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Scared of Sex....
OK. Well I have a bf but am not planning on having sex THAT soon but I still have a question.
I have been hearing and reading [on here] that your first time hurts. And im wondering, does it hurt like REALLY bad, or is it worth it?? Because im kind of scared because I do not want it to hurt.
THANKS! any advice is wanted!
14/f
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it basically feels like stretching a really sore muscle or tearing a muscle. i cannot tolerate pain well, but this amount of pain was fine and didn't bother me too much. you're too caught up in thoughts to really be focused on the pain. it's not as bad as everyone makes it out to be! good luck when you do decide to do it!
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I dnt knoe why every1 exagerates about this. it dosent hurt alot. its a pleasurable pain.
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it depend on your body structure but yes it does hurt. for some it hurts more than others. this is why they say you should wait till your ready so you won't just give it up to someone who doesn't love you. that way you wouldn't go through all that pain for nothin.
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I'm not a girl, so I wouldn't know... but I still can give advice
Sex intended as a product of mutual love, if your not willing to go through a little bit of pain over something so meaningful, maybe your not ready.
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Well it does usually tend to hurt the first time you have sex and also the girl tends to bleed. But it depends on how big he is or how tight you are. If he is big and you are tight it will really hurt. but also if he is small of average it will still hurt but not as much as if he was big.
But after you have done it a couple of times it starts to feel really good and it is well worth the pain the first time!
But if you are scared to have sex this means you are not ready so dont push yourself and dont be pressured into having sex. Just do it when you are ready and when you know it is with the right person to lose your big V too =]. Hope i helped
Love Nikki-Marie xxx
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Well people are different and it hurts for some people and others it doesn't .
Also , it depends on how big the guy is too .
If the guy is HUGE then it probably will hurt a bit , and maybe make you cry , if the guy is small or average then that only depends on how tight you are .
If you really love the guy then its definintly worth the pain , but if you're second questioning if you love him - like that - or not , then you should just wait ,
make sure you're ready .
not just like i'm physically ready .
you need to be emotionally ready too ,
like ready for the consequences and reactions and how different it will be and maybe even awkward .
you know what i'm mean ?
just be careful , and make sure you know what you're doing .
xoxo
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Your first time doesn't always hurt. It didn't hurt me. I never masturbated with an object inside of me either and I never played sports to tear my hymen. So it really depends on the person and how comfortable you are.. How ready you are determines how relaxed you'll be.
What I did was prepare for it. Mentally, I was ready to have sex but I had a little fear that I wasn't ready physically.. I didn't want to hurt. People on here made it seem like it would hurt like a bitch.. but it didn't. Just tell him to start off slow and tell him to stop when you need to take a breath.
You just need to talk to him when you want to get more intimate. I made my boyfriend finger me for weeks.. starting with one finger.. up to 3. If you let him stretch you out, it won't be that uncomfortable for you. You need to relax your muscles when you are about to have sex.. or it's just forcing and clenching your muscles inside.. which causes the pain. You also have to be wet.
Many girls hurt for their first time;
because they aren't ready
are nervous
not turned on/wet
too tight, not enough stretching
or because they lack communication skills.
You need to speak to him.. tell him what you want to do.. and when things happen.. tell him what feels okay and what does not. Communication really helps a relationship about sex. I made sure that my first time wouldn't be a horrible experience.
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Well i haven't had sex before but i heard it hurts for a few minutes nahh relax it dosnt hurt ALOTT lol it's better if it hurts the first time so next time it won't hurt though sometimes it still hurts people the second time but you'll get used to it though.
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