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what sould i do
my mom keeps telling me to do chores like take out the trash, do the dishes, and other stuff.but when i ask her to help she says it's not her job. so i ask then what is your job. and she says to be the mom. and so after that she orders me to do the dishs. and i say you do them. and she says you have to earn your keep. and so i say you dont earn your keep you dont even have a job. so i get grounded. why sould i work when my mom dos'nt. i dont think i was put on this planet to do dishes. and im not her robot. but i dont wanna be grounded. should i alpolage and destroy my pride or should i hold my feet down and stay grounded.
sorry it was so long.
i'll rate a 5 no matter what
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Believe it or not, most kids have to do chores. She pays for you to go places and see movies and stuff like that, doesn't she?? She pays for your food and your clothing, takes you back and forth to school... she raised you... it doesn't seem like she's asking for much... Next time she asks you to do something, your best bet is to do it and just be thankful she doesn't have you doing more than what she does. Good luck!
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apologize to her
and hire a maid
children werent ment to do dishes!
or if she asks you
waalk away
spend your life in your room
get a mini fridge
buy some food
there you go
stay away from her also
because its not your job!
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you little lier you gave me a 3 when you said
i'll rate a 5 no matter what
you little lier that asks questions just to get
answers so u say :ill rate 5's" this site is
all about giving advice and not rating people
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Well, if you want to see the light of day I guess you need to apologise. Moms do a lot of things behind the scenes that you don't stop to think about. Most have to make sure the bills get paid and buy groceries ( this is not a fun shopping trip!) all sorts of things. It doesn't hurt if you have a few chores to do around the house. It teaches you responsibility. I know they aren't fun, but do the job the best that you can and take pride in your work. I'm sure mom appreciates it even if she doesn't say so. :)
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Hey,
She is you're mother..i mean she brought you into the world..you should respect her a little bit more. I know you feel like a slave when she gives you an ongoing list of chores..but we all have to do them..I mean..sometimes my mom makes me stay in my room for hours and clean it till its spotless..and yeah i complain..but i dont make a big deal about it.
Parents..wont be defeated..they tell us what to do and we have to obey..suree occasionally there will be times where we feel rebelious and go against them..but we get grounded.
You wherent put on the planet to do dishes. But you need to help keep you're house clean. Its not a one man job..the whole family needs to contribute.
sucks huh? but anyways..you should apologise to you're mom. Just tell her you dont want to be cleaning 24/7..
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Hey i have the same problem with my mom but my mom works.. but see my step dad doesnt and dont have to do shit around my house which that pisses me off.. but i think if you want to go out and do things then just half ass things she asks you to do lol thats what my lil sister does.. i do correct cause im like a neat freak but she might just keep those dishes there then end up adding more then you'll have to do them plus extra ones.. so id just do it hun.. ♥ Dez
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well she wants you to be well rounded. i dont think its really that fair but w/e. try asking her for an alowance even if its really small just so you get something out of it. maybe if you get a small part time job even like babysitting she will get off you back a bit? she wants you to know how to work hard and she doesnt want you to fail. maybe she had a hard time or something in life and she doesnt want you to know how she felt
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ok,
1st of all i have to do the same things
2nd my mum told me that the reason she tells me to do this stuff is because she cooks cleans and buys me everything so why cant i do a couple of simple things
anyway i started to feel sorry for her because i was being so cheeky so if i were you i would apologise
kaitlyn XXXXXXXXXX
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Dude, you gotta listen to the song "A Mother Doesn't Matter Anymore" from Bye Bye Birdie. Basically, for those of you who don't know the show, Albert Peterson (world's biggest momma's boy) is telling his mother to go home. Albert's mother then starts singing "I bronzed your baby shoes... kissed every little bruise... picked your dirty socks up off the floor... ya coughed. Who was there? It's just too hard to bear... a mother doesn't matter anymore." And the whole song is singing about everything she's done. Yes, her job is to be your mother. But that's a huge responsibility. Driving out to get groceries. She's probably part of your school PTA. And don't forget labor pain. Hope I helped, and please don't give me a 5 just for answering! By the way, I like your logic with her not earning her keep...
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Dude, she gave birth to you! She changed your diapers, too. She probably goes to work all day, too, which is WAY stressful. And she's old. Old people get tired easily. Sure, I don't agree that you should be doing everything. My mom does work around the house just as much as I do. Even so, that's the way your mom is and you have to accept it. Someday you'll be out on your own (and probably wish you had her), but not right now so just toughen up and do the dishes. Trust me, she could be doing stuff to you that's a thousand times worse than making you do chores.
EDIT: Please don't just give me a five because I responded. I like to feel like I earn my fives, so if you must give me one do it because I had stellar advice. Thanks.
I'm just responding to your feedback, though I doubt you'll read this. I was also a C-section baby. It still counts as her giving birth. And what about the months that she had you in her womb? That should count for something too. But I digress. She should get a job, and just because you don't care about changing diapers doesn't mean that other people don't find it horrifyingly disgusting.
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just do as your mum says and when she says being a mom just think making you do chours is better than being in a care home so just apoligise to your mom it will make you feel better.
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It doesn't sound like you have a very good relationship with your mum, and I hope you don't mind me saying so, but it doesn't sound like you have a very good mum either. (mum = Australian version of mom)
She's your parent for god's sake! She should be there to help you out. That's what being a mum IS. If she pulls the line of being a parents again, then tell her that part of the package is to care, and to help you. Personally, if I had parents that sound as neglectful as she does, then I'd be getting a part time job, and either renting a small apartment, or just doing everything for myself. If she really doesn't care then you should just cook for yourself, clean up the dishes you make, and do your own laundry - she couldn't complain that you weren't pulling your own weight.
That is a rather stressful life for some people, I know it would be for me, so the best thing I think you can do is try to show your mum that it really is part of her duty to care for you. She probably does care, after all you're her kid, but she just might not have much of a clue.
I think maybe you have to demand that she listens to you - my mum never listened to me, until I started to refuse to argue with her - the most important thing for you is to try and get her to understand how you feel about things, and come to some compromise that she's happy with.
Just remember, it's probably more difficult being a good parent than you think, so you shouldn't be too annoyed if she still wants you to do some of the chores around the place -accept it.
The bottom line; Apologise for being rude, and tell her you want to talk. She's not allowed to storm out on you, and if she does, then (urgh, really shitty situation) I'd try again, then consider something worse, like moving out (maybe that would bring her around - if it didn't, at least you'd be out of there). Any way things go, things will probably get better. Better than slouching around grounded, mad with your mother.
-K
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Well, I didn't know you're 13! You didn't say so -.^
Anyway, it's still an option to move out of home if you're in a REALLY bad situation. There are houses that provide carers, and stuff like that.
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well it's normal for parents to want their children to help out around the house, but most parents either have jobs/careers or do some of the work around the house themselves. if she is making YOU do everything, and not offering to help, saying thanx, giving you an allowance, or just randomly buying small/inexpensive things for you, that is totally unfair. Do you have any brothers or sisters that help out around the house? what about a father? getting grounded for saying no isn't rite either, b/c what teenager/child DOESN'T tell their parents no when they are told to do something that they don't want to do! I do all the time. I think you should just tell her what you sed on here. and tell her that you are not the only one who can do things around the house, and that you feel like you have all of the responsibilities which isn't fair!
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