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hey guys whats up!? I'm a cheerleader at Knox Junior High and at Woodlands Elite Cheer Company! I'm DeFfEnItLy single! haha anyways...feel free to ask me a question...cuz i gotta answer! I live in TeXaS! (the best state [in my eyes] ever!) yes yes!!* I

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ok so heres my problem- i went out with this guy a couple of months ago and we only went out for like 2 months but i'm still not over him! im so in love with him! but i also think i'm in love with my best friend(hes a guy). we are soo close but i really think i love him. but my other best friend(whos a girl) also likes him a TON! but he deosn't like her.she doesn't know i like him but i'm just so confused with what to do. cause a lot of people say he likes me but i dont wanna be mean and go out with him. so i really have no idea what to do! help me PLEASE!

ok first of all...don't go doing something to break ya'lls friendship up UNTIL AFTER you know he likes you...! That would suck! ok and second of all... if this girl is your best friend...i think she would want what is BEST for YOU...if you two like eachother...she should respect that...i know i would! It's happened to me before... i mean...yeah she likes him and you like him too but that won't change who HE likes! Just make sure you tell your girl best friend before you try hooking up with this guy! She'll probably understand & if she doesn't than don't freak out...i mean you would probably be upset too if it happened just tell her that if he liked her...YOU would want THEM going out...so they could BOTH be happy!

*!*I HoPe I HeLpEd*!*

*Marissa*

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I went with this boy name slim thug (nick name) he goes to my school right and I told him last tues that our relationship was boring and that he probaly F***** around with some other gurl, so we broke up. while we was together slim and me i was real coo with my friend ex-boyfriend, they both go to my school also but my friend broke up with him like in September and said she was all coo and didn't really like him, and don't care if he go wit another female so as soon as me and my man broke up her ho a** gon go with my man so u know i was all coo cause personally I don't believe in dat friends ex-boyfriends are off limits im gon like who im gon like and so on, but when me and her ex-boyfriend got together she started trippin and I didn't even jump into a relationship wit him quick,like she did wit my man and I said nodda wheh she did. Do u think Im bogous?

heck no, you're SOOO not bogous! Your friend obviously is a hypocrite! She can't do worse to you in the same situation and then you do the same thing...(but slowly get in2 that relationship) If anyone...YOU should be mad, not your friend who's freaking out!

*!*I HoPe I HeLpEd*!*

*Marissa*

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there is this guy at my school and i like him and im not sure if he likes me but everytime im around him he ALWAYS looks at me even if i walk by.. and i really wanna know how i can start talking to him more and him talking to me bc when hes around me hes really shy and doesnt talk but when i see him around other people he always talks so my 2 questions are..

1. Does he like me/how can i find out if he does

2. How can i get him not to be shy/talk to him more/him to talk to me more

Thanks SOOOO much.. I rate 5's for good advice

(1)-He has it bad for you! obviously he likes you! Do you know ANY other guy that looks at you ALL the time? Maybe get a friend to calmly ask him if there's anything going on between ya'll.

(2)-Just be outgoing around him. Try to get his "wild-side" out from under the shell! Eventually he will show his real side. Talk to him a lot!!! Everything will soon smooth out...i hope.

*!*I HoPe I HeLpEd*!*

-*Marissa*-

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Well im a 16 year old female.. yesterday my aunt died.. no clear reason why.. she basically went brain dead when she fell over in her flower bed.. she was only 33 years old.. okay i was one the first people to arrive at the hospital and i didnt think it was something serious like death i thought it would of been like she was working to hard and got real hot or something.. cause my aunt was always a hard worker she'd work 16,18 hour days and still made time for her two kids 3 and a 7 year old and her husband she didnt sleep very much so thats what i thought happened.. turns out im completely wrong and i feel so stupid.. i mean yea im sad she's gone but i never thought about someone dieing like that.. i couldnt sleep last night i kept thinkin bout her which i know is normal.. and then last night i jus felt really horrible cause i talked to my boyfriend and he is always there for me and he made me laugh a couple times and then when i got done laughin i felt like i shouldnt be happy.. i know moving on will not easy for me cause ill always miss her and have her in my heart but i feel bad for mainly my family like my grandma and grandpa her kids and her husband.. i have alot of tuff big guys in my family including her husband.. and that was the first time i seen alot of them tuff big guys cry yesterday that just hurt me more.. i also seen her in the hospital bed.. i thought she actually had a chance of living even tho the doctor said she had a very low chance of living i had so much hope in my heart and then wheni seen her all the hope was crushed cause i knew that wasnt my energic happy hoppy aunt.. i never seen my aunt still in my life.. she was always like a big kid.. well ever since yesterday i havent felt my self at ALL.. i mean seriously i feel like i want to change how i am towards people which might be for the best cause im really a bitch but now i dont want to feel hateful like or mean towards anybody..and now i wanna make sure i have peace with everybody cause ive always been a big fighter.. which of course sounds good cause fighting isnt good or being hateful.. but im okay with changing those things i jus dont want my whole personality to change.. cause im really outgoing and i love to be fun... i jus dont want to become shy and boring.. so does this happen to people thats what i want advice on.. like will i change.. im going to try not to but can it happen and me not realize...? Ill rate high promise..

i'm extremely sorry about your aunt!
First of all, don't be guilty about laughing with your boyfriend! its his job to make you happier and cheer you up. You have to admit, your aunt would want you to be happy. Don't change yourself because your aunt died. There's NO problem with you realizing to be nice to people, but that doesn't mean to change yourself. I believe that if your aunt were here, she would want you to be yourself. She loved you as you were and probably wouldn't change ONE thing about you. You CAN change and your right, you may not be able to realize it. Talk about it, i know it might be VERY hard to but it does help.

*!*I HoPe I HeLpEd*!*

-*Marissa*-

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me and my boyfriend just broke up and i really cared for him and he wants to be friends and i am but i know what i did was wrong and i hurts so bad and i just cant get over him no matter what i just dont know i mean yeah i understand why we broke up and everything but it is just really hard even though we lasted 2 months and i just want to know how can i get over my feelings for him even though we are friends and stuff like that? it feels so weird not to meet him after class and i am so use to him walking with me but pllz help me really what can i do to get over him?

hey girl! look, everyone goes through what your in right now! Of course it will hurt you! It may last for a while, it may not! If you're trying to not EVEN think about him then just don't talk about him AT ALL and Hang out with your friends rather than thinking about him, Friends will always make you feel better. If your trying to hang out and stuff just tell your friends how you feel about him. I'm sure they can give you tips as well! Sooner or later you will get over it, it may take time though. Try not to talk to him as much until you FULLY get over him. If he asks why you arn't just tell him. He will understand what you're going through.

*!* I HoPe It AlL wOrKs OuT 4 YoU*!*

-*Marissa*-

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I have this friend and lately her parents divorced. At first she wouldn't tell me but then she did and she started crying. I feel really bad for her, how can i make her feel better? She keeps on saying that people will think that she is a divorced child.. But she really isn't. Shes so nice.

hey...ok, my parents are even divorced. Many peoples parents are divorced and WILL get divorced. Just be there for her! Tell her that her parents divorce doesn't change the fact that they love her. Tell her that it's not like shes not part of a family. And make sure to remind her that they did this for HER too! Maybe her parents were fighting all the time and her parents didn't want her in that kind of enviornment. Just tell her everything will be ok and she can talk to you about anything!

*!*I HoPe I HeLpEd*!*

-*Marissa*-

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well ive been going out with this guy tha i love and ever since ive been going out with him my best friend has been gettin all pissed at me and trying to break us upp....and now im not friends with her anymore cuz of this...and she said she wont be mad at me if i just break up wit my boyfriend but i love him and im not going to do that....i think maby she is kinda jallous that i have a bf n she dosent...but than again i dont know....help!!!
~*! *~panda~*-!*~

Maybe she felt like you were spending too much time with him instead of her, and that shes jelous. I've been through the same stuff that your friend has. Don't drop either of them! You should love both of them. Just make sure to spend time with both of them about the same amount of time and tell her that you're not breaking up with him... and you don't want this to ruin you guys friendship. If she's truely your BEST friend, she will realize that a guy is NOT something that can get between your friendship. Just make sure you're there for her when she needs you, and not your bf.

*!*I HoPe I HeLpEd*!*

-*Marissa*-

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well where do i start? im going out with this boy right,(let call him sam) anyway. and of course im atracted to him. but we sed that we were going to try and have an open relationship to bring us closer because weve done everything with each other and he suggested that if we got with other people then it would make us appreciate each other more. and so far its working. we dont share what we have done but we tell each other that we are doing it. so far it working. when we het back together its amazing (just thinking about it and im short of breath if you know what i mean? lol!) nyway ppl found out about it and keep telling us that we dont care bout each other and that its disgusting. we have tried explaining but no-one else seems to understand. what do you think? is it right?

I think that it's a great way to show how much you care for eachother...maybe at the time ya'll were growing apart and BOTH felt you needed to get closer, but in a way of... getting further apart! It WILL show both of you that you miss eachother too much to be away from eachother!

*!*I HoPe I HeLpEd*!*

-*Marissa*-

P.S.- just make sure it doesn't go TOO far that what you do with other people will break you APART!*

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I am a guy who has liked the same girl for a very very long time. We used to be real close, but then she found out that I liked her and things got weird between us. She would never talk to me, ignore me, that kinda thing. So I made up a lie, I posted on my xanga that I didnt like her anymore although I think she still suspects. Anyway, we've been getting along ALOT better ever since I said that. Should I just go ahead and come out? If I do come out, should I ask her out?

Of CoUrSe YoU ShOuLd TeLl HeR! Tell her that you don't want anything weird going on because you don't want it to ruin your relationship! But, that you REALLY do like her and you were wondering if she wanted to go out with you! If she says no, than just tell her that you hope things don't get weird between you guys now! If she says yes, well...than she does!!! haha! Just make sure whenever you ask her, she knows you like her A LOT!*

*!*I HoPe I HeLpEd*!*

P.S.-Inbox me whenever you get the results

-*Marissa*-

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hey .. okay i have this friend and i like him alot .. i've felt ways for him that i have NEVERRR felt for ANYONE before .. i have dreams about him .. and there good dreams .... he knows i like him but i dont know if he likes me .. he like leads me on making me think he likes me ... but i dont know .. any suggestions !? and could it be l0ve ? -- i rate g0od ..

If you think he's leading you on, maybe you should get one of your friends (or yourself) to ask him if there is anything going on between ya'll! If you've known him for a long time and you've felt this way for a while...YES! Of course it could be love! It isn't for us to decide...it IS your feelings! :-D!!!!!!!* Maybe tell him how you feel for him and ask if he feels the same way in ANY way!!!

*!*I hOpE i HeLpEd*!*

-*Marissa*-

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ok so my friend is 15 and her and her bf had sex but the condom broke. well she got this short period for march. it lasted a day and a half she said. shes been eating alot and peeing alot now too. does it sound like shes pregnant? im going with her to planned parenthood tomrrow..but what does it sound like to you guys??

Sounds like she's pregnant to me! If so, just make sure you're there for her all the time! Tell her that everything will be ok and you will do anything to help. Just give her a shoulder to lean on!

*!*I HoPe I HeLpEd*!*

-*Marissa*-

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I have a friend who is heavily into drugs. She isn't doing it to have fun, she is doing it to escape problems in her life. She has had a very difficult life, so it isn't like an emo thing. I am too close to her to help her. I have been through this with her many times. My question is, what can I do to try and get her away from all of the drugs without making her mad at me. Also if there is anything you could suggest, where I could help her, it would be much appreciated. Thank you all so much in advance. This problem has really got me down.

~Nokomis~

*I think that if you just tell her very calmly that you're worried about her and you don't want her getting hurt than she won't freak out. I would tell her that you would want her coming to YOU instead of any to take her problems to! Tell her that you're there for her any time she needs you and you support her in anything she does EXCEPT ! If she needs to talk to someone maybe suggest talking to someone that can help or sort her problems in a healthier way!

*!*I HoPe I HeLpEd*!*

-*Marissa*-

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Tell me if I'm over-reacting, but...


My best friend Sara came over yestery, and we started watching a movie, Raise Your Voice. And, well, these guys call her. Background info about the guys, one of the guys and sara were supposed to go out but sara's best friend (now ex) stold him away from her, and the other, well they kicked it and he started standing her up, so things stopped. But yeah, they called her saying they were going to some park/lake nearby and they wanted her to go with. She knew I couldn't go, and then she called another friend and begged HER to go with. Then when she got off the phone she looked at me and was like, are you mad?e I said yeah maybe. Then she's like oh I'm such a bad friend... and calls the guys back saying come pick me up! Agg! Who does that? Thats the reason her last friendship, fell apart, her other friends ditched Sara and so she should know how it feels. This isn't the first time we foughta. We fight a lot. And today in the morning I didn't call her up for school like usual and she calls half hour later saying why didn't i call her to wake her up?and i said that i thought she'd be up already, and sjhe clicked. so then at the bus stop i didnt go anywhere nearher and then she came to me to give me my books back and take hers and said something ... then called me abithc. I dont know what to do, everyone likes her. SHe talks about everyone behind their back. Agggh it drives me insane because no one believes me! I will give you a 5 if you give me a good response. Thanks in advance! :=)

You are NOT over reacting! No way! ok, this obviously doesn't realize what good friends she has in front of her! I would be pretty mad as well! Her ditching you???? No that is NOT something a good friend would do to hang out with some dick heads! If she is going to do something like that to you, she doesn't deserve you! You're way better and would never do that to anyone (or i would hope, knowing how it has happened to you and you would know it would hurt someone else) I think you should confront her about it and tell her, "Hey it was a pretty snobby thing of you to do that for some guys! You have no right to be mad at me for something I didn't do! How would you feel if I ditched you with another friend of mine for some guys while i was over YOUR house?!?! I'm not trying to be in a fight with you, but that really hurt my feelings!"

*!*I HoPe I HeLpEd*!*

-*Marissa*-

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theres this guy, my boyfriend. sometimes i feel like i like him and other times i feel like i dont. he is crazy over me. i feel like i want to dump him but i dont want him to be upset. (this guy also gave me chocolate 4 no reason and we have been going out for about 3 weeks) i need help!!!!! il give 5's and feedback to the first 4 good answers i get! PLZ HELP!!!!

It's ok! s go through things like this all the time! Just think of it this way... You can stay with him and keep feeling the way you do now, or break up with him! Would you still think the same about him if you broke up with him? Or would you want him more than now? Just think of those questions before you do anything you MAY regret! If breaking up with him is the thing YOU feel is best, I hope you do and don't just stay with him for him!

*!*I HoPe I HeLpEd*!*

-*Marissa*-

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I used to date this boy(we'll call him john doe) for two months. Everyone at school told me a lot of bad things about him. Stuff about how he cheats on his gurlfriends and stuff. I talked to him to get to know him for about 2 weeks. I was straight up w/ him and told him that I wasnt sure if we should hook up b/c of all the things i had heard about him. He told me that they we're true & he did used to do those things, but he really did changed. He told me that it pisses him off when people say that about him b/c a lot of gurls wont date him b/c of it. He's the guy that all the gurls wanna date and he said that they're just jealous b/c he dont want them. Well I started hearing stuff about him the first day we started goin out, but I didnt believe it b/c I trusted him. He seemed really ginuwine when he told me all that stuff about him. 1 month after we got together I was in the hall w/ one of my friends. She was talking to one of her friends that I didnt know at the time. Me and her b/c kool and around lunch she wrote me a note saying I think you're a really kool gurl and I cant tell you love " John Doe " and I know ou would never cheat on him. but he having sex w/ a gurl at school( we'll call her jane doe). I called him cussing and yelling at him for about two hours. He swore to me it wasn't true. I didnt really believe him and he knew it, I told him I was going to trust that he wouldnt do that to me and I let him know that it does make me look at him differently now. Things got worse after that b/c the gurls knew they had got to me and they had me not believing him now. We'd been together for exactly two months when everyone told me that he was going around telling people we didnt go together. Everyone, well a lot of gurls & my friends, told me that he said that, or had heard someone telling people he said that. The whole school was talking about it, so I just assumed it was true. He tried talking to me, but I just ignored him. He asked one of my friends what was wrong and they told him that I said we didnt go together anymore & I did tell her that b/c of what I had heard. He stopped coming to school and went off to job-core. He started dating someone else that went to my school. He came back to huntsville but didnt come back to school. I called him on his birthday to tell him happy b-day & he was surprised that I called him. We talked for a while and we continued to talk. He still goes w/ that other girl, but he says he wants to go back out & that he's gonna break up w/ her. He said that he never said he didnt go w/ me & he tried talking to me, but I wouldnt listen to him. Do you think what everyone says is true or do you think he's telling the truth?

Look, rumors go around and that is all i can say! If this guy is STILL looking up to getting back with you, it shows he REALLY cares about you! He's trying to make it up to you in a way that you won't listen to the other people, even if they ARE your friends, and for you to trust HIM! You never know, a who absolutely was in LOVE with this guy could have made up the whole thing so it COULD get around to you. Remember, some s are bitches and would do ANYTHING to get something they want and in your case, "John Doe!" hehe!

*!*I HoPe I HeLpEd*!*

-*Marissa*-

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Ok, this past week, I went to Disneyworld to march in the parade with the band. (yes, I'm a bandgeek...) Well, my really good friend, Nicole, was sitting with me on the busride to Floriday (24 hours, yuck!) and the way there and the 1st few days of Disney were fine, but then she started getting on my nerves. At the time, I didn't think she was a lesbian at all. She was just NOT giving me my space and was hanging around me A LOT. She basically wouldn't leave me alone. And from then on, she started acting really weird. I'm gonna tell you the things that she did, but they're not gonna be in order lol. Well, for one, we were at Epcot and playing in the fountain like 4-year-olds, but hey it was fun lol. She kept picking me up and trying to get on top of me. And then, long after we dried off, she had wet spots on her boobs. So disgusting. On the bus ride home, I'm like, trying to sleep, and every time I look, she's watching me. Then later, I woke up later that night and her butt was pressed against mine and if I'm not mistaken, it was moving up and down. Then on the monorail, she has all this room, but is like, on top of me. So I move over, and she moves closer, and that kept happening. Just a lot of that kind of stuff. So me and my new friends Kelly and Molly and my other friend Amber ditched her at Magic Kingdom, and yeah, we're not talking (not that I care). But now, I'm just really freaked out. I told my friends, and we thought about it for awhile, and a lot of stuff she told us before was all starting to make sense and we really think she's bi or a lesbian. So what should I do? I don't really want to be her friend anymore, and I'm just really freaked out. I could probably say more, but I don't want this to be too long, so if you want more details, IM me on x HappyBunni16 x. Sorry so long, but I'm really scared.
P.S. I have nothing against lesbians, just when they hit on me and my friends.

Hey! ok first of all, just make sure you are positve! Don't assume if you're not sure! It's ok! I would just tell her VERY CALMLY how you feel! If she's really your friend, you will understand! Just make sure you let her know you have no problem being her friend, even is she is bi or a lesbian! Ya'll can still relate!

*!*I HoPe I HeLpEd*!*
-*Marissa*-

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Me and my best friend Ashlee are REALLY close but lately shes been really into guys. I mean, I am just not the way she is ..I mean were 13 but I guess Im kind of prude. Well, one night Ashlee got invited to a party with my other 2 friends Lindsay and Courtney. A few other people in my circle of friends (And I) didnt get invited. But, I didnt think much of it and I didnt care at all. Then, the other day, I was on the phone with my friend Alex (Shes one person who didnt get invited either) and Alex told me that Courtney, who was at the party, told her that the party wasnt really a party. It was just a few guys and Ashlee, Lindsay, and Courtney. Courtney said they played spin the Bottle and Ashlee (Who had never kissed anyone before) made out with 4 guys at the party! The worst part was that she didnt even tell me. I dont know what to do! I told Alex (Swore on my life, basically) NOT to say anything about what Ashlee did (especially to Ashlee) because she would know Courtney told Alex and Alex told me! Im so depressed! what do i do?

It's ok...everu goes through both of the stages you have in here! (being prude and being into guys!) It's gonna happen! Don't get upset with your friend because she didn't tell you! Maybe she knew that you havn't really done a lot of stuff with guys, as well as it being her first time too! If the whole guy thing is bothering you, don't worry it's going on with me as well too! Just tell her that you're afraid and you don't want her getting hurt! Or maybe just ask her if she had a good time at the part and what they did! Eventually she'll open up when she feels compfortable! I'm sure she's not trying to hide it from you, maybe she just doesn't it spreading around at school!

*!*I HoPe I HeLpEd!*!*
-*Marissa*-

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My best friends obviously have other friends, but I get so jealous when they have a conversation and I'm not part of it! I get even more jealous when they hang out without me! I really don't want to feel this way but I can't help it! What should I do?

This happens to a lot of girls! Here's something you could do:
Tell her how you feel. If she's one of your best friends, she should understand. And if she doesn't, give her examples of how you feel left out and ask her how she would feel if she were in your position!
I hope it all works out!
-*Marissa*-

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oh well my friend has this really great boyfriend. and i think i might be jelous..but i dont know. she knows that i thinks hes cute/hot and i promised her i would never go out with him jsut for her. but im knida jelouse of her. what can i do? thanks!

HEY! ok look, i've been having the same exact problem so you're not the only one, girl! ok this is what i have done... i went up to my friend and told her, straight out, i thought i was jelous of her! i mean yes, it sounds SOO stupid but it will help! maybe she is jelous of you in some way too! she will tell you that you have nothing to be jelous of and if she gets mad at you for this then say that you're not trying to break them up it's just maybe her and her b/f have something you want, like a relationship!
* HoPe I HeLpEd!*
-*Marissa*-

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13/f well i just found out the other night that my boyfriend (also 13) had sex a couple months ago at a party with a girl thats 15. we wernt together then but we were a couple months before that. i really love him and i know that i always will because we have such a good friendship but should i except this? so far i convinced myself that im okay with it but im not sure if i really am. i think that since hes already done it then hell try to pressure me into having sex. well what i want to know is should i except it and how?

hey! ok, if you're scared in any ways then i don't think you should be with him. And if you still really want to be with him just tell him... ya know i don't want this to happen to us!. Do NOT let him pressure you into anything you don't want to do!
I HoPe I HeLpEd!*
-*Marissa*-

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