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why do i do this?
me and my boyfriend have been dating for about a year. we're both 17 by the way. at the begining of the year we had a rough patch in the relationship but everything's fine now. anyways about 6 months ago i started giving him hand jobs and i've been fine with that. now we talked about me giving him a blow job which when we talk about it i'm fine with it, even a little excited, and we'll plan when we can get together but when we actually get together and we're alone, i chicken out and find some excuse to why i won't do it when there really isn't any good excuse. then the minute i leave him i regret it. i want to do this i really do and not just because he's asking for it. im not the type of girl that stands by my guy's side and does what he wants. so why can't i get over this anxiety of giving a blow job?
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well your probably just unsure of yourself and worried about he will think? eh? maybe? well practice on popsicles or something until youthink you are ready :]
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Well you shouldn't feel obligated to give excuses. You should be able to tell him the truth. You're shy, you're scared, you're nervous. Maybe unsure of what he will think afterwards? You never know til you try it, but if you are doubting this, it might be better if you wait. Or maybe if you can open up & talk to him, he will find a way to make it more comfortable for you. Listen to the advice of the other columnists, too. Don't say you're ready unless you're 100% (Not 99%!!!) sure it's a true statement.
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What you've said in this question points to one simple answer - you're not ready yet. If you chicken out beforehand then it's a sure sign that you are not ready, and you shouldn't be doing this. Wait until the time feels right, and you're not scared, and when you know you are totally, 100% ready. If you just puch the fear to th eback of your mind and go for it you may €or may not enjoy it at the time, but you are sure to regret it later.
Remember to talk to him about his sexual history, and if he has been sexually active before being with you, use a condom.
Hope this helps.
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Just because you want to do it doesn't mean you're ready. I've been there before and so have a lot of girls. We have hormones too, and though girls rarely speak about it as often as boys, we get just as horny as they do. So why can't you go through with it? Probably the same reason I can't go through with the 6 guy gang bang I've been wanting to have since I was 11! I've never worked up the nerve to do it, and I probably never will - I've made peace with that.
That doesn't mean you won't ever give your boyfriend a blowjob. It just means you're not ready. When the time is right, it'll happen. There will always be anxiety when doing anything for the first time, but you'll push through it and get the job done (pun SO intended). I don't think I have to tell you this, but I will anyway...Just because your boyfriend WANTS a blowjob doesn't mean you have to give him one. Between porn and the internet, it seems like everyone's doing it, but trust me, everyone's not. You can ALWAYS say no.
Again, I know you know, but I'm just throwing that out there. If you need anymore advice about anything, please feel free to ask me another question. I'll do my best to help.
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