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scared of relationships
16/f
For some reason I always freak out when it comes to the possibilty of a relationship with someone. I've never had a boyfriend.But whenever i like a guy, and if he happens to like me back, suddenly i just freak out. i start to feel nauseated and really, really uncomfortable, especially around the guy. and then i'm so scared that i end up pushing the guy away to avoid him asking me out, even though i still like him. the thought of being in a relationship with a guy always scares me...i'm always scared about how awkward it might be.but i don't know what to do, because i will still like the guy...and i end up scaring him off and then i'm left with nothing. one time i actually said yes when this guy asked me out...but i was SO anxious about being around him and talking to him after that i broke up with him a few days later!whats wrong with me???
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Honest to God I love questions like these, because I feel as if I'm not alone. From the outside, I may seem like a normal person, when really I'm just a paranoid little freak. I'm great when it comes to flirting, except of course when its with a guy I actually like, or in a close situation that could potentially lead to something. I talk about this with my best friend everyday, because shes also this way. Feeling you can relate and are being understood REALLY helps. For me, its a matter of actually FINDING a guy, and THEN getting the balls to risk it. I'm asuming you haven't had your first kiss, which is not necesserally a bad thing. When you're in this situation again, just go for it before you even get a chance to overthink it, or just close your eyes and let him make the first move. The more you anticipate, the more nervous and worried you get. When it happens, you'll be too numb and enthusiatic to even feel nervous. I haven't had a boyfriend in a while, but I don't worry about it much since college's just around the corner. I hope any of this helps. If anything, you can talk to me anytime. I swear I won't mind.<3.
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please don't take this the wrong way but I think the thing for you to do is to go to a psychologist or psychiatrist or maybe just a doctor because your symptoms seem like a panic disorder. i think I have this disorder to because I feel very anxious for stupid things that normal people would forget about. It might not be right but it would not hurt to find out because it doesn't seem like you have a self-esteem problem.
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