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I joined this thing because I thought it would be interesting to help people and give them some advice. Basically, I'm a crazy, freakishly weird, extremely blunt, unpredictable, lazy, fatass at heart, funny, random bitch. =P And you're probably wondering; "Why in the hell would I want advice from THAT?" lol ^_^ But trust me, I'll give ya some useful advice. On the otherhand, I enjoy playin guitar, music[anything except country], writing, laughing, open-minded people and so forth. If you want to chat, hit me up on my AIM screen name.

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hi, i need help. I have so much trouble paying attention. If Im very interested its easier but with some things i try so hard to stay focused but i just end up getting spaced out. I also have trouble absorbing information. Like when i read its like im not really reading... like theres a wall between my brain and the book. I get spaced out when i read... especially things i dont understand, like fantasy. I just failed my first test in high skool bcuz of it and it really sux what should i do?
thanx

You might have ADD or ADHD, lol. Honestly... tell your parents about your problem and get it checked out. If you do have ADD, the doctors will give you pills to prevent stuff like that from happening. Good luck.

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My friend told me tht she caught her sister cutting....Can ne1 tell me wht tht is? I asked her wht it wuz and she looked @ me like I wuz crazii...Wht is it?! I need 2 no!!

lol. Cutting yourself. Usually, it happens on your wrists or legs or somewhere hidden. It's technically called self-mutalation. It's a bad thing...

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Ok so I'm starting my new job at Subway on Monday. And I want to know how I should do my make-up and stuff. I have medium brown hair, green eyes, and kind of tan/pale skin. They said we can wear jewelry, but not long necklaces. I want to wear earrings but do you think hoop earrings would be ok for the first day? They also said we could have our nails done but just professionaly. Thanx! I'll rate you a ONE!

Erm. Do you expect some guy to hit on you while ordering a sandwhich? lol. You're funny... it's work... you're not trying to look cute, hun.

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hey. im starting to go thru puberty and develop my breats but the question is how long will it FULLY take them to develop. theyve been the same for lyk 4 months and there not growing. and no, i kno that they still have a lot more to grow cuz no normal person could have boobs this small. but anyways how long will it take them to develop FULLY. please help!

lol. Well, females growth spurts usually stop up until they're about 16-19. It just depends on you're body. So, however old you are...it WILL take time to develop them.

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uhmm..ok...this guy (that iz my frend) asked me out a lot but everytime i give him some sort of excuse. This past time it was cuz of skewl. Now i like this guy n i wanna go out with him but i cant say yes 2 cuz then the 1st guy will kno that i lied n that i just dont wanna go out with him! i kant b mean! Help me pleeeez!

Sugarcoating things is the worst. It's just stupid how you can't go out with the guy you want because of your excuse for the first one. Go out with the guy you want... and if the guy you lied to says something about it... tell him how you feel. That's the only way he'll be able to understand... and you won't be lying to him this time. Good luck, hun.

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Hi, OKay I skipped my period for 3 months and then started again. But I am really heavy compared to my normal. Is that normal?

Skipping your period for three months isn't normal. If this continues you might need to tell your mom so she can take you to the gynocologist to make your cycle healthy.

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Ok..here I go...
I was going out with Aaron, and dumped him for his best friend, Josh. Now since his Josh hates me(we went out he dumped me), Aaron wants to go back out with me...and i said yes...but it's a long distance between us. Is it a good idea? Or no? Please help me!

I honestly don't think it's a good idea. I know this isn't my place, but it's probably not going to work out. First, long distance relationships are very difficult to handle. And secondly, the whole dumping him for his best friend probably jeapordized the relationship more. Anyhow, that's my opinion. Do what you want though. :] Good luck.

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Here's my story though it's kind of embarressing... For about 2-3 years now, I have had this clear slime come out my yeah, and I don't think it's normal, but is it somthing I need to REALLY WORRY ABOUT? I mean is it normal... It's like I am constantly wet (though I am still a Virgin and I haven't been there yet) and I hate it...so I wear baby powder down there to keep it from smelling just in case it does... any advice.....

lol. It's called discharge. At about that age... I'm sure every girl gets it. You don't have to worry about it... it's just one of those weird bodily things. =P And if it gets to be too much, wear a panty liner or something.

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My boyfriend and I haven't been going out for that long. When we're kissing and really into it, he tries to finger me and I really am not ready for that right now. How do I explain/tell him I very much enjoy kissing him, but I don't want things to go too far just yet?

Tell him exactly how you feel. He's never gonna know unless you tell him. Tell him that you're not ready because obviously you're not. And that you love kissing him but you'd like to keep it how it is until you're ready. If he really loves you, he'll respect and understand how you feel. Good luck, sweetie.

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Ok, I'm 14 and im a girl. I like this guy named Alex B. (i dunt wanna give out his last name). I have liked him ever since school started last week. We used to go to different school but we are now going to our freshman campus together. I really like him but do not know how to tell him that i do. I think he likes someone else, but i am not sure.

Well, become friends with him first... see how he acts around you too. If you really like him... I think you should just tell him. That's the only thing to do right? Plus, you never know unless you try. If he doesn't feel the same... still be friends with him. I'm sure everything will work out.

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okay so there is this boy that ive liked for a long time... but yea c hes a mayjor playa and everytime i hook up wit him or w/e he always plays me over but his charm is sooo good and cute that i fall for him no matter wut! how can i just forget about him! and erase him from my life cuz i knoe that the next time i talk to him hes gonna b all flirty and touchy feely to me and then i'll fall for him all over again. please help me get over him.

Yeah. Guys will be guys. Think of the charm as a trap sweetie. Everytime he's all flirty or touchy just think that it's going to get you no where except stepped and played on. So, to forget about him... date other guys, meet new people, stay away from him! Anyway, good luck hun. :]

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there is this guy I know his name will be Fred okay so I sorta like Fred but today I was talking to him and he kept telling me how he wanted to go all the way with me but I have been telling him that Im not ready for that and the farthest I will go with him is making out but he won't leave it alone help me please

If he's not leaving it alone, he's not respecting you. He's not worth your time if he keeps doing that. Basically what he wants to do is take advantage of you. Find a guy that IS worth your time and that will respect you. Trust me. :] Good luck.

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im a cutter. i have scars all up and down my arm. only 2 people know about it. but every time i see my boyfriend i have to cover it up, and make sum sort of excuse. i HATE lying to him! i feel like i should tell him, but i dont want him to think im crazy and dump me! but like.. i cant stop cutting. its always been my way of calming myself down...

First... I think you should seek professional help with the problem you have. Not trying to be critical or mean at all. But a person that does self-mutalation for a way of self-assurance is dangerous. It's a redundant way to "calm yourself down." Maybe try writing or drawing. Find a SAFE way to express your feelings when you're down or what not. Anyway... with the boyfriend thing. I think you should tell him. Any realtionship is based on trust. If he loves you, he should be there for you and be concerned; not dump you! Hope all goes well, sweetie. :]

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My group of friends theres 3 of us and well my one friend (Alyssa) hangs out with both me and my other friend (Chanel).

Alyssa always talks about how she doesnt like Chanel, about shes boring and stuff to me but yet she always invites her over to her house (more than I have ever gone there and they have sleepovers together more than she ever has done with me.)

I don't even think Chanel likes me because she never talks to me always trys to keep Alyssa away from me by trying to convice her about things and never invites me over to her house, etc.

My problem is I don't think Alyssa is telling the truth about how she doesn't like Chanel and how do I confront her about it? And how can I know for sure if Chanel even likes me at all?

(I asked a simular question yestuday and got some great answers and I hope I get even more)

Thanks

And once again... confrontation. I hate confronting people, but I think you should just be like "Alyssa... if you say you don't like Chanel, then why do you always invite her to your house all the time? I'm just wondering." It's a straight forward question. Easy as that. And to find out if Chanel even likes you at all... ask Alyssa if she ever says anything about you. But I think the best way would be to hear it from Chanel herself. Whenever you DO get to talk to her confront her with.. "Not trying to be rude, Chanel, but it just seems that you don't like me much. Do you?" Anyway, hope I helped. Good luck :]

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okay im not fator anything..im only 105 BUT like my stomach is so weird looking like its thin and tight then like rigt under my belly button theres this huge buldge..i hate it..how do i get rid of this? cuz like it looks so nasty its like all skinny then BAM this buldge/roll thing under my belly button..HELP!

Situps and crunches will work, but first try running or swimming. Something active to burn that "fat" you have there. Then, try to motivate yourself to do some crunches and situps everynight or every other night. Have fun :]

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hi,
i recently figured out that my papa(uncle) has cancer and i am extremely close to him i live with him, and he was supposed to be fine until he had surgey and they found cancer in his liver stomach esophagus. and i just can't seem to get over it and i feel HORRIBLE i havent gone to school in 2 weeks(my parents dont know) and i act like im leaving for school they go to work and i just go back inside. Well What Should i do (hes gonna die anytime) sign,
ihatecancer01

Awwh. First, I'm extremely sorry that happend to you. There really isn't much you can do but hope for the best and live on with life. I'm sure your uncle would want you to be happy [now or later]. I know this is a hard time for you, but you need to tell your parents that you're mourning really bad about this. Tell them how you feel. Maybe they can help. Hope everything goes well. :]

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Can too many fruits a day be bad for you. I am always finding myself picking up an orange and eating it as a snack. I end up eating about twice as many as ur supposed to. lyk 8-10 a day.

I wouldn't say it's bad for you. I actually think that's really healthy. Fruits = good. :]

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what should you do when you are feeling pressured into sex when your not readi?

If it's a guy... confront him and tell him that you're not ready. If he really likes you, he would respect you. Dump him, if he doesn't. If it's friends that are pressuring you... don't listen to them. Do want YOU want to do. Sex is a big thing. You shouldn't have to feel pressured into it. Tell whoever that person is; that you're simply not ready. Good luck :]

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Im a wild girl, but when it comes to makin the 'first moves' i get kinda shy. My boyfriend isnt that experienced so he's not really into making the first move either. So heres the problem: How can we get stuff one if were both like that bc its not like i dont want to make the first move its just more so that i dont want to get rejected or anything. Like im sure that he wouldnt or anything but still. Plus i HATE it when girls throw themselves on guys and that is how i would feel if i did that. So i guess that i just dont want to come off as that kinda person. Please give me advice!

Hmm... start off by holding hands. Flirt a lot. He's your boyfriend, you should be comfortable with him. So, don't be shy. Just simply kiss him. Ya'll will like it, I'm sure. lol. And he's your boyfriend; you can kiss your own boyfriend without feeling you are "throwing yourself" all over him. It's okay, you can dooo itttt!!!! :D Good luck, babe.

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is it okay for a girl to ask a guy out?

Definately. Why wouldn't it be? :]

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