shaving rash too.
Use hair removing cream for the bikini area, you can buy it from Boots and other beauty shops), buy a box though, the sachets dont have much int them. If you can, buy one that has a smoothing cream with it too.
Removing cream is much better than any other way because it's easy and painless, it can take a while so i set up the laptop in the bathroom and watch a dvd at the same time, or you could read magazines).
Can you please tell me how old you were when you went on your first date, and the first time you made out??
first time made out i was 13, i thought i was in love.
first time i went on a date i was 16 and we were together for 2 years.
what are some good creams for your bikini area that will leave it smooth and no red bumps?
thankz
i rate high.
Get the ones that come with a smoothing cream as well, you put the smoothing cream on after and it just makes your skin nice and...well smooth :-)
Hey, may 29, this kid Mark asked me out. I love him so much, and a week later he dumped me. I loved this kid alot.
July 15, this kid Felix asked me out. I said yes, he was cute. I forgot all about Mark. I seemed to love him. I just spoke to Mark, and he seemed to like me again. Gosh, now i like BOTH of them.
The problem is, Felix really likes me, and i feel so bad if i would dump him for Mark. Mark on the other hand dumps every girl after a week or two.
Felix said, he would commit succide if i broke up with him. I know he ment it. Last night he said he had a pocket knife to his throat, because he had no one to live for. But then he relized he loved me. So, he put it down.
HELP! I HAVE NO IDEA WHAT TO DO I CRY ALL THE TIME
i think you are better off without mark and felix.
Mark is a user and untrustworth.
Felix is a manipulative and attention seeking so-and-so.
dont dump felix just go go out with mark because you'll just get used again and hurt, stay with felix if you really like him and want to be with him, but if you dont then dont feel you have to stay with him because he's emotionally blackmailing you.