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15/f
1. do you think thats too young?
2. any ways to convince my parents?
3. how old do you have to be to get it done without your parents consent?
4. how much does it hurt?
5. if you take it out will the whole eventually close?
thanks!! xox
i dont think that is too young. im fifteen and got mine done. i got it for my fifteenth birthday. i think there is this new law out though that says you have to be 16. im not sure though.
i told my mom that a lot of people were getting theirs done and that it doesnt have to look trashy. not if you have a really cute one ordont show it off acting like a slut. my mom is pretty cool so she bought into that.
i tohuht it hurt a lot. but i have absolutely no pain tolerance at all. so it really depends on how much pain you can handle. i think it was worth it. the guy that did mine said to wait 3-5 months to change my ring. im assuming that it will close if you take it out.
i would follow the instructions of your peircer religiously. clean it and dont take it out. if you are afraid of it ripping out, i would put a small cloth(like a first aid one) and tape it down over your belly ring. i wouldnt take it out.
the cost also varies. its the belly ring that costs the most. not the peircing itself. mine was $60. but i saw ones that were 30 and the most expensive ones were 75. so its pretty affordable for everyone. you can get it done ususally at anyy tattoo parlor. but be careful, some tattoo places are pretty gross.
see, i have this friend and shes so mean..i cant even consider her my best friend anymore. she fights with my everyday and makes fun of me, i cant just leave her one day but i hate how she's become.. what should i do? thanks
i think that you should tell her how you feel, and that her behavior is making it hard to still be her friend. evidentally you still want to keep her as a friend, but i would still say that if she doesnt quit being mean, then back off of her for a while and start hanging out with someone more considerate and nicer to you.
hope i helped. =]
I recently got very, very drunk and hooked up with my good friend's ex boyfriend. I am pretty sure he likes me as more than a friend and know he wants to go "further" with me. I'm seeing him twice this weekend, I'm going to be under the influence both of those times but am not sure what to do. I like him back, as a crush.
My friend got really angry when I hooked up with her ex (they only dated for a week), which I understand but I can't help how I feel for this guy. Should I just not see him, or should I do things behind my friends back? The answer seems obvious but it doesn't feel obvious because I recently got into a huge fight with that friend and I don't know what to do. Please help!
i wouldnt hook up with him or go behind your friends back any longer. if he doesnt like you back but wants to go further with you then hes just using you. i would try to talk calmly with your friend and tell her that you did'nt mean to hurt her. so maybe she can forgive you and put it behind her. maybe wait till it blows over for awhile and then ask her if she would be okay with being with him. cause then she would probably have time to get over him. and it obviously wasnt that serious if it was for only one week.
i hope that i helped.
First let me start off by saying i have been with my boyfriend since October 23rd 2005. I'm 15 yrs old , and he just turned 18. My parents let him move in the 3rd month we were together, so we have been living with each other for awhile. I cheated on him a couple of times when we first got together and everytime we get in arguments he brings it up. I'm really in love with him , when im not around him for one second i have this feeling of lonelyness. We fight all the time , he always says i start them but sometimes i dont. Ive been trying really hard not to start an argument but it doesnt seem like hes putting in any effort. He always calls me names even if we just get into a disagreement. And theres been a couple times hes hurt me physically. He's choked me a couple of times and pushed me down. I know deep down hes not really a bad guy but im scared hes going to really hurt me. He always leaves me when he gets mad and im the one that always has to call him to come back. Hes hurt me mentally to where sometimes i think im not all there. Im young and my mom and dad are really concerned , i shouldnt be going through this. I was wondering if anyone could give some advice on mabe to make this relationship better , because i really dont want to have to leave him. Theres alot more to my story but im not going to write anymore.
- kaylaa
i can seee that you are in a reall tough sutuation. the only thing i can really say is to talk to him about all of this. but when someone else is homw so you arent alone and he wont try to hurt you. that isnt how a relationship works. lasting relationships are the ones that can listen and work you their problems. dont accuse him of anything right away, but tell him how you feel. (ex. "i feel like we cant solve any of the fights and problems we have.")something like that. also make sure that you are yelling and just talk calmly. if you try to talk to him and he donesnt listen, then i would try again later. if it still doesnt work an he still gewts worked up and calls you nmame and ever hurts you again then my advice to you would be to get out of the relationship. i know it will be really hard. especially since you have been together a really long time, but at least you are young and you cant say that you havent tried. you cant stay in an abusive realtionship. it isnt good for your mental and physical health. and i can see its already taken a toll on you.
i hope that i helped. =]
Alright so lately, I guess you could say that things have been a little chaotic. My sister recently got in trouble for a for a minor crime, plus she's going to college soon. My mom is flipping out and I know she has a reason to because my sister isn't the best student and she did get in trouble with the law. But I think that my mom is blowing it way out of preportion. Everytime she sees my sister, she starts yelling at her and freaking out, and not only is my sister affected by it, I am too. I'm not the one who's in trouble but I feel like I am because of all the yelling. But you have to know that my mom seems to always overanalyze things; for example I tried out for a solo in dance and didn't get it, so I was like okay whatever it's alright but when I told my mom, she's all like "Don't complain about geez it's alright" and she seemed like she was mad at me, but the thing is, I wasn't whining about it at ALL and everytime I see her she brings it up. It was me who didn't make the dance solo, not her, and it's like she can't let go of anything, and everytime I do say "Okay mom, please stop tyalking about it, it's over" she doesn't listen because she's so stubborn and keeps going on and on about how it's okay that I didn't make it and she starts complaing to me about my sister and starts, like, trashing my dad... so I finally lose my temper and yell at her to stop... and then she just stops talking and says "I always lsiten to your problems, and it's mean that I can't talk to you, sometimes I want someone to talk to, too." SO then I start feeling horrible that I'm not letting my mom vent to me when she's done so much for me and has helped me and ahhh idk I have mixed feeling about this. My question is, how can I calmly and rationally tell my mom that I'm not my sister and I didn't get in trouble so she can stop talking about it to me and stop talking about my dad? I mean I don't mind talking to her but sometimes she just doesn't STOP and I have to do my homework and stuff but she's still talking... ahhh please help. :( I'd really appreciate it. And sorry this is really, really long.
maybe you can write her a note or something. then you wont be tempted to yell at her and make sure you can everything out on paper. instead of accusing her right away, just say, "I feel that..." that way she wont feel that you are against her. i hope that i helped you out. =]
This boy
and I had sex, yes i know your going to say it was a dumb idea, I GET THE POINT!
But I still like him alot but he has a girlfriend now
and he like makes fun of me and jokes and all that good stuff.
But then online , or alone hes a completly different person
and somedays when I look good or better than other days, he like talks to me more
and Im wondering if he still thinks about past times,or is still sexually attracted to me?
help!
i know that this might not be what you want to hear but.. he obviously doesnt like you .. i mean, hes going out with someone else, hes mean to you, and he talks to you more when you look better. of course he thinks of what happened, but hes only attracted to you body..in my opinion. you should be with someone who treats you well. alone and with other people.
say you like this boy and you tell all your best friends and then your friend tells you she likes the boys cousin and she wants to go out with him.the boy your friend likes gets a girlfriend(its not your friend) so she gets mad and says i dont like him anymore. then on the phone your friend says she likes the boy you like and he likes her(even thou she told you she would never go with him he is like a brother 2 her months before that)wouldnt you be mad?? i am. what would you do?
i think i would be more hurt then mad. even though i would be mad. i would talk to her. calmly not accusingly. say things like "i'm kind of hurt that you like the same guy i do after you said that hes like brother to you and you said that you wouldnt ever go out with him" dont say anything like, "you said you wouldnt go out with him!! you cant do this to me i thought we were friends" or else she'll never understand what you are trying say. she might not even understand at all even if you are being reasonable. also say stuff like "I feel..." that way its also less accusing. but i guess she cant help it of she likes him. at least they arent going out.
f/14
my brother died about four years ago on a motorcycle accident
i still get sad over it and i dont like it i dont feel like being sad all the time i know it happened a long time ago but sometimes like at night i start to think abbout things that we used to do and he used to do and i just start crying
at times ive been up crying up till 5in the morning on school nights
im sick of crying myself to sleep every night
plz help or just say something !!!
anything !!!
keep it zen !!!
thanx !!!
wow i kind of know how you feel. thought nobady can fully understand. my brother died 3 years ago in a car accident and it still hurts. I miss him so much. we were so close. im better now but i still miss im like crazy. i learned that things happen. life isnt always fair and you dont always get what you deserve. i was a wreck, but what helped me was talking to friends an family. i also went to counseling. i know it sounds weird. you might not want to go but trust me if you talk to somebody you can learn ways of dealing with greif and living more normally again. cause i know nothing can be the same. i also started going to church and got a lot closer to God. i had a lot of questions and got answers. i know it may not look like it now, but this happening could bring some good things too, like appreciateing life and getting to know God and living to the fullest. im not saying that this is a good thing, cause no doubt would i give up anything to get my brother back again. im so sorry this happened.
i hope i helped a little =/
I am going to be a senior in high school. i've always been very fashionable & i am known for having some of the cutest things. i found this cute backpack (i didn't want it plain like most people) but i want to make sure it's not too strange. i am pretty girly & i'd consider myself as having a glam/funky style. this is the backpack http://cgi.ebay.com/Jansport-SuperBreak-Black-Crazy-Polka-Dots-Backpack-NWT_W0QQitemZ160023332579QQihZ006QQcategoryZ16081QQrdZ1QQcmdZViewItem
do u think the color is too like punk or anything? i mean i know it is cute with the dots, but is it strange that it's black? what do you think?
its super cute. i think that its one of those backpacks that anyone could wear. like punk or prep. so everyone will like it not just one clique.
Can you offer me any advice????
Hi i am 17 years old and really need your advice. You see about 5 years ago now, my Grandmother of whom I was very close to died. she was like a
mother to me and i used to see her almost every day. however I just don't know how to
move on. I still really miss her. it's just i just don't know what to do anymore.
We had made so many plans of do together and i had made so many dreams of things i'd
do in the future(with her by my side). but now she's dead i just don't know what to do.
Should I carry on with these dreams/plans/ambitions i'd made when she was alive and had
planned to do together, .......or should i give up on them now she's dead and find some new
dreams instead.Do you t hink it would be insulting to her memory to just carry on with
these dreams.......only now without her? so you think she'd be offended?
What should I do? i just don't know what the right thing to do is.
Also i don't understand where she's gone. i missed years out of my Secondary education
so haven't really been taught about religion and therefore don't really understand it. What
can i do about this? also, she was cremated. what does christianity/the bible say about
cremation? do cremated people still get to heaven?
Also I missed practiacaly all of my secondary educationn... therefore I also missed Religious Education? I don't understand/get where my Grandma went? Do you know how i can learn about Religion now? Do they run R.E GCSE classes at college?Also this might seem an obvious question (but just needed to check) but do they give a good all-round general education in R.E in school(sorry if this seems a stupid question)?? so if I had gone to school would I now understand where she might be? I feel terriible...because i don't get where she is. what does the Bible
/Christianity say Heaven is like by the way????
Also..............do you know how I can say goodbye to her now..i wasn't allowed to go to her funeral so never got to say goodbye. She was cremated...so there is no grave. By the way what happens to the ashes?? do they bury them in one place or sprinkle them around ...IF SO THEN where DO THEY SPRINKLE THEM AT THE CREMATORIUM???????? (which i wouldn't like to have happened) i hate not knowing. I also feel like I need to say out loud goodbye..such as where she was buried/cremated? How can I do this? wouldn't people at the crematorium stare? dO YOU HAVE ANY IDEAS AS TO HOW i CAN SAY GOODBYE??I am new to this site. is this advice free by the way..if not them please don't reply as I cannot afford to pay.I live in England.
please could you reply. I AM FROM ENGLAND
hey. im sorry about what happened. i think that you should definately NOT give up your dreams because she cant be there to share them with you. shes loved you and would want you to follow your dreams and be happy.
I am a christian and therefore believe that there are only two places to go when you die. heaven or hell. if she beleived that Jesus is the son of God and died for out sins then i am confident that she went to heaven. i dont think cremeation or a burial has anything to do with getting into heaven. its what you believe
to get learn more about christianity, just go to church. christians will be open and welcome to you.im sure they'll be happy to help you back on your journey to the lord. and stick with going every week. a lot of people find the lord after something like this happens.
heaven is..heaven. just absolute bliss living with the lord. its hard to explain something like that because nobody's been there and back. so im sorry i cant really help you out with that part. i know there are bible verses out there though that can shed some light on your situation. just go to church and join a small group, if they offer any, or just start making friends and talk to them. you'll find someting out there that can help you. the Lord wont ever give up on you.
just say whats in your heart for the goodbye part. tell her all of the things that you wanted to say all these years. about your dreams or any new ones. you dont have to be at a grave to say goodbye to her. just when you are alone talk. i had a loss of my own and i just talked to them as if i were sitting right next to them and then just started bawling my eyes out and said all of the things that ive been bottling up. i felt so much better. i started going to church more often and God has helped me through everything. i still miss her but life does go on. you'll meet in heaven again someday.
i hope that i helped you. :D
I love to fight, I love the adreniline rush and the pain thrills me, so heres the deal, Onn my hockey team we do these things called cage boxing matches which is basicly just boxing. The thing is, everyone on my team is pretty much afraid to face me. I even agreed to one where the kid could use a knife but he wussed out. so any ideas on how i can convince people to face me?
maybe your should try a sport where people arent afrain to fight. like boxing.
Uhm,ok this is random advice, what do you guys think about it?
Even though It is normal for guys [and girls :s] to like porn, it doesn't necessaraly mean that it's right. Think of it this way, in Gods eyes does he think it would be correct to do something sinful, even though you have the total conscience and controle over your hormones.
Think.
i dont know if porn is sinful. but when i was in church, they told me that porn can ruin your sex life when you are married. they (married people) said that sex really isnt like that and that the girls who make those videos dont like some of the things they do in the videos. so it gives the wrong idea about sex.
heres a bible verse: 1 corinthians 15:33
"Do not be mis-led: bad company corrupts good character"
i guess the bad company would be the porn. and it could corrupt your mind into thinking that pre-marital sex is okay. even though you may think that that would never happen.
theres this one guy i like
he tells me he loves me and that wont ever change and that he's so happy he talks to me and he wants to hold me and kiss me
so obviously he likes me too
but when i go to his myspace all these girls comment him
saying i love you
and like text me later
and he says i love you back and comments there pictures saying cute and everything
i text him all the time too and i wasted all my 500 texts in like a week on him!!!!
and also my best firned started talking to him before i did and like he tells her he loves her too and i know its not a friend kind of love
and i dont know what to do!!!!
cause i really like the him but hes suck a little player/manwhore
i wanna talk to him
but i dont know that to say
someone help me!!!
you said yourself hes a player and a manwhore. and if hes telling all those other girls the same things hes telling you then it shows that he doesnt really mean them.
Some background information.
I am 16, going to be a Junior in High School.
She is 17, maybe 18, and going to be a senior at another High School.
I asked her to a movie, she agreed to go. We went, grabbed some food after, and I dropped her off at home. Now, I saw her today and she just didn't really seem interested in being around me. This got me thinking about what she thought about me, which made me wonder if she thought we were just going as friends. I'm wondering if she thinks we are dating or not. If not, should I just ask her, or is there another way?
Thanks in advance.
you guys only went on one date i dont know if she really feels that you are going together. go on a few more and then ask her how she feels and if she would like to pursue a relationship.
how do you break up with someone you`ve been dating for 9 months and what are some easy tips for getting over someone?
thanks.
there really is no good way to break up because either way someone is going to get hurt. how i would do it is just say that i think my feelings for you have changed and i dont think that we should pursue this relationship any further.
I don't know what group to place it in, but it is mental I can tell you that. My boy friend was the best person you could have ever imagined. Even though he is only 14 [so am I, female] He was great. He has the potential to do anything he sets his mind to, music, school, great with kids & adults, wonderful. One of the ,main thing I was attracted to, was his childness-ish. He was funny, not in a dirty way either, didn't swear, proclaimed to be saved and was ever-so respectful.
After about a few months af dating I allowed french kissing and holding, sorta a low quality makeout.Then it grew and grew, now, we didn't get into sex or anything and stayed on top of clothes, but I noticed a difference in him, about two months ago.He has always told me how he feel about everything, absolutely EVERYTHING, I asked him what was wrong, hios reply was always something but he never got to the point. I started telling him that there was somthing he wasn't telling me, he would always say no, there wasn't.
After a long while of thinking, praying and asking God for guidance, I realised that we should never have started the whole "kissing process" so we could regenerate our relationship, the way it was before. At first he was scared, he'd say "What?I thought everything was fine, why shouldn't we?" and My answer would alaways be "It is wrong and I believe God would rather otherwise" Then there'd be a conflict, and those always hurt the heart.
Now he gave me his msn password and I thought "I don't have anything to hide or lose" so I gave him mine. He forgot that He gave me his password and the other days I checked it.Was I ever shocked, hurt, crushed, heart broken...It just hurt so much, I was crying outloud saying "no....no, he couldn't have done this to me..." He had "porn4free!", "sexsearch", "you have received a wink from...blahdiblahblah"
PAIN CRWLS IN, I...I COULDN'T BREATH, I FELT AS IF IT WAS ALL MY FAULT AND THAT I WAS BLIND TO NOT HAVE SEEN IT COMMING.
Later to find out, He called me [after I ave him my two cents on msn, really, it wasn't much] He denied it, telling me they were spams...right.I didn't believe him, he blamed it on his computer breaking, and It was right in front of my face...all of it, his name, his way of talking, even his special password was there... the girls... the pain was Unbearable :"( ... Everytime I gave him proof, he said sorry and agreed...and He kept telling me half truths, I got him to tell his parents and they have taken the computer away form him for a month.
What could I do to help him[he said it started about after we stopped the kissing process [which was two months ago]And I want to know What can I do, how should I react? What can HE do, It is 2:30 in the morning, I couldn't sleep, I was bawling my eyes out and dind't want to bother everyone else.So I came down, wanting to ask questions to people, including you people.
I'm afraid to go near him showing my arms now, and look at my body in disproval, why did God create man to be pigs and women to be their food?
Thank you, I hope this question doesn't comfuse you, I just nee help, please.
porn can be destructive. it can also be addicting actually. what i think you need to do is talk with him and ask him that if hes willing to give up on the porn thing, then you both can go on with your relationship. the thing is when people start doing something, they want more and more. that happened to you with the kissing. i dont think that you want to see where the porn could lead him.
ill be praying for you =D
I think i have ADD and i am going to be tested for it before i go back to school. I have taken adderall a bunch of times before and that helped me. I was wondering though.. is adderall more for people with ADHD? Cause i dont think i have that. If i got diagnosed with ADD, do you think i would be prescribed adderall?
i think that the best thing to do is trust your doctor with that kind of thing. dont worry about it, he'll know what will work best with your body
well, i use to be a very not shy, friendly, talkative girl. i really didn't have lack of confidence or anything like that. then, i had this situation which tore my confidence. it was just a situation that someone REALLY REALLY hurt me and it was about two years ago. but, sometimes, when i remember i just go to a corner and start crying. ever since, i've been kind of scared and timid and i even developed a little bit of anxiety. i didn't have fun at all these places i loved to go. i spent about two years like this. this year, i feel like i'm getting out there more. i've been talking to people, making new friends, joining more clubs, starting clubs, basically just being more active and not being so shy. but, then when i go talk to people, it all comes back to me. all the stuff that he said to me. and then i think that i'm annoying. i shouldn't talk so much. i shouldn't try to be so friendly around people. i dunno. then it starts to get to me again. one of the things he said was that i was annoying. but, that's not all he said. he said a whole bunch of bad things that i'm not even going to write here. but that's how it started off, by saying that i was annoying. i feel so confused. i don't know what to be. if i am too quiet, i don't feel happy. if i'm outgoing, like the person that i use to be, i think i'm annoying. but, i want to be that person again, be that way before i thought i was annoying. can someone please give me some advice?
hes a loser. he should not have said that to you. not everyone can like you as a person. you cant please everyone. he just is a huge loser and felt like he should tell you. if people dont want to talk to you, they wont. if they do start talking to you then that means that they want to talk to you and get to know you better. hes a jerkoff and had no business saying any of those things to you at all.
i dont know if i helped you
Can someone help me get they lyrics to the new Akon Feat. Snoop dogg song.."Windin and Grindin"?
i love that song
go to www.lyrics.com thats what i do
My dad was in a bad car accident a few days ago and he's still in the hospital. The doctors say he's stable but he's in a...coma. Which I don't even understand because how can he be stable if he's in a coma?
Well I'm supposed to be moving out in like, 10 days because I'm starting college and I'm moving 4 hours away. The thing is though, I don't want to leave my mom and my sister if my dad isn't conscious by then. I don't know what to do because I'm so scared about my dad and I don't want to leave.
Classes don't start until the 30th but move in day is in 10 days. I don't have to move in by moving day but I know I have to be there by the first day of classes. I don't even know if I'm going to be able to pay attention during class knowing that my dad is in the hospital. I just don't know what to do, I'm so confused.
wow that is a tough situation. i think that being stable while in a coma means that all his vital signs arfe in check hes just asleep. a coma is your brain's way of healing itself. you could move in all of your stuff now and then go back home so you wont have to worry about moving in and can stay until the last possible day to go back.
its such a blessing that you have your best friend as a roommate though.
i dont know if this helped, but ill be praying for you =D