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Theres only so much I can take.
I'm 15. I hate being around my family because they always make me feel like I'm not good enough, I do everything wrong and all they do is yell at me. I live with my Dad and my step-mom. I have for 4 years sience step-dad started getting way too abusive. I don't know what to do. I am on anti-depressents and they were working for awhile but now thath the stress at home started getting worse and so did the yelling, all I do is cry. Please help?
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Yeah that sucks...but you are not alone. Many of us survive that crap and a lot worse. Don't give up. If there is any abuse in this household, you must report it immediately and not take it. Some crying and being angry is normal and productive. It lets you release stress and helps motivate change in one's life. Stay on what your doctor prescribes, but keep talking to your doctor about what is going on in the home...every detail affecting your emotions and self-esteem. Tell your Dad and step-mom how you feel and how they are hurting you. Ask them to take you to counseling both for yourself and as a family. Maybe your doctor could suggest this to them for you. We all have struggles and feel not good enough sometimes and it does suck. There opinions do hurt, but they are not the truth, only perceptions that are limited and flawed. You have the real truth inside of you and you can live out the truth of who you are without approval when you learn to approve of yourself. Some people can never ever be pleased and they dangle their approval on a string in front of you all the time, just to play with your emotions. Don't let them do it anymore. Be proud of yourself and do things in your life that you know are good and worthy of approval for yourself. This is your life and you will accomplish your own goals when you find that it is not about them.
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If youve tried talking to your family about how you feel and it hasnt worked at ALL then i suggest this...im sure itll work!!
you should tell a teacher,a trusted teacher in your school about what you are going throug,and have your teacher call or meet up with your parents and tell them how youre depressed and taking anti depressants and how this is no way a family should treat their kid!im pretty sure itll work,when they meet up or get the call from your teacher theyll think...omg what have we done,has it gotten this far and will probably regret and apologize for how they have treated you!
if your too scared or shy to tell the teacher have a best freind tell her the story
im wishing you the best luck and im sure everything will go fine=D
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Okay first off i need to tell you that this is very serious. You honestly need to tell someone.
but I know what you have been through 2 years ago when I was 12 i went through deep depresion. i almst committed suicide. but i got help i told my familly and freinds and i got involved at my church and 7 months later i was a happy teenager. what i recomend is to get involved with school. i always try to avoid my house because of my familly too. so I stay at my freinds house and i try to get out of the house as much as posssible. i recomend you do that and tell someone. and you can talk to me anytime. im here for you.
even though Im only 14 i was adopted and i went through what your going through. I mean it was sooo bad i had to go to therapy at 12 years old! but yeah i am always on if you ever want to talk about it. I can even tell you some stories if you want me to.
~Londyn~
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first off, youre not alone, so dont feel isolated. guardian wise i can relate, it can get to you sometimes.. but you need to keep strong. you can cry mama, theres nothing wrong with that, but dont cry all the time, because that can make you feel worse, because you know you shouldnt be crying, especially your guardians causing it. i would be as distant as possible, (this is my method). i stray from my parents, for they cause me hurt, as much as they know, they dont stop. but somertimes you havr to be independent, they wont always be in your life. seek your friends, those who dont backstab you or try to make you feel inferior. those friends you can trust and show you that they trust you with thier life. if you'd like to talk anyone, you can leave me a message in my inbox, or IM me (go to my page and itll show up on the left hand side). people in life will make you break you, and so many things good and bad will happen. but you gotta stay trong. gotta try to survive. show your courageous, because thats all that matters. what YOU think. make the right decisions and you'll be right on track. =] good luck mama!!1!1
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You really need to tell someone about your situation. This isn't any joke, and when this happens, it can lead to suicide. The truth is, you are good enough. They just don't see it. You could get involved in after school activities, but thats also running away from the problem. If you don't want to run, fix it by telling someone. You might be able to live with a nicer, better family member or another home with a nicer, better family. Someone out there really does love you and you need to tell someone to get the love. You are good enough and you do matter. You might want to also try to sit down and talk to them. They mioght understand where you are coming from, if you tell them. It this doesn't work, promise yourself and me that you will think of yourself as a better person and that you do matter. And also promise yourself and I, that if the situation doesn't get any better, you will tell someone you trust, like a teacher. I know you might me scared to at first, and thats alright. It's not your fault and you will be doing the right thing by telling someone you trust.
Hope I helped,
xoxo
Askme537
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A good way to avoid family time is to be involved in WAY more school activities like after school clubs and such. It's good in making you feel good, especially when you find clubs that suit your own interests.
Another good thing about being involved with school stuff is that it looks great on your college application.
All this is a good stand in until you leave for college. This is actually a great incentive to go to college. You could live at the dorms. Or if you can't afford that, you could just stay and "study" during the majority of your time there.
cheers,
stargirl
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If you really feel this way you should probably contact a social worker so you can seek help or go live with another family member who is able to take care of you
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