hey what up.
you can ask me anything. for being my age i'm pretty smart, have a fair amount of common sense and i have been through a lot. I answer any type of questions really. i won't just give you random advice either. if i know how to answer, i'll answer, if i'm not so sure, i probably won't. i wouldn't want to say the wrong thing. and i don't tell you just what you want to hear, because most of the time, it's better that you hear what you don't want to. that's one piece of advice in itself. :P
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I haven't had sex and im 15... Am I a freak? Cause it seems like all my friends are talking about having sex and I don't even WANT to until I am married.
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nope. def not a freak. and i say what the other people said put together. but i also want to say that i'm almost 18 and have never had sex. and i'm honestly very proud of myself. it's the one promise i've made and it doesnt have anything to do with anyone else. i find it personal and it makes me who i am. i try to set myself apart from other people and i dont like caring about other people's opinions on situations that they arent included in. but i highly encourage you to wait. :) it'll be millions times better i bet when you're with the right person than if your just with some kid.
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hey are there any guys out there over 16 that are still virgins? i feel like in todays world teenage guys just want to get laid and that no ones a virgin anymore.
if you are a guy whos a virgin can you share you opinion on sex and things please? thank you. (link)
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Hey i'm not a guy, but my boyfriend is 20 and is a virgin. i'm also a virgin, 17. but he never had a girlfriend through high school and i started dating him a few months after he gratuated. we've been dating almost a year now, but we dont have sex because i feel like i'm making the right choice not having it. it makes me feel great about myself actually. and i know he's one of those perfect guys because, sure he wants to do it, i do too, but he respects me and i respect him. everything works out great when you dont have to worry about all the things that come with sex. :)
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Why did you part ways from your first love? Your personal stories will help with my issue. Thank you. Please feel free to go into as many details as you want or leave it as vague as you choose. (link)
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me and my boyfriend at the time had a lot of drama, the relationship got boring after 10 months, and mostly we just didn't get along. he was finally the one to just break up with me. it was more compplicated all the inbetween of course though.
just a tip--if something isn't meant to be, don't push it. that's one thing i learned.
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let me start off by saying i belive that God has a greater purpose in my life, than what i have in mind right now. im not sure what it is but i belive that. and the reason why i belive that, alot of friends i have are in to drugs, having sex outta maraige, smoking, drinking all that stupid stuff. and i try telling them that if they don't stop they will loose control of thier life, and get in alot of trouble. every time i tell them this, it happens. and what im having trouble to understand here, is WHY does this always happen. every single time i tell a friend or a person this, it happens that way. and i also don't get if God has put in the position to basicly minister to people, and try to lead them straight, or does this just happen for no reason. some any advise to ease my mind and help me with this would be really nice. (link)
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16/f and hey. =]
well i believe that like the other people said, god is testing to see what you can do in these situations. it maybe not even be that though.
i've actually learned recently in church that sometimes you can mention the littlest things like you have to someone and it may not affect a person now, but it could 10yrs down the road. life could finally hit them and they might remember you because they realized that they were wrong and you were right.
a different way to think is that of course satan causes these bad things to happen. well god may not be there to help because he already saw all this coming. he's just sitting there thinking of ways to turn the evil into good. and since you have been trying to tell these people what they are doing wrong, you might get rewarded for doing good.
and i think in this situation to minister to people how you have, you shouldn't be asking why god has you there. everything happens for a reason right? well you're supposed to be there. maybe you should ask him yourself why he has you there and maybe how you could minister to these people better where you could understand.
my last point is patience. even after you ask god what you are doing, he may answer a couple days from now, a couple weeks, months maybe...you'll never know. you just have to have faith and trust him and know he knows what he's doing.
all i can say though is just to relax and do what you think is right. you're doing the best you can. just be patient and see what happens. ;)
i hope things work out for you. =]
~sumsum~
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I really hate being jelous of people...but when one of my friends gets everything: everyone likes her, she gets stright A's, got into the TOP chior, has gone to EVERY top band thing, pretty, outgoing, everything i am not....I don't want to be jelous of her.....
Any ideas on how to make myself feel better around her?(everytime i am around her i feel so inferior and like she could be friends w/ better people) (link)
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well i know help you here. =]
i'm also in band, and i'm pretty jealous of some of my friends because they are a lot higher than me. and sometimes a lot of ppl get it thrown in their face. well i have to tell you not to compare yourself with her. play as best you can and the real TOP person in the end is yourself. you don't need to make anyone else happy either.
i have a friend everyone likes. and a lot of guys like me too. we actually got into a fight over some stuff in that catagory. but we were tired of being mad and talked it out. she only ended up with her ex bf again. and for me, i just realized, it's not that great to have everyone like you. just because they do doesn't mean it'll work out. you see what i'm saying? so i'm telling you that you should just ignore her and the guys because i'm sure you'll find better than all those people. =]
and for the straight A's. i get most A's but not all. and in school, again, just do the best you can. you're work will pay off later. ;)
altogether, just don't worry about what she's doing. i always have my friends telling me not to make other people's problems my problems. in this case, don't form any problems of your own.
you're just as equal as she is. and if you think about it, she may have it great, but she could be jealous of you for some things. you'll never know. she's your friend like you said, so i think you should talk it out with her about how you are feeling towards her.
trust me, everything will be better.
good luck. =]
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Hi, i haven't started my period yet, and i am really worried it's going to start in the middle of a school day, or even worse PE!!! I know to carry a pad with me, and i do, and i were thin panti-liners just incase, but i was wondering if there is any signs i may be starting soon? I have a feeling i might be starting soon, but i dont know whether it is just me being silly! Also i get a monthly discharge, just like a period, but it's not blood. I'm 13 (link)
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well a little before i started, i talked to my mom about it and she told me when she started and sure enough that's around the time i started. usually you will start the time your mother did...
and i don't know about you, but i had some really really bad cramps a day or two before.
and you you're also prepared, you'll be just fine no matter where it happens.
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i was laying in my boyfriends lap, my head kinda on his stomach but he was sitting up. and he started fingering me, and he has many times before but this time was different, i don't know why but it was like it was so good my body went into shock, i didn't moan or breathe heavily like usual, i just had trouble swallowing. and after that i sat up and we started making out, and in the middle of making out, i started crying.
i have no idea, it wasn't a bad cry really, i wasn't sad, i just started crying.
can anyone tell me if this has happened to them or why it happened? (link)
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oh man! this totally happened to me before! people told me that they never heard about that before too. lol.
well am going to say that you probably started crying because your body did go into shock. it could have been a possible orgasm. depends though. you said you were crying while making out, but i guess you could conclude that kind of thing for yourself. It could have also been that you were really in the moment. maybe just tears of joy. ;)
no matter what caused this to happen, it's perfectly normal. you'll be fine. you were just having fun. =] if it happens again, just let your bf know that anything he is doing isn't wrong and just wipe the tears away and pretend it didn't happen. =]
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Why is it that when someone asks a questions asking for advice they get opnions...like they get told "I DONT THINK YOU SHOULDNT BE DOING THAT", "YOUR NOT A VAGETERIAN, they dont eat fish!!!", "YOU SHOULD NOT HAVE A BABY YOUR TOO YOUNG." yadah yadah yaaaah... The answers to their question for ADVICE is NOT ADVICE... if someone doesnt know the answer to give why give an anwer ESSPEICALLY one that is just rude? So im asking why is it that our columnist will give out OPINIONS instead of advice??
** and NO this does not pertain to questions like "is this hat cute????"
Thank you to all who answer (link)
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That is actually a good question. Unlike the the other two that said advice is opinion. i don't believe advice is opinion like your examples you gave. It is to a certain extent, but it's more fact than anything (like the baby thing). advice should be something you actually know and/or something you've been through. Or maybe not even that, but people do try to help, and like the other person said, you shouldn't rate down or get mad at someone for not telling you what you want to hear.
and to get your mood up on this, my own random advice...when you ask for advice, it's better you hear what you don't want to because it gets people thinking. and another thing, i'm one of those few that actaully answer if i know the question, if not, then i don't answer.
and maybe some people are just bad at giving advice or are low on common sense...who knows.
hope i helped. :)
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(14, F) My boyfriend and I have been going out for 2 months. He treats me amazingly. The other day, he told me that 2 or 3 weeks after we started dating, he kissed another girl. He said he wanted to tell me earlier but didn't want to make me upset. He promises he'll never do it again, he doesn't know why he did it.
Should I break up with him? I really don't want to, but if he cheats once, does it mean he'll do it again? (link)
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Well actually that happened to me in my last relationship. It's a whole freakin story behind it all, but my bf took me back. and i did in fact tell him when it happened and he gave me a second chance.
so like the others said, he did tell you, but then again, i wouldn't necessarily just keep him because he promised he wouldn't do it again. The one thing you need in a relationship is trust and honesty. so if you think you've got that, then give him another chance. ;) but it's really up to you in the end.
i wish you luck ahead. =]
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I'm in a long distance relationship. We've been together for two years. We're starting to fight a lot lately. : /. He's not texting me as much and such, but when he does he's the sweet self that he always is. My problem is that he told me he'd text me after doing something and he never did. He does that quite often. And I was talking to him about it today and he just hung up. He's been ignoring me all day. I've been thinking about breaking up with him because I can't have him doing this. But, it's so hard. And I feel like I'd be making a mistake? I guess I just want to know what you would do. Sorry this is so long. (link)
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i'm going to be honest. if you feel like you should break up, do it. i had a friend actually not too long ago ask me advice on breakin up and she ended up breaking up because she felt like she needed too. and it wasn't even long distance. but now she's quite happy.
but i am going to say if he doesn't have an explanation soon, then he's not worth it. if he's not acting the same, then i would forget him. and long distnace relationships are hard to manage.
and i know it's been forever, but sometimes it's for the best. and sry for sayin what you might not want to hear, but i wish you luck if you keep him or not. =]
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i am 14. my boyfriend (also 14) has felt me up. we've made out. and i've given him a handjob.
a) opinion: am i too young for this?
b) opinion: should i slow things down?
we aren't going to have sex or anything.. i just don't know if we're already moving too fast compared to other kids my age. i can't very well ask other kids my age. it would just sound so odd: "hey, have YOU given your boyfriend a handjob!?"
i don't know.
amateur experts: help me out!
thanks a zillion [: (link)
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Well when i did all that i was 14. but i wouldn't tell you to slow things down because you're too young, i would say to slow things down because later, when you guys are really comfortable with each other, you might have more fun. and possibly if you guys broke up in the future it would be less awkward if you didn't do so much. you know what i'm sayin?
so i think you should take it slow to have fun. ;)
hope i helped. =]
~sumsum~
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I am scared to death right now. I like this guy in my class, but everyone else hates him. I really want to ask him to a dance we're having Friday, but I'm afraid my reputation will sink lower, and its already pretty low! I NEED HELP!!!!!!! (link)
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This is definitely my question to answer. lol.
but like everyone else said...ask him! you don't need to think about what everyone else thinks. if they don't have anything nice to say, their opinions don't matter. and do what makes you happy. and true, i think you'll bring up his reputation like the other person said.
good luck =]
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ok well me and my boyfriend have been dating for about a month and a half, and well two nights ago he told me that he loves me. it was in a message over myspace so i just didnt respond..well last night he said it again and i asked him if he really did mean it and everything and he said that he did... he said that hes been thinking about it for the past week but he just wanted to be positive that he really did feel that way before he said it... well the thing is that im not sure if i love him, like i love him as a person and everything like i care for him alot but i dont think im in love with him, but yet for some reason i told him that i do love him but that ive been in love with someone before and that i felt alot more for that other person when we had gone out..another thing that im not sure about is that this guy has told three other girls besides me that he loved them.. i asked him about this and he said that he only really loved one of them, the other two that he apparently loved had told him that they loved him first so he just felt obligated to say it back... he told me that he loved me first... i dont really knwo if i should believe him or not... so i just wanted to know basically if A.)i should believe him when he tells me that he loves me and B.) if i should say anything else back to him about him loving me like about how i had told him that i love him too.. should i take it back or what cause i do love him, but im not in love if that makes any sense... thanks in advance. (link)
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Well first i want to say, you'll never know if a guy really loves you until you are actually married, but that's just my opinion...
anyways my recent relationship was almost 11 months, and my ex-bf always told me he loved me, but he still ended up breaking up with me. i believed him when he told me, you know, and he thought about it before he told me...and i said it just b/c he did, but it's okay if you don't say it back. since you have said it once though, just let him know that you love him, but not so much yet. just let him know, you need to settle in first. and i'm sure he will appreciate it that you need time instead of just telling him when you don't mean it. and just don't think about his past relationships. you'll never know, but thinking about it doesn't get you anywhere. it really only messes things up.
so i'd believe him, but just let him know how you feel. =]
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soo i have a short tongue. and i basically wanted to know if like making out with someone with a short tongue sucks or not? cause i heard that long tongues are better. are they? if so..any tricks? to make it better and all? (link)
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well, i have a short tongue and that never stopped me. ;) in fact, the couple guys i have made out with thought i was great.
and i don't think it makes a difference. i think it's the connection with the people, not the tongues. =D
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well im 13/f and all my friends have made out, or been fingered and i havent. i really want to, but when your being fingered what are you soppose to do? if i do it to myself is that how it will feel when a guy does it? (link)
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Well, first i don't want to judge, but you are too young for fingering and things like that. and also, just b/c your friends have done some things, i don't think you should too. as a matter of fact, i felt like i didn't fit in b/c my friends were into making out, but it turns out, all their relationships went downhill and when i got a bf it was great, b/c i was patient with life. =]
but to answer your question, i'm agreeing with the person under me. just relax and just let it happen. and it's way better when a guy does it. ;)
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well you see...
i have a friend and she can be a definite boy stealer, you cant tell her anything about your boyfriend or she'll steal him. Im dating a guy... let's call him Mic well Mic tells her she is hot and he loves her but then he says don't tell Franny (thats my name) since we are friends she tells me and i was really sad, she said "i don't like him i already like someone!" then i said " why didn't you tell him that?" she says it helps her gain self asteem when a boy calls her hot. But Mic does not know that i know he's been flirting and i really like him and my best friend. But she always talks about herself and doensnt care about my fellings at all.
HELPPPPP!!! (link)
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you might not like this answer, but maybe she isn't really your friend if she doesn't care about your feelings.
if you guys are friends then pick your house or her house to go to and actually talk to her about how you feel around her. and trust me, if she accepts how you feel, then you know she's your friend. but if she keeps right on doing what she shouldn't, then you have to move on and tell her to leave you alone from now on.
it's the only way knowing if she really is your friend.
i hope i helped. ^_^
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Ok, um...there was this guy that i liked and i really liked him, and i thought he liked me, so i had his friend Alex( a girl) to tell him, and it turned out i was wrong, but how was i supposed to know, he was always flirting with me. Anyways, he isnt interested in me like that, and i was ok with that, but there is only one problem. WHY CANT I GET OVER HIM! I like him evem more, can you tell me why i cant get over him, because i mean shudnt i be like upset? I am so confused. Please help me! (link)
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for me, it's totally the same.
as long as you guys are friends, you don't have to get over him. =) you just know he doesn't like you in that kind of way.
if you guys aren't friends he will go away eventually. trust me, been there done that. you'll eventually find another guy you like. =)
hope i helped. :)
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I kind of cheated on my bf with my ex. I told him about it and everything..we're kind of okay right now but he wants me to write an essay about it. He wants to know how it happened, why it happened, what exactly happened, etc. I don't know how to write this stupid thing for him..does anyone have any help for me? (link)
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you should right down every event that happened that you remember. (on a seperate piece of paper.)
then number them in the order in which they happened and then right everything down in essay form. and if you have too, elaborate on certain parts of it.
hope i helped :)
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is it wrong for a 15 year old and 18 year old to be together? he's still in school yet and he just turned 18 in august? is that still bad? (link)
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i think your fine. there's absolutley nothing wrong with just three years.
my grandparents are ten years apart if that makes you feel better...
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Im 15 years old, female, and a 10th grader. Ok, so i have this problem. I like a couple of guys. One of them happens to be my next door neighbor. Hes 2 years older than me. We hung out like every night in the summer time. We kissed twice in August, and then again, last wednesday, after watching the sabres game. We always flirt so much, we cuddle on the couch, hold hands, and he slaps my butt. He tells me how im so pretty, and he always tells me he loves me. So after watching the sabres game together in my basement, we made out for the first time. It was just the two of us watching it, so it was ok. BUT heres the problem-- he has a girlfriend..!! and she hates me so much. and he talks about her behind her back, but theyve been going out for 5 months now, hes broken up with her plenty of times, i think 12, but they always end up getting back together. idk what to do cause its hard to think of us kissing one nite, and then the next day hes with her again. i dont know what to do, cause i dont want to turn him down cause i like him, but im almost thinking i should cause he has a gf. but i dont know if he likes me or not..or if hes jjust leading me on. Answer me back please! (link)
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what i think is that if he honestly likes you, and you guys are getting along well, and it's off and on with the other girl, he should break up with his gf and go out with you.
if they have been breaking up that many times...
they both probably don't want to give up the fact that they don't like each other anymore.
then again, i don't know, but it could be the case.
as far as you told me, there is nothin wrong with what you're doing. what i think you should do though, is tell him how you feel about you feeling like you're in the way (or whatever the case is). you say he loves you, so he should probably respect how you feel. and ask him if he honestly likes the other girl and see what he says.
Eventually if he breaks up with his gf and goes out with you, congratulations. and after that, if his gf has problems, it's for her to deal with not you.
i really hope i helped out.
and god luck :)
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