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i'm helpin my aunt plan my cousins sweet 16 and i wanted to know what are some fun and exciting activities could we do there. we still have two weeks to the party and can make arrangements. also we are all teenagers so please no baby stuff. also what are some fun music that would get everybody up and dancing. please help me and my aunt.

Some fun games that help to break the ice can always deal with food. For example you can tie mini doughnuts around string and hang them from something and see who can eat one the fastest. Or you can play chubby bunny with marshmallows. Another fun thing is to get glow in the dark sports equipment: frisbees, footballs, etc. and play games with those outside in the evening. If you're going to be outside in the evening you could also have a bonfire, scavenger hunt, tell scary stories, and make smores. If you're going to be inside Apples to Apples is a fun group game, Twister can be a lot of fun too. Just use your imagination and think up fun things to do. It will also depend on the people at the party and what their personal interests are.

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can you get pregnant if your mate comes in your mouth

Absolutely not. The semen or pre-ejaculatory fluid must come in contact with the vagina for a woman to become pregnant.

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I don't know what to do with him! I found out from my bff that my bf made a facebook group thing about our relationshp. I went and red a few things on it and it is personal and nothing anybody should know but us so I told him I knew he had a secret he was keeping from me but not what it was so he would tell me or something but he didn't. i kinda thought that he posted stuff and didn't think it was bad and I wanted to give him chances to say so but he just said he didnt have no secrets so i went back to read the rest and he had made it private only so now it is hidden from me.

I guess what I am asking is if he didn't think this was wrong why did he hide it when i found out? He still denies everything and now i got no proof because i cant see it anymore!!! i have been crying about this and i feel betrayed like he has a secret life on facebook or something! should i stay with him if he isn't going to be honest and still hides things?

Sorry if this is too long!

If you have tried to hint that you know something, but still given him the chance to tell you about it and he hasn't, ditch him. If he can't be honest with you and he's making you this upset, what else has he lied to you about? You can't trust him. He's a goner.

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is it bad that i like hearing guys moan during sex. i feel like im the only one buts its so sexy!

No, that's perfectly normal. Just like guys like to hear you moan, it's normal for you to like to hear them.

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I have been having my period for like 2 years now and I always use pads. My best friend is really pressuring me to wear tampons so we can go swimming next week but I'm afraid to. I really just don't want to do it. I've read things like it can hurt and I really don't want my vagina parts to hurt because I put a tampon in during my period. Im happy with using pads. Is that normal to be afraid to use tampons?

Yeah, I was terrified. But listen, it's no biggie now. I actually prefer them to pads now that I've tried it. You can't get them "lost" inside of you, and if you're worried about them being uncomfortable, get the junior sized ones that are small. As long as you relax and make sure you put it in correctly (there are instructions on the box), you will definitely be fine. You may even find you like them better than pads.
Hope I could help.

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how do u know if a girl want to kiss u

What I generally do is when I'm talking to the guy I make sure I make as much eye contact as possible. When I think I've found the right moment, I stare into his eyes for a little bit, take a deep breath, and bite my bottom lip. That's my signs that I want him to kiss me. The thing with girls is though, we always want you to make the first move. So, if you see flirting, and her staring into your eyes, I'd just go for it. She'll be happy that you did.

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what are some songs about getting hurt again.
I finally started to open up to my friend after a bad break up..8 months later. this new guy made me feel good again..now's he ignoring me and i can't believe i even opened up to someone. i hate talking about feelings..so i need a song

Here We Go Again - Demi Lovato
Irreplaceable - Beyonce
Anything angry sounding usually works for me..

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Hello, fifteen, female. I couldn't find a better category to put this in but it works well here, too. I am having my Sweet Sixteen in August and I have no idea what I want to do. I don't know what to wear (hence the category). I want it to be something that people will remember when school starts but I don't want it to be to costly. My best friend's sister had a casino night, she rented out a place and had like roulette and all those games out on tables, that was 4 years ago and I still remember it. I was thinking we could hang back at my house and when it gets to be night time we could have a bonfire and play like manhunt or capture the flag but I have no idea what we would do hours before night. It's my first party that my parents are allowing boys and girls to come. It's not going to be a giant party though. So, I need it to be something I'll never forget as well as my guests. Any help is appreciated. Activities to do, what to wear, music to play?

I'm in the same boat as you, planning my sweet sixteen for August. I've found that having a bonfire is always fun. I don't know what your personal preference is, but I'm more of a relaxed type person, who doesn't need to be doing something every second of every day. Bonfires are always nice, just to catch up with everyone, roast marshmallows, and have fun talking, laughing, singing, etc. You could also channel your inner child and catch fireflies or have a marshmallow fight :P.

Something else you could do would be to put up a white sheet somewhere, get a projector and a computer and play a movie that people could watch in the dark. That's always fun.

Or you could play sports with glow in the dark stuff. Like glow in the dark volleyball, or frisbee, and have everyone wear glow bracelets or necklaces so you can see where they are.

Happy birthday, whenever it is! and have fun!

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do you wear a bra to bed or no? (for females)

personally, i would feel uncomfortable but i just saw another question about this and i would like to keep my bras in better condition because the straps always get twisted.

I personally sleep with a sports bra on, just for comfort, because I can't stand the feeling of having NO support at all. And those stupid "built in" or "shelf" bras in tank tops DO NOTHING for support.

It probably is healthier for you to sleep without it, but it is your personal preference.

As for keeping your bras in better condition, try folding them up when you're not wearing them, that's what I do. And have the straps adjusted so they're not too long.

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I was at a party about a week ago and we were drinking. It was a fun time and there was this guy that was flirting with me all night. He asked me if I wanted to hookup and I said yes.

We ended up having sex that night. I didn't say no or anything but I WAS DRUNK. He had been drinking too but I don't think he was as drunk as I was.

Is this considered rape? I mean, I was drunk so I wasn't in my sound mind or whatever...

16/f

Even though you "didn't say no" while you were under the influence, that still does not mean he had permission. This can be considered a form of rape, if you wanted to pursue it that way. Because alcohol screws with your mind so much, you can't always make rational decisions. (Ever seen the hangover?? :) )
It's the same thing with marriages. If you run off to Vegas and end up marrying someone while you're drunk, it's not a valid marriage if both parties don't agree to it. It is anulled. And this guy took advantage of you, it is considered rape... but only if you intend to press charges.

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any tips on how to make liquid eyeliner dry faster? i put it on my top lid, and when i get done putting it on, it always gets on next to my eyebrow.

The same thing happened to me. I make sure it's dry before blinking my eyes. I use a little piece of tissue to make sure it's dry. I hope I could help.

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ok im in tears .... idk why its just getting to me now ; but me and my boyfriend have been dating aLmost 7 months now . im in Love with that boy & hes my everything . over the summer i cheated on him with the boy he hates most ''/ i feeL so bad , i HATE my seLf so much for it - the one thing i have in Life that means so much to me i fuck it up with my stupidity . im so scared to teLL him because he toLd me he wouLd break up with me if i cheated on him ''/ id literaLy be crushed i dont know wat to do


i cant keep this inside anymore ... N0 one knows & i wana teLL him so bad but nothing good can come out of it ''/

pLease heLp & this is serious .

okay, it's obvious you realize what you did was wrong, and you feel terrible. If it is bugging you so much, then you need to talk it out. If you really feel bad, then tell him, but explain you've been killing yourself over this and tell him you're really sorry!

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Is this some kind of personality disorder im going through?

I jump from happy to angry to sad to just about different emotion to the MAX so if i am happy, im really really happy, but if i am angered by little thing, i get so aggrevated and mad.

I act on my emotion, such as yell at people, punching walls, swearing like crazy (which i have stopped now), saying i hate someone, and then pretty soon after, I just feel so sad and bad that I had done all that and regret so much.

Is that some kind of disorder? I would love to get that checked out by some kind of therapy, but my parents thinks im lying and they are kind of in denial because I said i need some help because I am sick and tired of crazy mood swings. They basically doesnt like to think there's something wrong with me, especially mentally.

It sounds to me like bipolar disorder, but you might want to see a psychiatrist or a doctor before you come to any conclusions. Your symptoms sound exactly like my friend's, who is bipolar! Hope I Helped!

:)

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15/f

ok im in love with my friend bret he'sa junior, about 5ft 11", has deep blue eyes, blonde hair, and farely skinny, dont he sound hot! well weve been hangin out together since i was a fish and now im a sophmore, we play cards together every day after skool, along with his friends, but we always sit by each other, well i always sit next to him. but ive fallen for him, and he doesnt even realize it, i really like him and i dont want my personal feelings to ruin our friendship, so how do i find out if he likes me? one more ? how do i let him know i like him without it being totally obvious/dramatic?

This totally happened to me, too. Ok, well first, you should tell him the truth. Say, "Bret, I really like you. But if you don't like me, it's okay and we can just be friends." Chances are (I'm really sorry I went through it too) that he only likes you as a friend. But now that you are being totally honest with each other, he will probably still be your friend.

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Okay my best frann lets call her Ashley.
She talked to my ex bf and pissed him off to where he broke up with meh. I was so mad at her but I was still her best frann bc we have known eachother for 8 years. But Lately we have been getting into big fights and now she won't talk to mehh bc I asked this guy she likes if he liked her and now she hates mehh for askign him that. She won't belive mehh when I say that he said no. She thinks Im lieing. I want to help her but I can't do that if she likes him so much she doesn't want to belive mehh. She won't even look at me now and she told mehh that if I were a true frann I wouldn't lie to her like tht but Im not lieing. I want to work this out but I have to go to the same school as her and she said if I say one thing to her she will tell everyone all my secrets and Im kinda scared. I have tons of other franns but she is making my frann Kelcie hate mehh. I wish I knew what to do.
Your help would be nice.
thanks.
XOXO
shelbyshoo

Just ignore her. If she is being this mean to you, chances are she doesn't have very many friends. If you are afraid she will tell your secrets, then don't talk to her. If she really becomes a problem, see you school guidance counselor or therapist.

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I have been writing some songs and I am really happy with one in particular.
The only problem is that I can't put music with it.
I can write well but I just can't put a tune to it.
I want it to be something that fits it really well.
Something catchy,
Could anyone with experience in music please help me?

Thanks so much.

I have written lyrics and tunes to go with them. What I would suggest is that you listen to various songs for inspiration. I am NOT telling you to steal a tune, but try to come up with your own melody with the same style as your favorite band or artist. If you have a piano or any instrument try exploring and finding a tune that works for you.

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I'm 16-female. Basically, theres this guy that i think is cute in my computer class, but I've never talked to him. I really want to talk to him and get to know him, but the way our class is set up, we dont talk all period because we're always doing individual work on the computer. How can I start a conversation with him either after class, or if we get a group assignment when I'm in his group, without coming off as strange? (There's not exactly a lot to talk about, about the class. Right now, all we're doing is typing.) Thanks for any helps!

Why don't you try asking him for help on something, whether it be a project in your class or if you "accidentally get your locker stuck" and you can't get it open whenever he is walking by. Like the other person said, crack a joke. That is a great technique at getting guys. Whatever you do, be calm and be yourself.

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okay i this 2002 ford mustang last weekend, and i really want to fix it up. what are some good website where i could order alot of stuff for the interior...for a cheap price?

www.mustangdepot.com is a great website where you can buy mustang parts.

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What is your reaction when you found out that your secret crush likes you back!!??

and

Is this right? Is it okay to react like this?

I go nervous and started to have gooses bumps, my neck warms up. I couldn’t think straight and I didn’t know what to Do. and i say to myself "okay just relax, please dont go to far, i dont know what to do" and i sweat (and that happens when she leans on me or gets very close or flirts)


Should I just stop being a shy idiot and make a move? (I am a wuss when it comes to romance.)
i dont know what to do? to not make a fool of myself


20/f/bi

That's a perfectly normal reaction. Just make a move by holding her hand or giving her a kiss.

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When a guy eats a girl out, is it supposed to be more pleasure for the girl, or the guy?

It's generally for the girl, but if the girl is enjoying it, the guy will like it, too.

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