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Q: okay how can i prepare myself for this? ive been dating him for a month and im ready. im 19 years old. ive been fingered/everything else besides sex. how much more painful is it going to be? i remember my last boyfriend when he would finger me i think he may have used 3 fingers because it hurt for the first time. is this how sex will feel? i dont mean to sound like a 12 year old who doesnt know anything but im nervous. helpppp!!! and also.. do you have any tips to make it seem like im really not inexperienced? and what position will be best for this? any other advice would reaaally be appreciated!

I was in the same position a few weeks ago. My first time didn't hurt at all, i didn't bleed either. If your with the right guy and just relax you should be fine as you have probably been broken in without knowing it. I'm not saying you have but its more than likely. As for positions people say that him on top is better but i felt being on top was easier as you can control speed and depth nd stuff.

hope i helped
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Q: Should I be on the top, or the bottom? Please base this answer on which hurts more. And if you have any advice on how to make it hurt less, I would definitely appreciate it.

Okay for your first time most people would say bottom but it really depends. My first time i was on the bottom and swapped to being on top. I found it alot easier as you can control the speed and depth alot more if it hurts too much slow it down if your okay speed it up and so on. However if the your on the bottom you should communicate with the guy and tell him if it hurt and tell him to take it easy.

Hope i helped
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Q: ok, my boyfriend of like 2 weeks told me today that he loved me.. i was kinda speechless and didn't end up saying anything because i was so taken back by it. its not that i don't love him, i just don't really know yet, its only been 2 weeks and this is my first relationship. anyway, what does that exactly say about him (saying that he loves me so early in the relationship) and what can i say next time he says that to be that won't hurt his feelings or anything like that? if anyone could help me out a bit, that would be great, thanks in advance for your advice :)

Okay i completely understand. This happened to me aswell. My boyfriend told me he loved me after 3 weeks and i didn't say it back i just gave him a kiss and i did feel kinda bad cos i did love him but i just didn't think he meant it so soon, then after just around 5 months i said it too him and he said it back. when i did he asked me why i hadn't said it the very first time he did, so i told him the truth that i didn't no if he meant it and he basically told me that he did nd tht. All i can say is don't worry about it you'll know when your ready to actually say it.

Q: I have a huge crush on this one guy, let's call him Logan. Anyway, Logan and I are pretty good friends and he dosn't know I like him. I don't think he likes me back and I'm afraid asking him out will hurt our friendship.

I also don't want to ask him out because one of my other friends, let's call her Jade, already went out with him and then broke out with him. She dosn't know I like him, but she made it clear to me she thinks friends shpuldn't date friends exboyfriends. I'm afriad asking Logan out will hurt my friendship with Jade too.

What should I do?

Okay i was in the exact same situation just a couple of months ago. One of my best girl friends was dating my best guy friend. Then they had a really harsh split up. They had a huge fight but then started to talk again. She always stuck by that rule or ex's are off limits. I started to reli like him but didnt want to say anything incase i ruined my friendship with both of them. But someone told me that they thought he liked me and then i felt reli guilty so i told my best girl friend and she basically told me to go for it because she could see we both liked each other. And i did and haven't looked back since

Not sure if that wee story helped
Hope it does though
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Q: Ok, so a couple of days ago, my mom and i went walking at a local track. I jogged one lap, walked two, and jogged another. I went 4 times around it. My legs have been hurting since then. (It was 3 days ago, to be exact.) Is this natural? I mean, I know i'm out of shape, but should my calves feel like they are really cramped up??

ok well this is going to sound weird
but if it hurts you no your doing something right
its the muscles all coming together
if you work out and don't feel any pain at all it reli means that your not pushing yourself enough
so don't worry about it and keep at it your sore muscles are telling you your doing well =D

kait x x

Q: just wondering. at what ages did you guys have your first kiss? and where was it?

i'm just wondering because i'm 15. i'll be 16 in september and i still haven't had my first kiss.

i was 15,..still am,..i'll be 16 in october

but see being honest i hated my first kiss it was forced by my boyfriend outside lol
but my 2nd kiss wif a different guy was brill

dnt be worried if ye havent kissed sumone by the time your 16 it isnt a big deal compaired to wat some people make it out to be

Q: I'm so confused!

All my friends are splitting up & talking behind eachothers backs!! & like the second one of them will go away, they'll be like.. "ehmagawd, i hate her." or something like that. I'm afraid their doing this to me too. I don't know who to trust anymore. & their all doing it too! Their all sooo fake. & I can't be friends with anyone else, I go to a very small school. & I'm not hanging out with losers or the sluts. SO. what do i do!?

aww i know how ye feel nd it sucks
i was in eh exact ssame place nd kinda still am
it was reli hard cos lyk a had one person telling me one thing another saying sumfin bout eh first person nd its a pain n eh bckside

but if ye think on it all people tok behind peoples bcks nd dats eh way of lyf sorry
dis isnt prob helping

basically ye jst need to say to them nd this is what i did

say to them btw instead of tokin bout each other behinf each others bcks say it too there face... it may sound harsh but it works seriously they all get there feelings out about each other nd usually it sorts itself

Q: i hardly have any guy friends, and i'm worried about prom this year. how do i talk to guys in class that i've never talked to before without seeming desperate, too forward, etc. ? i just want to make guy friends and have them want to hang out with me on weekends and stuff, but it seems that every time i try to initiate conversation with a guy, he doesn't seem interested. how do we get close enough in one class period together when the teacher's talking to become friends?

i really want a date to prom this year, or i won't really be interested in going. hellppp please

well its hard to say how to become friends cos lyk different guys react in different ways....... jst start off easy lyk tokin to dem in class n seein what their up to at the weekends and stuff jst have normall conversations jst ignore the teacher or try talking to him or them lyk when ye get into class or leavin..... if your girl friends have guy mates or even boyfriends try talking to them to start it off....... my friend was mates wif a few guys in november and i started talking to them too now one of them is my boyfriend and the other is one of my best friends and that all happened within 3 months

hope i helped let me know how ye get on
kaitxx

Q: I need advice on getting a guy.Well, i know things take time and that i need to wait for the "One" and all, but i need an escort to a friends ball. and a date is requed. Is there anything i can do to make a guy a i like like me? i need to know wht kinda stuff guys like.
Oh and i am 14 and a female.

okay i know ye prob want a guy but maybe you should ask a close guy friend or a friend of a friends or sumfing lyk that
nd ye never no maybe something might happen between you nd him

Q: How long does it take for you to get addicted to taking headache powders?

okay you don't really get addicted as such
i have been taking headache powders for around 2 years now but what i have found is that you start relying on them tooo much and it sounds strange but your body gets used to them and it stops working so you need to switch medication every so often thats what i had to do anyway

hope i helped :P
kaitxx

Q: I know some of you hate Brittney Spears..But if ya`ll can help me out i`ll really appriciate it. I was wonderin..if you guys have smelled her new perfume called fantasy..and the old one called Curious..i was wonderin which one smelled better?! If you can answer this i`ll love ya 4ever! But please no smart ass answers like they both smell like shit please.. (EASY 5)

to be honest i lkike fantasy better

Q: will someone please help me
im quite fat and i go red all the time i mean i get worn out really easly like i will walk down the street and i will go proper red nearly purple and i dont no why i no its probs because of my weight and i really want to be thin but i cant cause i get really anoyed and imbarased wen i do sum exercise and im bright red i would love to be thin and i would be able to do it if i just didnt go so red and get so worn out its horible i dont really like going shoping or when my mates go out of school for lunch i hate it cause im really red and everyone laughs at me / is something wrong woth me and can this be stoped i will rate high

ok so i no some one the same as you and what she did was started off by walking to the nearest shop or park or something and back for a month then went a bit further each ime and now she's doing marathons and 10k's

but it wil only work if your ready to do the work

hope i helped let me no how you gt on

Kaitlyn

Q: my mom keeps telling me to do chores like take out the trash, do the dishes, and other stuff.but when i ask her to help she says it's not her job. so i ask then what is your job. and she says to be the mom. and so after that she orders me to do the dishs. and i say you do them. and she says you have to earn your keep. and so i say you dont earn your keep you dont even have a job. so i get grounded. why sould i work when my mom dos'nt. i dont think i was put on this planet to do dishes. and im not her robot. but i dont wanna be grounded. should i alpolage and destroy my pride or should i hold my feet down and stay grounded.

sorry it was so long.
i'll rate a 5 no matter what

ok,

1st of all i have to do the same things

2nd my mum told me that the reason she tells me to do this stuff is because she cooks cleans and buys me everything so why cant i do a couple of simple things

anyway i started to feel sorry for her because i was being so cheeky so if i were you i would apologise

kaitlyn XXXXXXXXXX

Q: Okay well i wanna srighten my hair but i cant seem to find a srightener that works. Can anyone recommend any good ones that work on thick hair.
less than $69.99 would be great. Will rate 5's for fast good answers that work.

omg yes
remington ceramic straightners

i have the thinkest hair on earth and they are amazing

Q: need help on deciding one of the things i really love a puppy or laptop please help me thanks ill rate high

ok think on it this way. a puppy is for life and dat means u need to take it out in rain hair or snow so if you are commited to do that and clean after it and train it then get but i would get a lap top cause you dont need to do any of those things lol and you can have fun on the computer and dont have to plan your social life around it like you would with a dog.

hope i helped

Q: Can i simply have a yes or no answer to this question:
My brother used to put his hands down the back of my trousers and grab my butt and stuff like that, i told him to stop but he wouldnt. is this abuse?

yes

Q: Aight, which girl should I go with? Here are my options:

-Sort of preppy, very smart, I like her, she likes me as a friend
-Best friend's sister. Sort of tom-girl-ish
-Internet girl. 2 years older than me. I like her, she likes me. We share similar interests. Don't know what country she lives in. Haven't seen her in 2 months.
-Tomgirl. Known her since I was a year and a half old. Fairly smart.

Please help, I usually rate 5s if I choose to rate, and I'll leave comments. Wiseasses get 1s.

ok if i were you i wouldnt go for the internet girl

dont go for your best friends sister because that could leave your best mate feeling akward

em sometimes very smart peopla can get on your nerves

so in my opinion i would go for the tom girl because you no her very well and she's not like a brainbox

Q: ok me and my friends are planning a little co-ed camping trip near these waterfalls and im just asking what are some things i should bring..like necessities and entertainment things? i was already thinking a boombox that runs on batteries and having an all night campfire of course.
any ideas on games to play..things to do?
5's for effort thanks
16/f

ok i no this may sound stupid but ive been camping thousands of times and bringing games isnt as much fun as going climbing ive never been near watefalls but for a laugh u should try climbing. honestly give it a shot.

wish i could come

Q: okay just a couple of weeks ago i had to go to the hospital fer a few weeks and they found out i have FSGS a form of kidney disease..and now i have to take steroids (not the kind fer sports and making you strong) but they have all these really bad effects on me and body swelling is one of them my face and stomach are really swollen and it makes me feel really uncomfortable taking pictures or going swimming...

should i feel this way??

omg, i no exactly how you feel i have the same problem my face has swollen up but the only problem was that i had to get my picture taking at school. theres no easy way to say this but you are going to feel really uncomfortable for the next while. but the good thing is that you dont have to loose weight when you come off the steriods the weight just comes off naturally so you will look fab and people will be saying to you "oh have you lost wight" when really its just the swelling going down.

hope i helped

Q: I absolutely hate my hair. I have thick light brown hair with blonde highlights. When i say thick.. i mean really thick. I have anywhere from 5-10 minutes in the morning to do my hair. Besides the everyday ponytail... what can i do to my hair? I am taking coloring, cutting, and styling ideas.

hey ok my hairs like really really thick as well but what i did was got my hair layered and the i asked my hairresser to thin it out and she did. i would keep ure blonde highlights cause it is really nice

hope i helped
kristel