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why is everyone being mean to people who dress differently?
so people say i'm emo. even though i'm not. but on the other hand i have nothing against them. i just dont liketo lable myself. so yeah my hair is dark and i have a fringe, and like black eyeliner and wear green/blue/red/purple skinnys.
what is so bad about that? i mean everyone hates me, just because i'm not a hip hopper and dont drink&smoke. everyone else does but so what? i just dont want to be like them. i just dont understand why people hate me just because i'm different. no matter how nice i am, they just hate me.
i have no friends at all. i guess i was just unlucky with this school.
but what should i do?
i wont change though.
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Hey, I know i can anwser your Question ,my friend
is in to that same stuff people don't like her either they make fun of her and call her names. Even
though they do, she still comes to school wearing her usaul!
Don't listin to them be yourselve, be you
thats all you can do! My friend says thier jealous !
If people are rude and hurtful blow them off. If,
you want to say something throw comedy in your
comeback! Don't be mean or anything. But if they are
rude to you be rude back!
I hope I helped,
Faith42:)
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You know. I like you. You don't give a sh*t what other people think. You be the best you that you can be. I like black eye liner and skinnys. Personally, im blonde but still. Emo's are cool and they arent emo coz of the style but because of the emotions. Tell the people that hate you to back off because you are not emotionally depressed. Just please DONT change your ways of things. You dont want to be fake. Start hanging out with the emos, or the goths, or the nerds. Whatever it doesnt matter. Join clubs outside of school to get to know other people. Dont worry!!
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You know, the really funny thing is, you can't change.
The way you dress and express yourself is an inner difference trying to manifest itself in an outer way.
You feel different from everyone around you. You might not even be able to say exactly what is different, but you know that "what" is definitely there. So you do things that set you apart.
Thing is, most people aren't wired this way. Most people are wired and trained from birth to comply, to imitate, to be like others. When you purposefully make yourself different from them, they can't understand why, because they don't have that innate feeling of separation.
People have negative feelings towards that which is different. Its just the way most people operate.
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its true that people or peer wont except whats diffrent its nt so much as the hate you they were never thought how to except others who where diffrent .. while right now in life your undergoing social isolation it wont always be that way there will alway be people you can relate to .. you can always find people in diffrent settings like even if its online ...
the great thing about being unique is that you already know who you are!!! hey i wear skinny jeans and random eye shadow tooo !!!! but i have not a single style ! look remind them tat emo comes from emotonal and all humans have emotional and as long as your not cutting your self your not typical emo ! people dont hate you they dont know how to except you becouse they dont know how its ignorance on thier behalf the most imporant thing is to stay true to who u are try hanging out with the at clubsor drama clu or debate they tend to be more open .... i bet you can find some where to fit in , IN you only need a few good friends not a whole universe ....
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It is hard growing up in the world where people think you should be just like them. But if you have individuality, a personality strong enough that you don't need to copy anyone so they would think better of you, it isn't a bad thing, if often not an easy one. People are calling you emo, but they probably hardly understand the subtle differences of subcultures, or they would know it's not just about the physical appearance.
If you don't want to change, you shouldn't. You don't owe that to anyone. What you could try is taking your focus off those who are causing you such distress and directing it to what you love about yourself and the type of people you'd like to attract into your life.
The more you focus on what ruins your mood, the more often it would get ruined. It's just the way your thoughts and feelings affect your life. Take some time everyday to enjoy yourself - who you are, what you love and believe in, and what kind of people you think you deserve to communicate with. If you were a hero of your own book or a movie, what kind of people surrounding you would make you feel complete and happy with your life?
Ponder on that and try to minimize your contact with people you don't like, and don't give up on finding real friends, in or outside your school.
Alyssa.
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youre a very strong girl, not letting peer pressure affect you. i like dat. people shouldnt hte you just bcause your different bcause to you theyre different. you shouldnt change. nd itsz better 4 urself dat you dont change. i dont see what you can do abt it though.just let natural causes take care of it. when you grow up to have a gudd life and theyre flipping burgers 4 a living, theyll see dat it was them dat was doing the wrong thing not you.
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