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I'm 16 years old and I'm a Christian. I love to give advice and help people. I'm definitely not perfect and sometimes i need advice as well. I'm a Cheerleader at my high school and my boyfriend and I have been together for over a year. He recently graduated and moved to Florida :-(. Well, that's a little bit of info about me! Feel free to ask me any questions!

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my hair gets kinda thick when it air drys and also when i blow dry my hair after i take a shower.. so last night when i scrunched my hair and let it air dry, it didnt come out as scrunchy and it was kinda poofy.. what can i do so it doesnt come out as poofy?

ps. i use gel also

I have really thick hair and I know what you mean about it coming out poofy! It's a pain! So scrunch my hair I use just a regular mousse. Apply it evenly to all your hair(roots too!) right after you get out of the shower. Clip it up until it starts to dry a little, then take it down and run your fingers through it a little bit (but not too much!). That's always the hard part for me, I end up playing with it too much and it messes up. If you cant stop yourself from doing that then just put it pack up in a clip until just before you leave. Hope this helps!

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OK so on wednesday i start highschool. In my geometry there r 4 other freshman(2 best friends, and a set of twins) nd the rest r all snobby sophomores. This means that sometimes, i will have sophomore-junior lunch. Im really nervous about that, cus i dont know who i will sit with. I can just picture myself walking in the cafeteria, with no one to eat my lunch with. What should i do? I cant switch out of my geometry class, and im really sensitive, so i wood be totally bummed. Pleeees help me !!!

Try to get to know the sophomores in your geo. class. In class ask them if they would mind if you sat with them at lunch for a few days because you don't really know anyone who's in that lunch. Just try to make new friends. Not all sophomores are going to be snobby :-P. Or see what the other freshmen are doing at lunch and see if you cant join them. Good luck! hope i helped!

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umm this will sound stupid but how do you apply eye liner on the top part i know know to do the bottom put not the top please help

Well, it does take practice. What I do is close my eye about half way(or whatever is comfrotable for you) and use one hand to tug my eyelid taught from the outside corner. Then start from the outside and carefully draw a thin(or thick) like to the very inside. Try to stay as close as possible to your eyelashes, its even okay to draw on them. When you get towards the inside of your eyelid it gets tricky, you don't want to spend too much time doing the inside, just a quick once-over. If your eyes are set apart, try applying it thicker on the inside to pull them together. or if they are closer together apply it thicker on the outside to draw them out just a little. Make sure you put eyeliner on AFTER you put on eyeshaddow or whatever else. Hope this helps!

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what does pms or pmt stand 4 and what does it mean i will rate 5s to anyone that answers

PMS means PreMenstralSymdrome. This is usually the week before a girl starts her peroid and may become very moody :) I'm not sure what PMT means. I've never heard of that before. Maybe it's PreMenstralTemper?

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okay well my boyfriend and i just like started dating or whtever.And like when he asked me out and everything i really really liked him.. well after like a couple of days i kinda had a weird feeling and like i didnt really like him anymore.. so i asked a couple of people what they thought about us and like if i should break up with him, cuz like i was ignoring his calls and i really didnt want to talk to him.. well like after a while i was gonna tell him that i just wanted us to be friends.. and so i waited for his call, and waited and waited.. well he never ever called and like i tried calling but no one answered.. well like now i realy do like him i guess i was just scared i would get hurt so i was pushing him away..well i duont know whats wrong, i dont know if hes mad at me and like he hasnt called in like 3 weeks and theres no other way i could talk to him.. so what should i do and is he mad at me... i am soo sooo confused.. please help me i really like him... and i dont want to lose him and he wont answer his phone so i dunno.. thnks soo soo srry for the length.. **hearts**

Well if he hasnt called in three weeks and you havent been able to get a hold of him, I would say he's not mad at you. Try getting a hold of his friends and asking them about him and what he's been up to. I don't know how else you would try talking to him, and if you don't then I wouldn't worry too much about it. If he hasn't taken the time to call you and talk to you then I would say it's his loss and you should find someone else. I don't know what to tell you accept boys are dumb! lol, I hope things get better!

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lately i have just been so tired with the way i do my make-up for my eyes. everyone says i have gorgeous eyes, but i would like to bring them out more with new and better make-up. i usually just wear black eyeliner, black mascara, and a little eyeshadow. by the end of the day it looks as though i'm not wearing any make-up at all. so what i'm asking is, what kinds of eyeliner would really bring out my eyes? here is a picture of my eyes. yea they look green, but it's just because of the lighting. they are actually a light blue. thanks again and the link for the picture is down there.

http://img198.imageshack.us/img198/4048/botheyes21dp.png

-Applying a small amount of foundation to your eyelids helps to keep your make-up in place longer.
-With lighter eyes you might not want to wear black. Try to stay with the brown tones.
-Instead of eyeliner try applying a dark brown shadow with a thin brush.
-To open your eyes smudge on a lighter creme color just below your eyebrows and on your lower lid.

*you have beautiful eyes!

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hey anyone with aby ideason how to arrange my locker.i rate

If you've got a smaller locker then I would suggest arranging things by size. If you've got binders and school books put those on the bottom and small things like pencil bags and calculators on top. Maybe even get one of those cool pencil holders that you can stick to the inside of the door so pens and pendils are always accessible. If it's a larger locker with a shelf on top arrange your books just like a smaller locker on the top shelf. That leaves you room on the bottom for a coat or gym bag or an extra change of shoes!

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Okay i'm 15 f and I have been going out with this guy (braiden 15m) on and off for about 3 years, and i really like him alot, but recently school started and there were alot of my old friends and peers that got really hot, and last night i was talking to one(kile 14m) on the phone and we were talking about our days and he was like i only saw like 3 hot chicks and i was like one is me cause i'm soo damn cute and he was like well yeah... and i was like Braiden is your bestfriend and he was like well the rest of his friends LIKE you too and i was like wtf do you mean and he was like nevermind... and I'm really confused because i really like braiden, but I also kinda like kile and i dont know what to do... Sorry so long, i rate high...

You should probably stay with Braiden. If you really do like him then you shouldn't be worrying about his friend liking you. If you did hook up with Kile then that might cause some problems between you and Braiden and if you've been dating on and off for 3 years then im assuming you'd want to still be friends with him even if things never did work out between you two. If I were you I wouldn't do anything about his friends. I would do my best to ignore it and let that blow over. hope things work out!

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For along time now I have had scary thoughts. Thoughts that someone is going to kill me in my sleep. I always have thoughts of my sister or family member doing this. I also have thoughts of killing myself, I even go through the cabinets and pour some pills into ziploc bags and hide them in my room just in case I feel the need to overdose. Sometimes I get in crazy moods and can't control them and I am afraid I am going to do something I know I normally wouldn't do. I am like a different person when I am depressed and in a different mood. It's like I have a split personality or something. I don't know what is wrong with me, and I have this urge to always pull my eyebrows out. It feels so good to feel the hair slip from my skin. I get into a trance and can't stop pulling, afterwards I feel so guilty but while I am doing i its all I am focused on. Each hair I feel represents a problem in my life. And when they come out it feels for a moment I am free of worries. Is it strange to feel this way, to love to feel pain?

I think maybe you should talk to someone about this. It doesn't sound like this is something that will just go away. I would suggest talking to a school guidance counselor or your parents or a very close friend. Maybe keeping a journal of your thoughts and the things that you do when you're in a different mood. Get rid of the pills in the ziploc bags and tell someone if you feel like killing yourself. Call up a friend just to talk (not about what you're thinking of doing if you dont want to) just to keep your mind off it and distract yourself. I don't know what else to say, but I hope you find and answer you're looking for.

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I could probably answer my own advice, but I want someone else's opinion.It started 3 years ago when I was 16. After my boyfriend and I broke up I started downing myself alot. I felt I let the situation go out of control and I had always since my childhood let others get the best of me and control me, I think around the time my boyfriend and I broke up I developed my eating disorder. I have also had other problems like with cutting, trichillomania, anxiety, and depression. I am like a VERY nervous person and it's hard to control my moods and all. Everyday is a struggle to be perfect sometimes i just wish i could cure this disorder and move on and know that being thin isnt everything, but when I see someone thinner than me or someone on tv I am triggered and feel so bad whenever I do eat. I will literally starve for 5 days, then binge the next two days and then starve again then binge and purge and the cycle continues. My question is I feel worthless and like I have lost all hope on getting better, my boyfriend that I broke up with 3 years ago well we are back together and he knows about me being bulimic and anorexic, he yells at me because he hates that I do that to myself and he has even said 'you either choose me or the disorder.' he doesnt understand, i love him so much and i would do anything for him but i cant stop doing this too myself, it is so much in my head to stop. He always says Im too skinny but never really tried to help me, sometimes he even makes negative comments to me even when he knows that makes it worse. What can I say to make him understand? Its so awkward that he knows my biggest secret.

Maybe the next time he says something to you about your disorders say back to him that you dont need his comments on what you're going through.. you just need his support to get better. Tell him how you feel about the things that he says because if you don't tell him, then he'll never know. I also think you need to keep in mind that NO ONE is perfect. Everyone has their own flaws and insecurities. When you hang out with people, watch how they act and try to find out what they're insecure about( don't say anything out loud though! lol). That might make you realize that you dont need to feel guilty about not feeling perfect. Be confident with what god has given you because you cant change who you are. I really hope things get better for you! :-*

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ok well its been like to weeks sense ive had ex an we didnt use a condum an im afraid that im pregnnet im not going to get a pregnecie test because i have reasons why, but i know the syptoms but , could you not know your pregnat for like 3 weeks i mean when i go to the bath room i have white stuff on my underware an idk my friend told me thats because im pregnat an idk i just need help .. i know i shouldnt have had sex im a really goodi girl so dont judge my parents are into polotics , an if they found out that i was they would shio me off to bording school or somthing even worse so please help me??

Wait. Thats all you can do. The white stuff is normal, even if you're not pregnant. Maybe take a trip to PlannedParenthood and talk to them about your options if you are pregnant. I think it would be wise to take a pregnancy test. Yes, you could be pregnant and not know it for 3 weeks. Go with a friend who has a car, or a friend and her older sibling or something. Tell your parents you're going to stay the night at your friends house and take a trip to a clinic or drugstore to pick up a test (and condoms if you need them). Good luck! I know how scary this can be! And other girls go through things like this so you're DEF. not alone!

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My best friend N and me went out. we were mad about each other. we would chill all the time, and just talk about things. Well I loved him and he loved me but than i started hanging out with B my neighbor and I fell for him. than i didnt like him but me and n had broke up already. He doesnt want to date me cuz it will mess up our friendship were still super close. I want him back sooo bad. How should I go after him or should I give up on him?
Sorry this was long. Please answer seriously

I dont think you should chase after him, but I dont think you should give up on him. Dont worry about whether you're actually "boyfriend/girlfriend". I personally dont think that matters in a relationship. Keep talking to him and stay close friends. Work on the relationship, not the title. Just see where things end up. If you're ment to date, then you will.

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ok.. here we go.. I am totally in LOVE with my ex boyfriend.. the only reason we broke up is because he went back home (to minnasota from newjersey) he's comming back durring the winter varation. I miss him so much! but i like this other guy who's about to ask me out.. but the thing is idk if i'm ready to stop thinking about my ex right now. but i don't wanna ruin my chances with this new guys.. wat do i do? PLEASE help!

I think you should call it quits on boys right now. When things get complicated and you try to do something about it to make things better, it usually makes even more drama and nothing ends up working out. Stay friends with both of them and just see where you end up later on.

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Okay, what are some turn ons for girls?
WHat does a girl look for in a guy?
what do they like in a conversation??

thanks lots!
I rate high!

WHO CARES! be yourself! if you're doing what everyone else says, you'll never know if a girl really likes you or not. Relax and be yourself. (ask her questions about herself ;)

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Okay..skool starts on monday and im freakin out..im about to go into highskool and i only know my 1 of my friends that are going to the same skool..and we have 3 classes together plus lunch..okay..my question is..how can i talk to more people?! i dont wanna be the little quiet shy girl..i mean..im really crazy if you get the chance to get to know me..(seriously..) but when i meet knew people my face gets red and i don't really know how to start up a conversation actually..its just that like..i dont like talkin to people i don't know. gahh its soo bad..anndd pleassee!! dont tell me to be more outgoing becuz i am..well mayb not the first day of skool..but..can yall give me sum advice?? tell me what i need to do to start talkin to people..and how to be like..the class clown and stuff in class! PLEASE I`LL RATE HIGH FOR GOOD ANSWERS!!

DONT WORRY SO MUCH! relax when you get into class and don't know anyone. There are probably other kids there who are in the same situation as you. Getting into highschool is all about meeting new people and making new friends. If you're an outgoing person but shy at first, it may take a few classes for you to get comfortable enough to let yourself shine through but be patient. Take risks! Maybe other people in ur class are waiting for someone else to talk first, and if you do that everyone else might open up and you'll meet all kinds of new people. I really dont think you'll have a problem in this area. Hope I helped!

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hey..i was just wondering i know dislexia is like a disorder with numbers b/c my mom has it, but i was wondering whenever i see llike a phone number or something and i try to say the numbers out loud they come out all out off order. like they are the same numbers but in a different order, even whem im like looking right at it. is that any form of dislexia? thanks for your help!!
*~jemmy~*

that may be a form of dislexia, you may want to get it checked by a professional

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Today I was standing in a grassy area when my friend ran at me and knocked me over. I hit the back of my head very hard on the ground and my whole head started aching. I had to lie on the ground for about ten minutes because I couldn't get up. My friend walked me home to make sure I was okay and I felt better. Now I have started to feel sick, my head hurts a lot and I feel very weak and tired. I have had concussion before but my vision was distorted and I actually threw up that time. Is this just normal because I knocked my head or have I got concussion or something?

Just tell your parents about what happened and how you've been feeling since you hit your head. Maybe they can tell you if you have a concussion or not. If you still feel like this after a while maybe you should consider going to the hospital just to get checked out. hope I helped -Stefiny

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Theres this guy that I have been friends with forever and he has always liked me. The other night we were in his room and we kissed but it was just a peck. I didn't even like him and now after that I am starting to like him. Theres only one problem. He's a really mature and great guy and hes my type exactly and I think he'd make a terrific boyfriend except for my mom thinks hes too young for me. I'm 14 and he's 12. I promise you, I think he's more mature than me, hes definatly more experienced he already lost his virginity. I'd have to keep this relationship from my parents. I really want to date him because personality wise, he's great. Looks wise, he needs to have a growth spurt. He will soon. Should I wait a few years till he does? And then my parents might let me, or should I sneak it and date him now and take the risk of humiliation? I really am liking him and I don't want to wait! But I think it might be best...I need opinions!

I think what you need to do is sit back from this situation and look at it in a wider perspective. If you and this boy have been good friends forever then maybe you should consider jut staying that way. There's nothing wrong with just being friend with him and it would probaly be better that way. If he's only 12 and already lost his virginity, maybe you should think about the pressure that might bring on you. In a relationship it shouldnt matter who is more experienced than who. I think that its wonderful that you are into this guy for his personality, but if the odds are against you guys and you would have to sneak around to date him, maybe you should wait till you're both a little older. Maybe wait until you're both in highschool when the age difference isnt really a big deal. If you guys are really as good of friends as you let on then he will still be there for you in the years to come so don't worry about missing your chance. I hope I helped!
-Stefiny

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When does the "cycle" usually become regular?!?! Mine keeps coming at random times and now, it's not coming at all! The last time I got it was February 24???

usually between and year and a year and a half it will start to come regular. You just have to deal with it being unexpected for a while. there's not really anything you can do about it. You could go on birth control to make your cycle regular but you should wait at least a year until your body has time to do its own thing. There's not really much you can do about it! sorry -stefiny

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