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I want to drop out of college.
I'm M/18, freshman in college. I'm currently going to college, majoring in engineering. I hate it. I really do. I don't want to go anymore. What I really want to do is have a successful band. I didn't really have a choice. High school and family basically forced me to go. I honestly feel that I'm wasting time sitting in my 3 hour classes. I feel like I could actually be doing something. My whole life it's been "you have to do this/you have to do that." I'm tired of it. I want to do what I want for a change. You might say I should keep college as a backup, but I disagree. What's holding me back with music is time and money. If I could get a job and save and invest, I can get the equipment I need. I understand that being in a band does NOT guarantee success at all. But the way I see it, is that it's similar to a business. If you don't put time and investment into it, you'll get nowhere. So I should at least try. I'm not a big spender, I have no expensive addictions (I don't smoke, I don't buy lotto, I don't buy sneakers etc.) I just want to get this thing rolling. I don't want to be like everyone else. Everyone is going to college now. Everyone is getting into debt. College doesn't guarantee success either. My parents went, my sister went, etc. My sister is an NYU graduate, yet she lives down the block from me in the same "ghetto." I don't want to just have a stable job. I want to enjoy my life, I want to be my own boss. I'm willing to work and save for it. But my parents would get so pissed if I stopped going to school. I'm not on Earth to satisfy my parents though. So if I think I have a chance at success against the odds, why not try? See, we all have dreams, images, pictures of what we want. Each one is different, might be very similar, but each is unique. The thing about us is that, no matter how far fetched that dream or idea is, to an extent, we can bring it to reality if we truly want it. I really don't want to tell my parents about this, but I also don't want to waste their money and go against my dreams.
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You do have some good points you bring up. However, I do think that there is probably a better solution that you simply dropping out of college.
First of, if you have no interest in engineering, how about changing your major? Why not study something music-related?
And if time and money are an issue, another possibility is to go to college on a part-time basis rather than quitting altogether. This will free up time for both a part-time job, supplying the money you need, and time to work with your band.
On another level, being in college could actually be a benefit for your band. College students are undoubtedly one of the largest consumers of music and one of the demographics most interested in this art form. Why not use that to your advantage by getting your band's name out there among the student body? This might also allow for some networking opportunities in order for your band to book some local gigs for college parties and hangouts.
It's good to have a dream and good to pursue it. But, you do have to keep your options open in the event that your first plan for yourself does not pan out.
Good luck.
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Time for some grandfatherly advice and since I am of that age I will try to offer some.
Grandparents see things at times through a different, sometimes more lenient set of eyes. Why this is may be because we can step back now that we have raised our own children and see the whole forest for the trees.
I do understand what you are saying. I also understand you are 18 and have little in the way of worldly experiences to draw upon. Yes there is no guarantee your band will fail or be successful.
The questions I have for you, which you have not answered to my satisfaction is; what is wrong with hedging your bet? Where you a good student in High School? Are you getting good grades in college?
At your present age you must be in your first year of college. Maybe engineering is not the best choice for you? Was it a choice you made or your parents made for you? In any case the first two years of college are primarily for the study or the prerequisite courses so you have waste noting if you wish to change your major to something more of your liking.
There is nothing to be gained from being a starving artist. In fact being a starving artist could impede your ability to be successful. I don't know much about the music business but I do know it takes money for the instruments and money for studio time to make an album or any recordings. How do you plan to finance these things. I have my doubts you could put the arm on your parents.
Now with a good education behind you, not necessarily in Engineering but in something more to your liking. You have a gateway to earning good money when you need it. There are many companies that hire temporary employees to augment their staff as needed. The money is good for the right jobs and it is usually short term employment.
My way of thinking is you can have your cake and eat it maybe with ice cream on top. If you have properly prepared. Meaning find a major more to your liking. You have a career to back up the financing of your true love and the time to dedicate to building you band without starving to do so.
Think about it and write back to me. We can discuss this between ourselves if you like. If your parents are paying for your college then you are not going to graduate with a heap of debt requiring you to get a full time job to pay off your debt.
From where I sit you could have the world by the horns if you plan and prepare properly. Think about it and get back to me with your thoughts. IF you want and answer though you need to get back to me in a private message and not a comment in the rating box as I cannot comment a again on this page.
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I also don't see a question. It just sounds like you're trying to convince yourself to drop out of college.
Everybody has different dreams. If you want to drop out of college and get a job and focus on your band, then do that.
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I don't see a question. You've already convinced yourself anyway. I'm a college dropout; you'll survive.
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