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talking to a counslor for the first time
so im 15 talking to a "school" counslor for my first time. she comes out for me on fridays and we talk. well i dont know what to say. i mean i requested her for my cutting and family crap and my doing things that i dont know im doing. so what should i do? thank all help is needed!
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The first thing is to decide what a counsellor is!
A counsellor is NOT there to give advice. A counsellor is, in effect, a reflective mirror. The discussion should be about you identifying your issues that cause you to feel bad, then how you fell about it, then what YOU can do about it.
It is not always as simple as it sounds and can often take time.
You may feel that you need to build trust with your counsellor first. All I can say is that counsellors are bound by rules of confidentiality, and only extreme circumstances will let them be broken. At the same time remember that cousellors have to be counselled and general comments that caused issues for the counsellor may be discussed.
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I know how it feels talking to a school nurse for the first time about cutting or family problems. It feels scary at first because you have all these questions going round in youre head like what is she going to think or what is she going to say. But you tell her what you feel comfortable about and its not that scary when you get talking. When you have talked to her you will walk out feeling like a weight has been lifted off your shoulders. Its not that scary believe me x
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You should tell her the truth. Open up to her, and let her know what's going on in your life. Ask her for help when you need it.
You should tell her how you're feeling and why you're feeling that way. Your counselor is there to listen to you, so you should definitely TALK to her about what's on your mind. Talk to her about your cutting, talk to her about your family issues. If you keep all your feelings bottled up inside, one day you're just going to "explode" and feel awful.
Even if you only talk to her some days about seemingly meaningless things, like your algebra test or the way a cute boy smiled at you in the hallways, talking about little things is better than talking about nothing at all :)
-Laura (16-f)
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If you have a good consellor she should be helping you by guiding the conversation by asking you questions. I think you need to tell her you are uncomfortable with her and don't know what to say to her. Tell her it would be easier for you for now if she started with asking you basic questions about your family life. Your answers to her questions should help guide her to more relevant questions and then she can start building a profile on your life and your problems. She should deal with the most important and serious worries you have first. I know it's very hard to open up to a stranger honey but give it a shot. If after a few visits with her you feel you are going nowhere, then it is your right to ask for another counsellor. They are only human beings too you know and not every first counsellor is right for the person seeking help. If you like, you can talk to me personally and I will try and guide and help you as best I can. Let me know what your counsellor says and how you reply. Together maybe we can come up with a game plan and find you someone who can really help.
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Talk about what ever is on your mind. Problems wiht family, personal problems, friends anything that might be on your mind at that moment. Trust me counslors can put stuff together. I talk to one, I just talked for like 1hr and then she put all pieces together and well helped me. Sooo... relax, and don't be afraid to say anything. They are there to help!!! Good Luck!
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