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i always feel either too quiet or annoying
well, i use to be a very not shy, friendly, talkative girl. i really didn't have lack of confidence or anything like that. then, i had this situation which tore my confidence. it was just a situation that someone REALLY REALLY hurt me and it was about two years ago. but, sometimes, when i remember i just go to a corner and start crying. ever since, i've been kind of scared and timid and i even developed a little bit of anxiety. i didn't have fun at all these places i loved to go. i spent about two years like this. this year, i feel like i'm getting out there more. i've been talking to people, making new friends, joining more clubs, starting clubs, basically just being more active and not being so shy. but, then when i go talk to people, it all comes back to me. all the stuff that he said to me. and then i think that i'm annoying. i shouldn't talk so much. i shouldn't try to be so friendly around people. i dunno. then it starts to get to me again. one of the things he said was that i was annoying. but, that's not all he said. he said a whole bunch of bad things that i'm not even going to write here. but that's how it started off, by saying that i was annoying. i feel so confused. i don't know what to be. if i am too quiet, i don't feel happy. if i'm outgoing, like the person that i use to be, i think i'm annoying. but, i want to be that person again, be that way before i thought i was annoying. can someone please give me some advice?
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the guy you had feelings for probally was just a typical jerk and not to be mean but he probally wanted to get to you and make you the way you are...so just stop thinking about what that guy thought about you and just be who you want to be...who cares if people think you are annoying if they have a problem with it then tell them to get over it, that its not your problem.
best of luck
~Britt~
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hes a loser. he should not have said that to you. not everyone can like you as a person. you cant please everyone. he just is a huge loser and felt like he should tell you. if people dont want to talk to you, they wont. if they do start talking to you then that means that they want to talk to you and get to know you better. hes a jerkoff and had no business saying any of those things to you at all.
i dont know if i helped you
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As hard as it is try to put the bad situation behind you. Every time the memories come back to you just try your hardest to think abotu something else instead of letting the memory tear you apart. Talk to your closest friends about it and get it all out, that always helps. Get involved and stay busy and you will have less time to think.
HOPE I HELPED
((Morgan))
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Put that in your past. Make new friends. Forget about whatever it was that he said to make you feel this way.
It's hard, but it can be done. =D
BELIEVE ME, people really like others who are convivial, and nice. Try to talk to friends more, hang out with them, and act like you want to, even if it seems embarassing =D
Maybe practice things in the mirror, or act REALLY outgoing with a friend.
With the annoying thing, your friends wouldn't hang out with you if you were annoying, and even if you were, which I doubt you are, they still accept you for who you are, unlike the mean person who said all those mean things!!
Good luck!!
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