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How to tell if you were raped
I was at a party about a week ago and we were drinking. It was a fun time and there was this guy that was flirting with me all night. He asked me if I wanted to hookup and I said yes.
We ended up having sex that night. I didn't say no or anything but I WAS DRUNK. He had been drinking too but I don't think he was as drunk as I was.
Is this considered rape? I mean, I was drunk so I wasn't in my sound mind or whatever...
16/f
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Even though you "didn't say no" while you were under the influence, that still does not mean he had permission. This can be considered a form of rape, if you wanted to pursue it that way. Because alcohol screws with your mind so much, you can't always make rational decisions. (Ever seen the hangover?? :) )
It's the same thing with marriages. If you run off to Vegas and end up marrying someone while you're drunk, it's not a valid marriage if both parties don't agree to it. It is anulled. And this guy took advantage of you, it is considered rape... but only if you intend to press charges.
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It all depends on how old he is. If he's of age then no it's not rape. If not then yes it was rape. THINK before you do something.
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it considers on the age anyways dini worry bout tht get it on girll xx
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If you agreed to sex, Then no you weren't raped unless if the guy was over the age of 18, Then it can be statory rape.
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If you consented it wasnt rape.
Unless he's a lot older than you, in which cause it would be statutory rape. Which means that someone 18 or older had sex with you, because your under age. But if he was 16-17 then its not rape.
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Now you can fight to prove this was rape but a lawyer is going to look at your thrid sentence and make an argument. "To hookup" means to have sex and you said yes to that. Technically that would be considered giving consent but I would talk to your parents maybe an attorney and see what they think.
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Legally you cannot give consent to sex if you are under the influence of drugs or alcohol, under any type of anesthetic or under the age of consent. The facts are as I see them: You did not say yes and you did not say no; immaterial. The point is you were not capable at the time of giving consent or refusing. You may have even been passed out. This meets the legal definition of rape.
Now what to do about it; First you need to talk with your parents. Yes, that means admitting to your underage drinking. As someone old enough to be your grandparent I can tell you your parents are going to be upset with your drinking. They will be more upset with you being raped, which will temper some of their anger over your drinking. I would expect that once they have dealt with the rape they will deal with your drinking and rightfully so. There are reasons young people should not drink; alcohol; is a depressant and it impedes normal judgment.
This does not mean you are in any way at fault for being raped, you are not. No one asks to be raped or does anything to invite being raped. If you were given alcohol for the expressed purpose of being sexually taken advantage of, this too is rape as alcohol lowers your inhibitions.
Your parents are most likely going to want to file charges. You should not argue with them if they do. This time he took advantage of someone who was incapable of giving consent and may have blacked out or even been asleep. If you allow him to get away with it this time, the next time he may do more than just rape the young lady. This is something you must let local law enforcement and the criminal justice system handle.
I would also like you to contact an organization called RAINN, Rape, Incest, National, Network. They operate a 24 hour hotline: 1-800-656-HOPE. This hotline is staffed 24hrs a day by trained counselors who will help you and help you find trained rape crisis counselors in your area who will help you. RAINN also has a website: [Link](Mouse over link to see full location). You may not feel you need help to get through this right know, but you do. The fact that you have written to use tells me you are troubled by what has happened to you. Call RAINN speak with their counselor and let them help you find someone in your town that you can go to help you through this.
The grandparent in me tells me I have to say this to you. Drinking and getting drunk is not fun and it can be harmful in many ways. Drinking and driving is extremely dangerous. Never ever get in a car with someone who has been drinking. Call your parents to come and pick you up instead. They may be angry but they would, I am sure prefer to be angry than to have to deal with the results of a drunken driver
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No. If you say yes it is not considered rape.
Drinking at 16 is illegal for a reason. You
have lived through one of those reasons. It
makes you do and say stupid things.
Watch for pregnancy symptoms & get a home test if any develop. In the future, keep in your right mind
at parties. Some guys will take advantage.
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