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Hopeless
Everything about my life is hopeless. Don't tell me to "Thing positive" becuase that's not an option. I can't stand where I live, I have no friends, and there's absolutely NO guys that I'm attracted to the slightest bit here. I wrote in before, to tell about how the only guy I really like right now lives in Germany.
Whats the use in doing anything anymore? I work out 2 hours every day so I can look good, I spend hours perfecting my makeup and hair, but noone's looking at me.
What do you think I should do? Should I just give up for the time being seeing that I know most boys in my age group and I hate them all? I have a fake boyfriend right now, meaning I got some random guys picture and said he was my boyfriend. Should I "break up" with him and get back in the dating game? (Even though the only person I like right now lives in Germany...)
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Yes, the first must is to break up with the fake boyfriend. You'rs just lying to yourself and others, and who knows who is out there, checking you out, but not doing anything about it because they think you're taken?
The other things I feel you should do is to cheer up, or at least look happy. People are much more attractive when they are smiling and have a positive outlook on life than when they are grumpy and frowning. Think about it- if you were out on the pull - would you be looking for someone to have fun with or someone to bring you down?
Also- don't spend so long on your appearance!! There are much more important things in life than beauty, and besides, that is in the eyes of the beholder. If someone doesn't like you without make up or whatever, then thats their hard luck. People should want you for YOU, not some you underneath a metre of makeup.
And maybe you should join a club of some sort to make your mind off things and also to meet new people, make new friends and see more guys.
But the most important thing is to remember....guys are not everything in life. You do not to be defined by a guy, you do not need to have a boyfriend to 'be someone'. In fact, most of the time, they just bring an emotional rollercoaster ride and heartbreak!!!
Hope this helps!
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I have no doubts that you are a lovely person so I'd say get rid of this fake boyfriend. You don't need a fake boyfriend when you can get someone for real. If any of the guys there are guys you don't like then you still don't need a fake one, you're better than that.
If people don't look at you though don't take it to heart. You can't please everyone. I accepted a long time ago that there are a lot of people who just won't give me the time of day. I also realised that people like that can go to hell. I don't need people like that and neither do you. You may not like anyone in your age group where you are but you did say you have no friends - if you have that positive glow about you people will come and talk to you, they will want to get to know you and be your friend, it worked on me anyway.
Most importantly, don't give up hope. I've been there many times when everything just felt hopeless - I think everyone goes through it at one point or another. Keep your chin up because things will improve and get better and improve.
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You have to be more confident in yourself. You dont just want people to look at you. You want them to talk to you too. So maybe a friendly hello or something and thats a start.
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