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Q: So I realize that I'm 23 and still living with my parents. I know I need to first get a better job so I can afford to live on my own. But I guess I'm afraid that I will fail and that I cant do it. Any advice?
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First off, in many places around the world people feel that they have to move away form their parents by a certain age. This is a social stigma and sadly has caused a lot of anxiety for a lot of good people. And most importantly, it's not necessarily true. There is no single right or wrong here.
The global economy is not all that good right now and it can be hard to find a job that pays an adequate amount to live on your own. So I commend you for recognizing the importance of the financial aspect here. That is a very mature and far more adult thing to do than simply to try to find an apartment now and worry about the money later.
As far as your fear of failure, we all face that at some point in our lives. As children we fear falling when we are learning to ride a bike. As teens we fear the rejection of our first real crush. There are countless more situations but I'm sure you get my point.
Think about it this way, what's the worst that can happen? So you fail, I'm sure your parents would be caring enough to either let you come back home until your ready to try to go out on your own again or at least help you find another living arrangement.
And when you are ready, consider the option of getting one or more roommates. This can be great for both companionship and spitting the bills.
Hope that helps.
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Q: is it okay to ask out guys?
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While this may depend on many factors (like where you live and the cultural norms in your area) as a general answer I would say yes.
For most of history, it was generally regarded as proper for guys to ask out girls. However, most of the world (assuming you aren't from some primitive, archaic region) see men and women as equals. And if men and women are equals, women have just as much business asking out guys as guys do asking out women they may like.
Personally, I also feel that there are two major upsides when girls ask guys out.
First, it shows the guy that the girl is confident and assertive, two qualities a lot of men admire.
Second, it takes off some of the pressure on the guy to have to do it.
Long story short, if you want to ask out a guy, go for it. The worst he can say in no.
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Q: i just finished my first semester of college. things are okay and even mildly good but very much a disappiontment from what i was expecting and i am definately not living the college expereince everyone else seems to be having. i am not a weirdo i promise. i just happen to be a little shy around people i dont know and get intimidated easily. i have neveer been in a situation before where i had to make friends from scratch and am not very good at it. any advice on how to not awkwardly introduce yourself to people who you have seen around but are not friends with, how to become better friends with people you are aquitences with, how to make small talk with people just in general tips on how to be a friendlier person. also anyone who is older than a college freshman and wants to share some insight on their thoughts first semester vs. later into thier experience.
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Starting college is a whole new experience for everyone. Even if you've attended several schools up to that point, college is different in that it's more of a step into adulthood than any other level of education.
As an individual who is on the introverted side myself, I understand the situation you are facing in regard to meeting and making new friends.
Some people come by this easier and a little more naturally than others. But it's just fine if you're not one of them.
When I was in college, one of the best ways to meet people and make friends was to get involved in activities around the school. For example, I was a journalism major so I wrote for the school newspaper. In your case you can apply it to anything that interests you or may be related to your schooling.
If you are anxious about literally approaching people, it might not be a bad idea to talk to a social skills coach. They can work wonders for people.
It also seems like that those who project a positive disposition naturally tend to attract others. So, if you follow the old cliché and "put on a happy face" people might be more likely to approach you and you won't have to worry as much about that part.
Enjoy your college journey.
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Q: I am 17 years old girl.I have a family and a friend,but everyday in my life..i feel so lonely.I have do a lot of things,to make myself happy,but it doesn't work.
I try to go hangout with my family,but..my heart feel so lonely and sad.....
I have talk to family about my problem..but they doesn't understand me.And i don't know what to do...i feel like, it's better if i die than live like this....
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I'm truly sorry that you are going through this difficult time. While I think it would be counterproductive to bring out old lines like "I know how you feel," that does not mean that I cannot possibly relate a bit or empathize with you.
One thing I can assure you is that this is not worth harming yourself over or making any attempt at ending your life. Nothing is worth that.
Most of the time, loneliness is based on the problem of not having people in your life. However, you make it clear that that isn't the case with you.
I think your best bet is to see a therapist as that he or she has probably delt with similar cases before. They can help you figure out the underlying cause of your distress and work on a way to get you out of your funk.
It also couldn't hurt to read the book "Feeling Good" by Dr. David Burns. You might even be able to find it in your local library.
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Q: My period is late and I want to know how late it can be before I know it's gone. I know I'm a virgin so I'm not pregnant so I don't know why my period is so late.
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I am a male and am not a medical expert. However, I do know that pregnancy is one of only several possible reasons one's period can be late. While some may not be serious, others surely are. So to first thing you should do is see a doctor. He or she will likely either have encountered this type of situation before or will be knowledgeable about the various possible causes of the situation you are describing.
Regardless of what the cause may be, it might be a good idea to confide in family and close friends and allow them to support you mentally and emotionally.
I hope everything works out for you.
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Q: Hi. I am 26 and I have a 26 year old Muslim boyfriend. When I first met my boyfriend, he wasn't a muslim yet. Last year he decided to become a Muslim, and he became really devoted to his religion. I'm a Christian. At first he told me he wouldn't push me to convert as a muslim. But these past few months, we are always arguing about our faith. He doesn't respect my faith and being so discriminating towards other religion. I told him I respect his faith but I don't want to talk about it anymore cause I don't want to argue. But he wouldn't stop. And tonight he told me that he will give me time to think about converting. I told him not to expect cause I'm really not going to change my religion. He said it will not work abd broke up with me.
I tried to understand this guy so much but I feel disrespected. Please help. I don't want our daughter to grow up without a father. Am I still going to accept him when he comes back to me? I'm sick of tired of arguing about our faith. I accepted him the day he told me he wants to be a Muslim but why can't he respect my faith? I was born as a Christian and I want to stay as a Christian forever. He told me too that he's not going to marry me if it's not in an Islamic way. Don't know what to do. :'(
Thank you for all your answers
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In an ever diverse world, this seems to be becoming a more and more common challenge for today's couples. I personal know someone who is in a similar situation in that the female is Christian and the male is Muslim.
My personal belief on this is that we do not chose who we fall in love with. That being the case, we surely do not chose what race, age, gender and yes, religion they may be.
Taking your word on the idea that you respect your ex-boyfriend's religious views, I commend you for doing so. However, you cannot either control his lack of respect for yours or compel him to change that part of himself.
When people can "agree to disagree" and focus on their shared values and ethics such as the "golden rule" which is common across virtually all religions, they may be able to work something out. However, when one member of a relationship is unwilling to do so, there really is no relationship at all and this any romantic ties would be best to be severed.
In your particular case, I would probably let go of him as a boyfriend but see if he is willing to work on a friendly relationship for the sake of your daughter. If not, there is nothing more that you can do and her growing up without him is on him and not you.
I hope this helps.
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Q: how do i edit websites using html?
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Well, that's not a simple question to answer. Quite honestly, HTML can be rather complex and often tedious. However, the upside is that it can allow for virtually unlimited customization.
I personally use HMTL but sparingly. And I would suggest anyone new to it starts out the same way.
You'll probably want to buy a book on HTML. But on a smaller and simpler scale, you can find a lot of recourses online that will help you with very basic HTML coding like making your text bold, adding links, creating headings and stuff like that. Here are a few sources you might find helpful:
http://www.w3schools.com/html/html_basic.asp
http://www.temple.edu/cs/web/codes.html
http://www.webmonkey.com/2010/02/html_cheatsheet/
Your best bet is to start your website out as something simple, perhaps with just text and a few graphics, maybe if you're really ambitious a video or two.
Personally, I use Wordpress for almost all of my web design work. This provides a good hybrid between HTML use and a more simplistic setup.
Good luck in your website creation efforts.
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Q: Hi, I'm a 20 year old female, currently on a journey to lose 50lbs and tone up. I'm eating healthy, about 1.100-1.400 calories a day and working out 3-4 times a week.
I've heard that protein shakes are good for females trying to lose weight & gain some muscle definition but I don't know how true this is.
Is there anyone who has experience with this and can give me some basic information? This is for research purposes. I will of course speak to my doctor before changing anything but I would love to have some information or insight on this.
Thanks very much!
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While protein itself is pretty much essential when it comes to achieving the type of goals you want to reach, I wouldn't say that protein shakes are all that necessary.
While I am a male, this information I am giving you is from a female personal trainer and applies generally to both genders.
There are really four areas of things you should focus on:
1. Protein
2. Fats
3. Carbs
4. Calories
In general, you should probably try to increase your protein intake while reducing (but certainly not eliminating) carbs and fats. While you don't want to take in thousands of calories per day, calories are probably the least important factor.
A good practice would be to eat three meals per day with two snack in between. What I mean by that is a decent breakfast, modest lunch and a hearty dinner. The two snacks should be a small amount of protein between each meal and you should essentially be eating something every 3-4 hours.
For example:
Breakfast at 6 a.m.
Protein snack at 9 a.m.
Lunch at 12 p.m.
Protein snack at 3 p.m.
Dinner at 6 p.m.
Depending upon your overall intake, you may be able to have another small protein snack but should not eat any later that 8 or 8:30 p.m., at that point your metabolism is slowing for the day.
Doing something along these lines, as well as replacing sodas (and when your old enough alcohol) with lower carb and less sugary drinks like water, should really help.
Now while the results won't be as drastic as if you get involved with one of these fad diets, they will come and will likely be more permanent.
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Q: Does anybody know how to put pictures on face book with a digital camera ?
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There are a few different ways you can do this. The oldest way, which may people no longer need to bother with due to having never computers with built-in card readers, is to connect your camera to your computer with the UBS cord that came with it. From there, you can download your images to your computer and simply upload them to Facebook after they have made it onto your hard drive.
There is another option which can also be quicker so long as your computer has a memory card reader that is compatible with your camera. Just pull out the card, place it into the card reader and you can either download the images to your hard drive to send to Facebook or upload them to the site right from your memory card.
If you don't have a card reader built into your computer, you can also use a similar technique with if you have an open USB port. get yourself a USB card reader like the Anker USB 3.0 Multi-in-1 Card Reader, Transcend P5 9-in-1 USB 2.0 Flash Memory Card Reader or the Sandisk MicroMate SD / SDHC Memory Card Reader, and connect your card to your computer through it.
Last but not least, some cameras have wifi connectivity. If you happen to have one that does, you can surely connect to Facebook through it and upload your pictures.
Hope this helps.
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Q: Is there anyway I can send a large file to someone without necessarily e-mailing them?
I recorded a musician's set (so the audio is about an hour and half) and he told me to send him the audio. I don't want to ask him for his e-mail, so is there any way I can upload it somewhere and just send him the link and he can download it from there?
Thank you!
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Yes, there are lots of ways you can allow someone to have access to a large file without the need to know their personal e-mail address.
First off, how have you been communicating with this musician anyway? Have you only met in person? Do you have any online information about him such as a Facebook fan page or his own website? This will determine how you can actually get the file to him.
But before we get to that, I'll tell you about a few simple sources to get the file to be accessible by a simple link.
You can use any of the following sources among several others:
Google Drive - www.google.com/drive/about.html
Hightail - www.hightail.com
Dropbox - www.dropbox.com
Google Drive is my personal favorite because it's free and easy to use.
Through these types of sites, you can upload large files of almost any type and opt to share them with others through a link the system will create for that purpose.
Once you have the link, if you have something like the aforementioned Facebook or website info for the musician, you can just send them the link through one of those. If you've only met/contacted the musician in person, although it might be a bit of a pain, you can always print out or write down the link URL and give it to them in person.
I hope this helps.
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Q: I wasn't really sure what category to put this in, but I guess it's kind of a pet question...
So, I've decided to write a story about a homeless black cat (I have a black cat, so she inspired me), but I don't know what to name her. The name is probably going to be the title, so I need something that really stands out. In other words, I need a name for a female black cat (And please, nothing like 'cutie' or 'brownie' or anything like that) that sounds kind of sweet and simple. Thank you!
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Well, first off congratulations on your ambition and decision to write a story. Writing is a special talent and I commend you for taking on the task. That being said, naming character (including animals) is very important and I can understand why you want to get this decision right.
I've got a few suggestions that might help you out. The first three that come to mind are:
Onyx
Charcoal
Midnight
If you're just going for the tone of the name, Onyx has the most interesting sound of the bunch. However, I would advise you to consider the personality or traits of the cat in your story before choosing the name too. For example, with the three ideas I listed above, the name Onyx is a gemstone and would fit well with a cat that has classy qualities or is a bit aloof. Charcoal tends to be a dirty, gritty substance and thus might be better suited for an animal on the streets. Midnight indicated darkness and possibly scariness. So a name like that would be good for a pet that is a bit creepy. Do you see what I mean?
Good luck, I hope your story turns out amazing.
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Q: Is it possible to send a text message from a computer using dialup to a cell phone number, using an email service?
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As long as you have access to the Internet, which apparently you do, it is possible to send a text message to a cell phone from email. In fact, I used to do it quite often before I had a texting plan on for my own cell phone.
It doesn't matter what type of email you use, whether it's a free one like Gmail or Yahoo! or something like Microsoft Outlook.
All you have to do is find out the proper address to send your message and you're all set.
For example, while if you where just texting from a phone you'd only have to enter the phone number, you have to ad a little more to send a message from an email address. Exactly hat you have to add depends on the cell phone provider of the number of your intended recipient.
Let's take four of the major cell phone companies for example and pretend the number you want to send a message to is (111)222-3344.
The last time I checked, each service required the following formula:
Sprint - phonenumber@messaging.sprintpcs.com
So you'd use - 1112223344@messaging.sprintpcs.com
Verizon - phonenumber@vtext.com
So you'd use - 1112223344@vtext.com
T-Mobile - phonenumber@tmomail.net
So you'd use - 1112223344@tmomail.net
AT&T - phonenumber@txt.att.net
So you'd use - 1112223344@txt.att.net
In the event that these might change over time, you can find them with a simple Google search.
Hope this helps.
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Q: I have to baby sit my niece and nephew tomorrow after they get home from school and the little girl is 12 and my nephew is 10 but all I did with them today was watch a movies which was monsters university and mad pop corn after I helped them with their homework and they got bored quickly and I don't have any more ideas so we just basically watched movies when they got home any ideas would be appreciated and please remember I don't have transportation and I am on a tight money budget so any tips would be greatly appreciated thanks .
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I'm a guy but I worked in a setting with children for more than a decade. One thing I can tell you is that just like adults, they are all unique and all have unique personalities. With that being the case, one thing you can do is to make a serious effort of find out about each child's interests. From there, you should have several things to go on when it comes to coming up with ideas.
The scenario you ended up in is probably very common. This day in age, many children, for one reason or another, get caught up in sedentary activities. This can be anything from movies, to video games to playing around on the family PC.
My suggestion would be to try something a little more interactive that can also spur on the imagination.
If there is a park nearby, a nature walk sort of thing is always a good option. Maybe you could play a game like Twister which is both fun and promotes physical health. Or maybe you could make your own "group story" in which you can start things off with a basic plot and let the children come up with details, places and events to add into the story. Making up your own version of charades or pictionary might be fun too.
Good luck.
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Q: I'm M/18, freshman in college. I'm currently going to college, majoring in engineering. I hate it. I really do. I don't want to go anymore. What I really want to do is have a successful band. I didn't really have a choice. High school and family basically forced me to go. I honestly feel that I'm wasting time sitting in my 3 hour classes. I feel like I could actually be doing something. My whole life it's been "you have to do this/you have to do that." I'm tired of it. I want to do what I want for a change. You might say I should keep college as a backup, but I disagree. What's holding me back with music is time and money. If I could get a job and save and invest, I can get the equipment I need. I understand that being in a band does NOT guarantee success at all. But the way I see it, is that it's similar to a business. If you don't put time and investment into it, you'll get nowhere. So I should at least try. I'm not a big spender, I have no expensive addictions (I don't smoke, I don't buy lotto, I don't buy sneakers etc.) I just want to get this thing rolling. I don't want to be like everyone else. Everyone is going to college now. Everyone is getting into debt. College doesn't guarantee success either. My parents went, my sister went, etc. My sister is an NYU graduate, yet she lives down the block from me in the same "ghetto." I don't want to just have a stable job. I want to enjoy my life, I want to be my own boss. I'm willing to work and save for it. But my parents would get so pissed if I stopped going to school. I'm not on Earth to satisfy my parents though. So if I think I have a chance at success against the odds, why not try? See, we all have dreams, images, pictures of what we want. Each one is different, might be very similar, but each is unique. The thing about us is that, no matter how far fetched that dream or idea is, to an extent, we can bring it to reality if we truly want it. I really don't want to tell my parents about this, but I also don't want to waste their money and go against my dreams.
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You do have some good points you bring up. However, I do think that there is probably a better solution that you simply dropping out of college.
First of, if you have no interest in engineering, how about changing your major? Why not study something music-related?
And if time and money are an issue, another possibility is to go to college on a part-time basis rather than quitting altogether. This will free up time for both a part-time job, supplying the money you need, and time to work with your band.
On another level, being in college could actually be a benefit for your band. College students are undoubtedly one of the largest consumers of music and one of the demographics most interested in this art form. Why not use that to your advantage by getting your band's name out there among the student body? This might also allow for some networking opportunities in order for your band to book some local gigs for college parties and hangouts.
It's good to have a dream and good to pursue it. But, you do have to keep your options open in the event that your first plan for yourself does not pan out.
Good luck.
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Q: I'm fourteen and female and would like to know when is the right time for dating and relationships to start. I feel like I'm on the back of the bandwagon because my close friends have already begun dating which worries me. I don't want to miss out on crucial learning experiences for relationships in my adult life. Is it okay to start dating late, like in collage or even as a young adult? I want to get some advice before entering high school. Thanks for reading :)
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The truth is, there really is no set "right" time to begin dating. While I, and probably most people, wouldn’t advise starting when a child is say, 10 years old, There is no definitive time that is okay to start.
I would say that a lot of kids begin to date between the ages of 12-16 according to a study reported on by the Wall Street Journal. However, lots of people wait until they are older. Some are even in college or on rare occasions beyond when the begin to venture into dating.
In your case, I wouldn't focus on what your friends are doing. Putting to much emphasis on the activity of your friends, at any age, can cause a lot of problems.
You personally have to be comfortable with the idea of dating. If you're not comfortable, you're not ready. And if that's the case, that's okay.
Second, being that you are still a teenager, if and when you are ready, you should probably talk things over with your parents and see how they feel about it. I know this might seem uncomfortable but just remember that your parents were once your age and they will likely have a lot of good advice to give on the subject.
Good luck.
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Q: My favorite grandmother passed away last week on my birthday and wheni found out I was upset and cried a lot. but it still doesn't feel to me like she is really gone. Why don't I feel sad or why aren't I crying? could it possibly be that she is at peace now so I feel so too? I don't know but I feel bad because I should be super upset
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There is nothing to feel bad about. All people are different and as such we each grieve differently. Some of us shut down for a while and cry night after night. Others find another outlet. Either way, as long as you aren't doing something that is either destructive to yourself or others, is fine.
This also means that while it might take some people a very long time to go through the grieving process, it might be relatively short for other people. Again, neither way is wrong and neither way is something you should feel bad about.
Generally, psychology says that there are five stages of loss and grieving. These are:
1. Denial and Isolation
2. Anger
3. Bargaining
4. Depression
5. Acceptance
You can find out more about them here:
http://psychcentral.com/lib/the-5-stages-of-loss-and-grief
Perhaps you are already at the point of acceptance.
I hope this helps.
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Q: Okay, so I know songs are copyrighted, but I'm confused about something.
Are songs only copyrighted as a whole, or are individual lyrics from that song also copyrighted?
For example... if someone took a line out of a song and used it in their own song, could they get in trouble?
Or if someone posted a video on YouTube of them singing 5 seconds of a song... could someone claim copyright?
Because how do they truly know it's their song if it's only one line/sentence being shown?
Thank you!
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Copyright can be a difficult and complex matter. I remember studying it in-depth in my Media Law and Ethics course in college. And the answer to many questions in that course was - "it depends."
First off, technically everything is copywritten as soon as it is published. The Copyright Office and Library of Congress (or the equivalent in other countries) just make it easier to prove who was the originator of the work.
A piece of music, literature, photography... is officially published once one other person besides the originator has read, seen or heard it. So technically, if you post a photo to Facebook and it pops up in any of your friend's news feed, it is published.
Here's where the complicated part comes into play. Weather of not you are in violation of copyright laws or are committing copyright infringement depends on a lot of different factors.
How old is the piece of work? After a certain point, it becomes part of the "public domain" which means it's basically free to use by anyone at any time.
Is the use for "educational purposes?" If it is, then as a general rule it is okay to use a given work so long as you are not costing the originator profits by doing so.
And in some cases, if you contact the originator of the work, he or she might be willing to let you use their piece because it can amount to free promotion for them.
In your particular case, the only way you can be sure that it's OK to use a line from another song in one of your own is if that song is part of the aforementioned public domain or the artist/copyright holder gives permission to do so.
As far as youtube goes, that really blurs the lines and I suggest you check out the following links for more information:
http://www.youtube.com/yt/copyright/what-is-copyright.html
http://www.youtube.com/yt/copyright/fair-use.html
http://www.youtube.com/yt/copyright/creative-commons.html
http://www.youtube.com/yt/copyright/faq.html
Hope this helps.
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Q: I play club volleyball and I am trying to decide if I should also play basketball. It would really help me out but I don't know if I like basketball or not?
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First off, this is sort of a good problem to have. It means you are an active person which is good for both your social and physical health.
You obviously enjoy volleyball otherwise you wouldn't be playing this particular sport. As far as basketball goes (which happens to be my personal favorite sport) I say it can't hurt to try it out.
I would look into the possibility to trying to play both. I know the seasons probably overlap a bit but many coaches will be accomodating to a student's schedule when it comes to particiapting in multiple non-academic activities.
If it turns out that you don't have the time or energy to do both or your coaches are not the accomodating kind, or any other obsticle gets in the way, there is another option.
Since you're not sure whether or not bacsketball is for you, you can always participate in club volleyball for the season and hold off on basketball. After your season is over, you can take the time to meet up with friends or classmates that have an interest in basketball and just play together at a local playground or as part of a community league. This should help you figure out how you feel about this sport.
Good luck.
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Q: Hi everyone,
I'm a young teen, and I have been a Christian for most of my life. But I don't always feel like I'm meant to be a Christian.
I would like to mention that I'm lesbian, and I have known this for a long time. My church teaches that this is a sin and that being gay is a choice. But I certainly didn't choose to be this way.
They often say that people need to do what Jesus tells them to do, and they say that if you believe in Jesus, you will like the opposite sex. But I do believe in Jesus. . . .
People from my church sometimes talk about that verse from the Bible that condemns homosexuality. Yeah, I know. I read that several times when I was trying to become straight.
They also say that God hates gays. But I love God deeply and don't want to think that He hates me.
I don't think God hates anyone, not even people like me. He is all-forgiving and merciful. It doesn't make sense that he would hate.
I know it seems like I'm just saying my opinion. But I really want to find the truth. Does God really hate me? And is being gay really a sin?
Thank you for any advice! Please don't judge me.
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While I am a straight male and thus cannot relate on either a gender or sexuality level, I have many friends and acquaintances who are either gay or bi-sexual.
First off, God loves you - period.
It is a human tendency to put limits and restrictions upon God's love. This has been the case since the early days of all religions. And if you take a look for yourself, you"ll find that many of the most notable religious leaders in the history of the world have actually fought against this including Jesus himself. After all, he chose to associate with those that his culture and society rejected like tax collectors, prostitutes and people with leprosy.
Years ago, people - including the very religious, used to consider slavery an acceptable practice and the Earth to be flat. Obviously we know neither of these are true.
It even says in the Bible that truths will be revealed to us in times in which we as capable of understanding and accepting them. I believe there will be a day that comes in which we don't focus on whether a relationship is homosexual or heterosexual but rather whether it is one of love.
I suggest checking out the book "God is not a Homophobe: An unbiased look at Homosexuality in the Bible" by Philo Thelos.
Hang in there and as Lady Gaga says - You're beautiful in your way because God makes no mistakes.
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Q: First off, I apologize for the long question.
I am a thirteen-year-old girl, and everything is making me want to die. No, I guess I don't really want to die -- I just want the pain to end.
The main reason why I hate life is because I don't understand anything in school. And to make up for it, I work so much harder than any other kid would . . . but it's no use. I have a learning disability as well, which makes me work and process things slowly. I'm just SO SLOW AND STUPID! Ugh. (This makes things a lot harder for me than other people think.)
Several people hate me. I'm pretty sure my family hates me, to start with. Especially my dad. And I know all homophobic people must hate me because I am a girl who likes girls. But no one hates me as much as I hate myself.
I know some people might tell me to find a counselor or therapist. I already have two of those. But neither of them help me AT ALL. The first one just doesn't understand me, and he does a lot more talking than listening. And the second one treats me as if I'm doing something wrong by feeling this way. I have been self-harming for a while as well. But no one is helping.
I guess I don't have too many logical reasons to feel unhappy. Feeling like everyone hates me and not doing well in school do not count as reasons. But I'm just not strong like other people are. But what is the point of going on? Why don't I just die now so I don't have to suffer anymore? It's not like anyone would care . . . they all hate me.
I wish I could get help. But no one is going to help me. I feel so alone right now and just feel like dying. Right now, suicide is just a thought. I haven't acted on it yet.
Is there anything that can be done to make things better? I don't know what to do anymore or how to go on. But I will appreciate any advice. Thank you. And sorry for the length.
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I know that one thing you don't want to hear is that people know how you feel. The truth is we don't because every case is unique to each individual person. However, I can assure you that while I cannot walk in your shoes, I can relate.
For example, I to have a learning disability (OCD and ADD combination) and nothing in school came easy to me. It didn't mean I was stupid and it certainly doesn't mean that that is the case for you. If you look at it another way, you can enjoy your accomplishments more because you might have to go the extra mile to get them. That makes them all the more valuable.
The issue of hate probably stems from your own sense of self worth. You have to realize that you are a worthwhile person and no matter what anyone else might think of you, you are the only one that can control how you feel. In fact, I'd recommend Googling Dr. David Burns, his insights into this are amazing. As far as the homosexuality issue goes, just forget about homophobes. Like racists or sexists, they aren't worth your time. They simple reject what is different out of ignorance or fear.
Personally, I'd look for a new therapist, perhaps one that specializes in teens or sexual issues. Perhaps instead of self harm you should explore other healthier outlets. One I enjoy is poetry. It can really help you get the emotions out and is very therapeutic.
Don't ever feel that nobody will help you. I will in any way I can. And I'm sure so many others will too.
Stay strong. While you think you aren't the very fact that you recognize and accept that you need help is an act of courage and strength that many deny themselves.
Things will get better.
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