Hey, hey, hey!!!! It's ur's truly. come 2 me if u have any questions and need advice on anythin'(dealin with personal issues)...im here 4 u...like i said.. u have the questions and i have the answers! feel free 2 ask, dont be ashamed at all...im here 4 ya!!!
im a female, originally from brooklyn, new york but lived in South Florida 2, but i also rep Jamaica bcuz of my background.
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I have been with my girlfriend for 8 months, I honestly do love her. Whenever I tell her I love you she says I know like it's not a big deal or something, now whenver I tell her I love you she says I think you love me for the wrong reason, it hurts me when she says things like that, not once has she told me she loves me back. Am I just wasting my time? What should i do to respond to her when she tells me I love her for the wrong reason?
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no you are not just wasting your time...most girls dont like to tell boys they love them back... so its a 'girl" thing. most times they do love you back, but they just dont want to get caught up with love or had some bad experience with love before. maybe you should talk to her about it to see what she says..maybe she'll open up to you.. you can respond by saying "well what do you think are the wrong reasons?" or you can say "well i thinik i love you for the right ones, what do you think?" or you can say " no, i love you for exactly the right ones..i know you love me too, but u just wont admit it" and that way it'll be like killing two birds with one stone
hope i helped
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I met this guy over the internet and He talked to me and he said he liked me and wanted to see me so I decided to meet him and since I never had a boy friend be for this was somthing I would be excited about.We met up and the first thing I noticed was his eyes because he had beautiful eyes and that day we talked and just hanged out for a little while and then it was time to go and we kissed.After that day things started to change. When I would come on to my screen name he wouldnt I.M. me but instead I would I.M. him but we still both talked and this made me like him more. A few months later we decided to meet up again this is in January and it was really cold that day. It was on a Thursday. I went to the place we were goning to meet up and I waited their for 2 hours hoping he would come I was so cold but then I left and when I got home I went on my screen and saw that he wasent on I thought he lost intrest in me and I thought that was the reason why he left me waiting and the next week on Thursday I got sick and I couldnt eat with out throwing up that whole week. After I finally had a chance to speak to him and he told me an excuse saying that he couldnt come that he was busy but he said it in away I belived it so I still talked to him. Then at the end of March he tells me he likes some other girl and that he wants to be with her and I felt so bad because I felt like he took my heart and tore it right up that day while I was talking to him I had a panic attack. Then its April and he I.M. me asking me if I was single I said "yeah why" and says that he wanted to see me and I was just thinking is this worth it but I still loved him so I decied to give him one more chance so we make a day and I go and wait to find him not there and I was so pissed off because he would do this to me. One friday in may I finally said what I had to say because I was sick and tiered of it and I also told him I loved him and then instead of being sympathetic he tells me that when me and him met up after I left he messed with anothor girl, then he tells me hes in love with someother girl and we were cursing at each other too. Now things are deffanitly over between me and him yet I wanted to get revenge so bad Im having my friend playing him but when im on my friends screen name I do all the talking and he is so romantic with and I feel bad because I know its not me hes talking too. He even talks about me to this girl that is me but he dosent know it. I cant stop thinking about him I want to get over because I know he never liked me and he thinks im some nut but im just over emotional espeacialy when he was the first guy who showed me emotions liked that towards being romantic. I need to get over him because I have no feelings for any other guy just him and I even had feelings for him to engage in sexual activity and thats somthing I would never do because im afraid to but with him was diffrent for him I would do anything just to be with him but knowing his true feelings now makes me so sad.Please help me with this problem because I cant stop thinking about him and it hurts. Thank you (link)
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wow...it sounds like your in such a tough situation and im really sorry that you are because i know thats its really difficult to handle it especially when u have mixed emotions! wow okay first off you need to get over this guy! i understand u like this guy and stuff but even though you want to move on you just cant right? yea i know EXACTLY how you feel!! you need to do something to get your mind off this guy..its going to be hard but you CAN do it.. stop messing with him on the internet pretending to be this other girl because its only hurting you more to be in contact with him and to hear how "sweet" he's being. that's not the kind of revenge you need. in fact, i wouldnt advise you to get revenge because trust me it wont make you feel any better and your just stooping to his level and i know your better than that!
what you need to do to recover is to create an e-mail address w/o him knowing its you and write him an anonymous letter telling him how he made you feel or instead you can mail him a letter, you just need his address, and dont put any retuern address on it. this guy is just a heart breaker who has no concern for anyone's feelings and what makes it bad is that he was your first boyfriend and that hurts you really bad. but trust me you can never fully get over him..he's always going to be in your heart or in the back of your mind because he was your first and that always makes someones special no matter what.
i hope i helped you and if you feel like talking some more you can always email me at yahoo (you can get it off my columnist page) and we can talk more
i wish you all the best
lots of love xo
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when i say that my ex has been on my mind a lot lately. i dont mean, when im sexually with my bf or anything. but sometimes when im alone or wiht my friends i think about him. my family moved next door to him a few days ago. we broke up about 5 months ago. i was really hurt. i know i loved him and still do. but i love my bf now. my new bf was my first. and he is so sweet. he is perfect. but how can i stop thinking about my ex. i dont feel like im being loyal to my bf. plez help (link)
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well ive been in your situaition once before. if you think about it how do you know that your bf dones not have one of his ex's on his mind most of the time...reality is that yoy dont know what's going on in his head and he doesnt know what going on in yours...what i did was talk to my friends about it and they told me that i couldnt help it all...i mean even now i still think about my ex because i still do really love him alot and i really care for him and there's nothing that you can do about it to get him off your mind..not unless you train yourself to stop and overtime eventually he''ll be on your mind less...if you feel good enough about it that you can tell your current bf without him getting mad at you then do so but chances are that he's going to get mad and a little jealous...you can aslo talk to your ex (if you two still talk) i did that and he ended up feeling the same way and i had to try my best to not let all of that interfere with my current relationship because it wasnt fair to my boyfriend... do you get all of this or no?
hope i helped..*** if you need more clarification e-mail me!!
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how do you dump a guy without hurting his feelings? (link)
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you can say:
(name) right now you just arent what im lookin 4 okay
i dont think our relationship seems to be going in the right direction and if u have 2 explain why
do the old fashioned..its over
**breaking up with anyone isnt easy and its gonna hurt if the person really cares. it only depends on how you do it (being mean or not) that really hurts or makes the person mad..do you get what im saying? if you do it really mean then theyll get mad but if u do it in a not so harsh way like i dont think our relationship seems to be going in the right direction, then they know you dont mean any harm and then suggest still being friends with each other or say no hard feelings? to make the other person see that your not so bad after all..it all depends on tactics
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my body has been itching like alot... first it will start on one of my arms and ill scratch!!i just got my nails done so it helps alot!! first off let me say i dont have poison ivy or anything else from outside or anything.... so anyways ill scratch it and it will burn a little for like a couple seconds and then ill have to scratch it again!! now thats just on my arm and then ill scratch my thigh and it will do the same then it was on my face,hands,legs! its like the same feeling every time!! i dont know what this is or what is causing it.... most importantly you have to know im not elergic to ANYTHING! and i dont do drugs! none what do ever!
does anyone know what this could be and how i make it stop its not all the time but its most the time!!
thanx i rate 5's for good answers
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i saw this thing on t.v and its for itches, im sorry i dont remember the name, but it begins with an L and also you can use gold bond products..its really good for those sort of issues
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i really like this guy and he goes to a differnet school and how can i have relationship with him if he goes to a differnet school. I know he likes me because he already told me and He lives in the same town tho but we never get a chance to see eachother because we go to differnet schools does that affecet our relationship? I need some adivce.
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it usually affects the relationship, but if you live in the same town then its not that bad. if you trust that he wont cheat on you then go for it. to help make up for the indifference in schools, if its possible hang out with him on weekends and talk on the phone as much as possible. and if you know any friends who go to his school, ask them to keep an eye on him, not a close eye, but just an eye on him :)
hope i helped x0x
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I want everything in life. I want to grow maximize my career to the fulliest.
But i feel like im doing enough to, to show how smart i really iam. Im 13/f. My last report card was bad..I got straight C'S (which isnt really bad for a few grades but in every class, bad.) any suggestions on how to improve my grades, and all?
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you may need to increase your study habits. if you can get after or before school tutoring from a teacher or ask one of your serious friends to help you out in a particular subject. you also need to see what your strenghts and weaknesses are in a subjects and see what you need to improve. and bascically everything you do to improve make an experiment out of it. for example if it works for one subject try it for more of them..if it doesnt work on one subject then try it on another one, if it doesnt work again then dont try it again and so on. get tips from all of your serious worker friends
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okay this probably wont make sense but ill try. I can never get a bf at my school ive only had one bf that actually went to school with me and he was really the only true one i had. Its like guys dont like me at school but guys outside of school are always hittin on me nd stuff.. mainly older guys it annoys me cuz i really want a guy inside skool i like some but they only see me as a friend. whats wrong? i dont think im like hideous or anything im actually pretty cute from wut im told so whats wrong? (link)
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i doubt there's anything wrong with you...but thats been happening to my friend too, but its probably because people in your school are too used to you and know you too well to only think of you as a friend. do you act different in school than you do elsewhere? maybe you dont notice it. maybe thats why people are attracted to you in other places
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Okay... so recently my boyfriend hasn't been paying much attention to me. It's not like I thrive for it, but it is definately different for me to go from getting all of his attention to getting very little. I mean, some things have happened in his life and I make sure I am there for him, because he needs me to be. A lot of things have been going on for me, too. The thing that has effected him, also has effected me, three of my family members are VERY ill, two of which that may pass on tonight, and I just failed my driving test. With so much on my mind, you'd think he'd be there through all of it. All he has to say is "you'll do better next time," and that I am not very close to my family anyways. Which really hurts me. I dont' know what to do. Should I think about having a serious talk with him, because he should stick by me, am I just overeacting, or has this boy got to go? Will rate sky high! (link)
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you should definelty talk to him because you never know..he may feel the same way like the relationship is going the wrong way or whatever or he may not noticing how's he's treating you because he may have things on his mind. maybe you guys can end up fixing your relationship or you both may realize its time to end it. it all depends on how the talk goes.
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Hi, I have a boyfriend who I've been with since January 11th, I do like him a lot, of course. But I also like someone else. The problem is I don't want to leave my boyfriend I have now cause he say's he dosn't want to go on without me and he dosn't know what he would do without me cause I'm everything to him and since we've been together he's been happy cause his life is getting better. But I tend to feel he dosn't want to talk to me and or is bored of me. I also know of him looking at other girls naked pictures ( I never took any I'm not the one to do that). But was telling me all about it while he was. And it seems like he enjoyed it. Though the other guy I like I said something about it to him cause I was kinda upset which the other guy likes me also and try's to cheer me up and is always there when I need him. I really don't know what to do anymore. Cause I'm not good at talking to my boyfriend about these deals, cause I'm not used to doing all of this. (link)
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i think you should sort everything through in your head first...thats the best way because if you dont sort out everything to youself then you can never know what you truly want. i dont know your boyfriend, but as with most guys they are always saying things like your boyfriend is saying to you or he could really mean it..so we dont know if he's telling the truth. try talking to some of his friends who'll tell you the truth and not lie to you to cover up for him. if you like the other guy better, then you can go with him. I think you should stick with your boyfriend for a little while longer to see if your feelings about him decline, increase or stay at a steady rate. also monitor your feelings with the other boy to see if they go up, down, or stay the same. this should give you a clue abot what to do.
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i am 17 years old and i am a women. i have this guy who i like alot. we talk everyday on the phone expet on friday and sundays. for christmas he got me this heart shape necklaces. which i love to know end. but his mom does not like me at all. and i really want to date him but i dont want his my to come after me. i really want to be hs date for his senoir prom but i am scared his best friend and girlfriend will come after me at the dance. and i aslo am scared that his mom wont let him go if she knows he is going with me? i really dont know what do to (link)
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well your in a tough situation... you should find out why his mom doesn't like you and then see how you can fix that.. you should deifinetly talk to him about how you feel and everything that's going on. maybe you'll find out that he feels the same way..you never know and you can only try and hope for the best.
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so i broke up with me bf (of 2 months) about a week ago. We still talk everyday he's my bestfriend. the reason i called it off was because i would think about other guys, and i was confised so i broke up with him. BIG mistake i miss himm soo much . . .he is now going out with someone else and it is truley killing me i love him soo much and i know he still loves me beacasue he was talking to my sister and shes like you really like her dont you and he like no . . i love her. he tells me that we'll get back together soon, but its just killing me i let him go, like i cant even eat and im just o depressed. what should i do?
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well,i know exactly how you feel...trust me you can do nuthing more than just wait because if he says he still loves you and that you two are going to get back together then you must be!! i mean yeah, it does kinda suck to juss sit around and wait for him while he's going out with someone else. if you really like him then you should wait. if you think its best to move on then go ahead, but you'll never know what you missed. but until then dont look in his direction when he's with his new girl, just pretend liek you dont see them and act like you dont care at all. just wait
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I think my boyfriend is cheating on me because one of my friends seen him letting a girl sit on his lap the past two days and he kinda flipped out when I brought it up. She is also going out with one of HIS friends but they dont act like they are going out and he has her number in his cell phone and has recently talked to him on it. She told someone he was ugly and that it was a lie about her sitting on his lap because someone wants to break her and her boyfriend up. Is he cheating and what should I do? (link)
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i am not too sure if he's cheating, but the only thing you can do is investigate the situation further and dont jump to conclusions
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i really like randy, but my friend becca likes him too. randy has never really had a girlfriend before..except in 7th grade, but that hardly counts. the other day in gym, i was pretty much all over him and he was flirting right back. i think he might like me, but what do i do about becca? she was in my gym class and she asked me later if anything was going on between me and randy. i told her no...cause nothing is..yet. she liked him before me..so i feel really bad. we've been best friends since 3rd grade and i dont want to lose her. any advice? (link)
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it's really tough when you and your friend like the same guy. you should be considerate of her feelings, but at the same time you cannot live your life pleasing everyone else but yourself. I think you need to find out how much becca likes randy and let her know that you like him. See how she reacts and if she takes it a little harsh then you should stick with your friend...never let a guy come between two best friends. Guys will come and go but you are going to always need a friend. Here's a little saying to help remind you of frienship vs. guys:
Guys are whenever
Friends are forever,
But when worst comes to worst
My girls come first
xoxo hope i helped lots
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what so you do when you are bi you think you like you bffl who is straight its relle killing me and i dont know what to do...yah 2 guys one bi one not the other doesnt know that i like him :'( (link)
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well as the other advice columnist said you're just going to have to deal with it. If you think that you're friend will be considerate of what you are or he may be understanding of the situation, and if and only if you feel comfortable enough to tell him about it then do so. I think it's not really a good idea because many guys will think you're weird and this may ruin your friendship and people are going to start to look at you differently. I'm not saying that you have to hide that you are "bi" but be cautious of how you tell people and how they react. If you sill can't decide what to do, then just follow what your heart tells you to do and that will hopefully lead you in the right direction. because i've learned that people can't tell you what to do, they can only help lead you in the right direction.
x0xo hope i helped lots
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i have 2 groups of friends. group a always thinks im leaving them for group b... and vice versa. what do i do? (link)
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well you should let them know that you are one person and that they are going to have to share you or you could get group a and group b to become friends so you all could hang out together and there wouldn't be any hassle.
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i really like this guy like a LOT and i have never been attracted to him before ever and at one point i thought he was ugly! and i started liking him yesterday (friday) like right after school because i see him last period and i have been dying to see him. my problem is that he isn't that popular, and he is always talking to me and my friend but i think he is just trying to be friendly. i really want to ask him who he likes, but idk how i would ask him without him thinking i'm a total weirdo. i really need good advice, okay? so PLEASE try to think of yourself in this situation and don't just say, "well just ask a friend to ask him or something" i really need a good piece of advice. thanks so much for taking the time to read and answer this question! (link)
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well, who really cares if he's popular or not!! if you like him then, hey, go for it!
to ask him if he likes you then you can try different approaches, depending on who you are----
1)just be straight forward and ask him if he likes you
2)or lie and say that people are saying that you two go out (even though you dont)and then see what he says, and then say "do you want to give them something to talk about?" (meaning that you guys would act like you go out)and see how he reacts
3)or say lie again, "everyone thinks that you like me? there's nothing wrong with that,i just want to know, is that true?" and see what he says and how he reacts and take it from there
4)you can play truth or dare with your friends and him and if he picks truth, someone can ask him if he likes you. then if he says yes, then he does...but if he says no, then make a couple of your friends say/yell in a kinda-nice-but-not-mean-way, "you're lying!! we can all tell you like (your name)" or they can say, "but everyone says that you like her!! haha. you lied in truth and dare!!" but DONT make him feel bad though
5) or again play truth or dare..and if he picks dare then the dare should be to go tell the girl he likes, that he likes her, and see who he tells.
thats about all i can think of for now...hope i helped lots*
*~im here if you need me~*
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hey..this s kind of disgusting but here it goes well my left breast has been very itchy lately like the tip is itchy is that normal? do you have any ideas to stop it kthanks (link)
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well, i dont really know if its normal,but it has happened to me before and nothing has happened, so i guess it's ok.
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Well this guy we are really close the other day we went to a movie with a bunch of friends and i swear every two seconds he looked at me , and also we are in almost every class together. I actually really like him like alot! also im 14 hes 15 also he grabbed my hand the other day i didnt let go what should I do? (link)
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well, it's obvious that he wants to be more than friends...this sorta thing happens with best or close friends all the time. So, ok he flirts with you and stuff and you like him too, so why not go for it if it's something you really want!!! :))
But talk to him and see how he feels, if that sounds better to you.
hope i helped
xoxoxo
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me and my boyfriend have been together for 3 months and things have been going great and since i can only see him once a month it has been hard. school has started and so has the girls hitting on him again and his ex tryin to be all over him. but any how for the past 3 days (school started on tusday for him) he has been spend A LOT of time at the mall or at the store doing soemthing. i dont know with who or anything just that when i call he says he will call me back and NEVER does so yesterday i called back and he said 7 words hi i will call you back later.. i was like ok bye and hung up on him yesterday i only talked to him for 30 minutes the day before that to. i am scared that he found soemone else and since i am not around him all the time idk what is happening?? i want to talk to him about it but idk what to say i love him and dont want to loose him.. any advice??
love always,
sad hearted girl (link)
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you should definently talk to him about this b/c that is the best method-talking. Just say that you are concerned because you and him have not been spending a lot of time together and it's really starting to bother you because you know that people get disinterested when they are not around their spouse...they my start to get attracted to other people, even though they dont do it on purpose. then just say that u really want him to tell you if he feels this way b/c you two can work something out... Basically just try to win his trust and make him feel that you understand if he's seeing someone else and so on. But dont jump the gun, this doesnt automatically mean that he's cheating on you. So be prepared for any answer
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