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i'm never happy
I broke up with my crazy boyfriend for a really nice guy. I'm 17, about to be 18. I do school online and got laid off from my job and it seems like i'm never happy. My boyfriend is soo great but he dated my good friend so now her and her best friend hate me and i was good friends with them both so that makes me really upset.
Usually we just hang out in my room and i yell at him about EVERY little thing he does and i can't even help it. IDK what to do! i'm ALWAYS bored even if he's here and i won't even go to his house anymore because i get too bored. I feel so bad because he treats me soooo good and im mean to him a lot and yell at him for everything.
What can i do to be happy? How can i stop being mean to him?
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You need a hobby.
My girl and I do this occasionally. One of us has a really shitty day/week/whatever and we are sharper with the other one.
The trick is stress management and self awareness. You're bored. Why? Find something to do, get out of the house, do something that interests both of you. My girl and I are both homebodies, we watch movies and have friends over and are perfectly happy with only getting out a few times a month.
You probably aren't like that. You need to find ways to entertain yourself, find a hobby, or pick up one of his. Bring some enjoyment into your life and find a way to relax.
Lastly, change what you yell about. My girl and I yell at each other all the time about things not related to each other. I'm a server (fits with school) and I have to deal with some of the true bottom feeders of society who feel that their 20 or 30 bucks for food entitles them to treat me like their own personal boot licker and then leave a five buck tip on a hundred like they're doing me a favor (sorry, had a really crappy shift today)
I came home and unloaded, spent about 20 minutes yelling about every shitty asshole at every shitty table I had while she listened and chimed in a "yeah, I hate that" every few minutes to show she was paying attention.
She did the same, didn't have any better a night than I had. Then we put on a movie and tried to pretend that we don't work shit jobs to barely make ends meet. Stress relief is important.
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Well about the yelling thing, yeah that has to stop before he gets fed up with it.. I would suggest looking deeper into what things is he doing to upset you? Why do they upset you? And what can he do instead of that...
Which brings me to topic number 2: Boredom and replacing it lol. What do you like doing? Maybe you can be the person to make the first move, he's not a mind reader, so let your wants and needs be known :P ... Ask him to go bowling... go wherever you wanna go, do whatever you wanna do... Maybe it can be one week his, one week yours, and so on.
Put yourself in his shoes, how would you like it if he yelled at you for every little thing you did? If you think about it before being mean to him, you'll understand and stop... Also, for the sake of the relationship... If you like/love this guy.. and don't want the relationship to sink... Do it for love. Change :)
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You have to make a subconcious decision to stop yelling at him. If you really don't want to yell at him then you can make yourself stop. It is hard I would know. I use to yell at my husband for EVERYTHING!!!!! No lie. As far as the friend thing, it is high school drama and you need to face them and say guess what I am happy, even though truly you may not be, and say I am sorry it didn't work out between you to but we are great together. I hope you understand, and say that you are really sorry to be losing her as a freind and if she is a true freind she will understand. Open the shades, get dress, do your hair and makeup, clean a little and trust me that right there will make the world of a difference on how your feeling. Good Luck and don't stress to much tends to only make it worse. GOOD LUCK!!
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