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I don't stand out
(15/f)
Hey everyone. Recently, i've been having problems with my self-cofidence. I use to be so confident and loving with myself untill about two weeks ago. I don't know what happended to me, but everything just went downhill. I started to feel hideous, and not good enough for some people. Another major thing is that i don't stand out in a crowd. If im with my friends, (who are GORGEOUS) guys tend to go straight to them and i'm always left hanging. They don't want to associate themselves with me i believe, and they rather would talk to another girl. Even i admit, there is nothing wrong with me, but i don't have a special quality that would make guys want to hang out with me or remember me. If anyone needs more information, i give write down more and anyone has ever felt this way and dealt with it, it is appreciated if you help me out with some advice. Thank you very much.
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i think that everyone is beautiful in his or her own way. THink about what is it that made you feel so down? and about you not standing out in the crowd, who is their really to impress. i know maybe you think theirs cute guys in your school to impress but imagine impressing a guy that only wants to take advanatge of you. plus the right guy will always come in the right time. dont rush life, and enjoy being a teenager. :)
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I think that you are going to need a confidence booster and i also think that you are going to relize that not everybody is going to like you but when you see that special person then you are going to relize that you are very out going and the same thing happened to me like a year ago were i have all of these freinds and all of these other people would go up to them and not to me and i think that you need to relize that you are beautiful and not care what other people think
just keeping it real joey
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I'm the same age as you and I dealt with this last year. My confidence should have gone up because my appearance improved(I got my braces off) so that was a little boost but it didnt last. There were so many things that were wrong in my life that I just focused on that and sulked. I forgot how to be the funny, outgoing, fun girl I once was. I was lost and basically gave up. I thought that if I wasn't the most popular in school that I had nothing. But this year I realized that how would I ever become the most popular if I didn't improve the way I acted? If I were to just remain the girl I was last year, nothing would have changed. I did a lot of soul searching last year and realized what had to be done. At the end of last year, I realized that it was a BAD year to say the least. So I said to myself, this year is GOING to be good, I know I can do it. It was incredibly hard to overcome the feelings and insecurities that I dealt with last year but after a little while you get the hang of it. Just because you're going through a hard time right now doesn't mean it will last. As far as sticking out in the group of your friends, I would say to be funny and charismatic because people are always drawn to someone like that. You want to be known right? So give your opinion on discussions, BE A PART OF THE GROUP. Just don't sit there. Migrate to different people throughout the night, mingle as much as possible. I really really hope I helped. I have faith in you and I know you can do it :]
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Well honey, it seems to me that you are paying way too much attention to what your friends have. I am sure that you are a very attractive girl. Now, if you don't see what you have to offer then how are guys gonna see it?
If you paying attention to what you don't have or the guys that you don't get, then you will miss seeing the ones that are paying attention to you. Everyone has that time in their life (especially school) when they are not feeling their best. I deal with it by trying to think positive about myself. I always try to think that I am FABULOSITY IN THE FLESH!!!!!!!
You have to believe that you are amazing because no one can believe it for you. You don't have to be good enough for anyone you have to be good enough for you. You are smart and intelligent. Empower yourself, always believe that you are FABULOSITY IN THE FLESH!!!!!!! When you start to believe that ( and I mean truly believe it) then you make others believe it too. I have a feeling that you will be fine. Hope that helps!!!
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Remeber never do anything make people like you. you find people like you for you. I know how you feel and i Know what high school was like, I think it never will end always be the same. let just say it not like on tv. sometimes you see people act certatin way they watch to much tv. but you like try something. if you like jokes you look up jokes ask anybody they like hear a joke or you stand out say i have funny joke i read other day or something. try find things that you like whwt they like. when you get out of high school trust me some kids not be who they were some but not all. just be who you are and maybe once in awhile you maybe wear something like ring or braclek or necklace that they comment they like it or something. you know try get converstaion going. oo Boys allways be immture in high school. just remeber boys just boys. they think they need look at beatuy instead our souls. but don't worry you find that guy. never know nice guy looking at ya you don't notice becouse you could give them chance never know what happend. hope i Help
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Honestly my opinion is you don't need to stand out, because you feel comfortable with your self well did. A guy who truely likes you will go to you because how you are with out standing out. I know how high school is. Like a beauty contest. Try new cloths, different hair style, maybe dying your hair, wear your make up different little things like that. I dyed my hair black on bottum and like a blonde on top and everyone loved it! good luuck
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