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Ok im 18/female i hate saying this because it makes me feel like im talking about my man behind his back but last night i was trying to wake my man up so that we can go to bed and i tryed to get him up like 3 times and then he told to shut the fuck up like after that and i told him dont tell me that and he said it again maybe 3 more time and i kept saying dont say that and then he got up and pushed me with his chess and said what you going to do about it and walked away in the bedroom then later after i stoped crying i went in the room and we talked but when i thought he was going to tell me hes sorry he told me to give him a blowjob and he pulled his pants down its was dark so the whole time i was doing it i was crying it felt like i just got used he acked like it never happend so the questen is why do i feel like this we have been together for 6 years and plan to marry also i told him this morning and he said hes sorry and hes not useing me and he loves me! so why do i feel this way still sorry so long please help me!!! anybody!!!!
For him to demand oral sex without you agreeing to it is wrong! From how you're describing him, I can't see why you're with him. He DID use you and he sounds selfish. Rethink why you're still with him because to an outsider, he sounds like he's no good!
I love to work out and I stay very active. My problem is that I go way overboard when I eat. For example, after I work out I will eat a whole bag of snickers and not even feel full. Afterwards, I get so mad at myself. I love to eat and don't have much will power to stop eatting when I should. I definitely am healthy, but I would tone up fast if I stopped eatting all the time. I eat even when I am not hungry. Is there anything I can do to stop doing this? Thanks!
I just got past this problem myself, so here's what I did:
Eat small meals often. (Meals consisting of 200-300 calories)
Drink water before and after the meal to feel fuller.
I personally, don't reach for a Snicker's bar, anymore. If you want something sweet, try peanut butter...at least it has protein!
Also, my Health teacher just told us to be stronger than our addictions...In reference to alcohol he says "Am I really going to let that bottle control my life?! Who's stronger?" So, I apply the same idea to food and I found out that I'm in control and I will not hand that power over to something that can be found in my kitchen pantry. I'm much too strong for that and so are you! :)
17/f
okai so i've gotten a bit suicidal recently. i've lost all my friends & now it seems to me that there isnt really a reason for me to live anymore cause there is noone who really cares about me & i dont know .. if i die noone would really bother you know?
i just feel like i'm worthless & i'm always alone & just sit in my room. i mean it wouldnt really make a difference if i sit in my room or 'rest in peace' cause either way noone cares.
everyone just walks by me & ignores me & i seem to lose every person who i was ever important to. i fail at everything.
i dont want you to tell me how to make new friends or whatever.. i just wanna believe that even without having friends life is still worth living & that i'm worth something. and telling me that im still young & can still have a great future doesnt help either cause i've tried telling myself that loads of times. help? i just hate this feeling.. i always cry & honestly just wanna kill myself... & the feeling that noone would care if i DID is just horrible.
I've felt this way during my highschool years, too. Right now, I'm 19 and have gotten past this part of my life. Recognize this as just a "stage". Your life does not have to be this way. You have every right to be happy! This is your life, so take charge! Put yourself first! Take the time to love yourself and when you feel ready to...give your love away! the love you give away won't be lost. it will be given back to you in abundance! love will lead you to a happiness that lasts. sorry if this all sounds trippy lol
if you want to talk, send me an Email. lisaxfaith@yahoo.com
you DO matter!!!
hey guyss! I'm 18/f. I weigh between 135-140lbs and I'm 5'4. I have been in sports my WHOLE life. Freshman year in high school I had small abs and was in really good shape. I tore my ACL during summer basketball and like normal I gained weight. I use to be about 125-130 before tearing my ACL. After that I blew up to almost 150. Junior year I went down to about 145 and stayed that for the rest of high school.
May of '09 I weighed myself and I was almost 150 and I was sick bc of it. I know I wasnt FAT but to me it was. I went down to about 140-145. And slowly since then I have lower my weight to where it is now. I feel and I think i look fat. I KNOW im not obese, but fat. Im not sure if its bc I have that mental thing that anorexia people do, where they are actually skinny but see their selves as fat.
My boyfriend and sister tell me I'm not, but my boyfriend is a lineman for college so of course I'm small compared to him. My body type is my legs are big bc of my muscle. I have always had big thighs. I have C boobs. I wear a size 5 in jeans but the legs are tight bc of my thighs.
Idk, maybe I do have a mental thing going on.
if you guys wanna see a picture or something to actually help me just ask.. thanks :/
I'm not sure what your question is, but I understand how you feel! I'm just above five feet and wear a size five in jeans, but my stomach hangs out a bit. I'm actually only 125 pounds, but it's not all muscle. Are you concerned about weight...as in numbers or how your body looks overall?
I haven't had sex and im 15... Am I a freak? Cause it seems like all my friends are talking about having sex and I don't even WANT to until I am married.
I'm 19 and haven't even had my first kiss. It's not as big a deal as everyone's making it. You're not missing out and I pride you on having the will to wait till marriage!
I am an overweight college student, and I hate it. I'm always tired, and seem to be the only one yawning in class. I want to lose weight, and I know a large part of that comes from portion control. However, once, I attempted portion control for an entire week, and I was ALWAYS hungry. I had to literally force myself to put my plate in the sink. Between meals, I would eat small, nutritious snacks like granola, yogurt, protein bars, and a few pretzels. I know how to "fill up" on water, but I can't constantly be leaving class to go to the bathroom. can anyone help?
(FYI, my mom does all the cooking in my house, and she cooks healthfully. I just usually eat too much. Also, as far as my nutrition, I'm healthy, i'm just overweight.)
(19/F)
I know where you're coming from! Especially about the filling up on water part because it's not practical when us college students have class to sit through!
You should try filling up on protein. However, protein bars tend to have just as much sugar as candy bars, so forget about those...Try: egg whites, almonds and whole wheat products instead.
I find it's easier if I eat food in its simplest form and not something that's been processed because sugar is more addicting than we realize and salt will make us bloated!
I hope I helped!
any idean to loose weight QUICK
Cut down on salty products...and products with sugar!
The easiest way to do this is to eat natural foods. fruits, veggies and whole grains/whole wheat!
drink a lot of water!!!
you will see results within a few days if you eat a reasonable amount of natural foods while cutting out all the processed foods you may normally eat =D
okay , im 13 and i am a size 8 english sizes and 5 foot 6 .i weigh 49 - 53 kg depends on the time of day, i just started my period , and i feel fat aroung guys, i do 2 classes of ballet and 2 classes of moder dance each week and football, but im not losing any waite wat so ever , i also do home excerzize 2, i eat little n regular and NOTHING IS WORKING help! , i also tried puking myself but tht dosent work either! i need help
If you're doing all those activities-you need to eat MORE! it sounds crazy, but if you eat too little and push your body to use all that energy-your body will hold onto fat instead of burning it! Plus, you're still developing at your age and need to eat to fuel your metabolism. Try eating about 300 calories every 3 hours and drink a lot of water! =D
I've always enjoyed dancing but I've only done ballet when I was about 6. (I'm 18 now).
Through high school I wanted to get into hip hop but I'm a chubby girl and was just far too self concious. Near the end of school I wanted to do contemporary but once again, far too self concious.
I'm not going to take it up professionally or anything like that, but is it normal for 18 year olds to start getting into dancing? I just feel so self concious because I'm still a chubby girl and I don't want to embarrass myself in front of people who know what they're doing.
Do dance classes like when older people start as beginners?
It's something I've always wanted to do, and now that I'm in Uni not really knowing where I'm going, it would be nice to do something I've always really liked.
Thanks! :)
hey! I'm 19/F and I have the desire to start dancing, too! I've looked up some dance schools in my area and a lot of them are for kids, but I found one that had beginner's classes for adults! the easiest thing to do: would be to look some up and call them with your questions! don't be self concious! Remember- "We're our own worst critics!"
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Do i moan when my boyfriend fingers me?
I think you should. When he's pleasuring you, it makes sense that you would show some indication that it feels good lol
Is there any way i can get myself off while on my period? Maybe that doesnt include touching my bleeding vagina.
use the faucet in the bathtub. it'll get you clean down there, also!
everytime i eat or drink something my lips turn red. they dont hurt or nothin but look like im wearing lip stick or have d.s.l lips lol. whats this from? does it happen to anyone else? thanks:)
omg! It happens to me and I don't get why!!! It's so stramge! well, I can't give you any explanations, but I just wanted you to know that you're not the only one! =D
after spring break i gained 7 pounds so i am trying to loose it plus more weight.
i have 800-1000 calories a day.
fiber1 for breakfast,
chicken for lunch
chicken with kasha for dinnner
those types of meals.
its been 2 weeks and i havent lost a pound.
i walk like crazy, thats the only exercise i have time for.
what should i do to loose the weight???
and why am i not loossing weight>
i never cheat on this diet.
I'm going to assume that you're a girl... I will tell you why you're having trouble losing weight, but you have to believe me: you aren't eating enough!!! your body is literally starving and holding on to fat! it's a defense mechanism we have in our bodies. 1,200 calories is the lowest I would recommend going. Also, make sure you're getting enough protein because that will help you maintain your muscle mass! Your goal is to lose fat NOT muscle! let me know if you need more advice. I could ramble on all day :)
ok so im going to babysit this one family and i want to make a good impression so shell call me back... what should i do?
thanks i rate 5's
The best piece of advice I can give you is TAKE INITIATIVE!
If the timing seems right, ask about food allergies, what the child's interests are...show that you are going to be involved with their kid and not just supervise them. Reassure them that you are saftey concscious. If you get a chance to meet with the child, get down on their level and play a game with them as if you were their peer. It's so important that the child is comfortable with you and it puts the parents at ease when they know their child will be okay once they leave.
Let me start off by saying that it took a lot of courage to finally ask you guys advice on this matter. So I would appreciate it if you didn't judge to hard.
Well, I always found the disease schizophrenia fascinating. I've done quite a bit of research. And well lately I've been wishing that it could plague me. I just find it so mysterious and interesting. I'm pretty sure this is not normal. And I was wondering what I could do about this?
It's not really just this one disease but others that disconnect you from reality. But schizophrenia is the one I really keep thinking about. I just find our reality boring and uninteresting so seeing the world differently would be 'fun'?
This is something I can't just stop thinking about as it has already contaminated my thoughts.
I realize that if I was a person with schizophrenia I would think totally opposite but as I am not one with such disease I don't.
I've tried to talk about this with an adult before and it was just brief and never spoken of again. And I would like to not bring it up again.
And I am only a fourteen year old female.
I tried to sum this up the best I could.. So if you have any other questions I will answer them.
I don't think it's strange to wish you had schizophrenia. We all want different perspectives from our own at some point or another.
About schizophrenia: my teacher's roommate can't even go to the grocery store because when she walks in, all she sees is aisles of food moving TOWARDS her! sounds terrifying =O
but back to your question...maybe you'd be interested in trying to use a different perspective. try writing with your non-dominant hand...that'll be different! =D
My life has hit rock bottom. I have no hope left for myself. This year has been one of the worst years I have faced in the 20 years of my life. My college grades are anything but good. My dog passed away last month. My boyfriend of 8 months who I love, is hurt because i lied to him that i was a virgin. He won't even talk to me properly. I have absolutely no friends who I can talk to about anything. I want to end my life. I just cant continue living in pain each day with no one around to take care of me or just hold me and say that "It's gonna be okay". I try to optimistic but I'm just too lonely. What do I do?
One suggestion I can give you is to face the problems you're dealing with instead of being "optimistic" to cover it up. There is nothing wrong with appreciating the dark times. It's a beautiful thing. If you deny yourself of the feelings you're experiencing right now, they'll always be a part of you. Don't be afraid to feel lost. Being losts leads to being found. The key is not to rush the process :)
15/F; Okay, so about a year ago I became friends with a girl who slowly but surely changed who I was (we'll call her Allison). I used to be this incredibly brilliant student who was smart in all different ways. My parents were so proud of me, I had friends and went to their houses and sometimes hung out at the movies and mall and such, you know, normal things. Then one day probably 8 months ago or so, me, Allison, and a couple other friends went to a fast food restaurant after school, and saw this "bad boy" that Allison and another girl recognized, and we all knew the name. We went over to talk to him (he was smoking a cigarette) and he was just telling us all he's been through, like going to jail and being in a group home. I immediately hated him and saw him as someone I would never associate myself with, and pretty much realized I had to keep myself on track to avoid being him. Little did we all know, one of the girl's mothers was driving around the parking lot we were in (my friend was 13 at the time) and saw us. She told my mother, and my mom flipped out, saying that once I started high school I better not associate with people like him, and I earnestly agreed with her and she took this as a wakeup call, because I was her oldest, on how she should be watching me. I continued to stay friends with Allison, and throughout my first few months of high school I actually ended up hanging out with that guy's friends, whom I met at a football game because I talked to him with her. Even then I never believed I would really become friends with them. Come November, I ended up smoking pot behind a movie theatre, and maybe too weeks later becoming drunk off my ass at Allison's. I felt like I was on my high horse because even though my parents were still strict, I was getting away with these things. A friend tipped off her mom about the drinking at Allisons, who went to my mother, and I ended up flat out lying saying I would never do anything like that and was insulted at the accusation. Then it was New Years Eve. I got this incredibly random text message from the boy I met at the football game, inviting me to a party. On a huge whim, I lied saying I was sleeping over at my friend's house behind our house, and my parents believed me and I went to this party, slept over at the boy's house, and got driven home in the morning, and never got caught. At that party, the boy I met way back in the parking lot was there, and we talked and started getting somewhat romantically involved. Two days later he wanted to hang out, so he brought me to this guy's house who was 19, and I had met twice before briefly. I lied again and said I was sleeping over the same friend's house. I got sexually involved with the boy from the parking lot. Allison found out, and got jealous, so out of spite, told her parents. My mother got suspicious because I slept nearly all day, and when Allison's mother told her, she became a wreck. I told her outright I didn't do, and continued to lie. Well my story had loopholes, plus all she had to do was ask my neighbor's house if I was really there, and she said no. I ended up admitting to the drinking from before, but never said anything about the weed. I was grounded for a month and still am not trusted (because of minor problems since then).
Now after that huge backstory; here's the problem. When my mother parents me, she believes she is 3000% right. She is always right, and I am always wrong. She makes me tell her where and who I'm with all the time, and if I'm walking around town or something, I have to tell her every time I go somewhere else. Sometimes she drives to where I say I am to make sure I'm there. All my friends think she's crazy. She tends to think she's being completely fair. She asks me every week if I still have contact with "that boy" as she refers to him as, and I lie and say no, even though I've talked to him twice or so since that incident. She makes me do insanely well in school, and is disappointed in my C average in math, despite its incredible difficulty and her barely proficient math skills. She just got her master's degree two months ago, which I had to do all the technological and grammatical aspects of, and my father never finished college, after taking maybe two honors classes throughout high school. Her expectations don't add up. It would at least make more sense if both my parents were perfect doctors, or something. But we barely have money, my parents constantly fight over my father's dependence of my mom, and my sister is a 10 year old brat who is screamed at daily. But alas, despite all this, we make sure I'm watched over all the time. Sometimes I understand what their saying, and other times I just want to keep lying all the time and not care. I'm so bipolar on these feelings, in fact sometimes I'm crying of paranoia and other times music or TV inspires me to rebel, and I feel so happy. I mean one minute I want everything in the world and I work so hard in school, and the next I stay up all night, do no schoolwork and seriously consider either running away, dropping out of school, or just not going to college. I guess my parent's parenting as well as my mental health combine to one disaster which leaves me generally unhappy and just STUCK. I pretty much need help, because as my mother says, "I'm not content with mediocrity."
I apologize for the length.
In the moment, we all accuse our parents of being unreasonable. I'm 19/F, btw. but looking back, my parents couldn't have been more right. Not only do they voice their opinions on the things I do out of love, but out of experience. They are so wise and I'm a naive dreamer. I personally think it's up to you what crowd you want to hang out with, but just think...would you let your child do the same?
Your parents can't help but care for you and about you. You are their responsibility and they take pride in your saftey, as they should.
The things they do to ensure that saftey may seem invasive, but you are blessed with parents who actually care!
They deserve a genuine "thank you" for doing what some parents haven't.
hi i am a 19/f. this is going to sound dumb, but i am a freshman in her second semester of community college. So nest year I'll be a sophomore obviously. I am really scared because after next year I'll be transferring to University of Houston, & i am soo soo scared, its not even funny. I live in Katy,Texas, but UH is in Houston, so its only an hour away. I still have this extreme fear that i won't be able to go there, since I've never been away from my parents for long periods of time. I do want to live there at the dorms, but i don't want to live at home for 2 more years, because i want my freedom, but at the same time i am so scared to leave. What should i do? :(
Hi. I'm also 19/F in her second semester of C.C.
A few months ago, I was terrified at the idea of leaving. Having my parents around makes me feel secure, but I know they have prepared me well for a more independent future. Now, being independent does not mean being lonely. There will be plenty of people who are looking for a friend like you for comfort, so if you're worried about being lonely, it can't happen. As long as you are outgoing and reach out to those around who are mote likely experiencing the same thing, you will find yourself to be pretty well-off.
My friends and I were talking the other day and we got curious about something. If you die, what happens to your internet stuff? I mean, does MySpace go in and delete your MySpace so that somebody else can use that URL name or does it just sit there? In addition, we were curious about Facebook, MyYearBook, Friendster, Hi5, and BeBo. We figured the same thing would happen to them all but in case it's different then I listed the ones we were interested in.
Thanks for any of the info! :D
All of your stuff remains on the internet.
I know of a few people who have died and their facebook/myspace accounts are still up and it's been years!