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so me and this boy were really getting into our makeout session, and he like undid my shirt and started kissing and sucking my boobs. i just closed my eyes cuz i didn't know what else to do, is that right? (link)
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When it comes to things like this, there is no right or wrong thing to do. Just do what feels natural!
However, its pretty nasty to act as if you're enjoying something you're not, and guys can always see through this, so be careful.
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Ive been friends with this guy for a year.
ive always thought of him as just friends.
I think hes hot. but i would never go out with him. but recently ive found myself thinking
of him nonstop, going to his myspace page 24/7.
but i DONT want to like him.
how can i stop? do i like him? what do you think? (link)
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You can't chose who you like, or to stop liking someone. The only piece of advice I can give you is stop going on his myspace and look around at other guys to keep your mind distracted.
Also, ask yourself why you don't want to like him - are you already in a relationship, or are you just afraid of rejection? This can change the situation quite a lot.
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i think me n my boyfriend might end up kissing at the end of our date this friday, and i dont know how to makeout, pleaseee someone help!! (link)
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Its sounds crazy, but just go with the flow and follow his lead! I promise you it will come naturally.
A few tips:
*Make sure you don't eat onions, garlic etc etc beforehand
*Make sure you have nice breath. Brush your teeth before going out with him
*Put you hands where its comfortable - round his waist, cupping his face, round his neck...whatever
*Don't do it if you're not ready
*Enjoy it!!!
Also, remember, practise makes perfect ;)
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so my boyfriend got drunk one night with his friends and girls were there of course.. i found a hickey on him and he was like "aww baby im sorry you really cant control yourself when your drunk" so i forgave him.. then his friend told me that he almost had sex but his sister came in time to stop him.. should i break up with him.. or was it just a mistake that he did and i should forgive him.. (link)
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Lets get one thing straight here. Alcohol takes away your inhibitions, it just lets you do things that you want to do, but wouldn't normally. It DOES NOT put new ideas in your head. So, your boyfriend saying that 'you just can't control yourself' is being totally unfair and horrible to you.
Alcohol or no alcohol, if he is capable of cheating on you, he will always be capable of cheating on you.
It would be a bit different if he had kissed a girl - but HE NEARLY HAD SEX. Chuck him right away girl. Move on. Find someone who deserves you and treats you right.
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Ok, so I'm a shy guy right... Well, there is this girl I like and she likes me back.. I just don't know how to ask her out without looking like a moron.. Cause me talking to girls is like trying to find a needle in hay stack.. DIFFICULT. And I just don't wanna freeze up or get really nervous trying to ask her out.. Is there anything I can do to prevent this??
Thanks in advance. (link)
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Firstly, you need to make sure you BREATHE! Take things slowly, so you don't go gushing out lots of words all at the same time.
Just be calm, be yourself, and ask her out! At the end of the day, you like her, she likes you, she's probably going to say yes. And the worst she can say? That would be no...but then you can move on and find someone else :)
Good luck, hope it goes well!
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when you get fingered, do they finger the urethra or the vagina? (link)
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The vagina, as it expands.
The urethra's only purpose is to let urine out. It doesn't expand, and wouldn't allow a finger inside. (If it did, it would be extremely painful)
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alright so i really want birth control not just because im sexually active, but because i have bad PMS and im not close to my mom at all i dont go to her for anything or talk to her about anything and im really close to my boyfriends mother and shes really laid back and i was wondering does your parent or guardian have to be present to go to the doctors with you to get birth control? or can someone like my boyfriends mom go with me, my mom would also flip out a lot if she knew i wanted it, and i was sexually active. (link)
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No, you can go to the doctors on your own, thats what I did :) But you might want to take someone along for moral support.
Also, if you don't want your mum to know, she won't - everything that you say to the doctor, stays with the doctor, its completely confidential. But I would highly recommend speaking this through with her - she will react better if you sit her down and explain to her why you want to go on birth control than if she found your pills one day.
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Okay!!!
i'm sick of it!!
i mean... no offense BUT what's up with all these 14 and 15 year old girls thinking they are so old enough to have sex, like it's a casual thing.
I'm going to be 15 next week, and sex NEVER came in my mind to me, and I would never have it before i turned at least 20
yea... i know call me a holy person or crap... but seriously!! why are people doing it SO young...
They are still kids
I was reading all these questions about sex... and they are from like 14 and 15 year olds
THAT'S RIDICULOUS
i'm not trying to lecture or anything now here's my serious question....
I am getting to know guys now, and gonna be dating them....... now i'm kind of afraid that they'll all want sex and pressure me into it..
I'm not like that... i'm saving it
And the one thing i'm worried about is that if i don't give it... he'll take it from me
I mean, i don't care if i have to break up or lose them just bc they want sex... i just don't want to be taken advantaged of... y'know?
Help?
Thx for reading.... sorry it's sooo long (link)
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I agree with the previous answer - you don't actually have all the information on situations where girls lose their virginity, so its not really very fair of you to judge them purely on their age.
For example, surely it would be more right morally if, say, a 14 or 15 year old girl, lost her virginity to her long-term boyfriend in a loving and caring relationship, than if a 20 year old lost their virginity on a one night stand?
I think that 14 or 15 is quite young, but at the end of the day, age is merely a number and it is only one of many variables in a situation. I would be more appalled if a person were to lose their virginity to someone they have been with for only a few weeks, or who isn't mature enough to prepare for the consequences to be honest.
But for your serious question - if a guy asks for sex, or foreplay or ANYTHING that you're not comfortable with, just say no. If he's a good guy, then he'll respect your decision and wait for you. If he pressures you more, just dump him.
And for a guy to forcefully take your viginity if you said you didn't want sex would have to be pretty awful, so do you really think you'll be dating anyone who is capable of that anyway??
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i know that when having sex if its tight, girls make alot of noise, and i was woundering, do guys find that annoying? (link)
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Well, guys tend be even more turned on by girls moaning, because it means that they're doing something right hehe!
But if you mean a sort of 'squelching' noise down there, its perfectly normal, and if a guy is repulsed by this then he simply isn't ready to have sex.
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what does that mean? (link)
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Well, the word "cherry" can be slang for the hymen. So, when a "cherry is popped" its when a hymen is broken, aka when your virginity is lost during sex.
Hope this helped!
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im looking for a wesite that will tell me the possabilities of what my child would look like.
my man is black/mixed (white mom black dad) with brown eyes....
im white with blue eyes...
please help.
thankyou (link)
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You cannot tell. Unlike the previous answer, the baby will not have taken 'more' of your chromosomes - the baby will have half of its chromosomes from you and half from the father, but its characteristics will depend on what genes are in those chromosomes, and whether they are recessive or dominant.
For example, blue eyes is what you would call a recessive, or weak gene. Brown, on the other hand, is strong, or dominant. So that means your baby will most probably have brown eyes. HOWEVER, it is possible for it to have blue eyes, if the father's genes for eyes are mixed (ie, he has a brown eyed gene and a blue eyed gene.)
So unless you know this kind of information about your own genes, (which you won't, unless you have paid out LOTS of money to find out), then you will not be able to work out what your baby will look like. Sorry! Genetics is a very complicated thing, enjoy the wait for your baby, I'm sire it will be beautiful whatever genes it has.
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i just turned 16 and the last time i was with a guy was about 6 months ago and i jacked him off but he didn't finger me. then we split, so he never ended up fingering me. now i'm with someone different who i know is very experienced and i know pretty soon he is going to end up fingering me. i've tried fingering myself to see what it feels like but i cant seem to do it. i always think i'm doing it right but don't feel it at all. i just want to be prepared for when he does it to me. please help! i'll rate 5s. thanks everyone! (link)
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Like others have said, they both feel completely different. The fact that your boyfriend's hand is going to be at a different angle adds to this, and the fact that someone you really fancy (and love) is doing this to you makes it even better!
However, make sure you are completely ready for this, and if you aren't, just say no when your boyfriend goes to go near your pants! If he'sa nice guy, he'll understand.
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for all the girls that got fingered for the first time- did it hurt? or was it just uncomfortable? thanks. (link)
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In general, no it doesn't hurt. If you are not turned on (ie lubricated enough), it may become a bit sore after a while, but if your guy is a nice one, he'll be understanding and take it slower or stop for a while.
Also, there is a small chance of your hymen breaking if he puts more than a couple of fingers up you. This may hurt, I don't know personally. But if you use tampons then hymen-wise things should be a little more flexible.
But really, the best way of ensuring things are completely painless and comletely enjoyable is to make sure you are 110% ready, with a guy who you trust, and taking things slowly. Also communicate! Tell him what feels good, what doesn't and if it hurts you. Make out a lot beforehand. If you are worried or tense it may hurt. So relax, and have fun!
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long story short me and my best guy friend felt each other up the day after his girlfriend broke up with him. he was cheating on her with me but nobody knew it. i told one of my friends that we felt each other up because she had been teasing me about not getting any, but thats not why i felt up the guy, i felt him up because i liked him alot and he was finally single. ok so i told my friend because normally she's a down to earth person who can keep a good secret. my guy friend really didn't want anyone to find out because he was still in love with his ex and wanted to get back with her. now for some reason three months later this b***ch decides to tell all of our friends, including the guy's ex that I SAID we made out and that he cheated. first of all, we never made out, i never said that, i don't lie, and he did cheat on his girlfriend but absolutely nobody knows that except me and him. so everyone thinks im a liar because when they asked the guy about us making out he denies it because we didn't do it, therefor making me look like a liar because "i said we made out". the guy was PISSED at me for telling people because he believed this girl who said i said all that b.s. well after 2 months of this drama, the guy finally realized im right and apologized to me and now we're better friends than before. meanwhile this girl and his ex keep telling more and more people that im a liar, im not a liar, she's the F'n liar. i've walked in on them twice talking about me. im about ready to punch this lying rumor spreading bitch but she has 3times the muscle i have (im about 105lbs, she's about 150 pure muscle) and she's about 5 inches taller than me, and could deffinately kick my ass. im not friends with her or his ex anymore because of this yet i still see them all the time because my 2 other bff's didnt want to get involved in the drama, even though they were on my side, so they're still friends with them. i don't know what to do about this. part of me is just saying "fuck it, i got my guy back" and the other part is still furious with her because she just keeps continuing this bull shit drama. help me deal with this girl. this drama started in February!!! (link)
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Frankly, I think you should forget it. You helped a guy cheat on his girlfriend, and when he was on the rebound you felt each other up. That is so disgusting and immoral.
You say he's your best friend? A best friend would never, ever, help the other best friend cheat on his/her girl/boyfriend.
I think you deserve all this trouble. You got yourself into this by helping a guy cheat on his girlfriend, and in my books, that makes you no worse than the person who is cheating. Get yourself out of this trouble, you got yourself into it. I am not surprised all your friends are talking about you. You need to get your priorities right.
You say that you wanted my advice and not my opinion. As advice is a FORM of opinion, I think that my answr is perfectly acceptable. As I said in my answer, "you should forget it." Make your own way through this because you don't desreve help from others.
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I really want to know because everyone else has already lost it and I'm 14 and I havent! (link)
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SLOW DOWN. Right now! Your virginity is a very precious thing and once you lose i, there is no way of getting it back, so calm down and realise that NOT everybody has in fact, lost their virginity.
Firstly, there is no age limit to losing your virginity. Some lose theirs at 12, some wait until they are married and lose it in their twenties. Personally, I am 16, and a virgin. I have been with my boyfriend for 20 months, and we both love each other a lot. We are both virgins. Even though we love each other very much, can legally have sex, and see that lots of people around us are having sex, we don't feel pressure to have sex ourselves. AND NOR SHOULD YOU.
Seriously, if you go out and lose your virginity at a young age, or to someone you don't truly love, I can almost guarantee you will regret it.
You need make sure you are 110% ready for sex, and that you're protected and with someone who will wait if you want to wait. Remember the consequences of sex - even if you use a condom you can STILL GET PREGNANT. You shouldn't really be havung sex unless you are old enough and mature enough to deal with the consequences, both emotionally and physically (should you, god forbid, get pregnant)
Just think about it. Losing your virginity is not a race. So don't act like it is.
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can i hear your story? do you regret it? thoughts/feeling now? still in a relationship with that guy? or was it a one night stand? I'm just curiouss pleasee && thank you for readingg and respondingg =] (link)
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I am 16, and a virgin. I have been with my boyfriend for 20 months, and we both love each other a lot. We are both virgins.
Over the course of our relationship, we have taken things very slowly, and we have only just started doing sexual things (exploring...with hands, if you get my drift!).
I know I am not ready for sex, and me and my boyfriend have talked about this, and he is prepared to wait until I'm ready, whether it takes weeks, months or years!
I think that he is the one, and I want him to be the one I lose my virginity with, but as I said, I'm not ready yet.
I think that if you are thinking of losing your virginity, then make sure you are 110% ready, protected and with someone who will wait if you want to wait.
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me and my boyfriend have been dating for about a year. we're both 17 by the way. at the begining of the year we had a rough patch in the relationship but everything's fine now. anyways about 6 months ago i started giving him hand jobs and i've been fine with that. now we talked about me giving him a blow job which when we talk about it i'm fine with it, even a little excited, and we'll plan when we can get together but when we actually get together and we're alone, i chicken out and find some excuse to why i won't do it when there really isn't any good excuse. then the minute i leave him i regret it. i want to do this i really do and not just because he's asking for it. im not the type of girl that stands by my guy's side and does what he wants. so why can't i get over this anxiety of giving a blow job? (link)
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What you've said in this question points to one simple answer - you're not ready yet. If you chicken out beforehand then it's a sure sign that you are not ready, and you shouldn't be doing this. Wait until the time feels right, and you're not scared, and when you know you are totally, 100% ready. If you just puch the fear to th eback of your mind and go for it you may €or may not enjoy it at the time, but you are sure to regret it later.
Remember to talk to him about his sexual history, and if he has been sexually active before being with you, use a condom.
Hope this helps.
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ok this sounds really weird but, what are a guys "balls?" Like I know that they have the actually penis and stuff but ya. And also, when you give a hand job, do you play with the guys balls too? I'm kinda inexperienced.
Thanks so much. (link)
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Erm, a guys 'balls' are his testicles, they are behind his penis.
I am not very experienced at giving hand jobs either, but I know that when I play with my boyfriends balls he loves it and orgasms a lot quicker hehe!
If you ARE going to play with his balls, kind of gently massage them and be VERY careful. They are veyr sensitive so you could easily hurt him.
And finally, I hope you're in your late teens and in a stable, long term relationship if you are giving your guy a hand job.
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i have cirles under my eyes that are really gross and dark..i'm only 14 so i don't think its from age and i get like 10 hours of sleep a night so it's not that either. I try to put conseler on them to cover it up but that doesn't work.
Is there any way i can get rid of them??? (prefferably under $30) (link)
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I'm in the same situation... I sometimes get grey circles underneath my eyes despite being only 16 and getting about 10 hours of sleep a night.
I think drinking lots of water helps, and getting a lot of vitamin C and vitamin E, which are antioxidants.
Some experts believe dark circles are caused by veins and capillaries showing through the thin undereye skin--why vitamin K, which seems to constrict capillaries, seems to help. So, look for gentle eye creams that contain vitamin K and the natural skin-lighteners kojic acid and licorice extract.
Finally: Use tea bags and cucumbers! Both tea bags and cucumbers reduce inflammation and decrease swelling. Tea bags are especially good to use for dark swollen circles because there is tannin inside of the tea that helps with eliminating the puffiness.
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Everything about my life is hopeless. Don't tell me to "Thing positive" becuase that's not an option. I can't stand where I live, I have no friends, and there's absolutely NO guys that I'm attracted to the slightest bit here. I wrote in before, to tell about how the only guy I really like right now lives in Germany.
Whats the use in doing anything anymore? I work out 2 hours every day so I can look good, I spend hours perfecting my makeup and hair, but noone's looking at me.
What do you think I should do? Should I just give up for the time being seeing that I know most boys in my age group and I hate them all? I have a fake boyfriend right now, meaning I got some random guys picture and said he was my boyfriend. Should I "break up" with him and get back in the dating game? (Even though the only person I like right now lives in Germany...) (link)
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Yes, the first must is to break up with the fake boyfriend. You'rs just lying to yourself and others, and who knows who is out there, checking you out, but not doing anything about it because they think you're taken?
The other things I feel you should do is to cheer up, or at least look happy. People are much more attractive when they are smiling and have a positive outlook on life than when they are grumpy and frowning. Think about it- if you were out on the pull - would you be looking for someone to have fun with or someone to bring you down?
Also- don't spend so long on your appearance!! There are much more important things in life than beauty, and besides, that is in the eyes of the beholder. If someone doesn't like you without make up or whatever, then thats their hard luck. People should want you for YOU, not some you underneath a metre of makeup.
And maybe you should join a club of some sort to make your mind off things and also to meet new people, make new friends and see more guys.
But the most important thing is to remember....guys are not everything in life. You do not to be defined by a guy, you do not need to have a boyfriend to 'be someone'. In fact, most of the time, they just bring an emotional rollercoaster ride and heartbreak!!!
Hope this helps!
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