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15 f\ virgin
I'm a little older then 15 and a half. I love my boyfriend dearly. I really AM ready to have sex with him and I want to give him something I can't take back or give anyone else. I would have sex with him, however, I feel I'm just too young! I know for a fact no one would find out about it, I rather it be personal. I would like to know your opinion. I know I am ready, I just consider 15 young.
thanks alot, xo
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It's cool that you love your boyfriend enough to give him something so special. And I think it's even cooler you are thinking about it instead of just doing it on a whim.
If you think 15 is to young for you, you're probably right. If this guy is special enough to have sex with, and you want to give this to him, what's the harm in waiting? You guys obviously share something very special, so waiting a few years won't do you any harm. If you aren't dating in a few years, you should be damn glad you decided to wait. So there is no problem.
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im 15 to and i lost mine at 14.. ha but i think if your ready and you love the guy and you no what could happen(pregnancy)then go for it.
i brought up pregnancy because i got pregnant but had a miscarriage .. and we did use a condom so just be safe about it.
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Your gut should overrule all else. If you feel 15-years-old is too old than trust that. There's a reason it keeps coming to you when you think about sex. You may be ready physically, love wise but not able to handle the mental aspect. Who wants a baby at 15 anyways?
If he loves you and you love him you can count on him to be around for a long while. Put sex on the back burner for now and come back to it when you're a bit older.
The doubt you are having either means you aren't ready or that you don't think you should with him. It could even be both those reasons. Trust your gut because it's always right. If you keep thinking you're too young than maybe you are.
Don't be in a rush to have sex. Make sure it's with the right partner and that you've planned it down to birth control as well. If it's not with the right person than don't. Trust me, it will be awful otherwise. And, to be honest it doesn't live up to the hoopla the first time.
Focus on your relationship, being a teenager and then later as the relationship progresses more consider it again. It isn't about age here it's about the maturity of both partners and thinking ahead to protect yourself. It's a lot for any 15-year-old to handle.
What you need to be doing is getting books, facts, research on sex and sexuality and a birth control plan and keep talking about this subject with him until you know you can both handle it.
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I have never met a single person who had a feeling like that, waited, and later thought "God, I wish I had had sex earlier and hadn't wasted all this time"
A no can always become a yes later. A yes cannot become a no later. (For so many reasons)
Do you know why people say certain ages are too young?
Because of experience. I'm in my mid 20s now. I am different than I was at 19 or 20, very much so. Experience has taught me alot about the world. The same thing can be said for a 13-15 year old and an 18-19 year old. Different amounts of life experience change how you see things in this world.
Also, at 15 you are flexible. You are very apt to being influenced by your experiences. And as with anything in the adult realm there are great things about sex and there are some pretty bad consequences to balance it out. People try to keep you relatively safe from the negative aspects of the influences until you are adult enough to handle those negative aspects and keep your life in balance.
Example. Unplanned High school pregnancy is I believe a higher percentage of occurence than unplanned college pregnancy. High schoolers are much less apt to control themselves, to protect themselves, or to have enough information for either, than a girl who is sexually active in college.
So that becomes the goal. "When shes grown up, when shes older, etc etc, she can do that because shes more likely to be safe and OK then"
I mean, look at yourself right now. Do you know where you can go get STD tested? Could you manage to get down there and get it done on your own? Can you buy the contraceptives you need? Do you know what contraceptives you need? Do you know your own fertility cycle so you know when you are most likely to get pregnant and when you are safest?
Id be willing to be there are a number of no's in that paragraph.
Ultimately, I guess I kind of challenge your mention of "Im ready". You may be ready emotionally, but are you ready for the rest of the consequences outside of waking up the next morning and not being a virgin?
Food for thought.
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if you feel like you are having ANY doubts at all ... your not ready. you may think you are but that nagging thought about your age is your way of telling yourself you aren't actually ready.
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You know you are ready, but feel you are too young...
That doesn't seem a tad off to you?
If the best reason you can think of to not have sex is that you think you might be too young, then you are definately too young.
Your subconcious mind is giving you a message hun, listen to it.
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I agree with her,
If you are worried that you are too young, then maybe there is still something inside of you re-thinking how ready you truly are. Just take your time thinking about it, because in the end, it's your personal decision and no one here can tell you what to do (we can just give our opinions). So I say listen to your heart carefully and be safe if you do decide to do it (condom, etc).
Best wishes,
L.
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I can't tell you what I think is too young, because my opinion is that you are just that.
However, that really isn't fair, now is it.
What is fair is this- If you are worried that you are too young, then you really aren't as ready as you think. Why? Shred of doubt. Don't ignore that, either. You have that doubt for a reason. It's called thinking smart.
Trust me- if you love each other dearly, he won't have a problem with waiting until the right time, the right age, and zero doubt. Why? Because he respects you.
ygs-29/f
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