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Babies.
I'm fifteen years old and I had some questions about parenting.
Now before anybody jumps to conclusions:
1) No I am not pregnant
2) I am not thinking about getting pregnant any time soon
I was just wondering, how do you know when you are ready for a baby? Me, personally, I can't wait to get married and start my family...but how do you know?
Mothers out there, I'd really like to hear from you. Did you all of a sudden just know you wanted to have a baby with your husband (or boyfriend, depending)?
And a stupid question, does it hurt? Pregnancy, I mean. I know that you must feel so great after finally having the baby since now there's this person that you've created and it's special and wonderful.
Did you have any worries? Any worrying during like the 8th month that you're just not sure? I'm worried that when I do get pregnant (when I'm ready of course) that at the last minute I'll feel too scared and wonder if I really will be a good parent.
And I know I'm only fifteen, but I really just wanted to know, and to hear from some of you. I am not going to run out and get pregnant just because I want a baby because obviously at fifteen I am nowhere near emotionally/physically ready to bring a child into the world. Just had some hypothetical/theoretical questions that's all. =]
Thanks.
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It`s a bit difficult to answer this question because it is different for every woman. I will tell you how I felt.
I was married for about 1year and a half when both my husband and I decided to start a family.We waited until we were set financially before even considering having a child.
I had been wanting children since I was like 12 years old. But if you want the best for your child, you have to forget about what you want and decide if you`re in a financial position to buy everything a child needs. You have to think ahead to the future to make sure you have enough money not only for food, an apartment, clothing and utilities. Also, I did not make the decision by myself when I got pregnant the first time. It was a mutual decision between my husband and myself. I am so glad I married this man. He was there to care for our children 24 hours a day seven days a week. So, that`s how WE decided to start a family.
I was pregnant 5 times and never had any pain from the pregnancy itself. I felt fine throughout the 9 months. But delivering the babies is a different story. I refused any kind of medication because I did not want my children to receive pain killers through my body.
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I knew i was ready for a baby when i was 17. I dont know how or why, i just knew it. I got pregnant and then the morning sickness set in. I was tired all the time, and stressed too. I had so many tests cos doctors said i was wayy too stressed. My morning sickness went away then i got leg cramps. They stayed throughout the whole time. I had heartburn alot, which is cos the baby had lots of hair. I couldnt breath a whole heap during the last month or two cos of my size. I felt huge! I got stretch marks everywhere... I wasnt nervous coming up to the birth at all.. but gee it was painful!!! BUT........, the end result... OMG!! No one could imagine what it feels like to bring a miracle into the world... Nor could anyone explain... Its amazing.
My philosophy was: I didnt know how to raise a baby, but i knew how not to... Now my daughter is 3 and shes so damn smart!!! Im a very proud mum and i'd go through all that pain and uncomfortable months of pregancy to do it all again...
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When are you ready?
I would say, when you are ready to set an example for said baby.
When you can as a family support yourselves in a house/apt/whatever large enough to have kids in.
When you can demonstrate through action how your child should behave. Handling arguments maturely, being a decent person (in public, at least), etc.
I would say, that when you and your husband/wife can provide a stable home for a child, and are ready to provide an example and role model to that child not just of love, but of responsibility and commitment, you are ready.
In my opinion, in the most general terms, that means about 25 and up.
Everyone worries that they will be a good parent. The trick to knowing you will be, is having non emotional logical arguments in your own favor.
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When your married and in love most people
will want to have a baby together. I don't
think you necessarily just get a "The time
is right" feeling. Most people will want
to wait until they have a decent job and
insurance to pay for it all. You don't
have to be rich, rarely will all things be
perfect but you'll have a good idea when
your ready for that responsibility.
Being pregnant does not hurt. It will be
the healthiest time of most womens lives.
There are acceptations, women who have
problem pregnancies, but most will feel
great and be happy!
I don't think people can help but be a
little worried about things now and then.
Its normal & doesn't last long. If you
have a good doctor you trust & a caring
spouse it helps a lot!
I think all parents have worries that they
are doing a good job. It comes and goes
forever. You just do the best you can and
it all works out. :)
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Everyone has there own ways of knowing.
Some people wait until marriage, making sure they are financially ready, Have a good home,etc. being a parent is the most rewarding thing, It's a gift. However, It is also a challenge. When the baby is born the moment you hold that child in you're arms nothing eles matters but that child. Of course we have worries now and then, All parents do exspecially if you are exspecting a first child. We all wonder what kind of a parent we would be, It's normal. However, Once you become one the feelings go away usually.
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