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Problems between my long time BF and I... I dont want to be
Okay.. this may be kinda long. My boyfriend Levi and I have been together for a year and 7 months. Earlier in our relationship [[ about 6-8 months ago ]] Levi lied to me sometimes. about things of little to medium importance. and when i told him i wouldnt stand for lying at all, and i would break up with him if he did it again. So he promised me he never ever would again. And he didnt. I'm sure. So then this past friday, i was talking to him on the phone and he said he was going to his cousin's house at 1:30 pm. which was fine. even though i hate his cousins Blake and Bryce. They get into trouble and peer pressure him into doing things. So then we were talking and he said that his cousin Blake said he would buy him a cigar and they would smoke together [[ Levi just turned 18 last wednesday ]] so i told Levi that I had planned on surprising him with a cigar for his birthday. and I had hoped that he would smoke his first cigar with me. He had been wanting to smoke one for years. Though i dont like him smoking. so long as it's an occasional thing. with his dad or something i dont care. but i dont want him doing that with his cousins. and he knows that. so anyway... he thought it was stupid that i both his cousin and his girlfriend were fighting over his first time. and he got kinda mad. i told him i had planned on surprising him with a cigar. he finally, reluctantly said "okay. I'll just tell Blake that I told you I'd smoke my first one with you..." and I said "Promise you'll wait to do that with me?" and he said "yes." Then later, he called me from his cousin's house to tell me that he was "peer pressured" into smoking one with Blake! he kept saying he was sorry and he wanted to make it up to me. so he ditched his cousins and came and spent the night with me instead of with his cousins.
[[ he had originally planned on staying the night with his cousins on friday night, then coming over to my house on saturday around noon, then spending saturday night with me and going home sunday morning to do homework.]]
he came over and stayed with me friday night, through saturday, then he left sunday at 1 pm. then he did his homework and we talked late that night and i let him know i was still very angry with him that he lied to me, especially after i told him that i would break up with him if he lied again. about anything. he just keeps apoligizing. [[ by the way, he ended up smoking a cigar that i got him also. ]] but he says cigars are stupid in the end. so anyway.. when we're talking sunday night he said he'd finished his homework and was planning to go see me on monday [ no school, president's day ] so he called me in the morning and he was on his way. we spent sunday together then he had to leave at 11:30 pm.
another problem is his mother... oh my gosh. i dropped out of school [[ which i realize was a mistake now ]] and she wont stop making stupid comments about it to Levi. I've never met her in person because she's such a bitch. Last wednesday, Levi and his mom were in the car driving home from his birthday party when they were talking about his aunt and uncle getting divorced and his aunt getting alimony. and his mom said "You see what happens when you get involved with someone who cant work?"
Levi wouldnt talk to her the rest of the night. I called him that night and he said he wanted to be left alone. But he told me what happened.
The next day was Valentine's day and he told his mom he was coming over to my house. He did, and it was great. Then friday, his dad drove him to his mom's house to pick up his xbox 360 and she checked him for hickeys! levi thought she was kidding around because she was laughing while she did it to be inconspicuous! what a bitch. he's an adult! so i told Levi he needs 2 talk to her. or move out or something! I'm not going to deal with her shit anymore. and he shouldn't either. she's a huge problem in our relationship. he told me he wont move out unless she gives him reason to. as if she hasn't... so he's going to talk to her later today i think. So I guess what I'm wanting to know people's opinions on all of this. like Whether or not I should break up with him over lying to me, and what you think about him not moving into his dad's house to get away from his mom to help our relationship? any comments would help. Thank you so much! So sorry it's so long.
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There are much worst lies than that. i think you should be happy that he called and told you instead of lying completely...and he ditched them for you...feel special for that.
The mom thing sucks and i know. My fiance's mom is pissed that we are going to get married and I don't have a job because I have college. his whole family treats me like white trash...but you just have to ignore them. You love their son and they have to deal with it and if your guy thinks it is getting worst he will leave. Don't make him choose though, you will more than likely regret it. Try to prove her wrong...go back to school or get your GED since you said you knew it was a mistake.
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ok you shouldnt break up with him for some stupid lie like that if its more serious like he cheated on you and lied to you saying he would be at his cuzins house but wanst then ya break up with him but no to the breaking up thing and i think you should talk to his mom to makes things better is shouldnt be him. you have to tell her that you feel she is recking the relationship between you and him. and droping out of school was a huge mistake and you know that.
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