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I've been looking for Las Vegas ariplane tickets and hotels but I honestly don't know where to search online. I want to find one that comes all together. I don't know if you might understand what I'm trying to say but I just need help finding an airplane ticket and a hotel for Las Vegas. Can anyone help me out? Thank you. (link)
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The best prices by far are on Vegas.com
I'm going next week!
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Hi, i'm gonna start off saying that i'm 14 and i'm going into grade 9, i'm not that populare in my school but i'm conseterd a normal. well anyways, i have a whole bunch of mental disbiletys(spelt wrong but w/e) i have a serous Depreshion, Buy-Polar (it's a mood swing thing), Anger Problems, ADD, and some other one were i blank out lots. well i dont take any perscripton druggs for these things.. and i feel so horable everyday.. i was an abused child.. so i'm not that smart cause my head was always bashed into things. and well i cant always deal with this.. i've tryed suicide lots.. but it hasent worrked.. i was to die but yet i want to live.. i see a terapist but he isent helping.. do you guys have and ideas of something i could do to get my mind off my disorders.. or some movie about how to deal. any little thing can help... Thank You so much. (link)
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If you genuinely have these symptoms then you need to be medicated, simple as that. Continue to see your theapist because that kind of therapy takes awhile to see benefits. Tell your family to demand medication for you- you might have to see a phychiatrist though.
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I'm 19 years old and I started dating a 25 year old man. When we had sex for the first time, he suddenly said he had to go to pee. When he came back he didn't feel like having sex anymore.
Is it really possible that a man can feel an urge to urinate while making love? I'm afraid it was just an exuse because something was not ok. Please help me.
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No, unless he had to beforehand and was embarassed to say so (maybe he had been drinking heavily), it's impossible for a man to ejactulate and urinate at the same time (or close) because that duct of the urethra shuts off in a way when the penis become erect. More likely, it was an excuse to avoid sex,
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Are smoothies with strawberries and bananas and milk bad for you? I heard they were, but I dont get how they would be. (link)
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No of course not, unless they have a lot of sugar and then it's just the sugar that's bad for you. It's always good to eat fruit and drink milk, as long as you aren't allergic.
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(13/f) since last summer ive had stretch marks on the inside of my thighs and recently i have discovered them on my lower hip. i have been using this palmer's cocoa butter formula stuff but it hasnt seemed to work. i got them from doing alot of dancing becaus i gained alot of muscle fast. is there anything i can do to get rid of them? (link)
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No, not really (I'm sorry to say). Take comfort in the fact that 90% of girl (and boys!) will ge tthem at some point. They'll fade into practically nothing eventually. Talk to a dermatologist if you are really botheres by them, they technically could laser them off.
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Hey my name is Rachel and iam 17 years old and I get panick attacks when iam real nervouse the last time I had this panick attack I was playing soccer,but it was for kids with disabilities yes I have add and all we did was kick the ball into the net and then run in place for like 30 seconds and my cousin who has autisim did much better than I did and he is really overweight also and iam not that overweight either.when I have these panick attacks my chest feels real tight and I get real shaky and my heart starts to beat real fast and my hands are real hot and sweaty,but when my mom felt my hands they felt like they were in a deep freezer she said and I breathe real heavy what can I do to control this where it won't happen as much? (link)
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Panic attacks are a type of anxiety disorder, and like any other they are best treated by a doctor (psychologist). Talk to your regular doctor about a referal and they'll take it from there. It isn't normal but a lot of people get then, there are things that can be done to help you.
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Hi, I've been on my period for 2 years now. Im 14, and i'll be 15 in august. When I get my period, I get it REALLY bad, especially my cramps. They are always so bad that I cant walk, I cry, and I cant do any normal things, I just have to lay down throughout the day in pain until my period is over. When I had school, I couldn't even make it to school,and I would always have to go home during the day. My cramps usually last throughout the whole entire period but their not as bad at the end. I also have every single symptom a girl gets when shes on period, such as bloating,PMS,boob pains, and all this other stuff. Also when Im on my period my whole body is messed up, like Im sick. I also get lightheaded and sick to my stomach.
I tried advil for my cramps and it only makes them worse. Extra strength tylonal works for me but not enough as it should.
Is all of this normal? All my friends dont have this problem. My mom does so it could be genetics.
Should I go to the doctor?
thanks (link)
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Yes, it's totally normal, only some women hardly get any symptoms and some women do. I was exactly like you, until I got on the Pill. talk to you mom about this, and your doctor. It'll help so much you won't even believe it.
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Is there any kind of pill that is just for normal sized people that would like to eat more without worring about calories. I don't want to darasticallt lose weight, just don't want to restrain what I eat because of calories. Also, is there anything I can get without getting a perscription? I am 14, but I think my metabilism has already been slowing down, I can feel it. (link)
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No, nothing really works and nothing is safe- especially if it's an over the counter type thing. The only way to still be able to eat a lot of calories and not gain weight is to speed up your metabolism by exercise. start being just a little more avtive each day and you will certainly see and feel the difference.
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This is sort of long (sorry), but I need help. I'm 16, male, and about to be a junior in high school. I have good grades (all A's and one B through high school in almost all advanced classes).
Every day this summer, I have woken up and gone to sleep thinking about one thing: my future. My future career, house, and family. I made up my mind that I don't really want kids, but I want to get married. I also don't mind if we have a one story home (as long as it isn't too small). But the career part just freaks me out.
It started last semester at school. I signed up for my first AP class, thinking that it would be just like an honors class. I was wrong. I cried and had panic attacks every other night for about 2 or 3 months because of the constant [and I truly mean constant] studying, reading, writing, and projects. The panic attacks were serious and prevented me from being able to work. I ended up getting a B, but it still completely depressed me. I resorted to therapy, which didn't help with the stress/anxiety.
So when I started thinking about careers, I thought "Well, college comes before most careers..." But then I thought, maybe I don't want to go to college. If college classes are anything like the AP class that I took, then I just don't want to go through that depression and anxiety. Ever since realizing that, I've been terrified of college and thinking of every job that I could get without attending college. Very little appeal to me, and the ones that do don't pay well. My older brother already graduated from college, and he didn't take one single advanced class in high school. He told me that college is easier than high school, but I find that hard to believe. I think he meant that it's easier because you don't have class daily.
So what do I do about my college/career future? Please don't say "If you don't go to college, you'll be poor. So you should go." I already know that, but please help..I'm scared. And if I do "try out" college and it's just like that AP class but worse, what do I do? Thank you! (link)
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You need to calm down! If you don't enjoy and can't handle your ap class (and it doesn't sound as if you do) then switch to a regualr honors class. It is NOT that big of a deal. Yes, AP classes look good on a college application, but so do honors classes. It is WAY more important to do well (get good grades) in any class then to take a hard one and not do so well. College really isn't that big of a deal. More then 50% of people end up in careers that have absolutely nothing to do with their careers. Its a bad job market out there. You should look at college as something you want to persue for the educational value, not as a means to an end of getting a career. That is always nice of course, but you can't count on it. It's far more valuable ass a tool to learn about the world around you and become an educated adult. There is no reason whatsoever to stress about it this much. Just focus on the present- get good grades and participate in school activities now and the when it comes time to apply, just apply to a few and test out some majors to see what you like. As someone who has been through all that, it really isn't nearly worth all this stress. I know a lot of 30 years olds who have a career but are looking to change- it's all about just seeing what you like and then finding a way to get paid for it. It'll be FINE so don't stress about it! As far as your future family, and the like- stop even THINKING about that right now! I PROMISE you that the person you are at the age of 16..or even 21, isn't the person you will be at 25 or so. Only then, when you have fully established yourself as a person (it's a learning and growth process) can you even think about something as big as marriage and family. You might as well be stressing about retirement, it's that much of a jump for you right now. You will regret it so much if you don't stop focusing on the future and just enjoy the present. Since you have so much generalized anxiety, you really ought to keep seeing a doctor, because it isn't healthy. Try a different one and get meds. It sounds dramatic, but your problem isn't your future and the fact that you don't know what to do about it. Your problem is the fact that you feel you have to focus on it so much. Thats a genuine medical problem that a lot of people develop but you don't have to suffer through it, go to a doctor.
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I've been researching jobs that I would like to pursue, and secret shopping is one of them. While researching, I found an article of a woman who makes about $6 thousand a month by secret shopping and gets free groceries, food, and travel! Being a secret shopper full-time would be great if her story is realistic.
I am willing to put in the time for this job, no doubt. I live in Atlanta and haven't applied yet. Do you think that it is possible to make a living the way that that woman has? If so, how possible?
*I am currently unemployed* (link)
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No, it isn't possible to make that much in one month secret shopping. I doubt you could do it in even one year- those job do not pay very much at all and they aren't easy to get. You'll figure this out pretty quickly if you look into it a bit more. In fact, it sounds like some get rich quick scam. If they ask you for any money at all (or personal info) then run!
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I'm a 24/F, and I've been with my bf for over 3 years. We are both college graduates who own our own homes, and are independent in every sense of the word. Since we've been together, it's been the plan that "when the time is right" we will sell our respective houses, and buy one together.
Well, last winter we had an argument. I was casually asking about the future, and his reaction was harsh and very negative. He mentioned that he isn't thinking about marriage any time soon, and that he isn't feeling that way about us right now. I'm not a child, nor am I naiive. I would not be in a relationship with someone who was in any way irresponsible or wishy-washy about me. I have to mention that during this time I was on an extremely strong anti-depressant, prescribed to me because I was feeling tired (that's another story).
To sum it up, this argument with him shattered my heart. I thought he felt the same way about me and was moving in the same direction. I wasn't expecting anything like that response, and it literally shook my emotions to the core.
Unfortunately, the next day was my regular meeting with a friend from college. We had been hanging out every week. Long story short, I drank myself silly, and ended up in bed with my "friend." I don't remember much of it and I actually blacked out. I felt horrible and sick the next morning...and immediately cut all ties with this person. I haven't seen him since.
After going off that horrible drug, my life began to resolve itself and go back to normal. Things with my boyfriend improved 200%. It turned out I drastically overreacted and he had been on the defense since I started taking the drug and was acting emotional about everything.
Now I am positive he's the one, and I know that our relationship would never be the same if I told him what happened. I feel like there's absolutely no reason, and no good could ever come our of my telling him. I want to marry him, and he's been talking about getting engaged. Do you think there's any reason to tell him about a one-night mistake that I've all but eaten myself with guilt about? What is the "right" thing to do here? I have never felt anything for anyone except bf since we met, and don't ever plan to. (link)
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No, don't tell him. It will ruin everything between the two of you. I am not optimistic about relationships working out after an incidence of cheating, but you seems like you are genuinely doing everything in your power to work towards it. I'm glad that you cut all ties with your old friend, that is step #1. There isn't anything you can do about your guilt, telling him won't make you feel better, instead you'll still feel guilty (more so, after seeing his reaction) and he'll feel like crap. Just work hard to be the best you can be in your relationship now, that's all I can tell you. Again, I tend to believe that cheating is always the end, sometimes the begining of the end, but still. It sounds like you're for real though so good luck.
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what are the chances that you already broke your hymen? from using tampons, going horseback riding and that sort of stuff, not doing sexual things. (link)
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Honey, if you had broken it, you would know.
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hi...my best friend in the whole world paul likes me and i like him!! But the problem is he has a girlfriend, tamarah, and we are best friends!!! If she finds out that we want to lip lock at this local club, she would kill me!! How can i keep my emotions with paul and keep my friendship with tamarah?
from confused connie (link)
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You can't have both, you have to choose.
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Ok, I have planter's warts on my feet and have tried to remove them, but nothing works. Does anybody know any solutions or ahs anybody HAD a planter's wart removed?
I'm wayy scared to go to a doctor, so please tell me the process of how it was removed, even though it's kinda gross.
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You don't have to go to the doctor, you can freeze them yourself. That is the only way I have found that genuinely works. Buy some of the Compound W freezing stuff at the drug store and follow the directions.
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ok i really like this guy but there's a problem. i went to my friends house last week and we went to his house but then after that he asked me if i would "do stuff with him" meaning like a bj and stuff. anyway i really like him but he doesent want a girlfriend because he just got out of a long relarionship. and i do want to do that stuff but i cant because im scared but i really want to. but he doesent want a girl friend and i dont know if i can handle just being a person he says to "have fun with" please help me i rate high! thanks . p.s im going to his house friday! (link)
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Hey, do what you want but let me translate that for you:
HIM: "Hey, I'm not interested in you and I don't respect you, I'm pretty much just hoping your a random slut who I can get some head from until I meet someone better, what do you think?"
YOU:" Um, I have to think about it"
It's up to you.
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hey. I really need help because my life.. is going down the drains at the moment. I have no friends, except 2 that I barely see anymore, not really a good school, no plans for the summer, my dad is so lazy and I told him I needed an agent and he's totally taking his time with it when he needs to hurry. It seems like all he does is sit on his butt all day. I am really lonely and things just arent going good for me, so what I'm trying to do is get my dad to get me my agent but he wont hurry; how in heck do i get him to hurry?!
Please help me... =(
*that girl* (link)
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You need to take control of your own life. You will always be dissatified as long as you are relying on others to do what is most important for you. Go get the agent yourself and go out and make some friends, you can't blame him for your problems.
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im 16/f. and i met this guy a few weeks ago. lets call him E, well we chilled a few times and eventually i found out he had a daughter. i asked him exactly how old was he and he sed 23! ..he asked back and the next thing i knew i was "18". well.. later, we had sex. and the next day i found out he was still living with his babymama. he sed he's not with her thoughh.. but i dont know. we have a date on friday.. and i dunno what to do. shud i just leve him or pretend like it all doesnt bother me. i mean .. i like him and all.. and im just reallie confused.. (link)
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If he is living with her, he is with her. That is BS. You lied though when you failed to give your real age, of course it's worse because you turned him into a child molester. Just leave, don't even try to talk about anything or admit any truth. You got used sweetie, but you are playing with more fire then you know because you are so young.
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what are some foods that are high in fiber? (link)
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Beans, nuts, popcorn, whole grains, fruit, vegetables.
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Why is it so wrong to be chauvanistic, but OMG SO COOL AND TRENDY!!!!1! to be feminst?
Why is that it's wrong for a man to hit a woman, but if the chick hits the guy, it's considered cute?
Why can girls get away with calling guys every sexist name under the sun but if a man dare say the word chick (ZOMG!!!1!! NOT CHICK!!!! *gasp*) he is called a sexist, and that is not ok? (link)
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Being a feminist isn't trendy, a true feminest works hard for fairness and equal opportunities in this present world, "girl power" type pop culture isn't the same thing. Violence is always wrong, and should never be tolerated. Some people are more permissive of females hitting males because of the obvious differences in strength. I personally don't agree in anyone hitting anyone out of anger, and I don't think it should ever be acceptable. Noone should ever let anyone call them a name that they find offensive, and it isn't fair for you to down play the idea that anyone would find "chick" to be offensive. It is often used as a term of enderment, but sometimes is it a sign of disrespect. You may not care if your closest friend calls you a name, but a random person of the opposite sex? It isn't hard to understand.
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Ok,I'm 18/F and the other day I caught my brother he's 16 dressed in my clothes,I mean everything bra,panties,mini-skirt the works when he saw me he started crying,,,,too make a long story short he told me he has been wearing my clothes for a while and that he wants to be a girl. He said that he's sick of pretending and asked if I would help him shop and teach him about makeup,I love my brother an told him I would but I find this very weird. What should I do ????? (link)
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Cross dressing and homosexuality are two completely different things, and a cross dresser is no more likely to be gay then anyone else. If this is what your brother wants, then that is the most important thing. Talk to him, be there for him and support him. I wouldn't have a problem teaching him about clothes and makeup if it were me, but if you don't feel comfortable then just tell him how you feel. Maybe you'll warm up to the idea in time. If it is really messing with your or his head then check out local support groups in your area, this really isn't nearly as unusal as you might think.
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