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I have these bras and they are/were white. I've had them for almost a year and in the beginning i never really took the time or care to wash properly.
I don't want to put them in the washer because right now they are some of my favs and i'd rather not ruin them.
They're a little cream/yellow/white. I mean there are white parts but parts aren't totally white as well. I bleached them in some water and soaked for about 5 hours...but they stil look the same.
What can i do? Do i put them in a pot and boil with bleach or something? (link)
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I found this information on the How To website. I hope it helps. I also have used lemons or vinegar to whiten and brighten clothes and it really does work. Let me know how it turns out.
Step1Lemons are a natural way to whiten clothing and linens. Let your clothes soak in a sink basin with hot water and lots of lemon slices for an hour or two then launder as usual. Another option for more dingy clothing is to boil water, turn off the heat and add the clothes in a large pot with lemons. Then, let them soak overnight. You will not only get your garments white they will smell lemony fresh as well.
Step2Dishwasher detergent is another great whitener for your laundry. Add about ¼ cup dishwasher detergent to your whites and wash them in warm water with your regular detergent. The whitening agent from the dishwasher soap will work its magic and you will have clean, bright whites as a result.
Step3White vinegar is another whitening alternative. Pour ½ to 1 cup of white vinegar in your white clothes along with your detergent. The vinegar will not only whiten your clothes, it will help clean out any residue from other detergents or soaps, and it also aids in softening your fabrics. You may get a faint smell when you open your washer, but after you dry your clothes, any trace of vinegar odor will be gone.
Step4One more idea that was used quite often before the invention of the washing machine and chemical cleaners is old-fashioned sunshine. While this method may not be as powerful as other whitening methods, it was used quite often by pioneers and early settlers. Sunlight helps brighten whites and keep them smelling fresh.
Tips & Warnings
Treat any stains or flaws on your clothing before you put it in the washer. If you tackle the stain ahead of time, then the whitening agents can do their job, and you will get better results.
If you don’t have fresh lemons, you can use lemon juice as a substitute.
Only use white vinegar for laundry because the other vinegar formulas are not clear and may turn your clothes yellow.
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Okay, so someone i know has an Tooth abscess/ wisdom tooth and it hurts like hell. he's had it for like 1 month now and painkillers just arent working well. He was told that he now has to wait another 12 months to get it fixed, due to some waiting list(which is stupidddd). Is there ANY way he can get rid of the pain? Im worried he's going to end up overdosing, and the doctors/hospital said theres nothin they can do for 12 months, except give him painkillers. Any suggestions?? (link)
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Depending on where you live, there should be an emergency number to contact to get in to see a dentist for an emergency. Call your local health care center for the number. I have 2 of my boys (grown men) who were in the same situation and both worked out of town. When they came home, they called the emergency number and got in within 2 hours. They had to take antibiotics for a week first to get rid of the infection, then the following week they had their tooth removed. This abcess needs to be treated with antibiotics right away. If you don't have such a number to call go back either to the hospital emergency or walk in clinics and demand treatment. This infection could get much worst. I am not saying to be bold or anything, but politely demand to be treated for the abcess with antibiotics.I hope this helps. Good luck!
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last year I was on birth control and I was...insane...then I went off of it and I became sane again...now I am pregnant and back to insane...
I have been really hasseling my husband about thinking he is cheating on me even though there is no evidence. Tonight he got sick of it and he's mad at me. He is so good to me and I don't know how to stop from accusing him. I know he isn't doing it so why do I keep bringing it up?
Has this happened to anyone who has been prego or even just on birth control? I would like to hear if you have any suggestions to get through it. I am due in one and a half months so I just need to get through it for that long. Help me keep my family together please! (link)
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Boy, do you ever have your title right HORMONES. They can make you feel like you're going crazy, but relax, you're not crazy. Right now, you are going through the insecure period of pregnancy. You have gained weight and you believe you are no longer attractive to your man. Right? This is so normal. If you are positive he is not cheating on you, you really have to give him your confidence. Keep telling your hormones to get lost and trust your boyfriend. Tell him how you feel, it is very important for him to know where you're coming from. Take deep, long breaths in through the nose and out through the mouth if you think you are about to say something to him that will harm your relationship. Pregnancy should be a good time
in your life but you're insecurities have taken over. Take back your life and enjoy your pregnancy. Go for nice long walks with your boyfriend. This will help in the delivery of the baby. Cuddle together every chance you get. The heat from his body will relax yours. Talk about the things you both enjoy. Talk about the baby and start making plans for his welcoming home.
When you do feel insecure, tell yourself it's not him but you're hormones talking. Listen to upbeat music that makes you want to dance. DON'T listen to sad music that sing about heartache and breakups, this will only get you down even more.
Hang in there girl, it will soon pass. You will have your beautiful little baby in your arms and your hormones should go back to normal. However, after the childbirth (after about 6 months) if you still feel this way, talk to your family doctor. He will take blood tests and check your hormone levels for you. If they are still out of wack, he'll help you with that. Congratulations and good luck to both of you.
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ok so im having difficulty finding my bra size. My measurments are (in inches, measured using a tape measure):
Frame Size (under breasts) = 28
Around Chest (around breasts) = 32 or 33
According to my measurments, some websites say im a b, some say im a c, some say d. so im really confused. ive been wearing a 34 b for years, and havnt measured till now. Can anyone help? Thanks!
(im 15 years old, btw, if it helps) (link)
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I am taking the follwing information directly from the Sears catalogue. They have precise information on how to measure for proper bra sizes. Also, if you have a Sears store in your area, they measure you properly for bras free of charge. Here is their info:
Band Size:
Measure around the ribe cage, underneath the bust. Take the measurement to the next largest inch if it falls between whole inches.
Add 4 inches to this measurement if it is an even number:
Add 5 inches to this measurement if it is an odd number:
Example: Your measurement is 31(uneven number) so add 5 which gives you 36.
Example: Your measurment is is 32 (even number) so add 4 which gives you 36.
Cup size:
Wearing your best fitting bra, measure around the fullest part of your bust.
Calculate your Cup size by subtracting the Band size from the bust measurement. The difference in inches will determine the Cup size. Refer to Bra sizing chart for proper cup size (bra sizing chart coming up)
Example: If your bust size is 39 inches substract your band size - 36 = 3 so 39 - 36 = 3
Bra sizing chart:
Cup size Differences in inches
AA 0
A 1
B 2
C 3
D 4
DD 5
F(DDD) 6
G 7
H 8
I 9
I hope this answers your questions. Good Luck and go have your measurement taking at Sears store if you have one in your area. I took my measurements at home using this guide then went to get measured at Sears and this guide was dead on. We had come up with the same bra size.
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So, I live in NY and I have an interview for a summer job soon. I have NEVER been on any kind of interview, and I am SOOO the nervous type. What should i be prepared for? What are the do's and dont's? All kinds of tips are appreciated! And if it helps, the job I'm applying to is for a summer camp daycare type thing for toddlers. Thanks in advance!
Flirty :] (link)
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As they say you can't take back a first impression. This being said, I find it important to dress proper for an interview. This lets the interviewer know that you have taken the time to dress well and appear nice and fresh. Do your makeup with light shades and donn't overdo the mascara. If you have long hair, try styling it up and out of your face.
Next, since you are applying for a job in a summer camp working with toddlers, go on the internet and do research on this age group.Your interviewer is likely going to ask you questions about toddlers and it would be best for you to know some information on toddler behaviour. Your interviewer might very well ask you questions about how will you deal with the parents of these toddlers. Your answer should be that you will remain calm at all times, let the parent talk and reply in a positive and polite manner.
The other person that answered was right about looking the interviewer in the face while they speak with you and while you speak to them. This shows your interest in what they are saying.
Be open and honest about yourself. If you tell them you have taken the time to research toddler behaviour they will be impressed with you.
If I can help you with more tips, let me know and GOOD LUCK. Let me know if you get the job. You go girl!
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so im 15 talking to a "school" counslor for my first time. she comes out for me on fridays and we talk. well i dont know what to say. i mean i requested her for my cutting and family crap and my doing things that i dont know im doing. so what should i do? thank all help is needed! (link)
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If you have a good consellor she should be helping you by guiding the conversation by asking you questions. I think you need to tell her you are uncomfortable with her and don't know what to say to her. Tell her it would be easier for you for now if she started with asking you basic questions about your family life. Your answers to her questions should help guide her to more relevant questions and then she can start building a profile on your life and your problems. She should deal with the most important and serious worries you have first. I know it's very hard to open up to a stranger honey but give it a shot. If after a few visits with her you feel you are going nowhere, then it is your right to ask for another counsellor. They are only human beings too you know and not every first counsellor is right for the person seeking help. If you like, you can talk to me personally and I will try and guide and help you as best I can. Let me know what your counsellor says and how you reply. Together maybe we can come up with a game plan and find you someone who can really help.
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i work with food and i was wondering after working what kind of lotion is good for my hands.? (link)
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Because of all the salmanila poisoning and e-coli poisoning going on right now in the food industry I want to suggest that you often either wash your hands with soap and water often while at work or disinfect your hands often with antibiotic rinses. This way, you are not only protecting yourself from these serious infections but you won't be bringing them home either. Two good lotions I can recommend for your hands once you get home (after you have properly washed your hands with soap) are either Aloe Vera lotion or Oil of Olay lotion. They really hydrate the skin and leaves it feeling nice and soft. I hope this helps you. Let me know if there is anything more I can do for you.
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yes im only really 15 my boyfriend is 15 too and im the one that enjoys it so hard and rough and i know it can cause tearing and other things but is it normal for my vag to be sensitive? (link)
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I am very sorry if I have offended you sweety. this was not my intention. I am myself a mother of five children and grandmother of five grandchildren. I guess the maternal instinct just went into overdrive there. Sorry.
To answer your question honestly, I really believe your vagina will stay sore for a while after sex. May I just suggest that you have an annual pap test to make sure you are healthy down there? It hurts a little bit but it is a vital test for girls and women who are sexually active. Again, please accept my appology. I did not mean to offend you.
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so last week i was having sex with my boyfriend when right after i started to feel really dizzy and light headed with a horrible stomach ache. i had to sit down for a while and drink some water because i couldnt even stand up. that night i was doubled over in pain because my stomach hurt so much and i went to the doctor the next day, got a ultrasound and some tests done because i thought it may have been an ovarian cyst (during the summer i had a ovarian cyst rupture worst pain ive ever had! so i was nervious) but he said nothing was wrong with me. now i dont really trust this doctor because he was in a hurry and the same doctor misdiagnosed me as a tumor inside my mom and put her on anastesia! but anyways, its been a few days and i am still feeling pain in my stomach when i make abrupt movements. i dont know why i am feeling this way if anyone has any idea please let me know! im planning on going back to the doctor too. thank you (link)
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This almost sounds like you are having an appendix attack. You should go to the emergency at your local hospital and tell the doctor on call about these symptoms and ask him if it could be your appendix. Let me know what the doctor says.
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okay so on friday me and my boyfriend had sex kinda it was like only a couple of minutes haha of course we used a condom (YAY safetey) and it was my first time that a guy ever put his penis all the way in. ya it hurt like a bitch but not to much so an hour later when i came home i used the bathroom and i started bleeding like a little bit it wasnt tons of it but you know and iknew it wasnt my period becuase it didnt look like that kind of blood ( i just ended my period the day before though) and im still kind of sore now and its sunday but only when i wipe. just wondering if thats normal.? and i want to do it again on friday like till we finish or he does idk if it will feel good for me or will it hurt still or less? will i bleed again? when will it start to feel good? (link)
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Wow! you do have a lot of questions so let's get to them shall we? First of all, yes it is normal to bleed a bit the first time you have sex. The hymen, a very thin membrane in your vagina has been pierced so it will bleed a little bit. But it should not bleed again the next time you have sex. As to if it will hurt again as much, no it shouldn't. It should feel good the next time you have sex but you have to be in the mood for sex. You should be sexually aroused which makes you wet in the vagina and this normal lubrication will help the motion of your bodies. You should encourage your boyfriend to have foreplay before sex and this should lubricate your body to prepare it for the intercourse. If you are nervous or not ready for sex, don't let any boy force you into doing something you are not ready for. I am proud of you for using protection. You should always use protection and get on the pill if you are going to have sex again. Contact me agian any time if you have more questions.
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im 15/ female
ok this is just a little akward...my boyfriend and i had sex 5 times yesterday and yeah i like it really rough and hard but this morning and today my vag has been really sensitive and sore is this normal? im sure it is but i really don't know.Please help me... (link)
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Are you really 15? Anyway, be very careful about rough sex. Are you the one who wants it this rough? How old is your boyfriend and how well do you know him? Things can escalate really fast and he can really hurt you bad if he looses control. He can do serious damage to your insides and it could cause you all kinds of serious problems in the future. One of these problems is it can cause you not to be able to have babies when you are older and want children. It can also cause you to hemorrhage and you can land in the hospital. I think you might just be in over your head. Contact me personally so we can talk more. Please be careful. What you are doing can be very dangerous.
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This may seem like a dumb question but i am very ugly. how can i become prettier? if i need to add a picture i will. (link)
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What, do you consider ugly sweetheart? There are some things you can do that can help. First, get a haircut and haircolor. This always brightens me up. Ask your hairdresser to recommend a good cut and hair color for the shape of your face and to match your skin tone. Next, go to a place that does makeup and ask them to do your makeup in natural, soft tones. Have them teach you how to apply it correctly and how to choose colors that again, match your skin tone. Next, go to a reputable, modern clothing store and ask them for their help in selecting clothes that fit your new image. Ask their advice on matching shoes and accessories. Take a friend with you so you can have fun together. Bringing a mom along is usually not what you prefer because we moms tend to implant our own styles upon our children. Knowing how old you are would help and what kind of stores and hair salons are in your region would help also because then I could suggest specific stores and salons for you to go to. Good luck and let me know how things go.
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hey this is ammie. i m 19 yrs old.i just have a very odd problem.almost two yrs ago i met a guy.and i kindda fell in love with him but i could not say it to him.he was my teacher actually.and i tried to be as calm as possible.there is no way i can see him and i cant stop missing him.and the grip of his love seems to be strenthenig with the passage of time.tell me what should i do.i hope that u understand my problem.i feel very heartbroken and the idea of spending my whole life without him is just so painful.waiting for your answer (link)
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Hi Ammie: Yeh, you do seem to have a dilemma here. The only thing you can do honey is to face him. You may just have had a crush on him and if you see him now, you might just ask yourself what you saw in him in the first place, You might find that by facing him today your crush has worn off. He may have been a good teacher and probably very cute. So be brave and go see him. Tell him that you had a crush on him and see how he responds. It's the only way you will know for sure what could have been or if it was in fact just a crush. If he is married or seeing someone seriously then forget about him. I feel it is very wrong to break up a relationship. Ask him first if he is married or not or in a serious relationship. If not be honest with him about the feelings you had in the past for him. He will either tell you there is no chance for a relationship with him or...I personally know a woman who fell in love with her guidance councillor and when she graduated she made her feelings known to him and to her surprise, the feeling was mutual. They have been married over 20 years now. They have 16 years between them but they are very happy. So, go for it. What do you have to loose? If you can't get him out of your mind after all this time then you owe it to yourself to find out if there is any possibility of a relationship with him. Do you believe he had some kind feelings for you?
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Ok so i'm pregnant with my first child..and I am 35 weeks pregnant.
My due date is March 12th..as the days get closer I get a little more panicked about the whole thing.
I want to do it the natural way..no epidural..but I'm starting to really freak out about the pain and the unexpected.
I guess what I'm looking for is not really an answer but more like comfort and support from people who have experienced this.
I'm also worried that I won't know when I'm going into labor..i kno everyone says I'll know.
I'm just panicking about everything... (link)
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I had 5 children and I did take the natural way for each of them. If you have a high threshold to pain, then go for the natural way. I have to tell you it really hurts giving birth the natural way. If you have a low threshold to pain, then go for the epidural. Why suffer when you don't have to. Just make sure your doctor explains the risks of epidurals before you get injected. I have daughters-in-law that went with the needle, and everthing worked out well.
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im 13, turning 14 on april 21, weigh about 173.
how do i lose weigh without excersing.
and will it look gross if i do lose weight without the exercising
i want to get skinny before swimsuit season or at least before my class and i go to seaworld in the summer
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Loosing weight and exercising go hand in hand. The reason for the exercise when you put yourself on a diet (which is what you should do) is to build up your muscles as you loose weight. Otherwise, depending on how fast you're loosing, you will get loose skin around your belly, on your thighs, on your arms (anywhere the fat has accumulated).
Go to your doctor and explain to him you want to loose weight and he will either recommend a good diet for you or send you to see a nutritionist to set up a diet right for you.
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How old about should a baby be when his/her parents stop having sex in front of him/her in your opinion? (link)
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You should NEVER have sex in front of child no matter how old that child is. You would not believe how much children notice things. They also can remember stuff from way back in their childhood and come out with it years later.
If you`re having sex in front of your child you need to stop right away.
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im having a party tomorrow.. im not sure if im pregnant lets say theres a good chance.. um if i was i would only be 1 week ha because i had sex last sunday and tomorrows sunday.. is it ok if i drink? i dont even no 100% if i am or not.. but if i was it would only be a week so could that harm it if i did (link)
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You should never drink when you`re pregnant. Remember everthing you eat and drink goes to the baby. You can cause serious damage to way the baby grows inside you if you drink. If you drink all the time while pregnant, your baby will be born with some serious withdrawal symptoms. So don`t take the chance, don`t drink until you are sure you`re not pregnant.
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Ok, so my hair stylist told me I shouldn't use baby shampoo on my kids. She claims that tear-free soaps and shampoos contain Novocaine or something similar.
Now, I'm no fool. I go home, first thing I do is read the ingredients listed on the bottle of shampoo. Nowhere do I find Novocaine, or any other "caine" type of ingredient.
So I tried looking it up online. Someone asked it on Yahoo Answers and said it also contains formaldehyde.
What the...? Come on! Give me a break, already, ok?
I'm not very internet savvy, so that's the best I could come up with. So please don't tell me to Google.
I don't need to have this concern about the soap that goes into the eyes, noses, ears, and sometimes mouths of my children!
Please! Somebody give me a FACT.
Solid Fact.
Links to reliable sources GREATLY APPRECIATED.
Don't worry that you may do looking for nothing- I do rate accordingly.
Thanks for your help...
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I don`t know anything about these ingredients your stylist was talking about. I have 5 grown children of my own and 5 grandchildren which I see on a regular basis.I have always used baby shampoo on my children and we are now using it on the grandchildren. None of them have ever become ill using this product.
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I'm fifteen years old and I had some questions about parenting.
Now before anybody jumps to conclusions:
1) No I am not pregnant
2) I am not thinking about getting pregnant any time soon
I was just wondering, how do you know when you are ready for a baby? Me, personally, I can't wait to get married and start my family...but how do you know?
Mothers out there, I'd really like to hear from you. Did you all of a sudden just know you wanted to have a baby with your husband (or boyfriend, depending)?
And a stupid question, does it hurt? Pregnancy, I mean. I know that you must feel so great after finally having the baby since now there's this person that you've created and it's special and wonderful.
Did you have any worries? Any worrying during like the 8th month that you're just not sure? I'm worried that when I do get pregnant (when I'm ready of course) that at the last minute I'll feel too scared and wonder if I really will be a good parent.
And I know I'm only fifteen, but I really just wanted to know, and to hear from some of you. I am not going to run out and get pregnant just because I want a baby because obviously at fifteen I am nowhere near emotionally/physically ready to bring a child into the world. Just had some hypothetical/theoretical questions that's all. =]
Thanks. (link)
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It`s a bit difficult to answer this question because it is different for every woman. I will tell you how I felt.
I was married for about 1year and a half when both my husband and I decided to start a family.We waited until we were set financially before even considering having a child.
I had been wanting children since I was like 12 years old. But if you want the best for your child, you have to forget about what you want and decide if you`re in a financial position to buy everything a child needs. You have to think ahead to the future to make sure you have enough money not only for food, an apartment, clothing and utilities. Also, I did not make the decision by myself when I got pregnant the first time. It was a mutual decision between my husband and myself. I am so glad I married this man. He was there to care for our children 24 hours a day seven days a week. So, that`s how WE decided to start a family.
I was pregnant 5 times and never had any pain from the pregnancy itself. I felt fine throughout the 9 months. But delivering the babies is a different story. I refused any kind of medication because I did not want my children to receive pain killers through my body.
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i work at a day care and there is a little girl who is five and is special needs and there are also problems at home she always comes to the day care stinking like her parents never give her a bath and she is a huge bully to the other kids she hits them pushes them kicks them throws things at them i just dont know how to handle it any ideas (link)
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This poor child needs help! She is acting out of frustration. The fact that she always shows up stinking makes me very nervous for this is a sign of neglect. You need to speak to your supervisor and have the parents attend a meeting with you and have your supervisor there for a witness.
When the parents do come in, ask them to bring the little girl. This way, you and your supervisor can observe how they treat her in front of you. After the meeting, you have to decide whether or not to call children's age.
Neglect is abuse and should be reported.
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