I am on here to help people because that is what I want to do with the rest of my life and I feel like I give good advice. I hope I help everyone I write to.
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I'm sorry that has happened 2 you as well. Guys can be so cold hearted. I just wished they understood us. I love him so much I don't know what 2 do anymore (link)
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yeah do you know if he loves you? you need to know. I just don't want you to hurt yourself. He is not worth it no matter how much you think he is!
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I'm 18. I'm not sexually active but I would like to be and I think it would make relationships a hell of a lot easier. The only problem is that i'm really afraid of the result....meaning....the pain and initial hymen-popping and whatnot. I've done everything sexual other than sex but I have NOT been fingered nor have I fingered myself or used a tampon. I'm uncomfortable with anything being inside. I'm worried that this will make sex completely unattainable.
Is there any way I can "train" my vagina to be a bit looser? Anything! (link)
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ok I think that sex is not a way to make a relationship easier unless you don't really care about the result. You need to know that you are ready...I think you should find the right person because you may feel so much better when you do.
But if you do decide to I think the best way to stop pain is to be fingered first. When I lost my virginity it didn't hurt at all because I was fingered first but also the guy should go really slow the first time. Don't be surprised if the first time sucks because it probably will because if he goes slow you may not really feel much pleasure and it he goes to fast you will probably feel pain...but believe me it gets better.
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female.
so my dischage smells really bad. and i get a lot of it when im not on my period. it sucks its like having a sec. period. well i was wearing tampons with it but people said that was a bad idea. and i cant stand pads. and they dont work well with thongs. so i didnt wear anything today bc yesterday i had little discharge well today i could smell it really bad. can other people smell it? i heard that only you can unless your really close to other people. something with the body. like you smell it because the body knows its coming from it or something?
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I ask myself the same question. If you have that much discharge you might want to go to a doctor because it might actually be an infection. also think about wearing bigger pants...it might cut down on smell but I would definetly check that out if I were you. I don't know how old you are but it is also a good idea if you have been having sex. talk it over with a gynecologist see what they say.
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There's this guy I've been liking 4 2 years now. he likes me 2 but he also likes another girl. So I was sitting down in the back of the church and he was in front of me and was hugging and kissing a girl
(just like he does me) and he was doing all that and I started crying. When I got home he called me saying that the girl he was hugging and kissing says she loves him but really doesn't and stuff like that. Well I told him that's wat he's doing 2 me. Well he doesn't want 2 belive me he thinks that he's the only 1 with feelings. It hurts I want 2 get over him so bad but I love him 2 much I just want 2 die soooo badly someone please help me before I end up hurting myself (link)
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I have that exact feeling right now. I just got my heart broken. Do you really like him...and does he really like you? Tell him now or never. If he says never...the only thing I can say is avoid him for a while because seeing him will hurt even worst and once you feel you can try to start seeing him slowly. It is not fun at all and it hurts worst than I ever imagined. I would not wish this pain on anyone and I am sorry that you are feeling it too.
Please don't hurt yourself you can get through it. please write to me...we can get through our heart break together!!
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I am the.."advisenator" of all my friends. Now, I odn't know how but all my friends are depressed and are the type of people noone would suggest me to hang out with but I help them mentally a lot. and they tell me all their problems and stress and i help them feel better. But now it feels like it's all added to me and im starting to go down. What can i do? (link)
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you care...I try to help people to as much as I can and at night I find myself thinking about how I can help them with what they are having problems with. you need to realize when it becomes to much and tell them you are there for them but you are on emotional overload and can't handle much more right now. you have to make sure to separate their problems from yours. I always feel like other's problems are mine and that I need to solve it for them...but they need to figure it out but you can always give advice when they want it.
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Can anyone describe to me what their ideal utopia would be or look like? I want to actually compare the differences in people's imaginations. Thank you. (link)
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I am pretty simple. All I want is to be happy and married to my fiance. I want to have my family and friends to always be happy and there to be absolutely no fighting and no drama.
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ok so i have this amazing boyfriend who i love soo much and i may be falling in love with him. the thing is we go to different schools cause i transfered half way through the yr to a private school. also he volunteers at this teen youth center place and i've never been there but im going to go with him soon. At that place he had his first gf where he made a mistake and went to 2nd with her. not i struggled with dealing with this but now im ok with it and we worked it out tho we havent even gone to 2nd yet. he made a mistake. anyway the problem now is im so worried that he flirts with other girls since im like never with him. this one girl likes him and he told her he had a gf but normally girls dont obviously flirt unless the boy has shown sum interest and he talks to a lot of girls. ok he is good with girls. i know he is. his last couple gf's i know and i dont mind them just the first one. i am insecure about him being with other girls because he does flirt whether hes aware of it or not. he knows he does cause i've told him but he tells me there is no actual interest like he doesnt like them more then friends. but i am still nervous! i trust him but hes good with girls and girls seem to like him! also just the other day at our youth group he wasnt there but some random girl came up to me and asked where he was and he doesnt even know who she is!! this bothered me. What should i do and am i over reacting? i just love him so much and i know hes a flirt and half of his life i dont even know about and almost no one there at the place he volunteers knows he even has a gf so that leaves it wide open for him to get hit on!! i know he doesnt mean to flirt and hes told me not to worry and he would never cheat but i am jut so afraid of his flirtiness and those girls. he says he doesnt mean to and hes working on it but that hes still gonna act that way cause thats just how he is apparently. i understand cause im flirty too but i dont have as many guy friends as he does girls. he hangs with girls a lot. please help and thank you sooo much!!! I will rate :] (link)
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I understand how you feel. My boyfriend also flirts a lot and he knows it. I know he doesn't mean it and it does tick me off a little but you know what? If I told him to stop he would never have fun because he would always be thinking if I was getting mad or it was too much.
You have to love him for him and trust that he is not honetly flirting. Some guys think it is just being nice while girls see it as flirting. I don't blame you for being threatened, and I know this won't help much but you just have to trust him and trust that he wants you and not those girls he may be flirting with.
The girls probably like him because they saw the same thing you saw in him and I think that is somewhat of a compliment because the guy that you think is so awesome is with you and not those other girls.
Don't complain to much to him...I made that mistake and believe me they get mad. They are who they are and you can't really change that.
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Hello, I'm 17/M, and I've been thinking. Having a girlfriend is something I'd like to experience before I graduate high school. The problem is, I have no idea who to ask out. I meet a girl I have chemistry with maybe once every two years, and the last two girls I had chemistry with turned out to both be complete bitches. So who do I ask out if I'm in high school? One of the millions of cute girls I don't know? One of the millions of cute girls I'm friendly with? Or do I wait around for chemistry? I'd definately start asking girls out left and right, but I haven't ever dated and I don't want to try it for the first time with someone I don't feel comfortable with. (link)
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Ok I know you want to date before the end of high school but why? Those girls are almost all to immature and it will do nothing for you. If I were I would just stop looking. I believe when people stop looking it just happens. Also if you were to start dating maybe you should think of dating someone outside of the school.
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I have an "8GB" 3rd G ipod nano, but on itunes it says it has 7.4 GB!
why does it have less memory than what the ipod says??
(ive asked a few of my firneds who also have ipods, and they have less memory then what it says!) (link)
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it could be telling how much memory you have left.
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okay so i always get really itchy like when im trying to go to sleep.
NO i don't have bed bugs.
and like i can't get to sleep because of it. and it really gets me annoyed so like i'll scratch really hard and like i have a bruise on my arm from scratching and all kinds of little cuts on my ankle because of it.
what the hell is the matter with me?
like my skin does not feel "dry"
when i itch it it leaves like bumps/raised lines.
how can i get this to stop.
its driving me so crazy. (link)
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where do you live? because if you live in a cold climate you might get dry skin. I would do the changing of sheets and maybe moisturize more.
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Alright, a bit more of an adult focused one, but I need some outside opinions.
So, my girlfriend is chronically ill. Not really sick, theres just always something wrong with her. She has migraines (she says, they dont seem to affect anything but her sex drive) she has body aches, she gets tired, she ________. Insert anything under the sun for the blank that doesnt require a doctor.
She used to have a sex drive that outstripped mine. Now, I'm lucky if we have sex once a week.
I don't know what to do about it. I used to be able to climb into bed with her, and seduce her. Now, she either ignores or rebuffs all the advances I make, and I only actually get to have sex when she is horny enough that she makes an advance. Basically, if she isnt in the mood, there is nothing I can do to get her that way. The only thing she wants constantly is non sexual physical affection, to the point that I feel used by her. I feel like a convenient toy that takes care of her needs whenever she has them, and the rest of the time she rolls over and pretty much ignores me.
Perhaps its selfish of me, but this is a big problem, on top of a bunch of other problems. Big enough that if it continues I am going to leave her over it.
I just need some outside perspectives. I can't handle being in a relationship with a girl who seems to have lost complete interest in sex. Its been going on for months, since last summer basically. She gets short bursts of horny for about 2 hours every few weeks, and the rest of the time I feel like we are married with kids and careers, when we are students with a decent amount of time on our hands. (link)
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there is a disorder in which women loose that drive. I didn't have that but it physically hurt me for a while and it killed me that I couldn't do it because I felt bad for not pleasing my boyfriend. Maybe your girlfriend feels that way too...or maybe she doesn't but you should explain to her that you have needs and that you are not blaming her. I don't think she wants you to feel that you are being used and you guys just need to have a conversation and try to make a compromise. Maybe she would be willing to give you oral instead.
Some girls also don't understand that guys do really need it because it litteraly hurts. Some girls just think it is pleasure for them when it is not. I think you can agree with me on that one. Girls do not need it... we do not hurt. I think you should explain that to her and that not being able to express your love through that is making you feel bad.
In the mean time spend time with your hand...lol.
Good luck
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On the side of my profile there is a link that says "show fewer.. (or more).. profile boxes" and everytime I go to my profile, it hides all of my applications. Is there anyway that I can get rid of it, so all of my boxes show all the time?? (link)
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I did that too...at the bottom of all the apps, there is a link that says show more profile boxes press that and then look for where it says edit it or something like that click it and uncheck all the boxes. I think you can figure it out. have fun
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Hello. This is LM, and this time I'm the one who needs advice! Anyways, I recently got my permit. I went through driver's ed, I'm doing driving school in a couple months, etc. etc.
I know the rules of the road, I don't speed, things like that. I went on the highway for the first time today, got off at the first exit, and ended up in rush hour traffic (well, for a small town we have a LOT of cars, haha) and to put it bluntly, I freaked out. I didn't lose control of the car, so I know I as doing okay. Is there any way I can reduce my anxiety/nervousness about driving? Tips from experienced drivers, or actually anyone who drives legally, will help me out more than you can imagine.
Thanks in advance! ♥
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Oh My Gosh!! I had the same exact thing except I tried to avoid driving period because I always thought I would hit someone.I even had nightmares. The only thing I can tell you is to take deep breaths and go for it. You do it a lot and you get used to it. Also tell the person you are driving with to be nice to you because if you have a panicky passenger you will more than likely also be panicky!
Hope I helped...it will get easier!
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Okay.. this may be kinda long. My boyfriend Levi and I have been together for a year and 7 months. Earlier in our relationship [[ about 6-8 months ago ]] Levi lied to me sometimes. about things of little to medium importance. and when i told him i wouldnt stand for lying at all, and i would break up with him if he did it again. So he promised me he never ever would again. And he didnt. I'm sure. So then this past friday, i was talking to him on the phone and he said he was going to his cousin's house at 1:30 pm. which was fine. even though i hate his cousins Blake and Bryce. They get into trouble and peer pressure him into doing things. So then we were talking and he said that his cousin Blake said he would buy him a cigar and they would smoke together [[ Levi just turned 18 last wednesday ]] so i told Levi that I had planned on surprising him with a cigar for his birthday. and I had hoped that he would smoke his first cigar with me. He had been wanting to smoke one for years. Though i dont like him smoking. so long as it's an occasional thing. with his dad or something i dont care. but i dont want him doing that with his cousins. and he knows that. so anyway... he thought it was stupid that i both his cousin and his girlfriend were fighting over his first time. and he got kinda mad. i told him i had planned on surprising him with a cigar. he finally, reluctantly said "okay. I'll just tell Blake that I told you I'd smoke my first one with you..." and I said "Promise you'll wait to do that with me?" and he said "yes." Then later, he called me from his cousin's house to tell me that he was "peer pressured" into smoking one with Blake! he kept saying he was sorry and he wanted to make it up to me. so he ditched his cousins and came and spent the night with me instead of with his cousins.
[[ he had originally planned on staying the night with his cousins on friday night, then coming over to my house on saturday around noon, then spending saturday night with me and going home sunday morning to do homework.]]
he came over and stayed with me friday night, through saturday, then he left sunday at 1 pm. then he did his homework and we talked late that night and i let him know i was still very angry with him that he lied to me, especially after i told him that i would break up with him if he lied again. about anything. he just keeps apoligizing. [[ by the way, he ended up smoking a cigar that i got him also. ]] but he says cigars are stupid in the end. so anyway.. when we're talking sunday night he said he'd finished his homework and was planning to go see me on monday [ no school, president's day ] so he called me in the morning and he was on his way. we spent sunday together then he had to leave at 11:30 pm.
another problem is his mother... oh my gosh. i dropped out of school [[ which i realize was a mistake now ]] and she wont stop making stupid comments about it to Levi. I've never met her in person because she's such a bitch. Last wednesday, Levi and his mom were in the car driving home from his birthday party when they were talking about his aunt and uncle getting divorced and his aunt getting alimony. and his mom said "You see what happens when you get involved with someone who cant work?"
Levi wouldnt talk to her the rest of the night. I called him that night and he said he wanted to be left alone. But he told me what happened.
The next day was Valentine's day and he told his mom he was coming over to my house. He did, and it was great. Then friday, his dad drove him to his mom's house to pick up his xbox 360 and she checked him for hickeys! levi thought she was kidding around because she was laughing while she did it to be inconspicuous! what a bitch. he's an adult! so i told Levi he needs 2 talk to her. or move out or something! I'm not going to deal with her shit anymore. and he shouldn't either. she's a huge problem in our relationship. he told me he wont move out unless she gives him reason to. as if she hasn't... so he's going to talk to her later today i think. So I guess what I'm wanting to know people's opinions on all of this. like Whether or not I should break up with him over lying to me, and what you think about him not moving into his dad's house to get away from his mom to help our relationship? any comments would help. Thank you so much! So sorry it's so long. (link)
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There are much worst lies than that. i think you should be happy that he called and told you instead of lying completely...and he ditched them for you...feel special for that.
The mom thing sucks and i know. My fiance's mom is pissed that we are going to get married and I don't have a job because I have college. his whole family treats me like white trash...but you just have to ignore them. You love their son and they have to deal with it and if your guy thinks it is getting worst he will leave. Don't make him choose though, you will more than likely regret it. Try to prove her wrong...go back to school or get your GED since you said you knew it was a mistake.
good luck
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first off im 15/f
i met this guy that my friend is friends with. but it was only for a brief minute. then i started talking to him online and felt like i knew him really well. i started liking him and he liked me too. then we finally met in person. it was always a bit awkward maybe because the internet friendship didnt really translate so well in person. we went out shortly after but that ended pretty quickly. and now im not sure how i should handle the situation. i try talking to him online sometimes but i can tell it has become more awkward. all i want is for us to be able to be friends again but i realize that maybe he needs some space from me. i dont see him much but when i have we dont really talk much. i think we rushed into the whole going out thing and i wish we could both forget it ever happened but thats probably not going to happen. by the way hes the first guy i ever dated. haha i know how pathetic.
lol
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I think you should ask him what went wrong and why it is so awkward. if he says he needs space then chill for awhile when he is ready he will talk to you. if he says nothing tell him your concerns and ask to start over and that you didn't mean for that to hurt your friendship!
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one of my best friends just broke up with her boyfriend and they don't get along at all. i've been talking to her alot about it and him so i kinda have both sides of the story. ever since him and i have become pretty good friends and he sorta flirts with me, i don't know if he means to but he definetly does it. when im with him i think i like him a little but when im not i feel terrible because how can i date my best friends ex. especially when shes not cool with it? any advice.
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Most people say to not date a friends ex, and I agree to a point. It is not worth it to lose this friend over a guy that might not last. You have to know if he is serious or if he just wants you so he can get back at your friend. Guys are mean like that sometimes. Always ask the friend first.
If you start to like him on when you feel like you would be unhappy if you weren't dating him I would consider trying to make everyone cool with it, because you shouldn't sacrifice your happiness for your friend like that. Think before you act!!
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this is probably a lame question but i think i like this guy and we always give eachother that 'look' when we see eachother but we rarely talk. like never. its cause hes really shy and stuff, any advice? (link)
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start talking girly. If you are not shy...make him not shy!!
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more questions:
1) what does it mean to cum?
2) how big, in length/circumference, is an average penis?
3) what does it mean to ''get wet''?
4) what happens when guys have an erection?/ why?
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I am not a good person to ask but I can tell you that you should maybe look it up on the net. I recomend looking up Sue Johansen...she is called the sex doctor and knows pretty much everything about it.
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16/f
For some reason I always freak out when it comes to the possibilty of a relationship with someone. I've never had a boyfriend.But whenever i like a guy, and if he happens to like me back, suddenly i just freak out. i start to feel nauseated and really, really uncomfortable, especially around the guy. and then i'm so scared that i end up pushing the guy away to avoid him asking me out, even though i still like him. the thought of being in a relationship with a guy always scares me...i'm always scared about how awkward it might be.but i don't know what to do, because i will still like the guy...and i end up scaring him off and then i'm left with nothing. one time i actually said yes when this guy asked me out...but i was SO anxious about being around him and talking to him after that i broke up with him a few days later!whats wrong with me??? (link)
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please don't take this the wrong way but I think the thing for you to do is to go to a psychologist or psychiatrist or maybe just a doctor because your symptoms seem like a panic disorder. i think I have this disorder to because I feel very anxious for stupid things that normal people would forget about. It might not be right but it would not hurt to find out because it doesn't seem like you have a self-esteem problem.
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i asked my mom if she could take me to my boyfriends house, and she said no so i started to flip out at her. so i called my boyfriend and said sorry i cant getta ride there. and he said why so i explained to him what my mom said. and then my mom grabbed the portable outta my hand and threw it out the window. then she said "give me your cell phone" i threw a fit and ran upstairs and locked my door and texted my boyfriend saying "my moms going physco, shes taking my cell away, ily" and then i went to my bed to 'fake cry' "dont take my cell away stop it!" and she knocked my door down, and started crying "laura, i cant tell you why, but i need your cell phone, i cant tell you, ou wouldnt understand, i cant tell you, im sorry" and she started sobbing on me andi started crying on her, so i took my battery out i was like fine.. here. and she was liek "i need the whole phone!" andi threw another fit and she just left with half of my phone... does anyone have any idea whats going on? my mom never asks me for anything and she always gives me what i want.. but whats happening!??? (link)
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Your mother may be sick of letting you do whatever you want and not asking you to do anything. She might have realized that she needs to decipline more and just took it over board. I don't know if I am right. I would just talk to her and tell her your worries because it could be many things.
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