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My friends pick on me because I am skinny
My friends always pick on me because I'm skinny and it is embarrassing because they say it loudly. One time, someone offered me a cookie and I said no because I just finished lunch and they were like super loudly so everyone heard, but your not fat! Look at your wrist your so skinny! Just eat the cookie! I didn't even mention the word big or fat! Another, during a sleep away field-trip they were saying how they gained weight over the trip and when they asked how much weight I gained I said I didn't gain any, they started saying super loudly and saying that's because you didn't eat anything! You skipped all your meals! Which isn't even true. For one, i ate all my meals and ate several pop tarts during the time they served snacks which is twice a day and skipped only once because it was gross food and I went to my cabin and ate popcorn instead! I always tell them to stop because I eat enough and when I don't eat it's because I already ate but they never listen and continuously say it's because I don't eat which I know isn't true because I have been told that I have a big appetite. How do I respond next time they pick on me that isn't too serious that they think I'm mad but they won't brush off?
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Being a really small girl myself, I get that a lot too. My friends always compare our wrist sizes, our waists and even feet! But I usually just brush it off. I have a fast metabolism, and you probably do too. Something that you've got no control over. You're probably beautiful for all I know! But "skinny" doesn't define you who you are! I say you oughta let them know basically what you included in your question. Let 'em know that you've eaten and that you're not starving yourself and it's just your body type, you're not deliberately going out of your way to achieve this "skinny" look.
Good luck with your friends! X
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Hey! You're beautiful and don't let anyone tell you differently. If you're skinny, good for you. There's a lot of people who are just jealous of people who are thin, and those people are your "friends." Just tell them, with utmost confidence (that part is important), that you're sick of them picking on you and that you're comfortable not eating two cans of pringles a week. Also tell them that you're too glam to give a damn! The best of luck to you!
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I think you need to be stern with them.
Let them know you do eat, you enjoy eating, and you're just naturally skinny and you'd like them to stop making scenes about it.
You don't need to act mad, just serious and stern. Don't yell, just tell them with a stern look.
Some of my friends used to do that to me too. I had never called myself fat or anything but they'd still get on me about being skinny.
They don't realize it's just as hurtful.
So just let them know that it bothers you and hurts your feelings sometimes too. I'm sure they'll stop. If not, you might want to talk to them one on one.
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As log as your doctor says you are within proper weight and not under for your height than that's all that matters.
Some people may eat the same things and amounts and look like they have more weight than you but it's all about your frame and how it distributes the weight on your body.
Your friends care about you but need to understand that they're being obnoxious and that your weight for your height and body is fine and your doctor said it is and that you do in fact eat what you are supposed to. And then kindly tell them never to mention or make this an issue again. That should do it.
You can't control if they think you're mad but they will see clearly you are frustrated. Just say it in a stern tone once what the facts are and it won't be an issue again.
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I would love to give you advice because I know exactly what you're going through and those who don't, can't really understand this situation. I have always been picked on as well (I'm 18 and I weigh 95 pounds) and yeah being naturally skinny is often considered a blessing, but that doesn't mean we want to be reminded of it 24/7. It's hard for other people to understand that it upsets you because they probably think they are complimenting you rather than insulting or offending you. So don't get mad at them if they don't know how it's affecting you. That's why you should just tell them straight up, don't sugar coat or they won't listen, but also don't be rude or they'll think you're just being uptight. You are only explaining to them that you don't like the way they make fun of you, you're not insulting them so they shouldn't get mad about it or anything. Just be serious with them and tell them yeah you're skinny but it gets realllly annoying when they harass you about it, especially when you're being accused of starving yourself and not eating. Also, I don't know about you but I was always extremely self conscious of my body and my weight so if that's a problem for you too, add that in and it may help your friends get a better understanding as to why you don't like being made fun of for being skinny. If they don't listen, then they obviously don't care about you're feelings and are not worth being friends with.
Hope I helped, good luck (:
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