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okay well my boyfriend and i just like started dating or whtever.And like when he asked me out and everything i really really liked him.. well after like a couple of days i kinda had a weird feeling and like i didnt really like him anymore.. so i asked a couple of people what they thought about us and like if i should break up with him, cuz like i was ignoring his calls and i really didnt want to talk to him.. well like after a while i was gonna tell him that i just wanted us to be friends.. and so i waited for his call, and waited and waited.. well he never ever called and like i tried calling but no one answered.. well like now i realy do like him i guess i was just scared i would get hurt so i was pushing him away..well i duont know whats wrong, i dont know if hes mad at me and like he hasnt called in like 3 weeks and theres no other way i could talk to him.. so what should i do and is he mad at me... i am soo sooo confused.. please help me i really like him... and i dont want to lose him and he wont answer his phone so i dunno.. thnks soo soo srry for the length.. **hearts**
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well chances are he is mad at you because he finally got the hint that you didnt like him and no he doesn't want to talk to you because he feels hurt. if you do really like him again try sending him a nice card in the mail or something.or see if somehow you can go to his house and talk to him and maybe spend a special night with him and go out to dinner or something
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You don't like him. Sorry to be so blunt. I've been in that situation a few times though, and I can say with some certainy that you don't like him. If you still did, you wouldn't have doubted it after only a couple days. Hell, it's pretty bad to feel that way after a couple weeks.
You need to talk to him though, don't take my word for it (haha, reading rainbow). See for yourself if you still like him. If you can't see him, call him. Talk for a little while about nothing in particular. You should sort out your feelings before anything else. Then decide to break up or stay together. If he is not calling you because he does not like you anymore, there isn't a whole lot you can do. :-/
Three weeks? That sounds like a breakup, m'dear. :(
<3Deanna
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I see that your boyfriend may not be taking your calls because he may be confused or is just scared to continue the relationship but not because he doesn't like you.What you need to do is find out where he lives so you could talk to him tell yuor boyfriend why hasn't he called,that it worried you a lot.What you could do is ask like a friend of his or look through the yellow pages near your area.It is totally understandable that you felt like you didn't like him that happens to some people.You must show him you really care about him by being there when he needs you to be there,if you too don't argue it is even better,you must always support him,always help him out if he ever has any problem,tell him that he could trust you in anything he has on his mind,and you need to spend as much time with him as possible so he won't feel you're distant from him.Try not to worry he must have a good reason why don't feel guilty about anything it is good that you speak out your feelings so you won't really get depressed.If you need any other advice ask me and I will answer as soon as possible.
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I think you were probably "infatuated" with him. Puppy-love. Superficial. Surface only. Now, now, don't get angry with anyone, you are not alone in this. Hundreds of teens are going through the same thing. They meet the boy. Boy is cute. Boy is smart. Boy is funny. Boy asks girl out. Girl says yes. Boy and Girl go out for a while. Girl realizes she doesn't like Boy that much after all. Girl is afraid to annul the relationship because it might hurt Boy. Boy has no idea what is going on. Girl is afraid, thus she isolates herself from her friends and family - including Boy. Boy is afraid he did something to make Girl mad, so he doesn't call. Girl wants to call of the relationship. Girl calls Boy. Boy is now angry and frightened, so he does not return Girl's phone calls. Girl leaves messages on Boy's cell phone. Boy decides to call Girl back. Girl explains that she wants to take a "break." ... blah blah blah. You know the rest. Hundreds of kids (teens) go through this every day. They think the person they met is the best person EVER, like the Santa Clause of teenagers! If that's what happened, you're in good company.
I would suggest calling his cell and leaving a message, or calling his house and leaving a message. Sound happy, polite, ask that he call you back. If he doesn't call, 'shop around' with your friends and try and find his SN or E-mail address. You've got to get in touch with him somehow. If you can't find anything, look for him at school (if y'all go to the same school). If you can't get in touch with him, keep calling his house/cell (like.. twice or three times a week) and ask that he call you back each time. When you do get in touch with him, apologize for not talking to him etc. and tell him that you'd like to :
1. Take a 'break'
2. Break up with him
3. Be "friends"
I just don't think it's a great idea for you two to be together if you don't like him that much, you know. Sorry if I didn't help much. :-
-FunnyCide
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Do any of your friends or anyone you know have a way of getting in contact with him? Are any of your friends mutual friends of his? If you two have any mutual friends maybe you could try calling them and ask them to call him and see what's up. If you know any of his good friends, you could try to get in contact with them and ask them to figure out what's going on. Are you calling his cellphone or his house phone by the way? Have you tried leaving a message? It doesn't have to be anything long... If it's his house just say Hey [insert boyfriend's name here] It's me [insert your name here]. I just wanted to catch up since I haven't talked to you in a while, so why don't you call me back. And then leave your number. Or if it's his cell you can say all of that and sort of apologize for not calling and stuff like that. But you haven't talked to him in 3 weeks? Wowie, that really doesn't sound all that good. But you really need to try hard to get in contact with him. Because if you don't get in contact with him soon, it seems like this could be the end of your relationship.
I wish you luck!
-Emily
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well, are you sure you like him? because you know the saying "you only want something you cant have" maybe you only think you like him because you tried calling him but he wont call you back. and hes probably hurt that you never called so that might be why he hasnt called. i'd say talk to one of his friends if you can or get one of your friends to talk to him. see whats up with him. and if you cant do that, keep calling because you guys really do need to talk. tell him you're sorry and you just went through a really weird phase and you never meant to hurt him if you did. it also could be true that you were pushing him away, but you never know what might happen unless you're willing to try. hope i helped. and if you need anything just ask. i'd be happy to help.
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Well if he hasnt called in three weeks and you havent been able to get a hold of him, I would say he's not mad at you. Try getting a hold of his friends and asking them about him and what he's been up to. I don't know how else you would try talking to him, and if you don't then I wouldn't worry too much about it. If he hasn't taken the time to call you and talk to you then I would say it's his loss and you should find someone else. I don't know what to tell you accept boys are dumb! lol, I hope things get better!
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