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Q: Ok im 17/f .. Im about to be 18 in august and im like really wanting to have a baby..like REALLLY REALLLLY BAD..and im on birth control would it be wrong if I stopped taking my birth control without my boyfriend knowing just to get pregnant?..we want a baby just not now maybe in 5 years he said. But I want one now...

First of all ,
you need to tell your boyfriend , that you're trying to get pregnant ,

because if you do it w.o him knowing ,
thats just basically calling for drama .

its gunna make you look like ,
you're only getting pregnant to keep him in your life practically forever .

think bout it ,
because your life will change .

xoxo .riiy a.

Q: I was just wondering if you are supposed to shave your pubic hair?
Like do you only shave it before sex, or do you just shave it all the time!
I need help, haha.

Shaving your pubic hair is just find .
don't do it everyday , because you can cut yourself really bad .

but everytime the hair grows back a lil thick .
then shave it .

& yes ,
you should shave before sex ,
its kinda gross .

xoxo riiy a.

Q: hi,
im 14 and my penis is 4.5 inchs hard. is this correct or is it small for my age.

yes that is a bit small ,
but you are fourteen , so you have about 7 more years to grow ,

you usually stop growing everything when you're about 20-21 years old ,

hope i helped

xoxo

Q: i'm not looking for songs about love...just sex..they can be about sex or just have a good beat i don't really care but i don't like r&b very much...rock and alternative rock and punk and stuff are good...i like things with a fast pace and dirty lyrics

k thanks

okay honestly ,
i listen to punk n stuff too .

but this song is good ,
it has rap in it

but just listen to it.

its called

Sex Out South
by: Tech N9ne

Q: so... i have this boyfriend who has been waiting to get any from me. and he does and saids i give the "best head ever and hes never gonna find someone that fits him well like me". but he has this curiousity and likes 2 other girls, its fine i understand the male ways(i've been throgh it). he keeps asking me if i want to have a three-some with one of the girls he likes. i keep saying that i dont know, but really i feel that its just like cheating(a way to get around it). i love the boy, what should i do?

if you really love the boy ,
he wouldn't ask you a dumb question if he can have a three-some with some other girl .

if you want to you can ,
its not really cheating ,

cheating is like doing something behind someone elses back ,
if you like stuff like that then go for it ,

but if you guys wanna have a serious relationship then thats a no no .

xoxo

Q: is it wierd that my ex talks to me about all the boys she be fucking in vivid detail?

i think she may be trying to get you jealous or something ,
because who does that ?

Q: Ok I hate to sound perv about this but I want to know. Is it ok if you dont shave down there (between legs) and have sex? Or what?

well it's ya body so you can do whatever you want with it .

but if you want it to atleast look good ,
i would shave or wax .
it looks way better , and the guy would probably like it better like that also ,.

xoxo

Q: is it bad for girls to have pubes?

nah ,
everybody got pubes babe .

but guys don't really like it if they go down on you ,
and it just looks a lil more better and pleasing when you wax or shave it .

i would prefer you to at least trim it in shape if you don't wanna wax or shave .

Q: can you get pregnant if you have sex while on your period??

Yes , you can get pregnant while ya on ya period ,
but its a less chance then if you were havin' unprotected sex while you're not on yur period .

Q: i like 2 finger my self is is rong 4 13 yr old 2 do it? what can i use that feals like a dick besides frute like somethin round the house 4 plesure? help

mm , no i don't think ya ever too young to masterbate , its very healthy , .

but you can use the handle of a brush .
or anything long and squishy .

Q: okay so one day i was eatting cereal.. it was good btw.. and i had this itch on my foot so i sracted it.. and it still itches.. how should i go about this itch??

please tell me

chaneka ,
i swear ..

this is serious business!
stop gettin on my line !

haha
love you !

Q: my ex boyfriend tells me that he loves me.
but then i broke up with him, becuz of things.
and we wanted to get together...

not to mention i love him too.
but then theres this girl he talks to and he likes her, i EVEN talk to her. sometimes...

now, he is stuck between me and this girl, which is really funny. becuz he says we are so much alike.
me and him can talk about anything!
i cant get him off outta my head, adn he stuck.

wat should i do, tell the girl and talk to him... or wat?!

honestly ,
if he likes somebody else i think that you should move on too .

and wait for him to come back ,
if he comes back then ask him why all of a sudden are you coming back to me , are you realizing how much you love me ,

i've had the same drama ,
me and my ex went off and on ,
and we're back together

just give him some space ,
make him miss you .

xoxo

Q: Hey its nice to see a black person on here, there's not many people on here from a different race such as you and me

haha ,
thanks .

i know .
i only be seeing snow flakes !

Q: So there's this guy that just started talkin' to me. Like hittin' on me and stuff. I figured if i start talkin' to him imma start likin' him. I decide to start talkin' to him... and what do you know, i fall for this boy. But the thing is when I found out that he liked me, he just started acting weird and shy. And now he barely even talks to me. And when I asked him if he's just tryna hook up with me or actually have a relationship, he said have a relationship. I'm confused why that happened cause before I found out that he liked me he wasn't shy at all. I know he's not the shy type even his friends tell me. So what should I do or say to him?

its a good thing ,
he's only shy because he's nervous ,
and for some people its hard to act the same , when that person knows that they like you ,

go up to him
and tell him how you feel ,
and tell him that he's acting different and shy and doesn't have to act that way towards you .

be nice tho ,

xoxo /.

Q: Age= 15
Gender= Female.
and i'm brown but i act white haha!

um okay so i really like black guys,but i'm affraid i act and dress too white for them to like me.

what should i do?

well ,
there are some guys that like white girls ,
don't change your self for black guys .

there are cool white boys too .

lol

Q: aiteee soo.
i`m not tha girl who gets guyss.
& i mean, i kno i`ma pretty girl .
what can i do ta get guys to notice me more
& not as a little prude girl, which they think of me now?

if you want guys to notice you more ,
obvious you are not speakin up ,
guys like a girl that has something to say ,

not something mean or smart ass'd
a girl that can speak her true self ,
that is real and not fake ,

a girl that has a voice .

& if you prude ,
be fuckin proud of it!

at least you aint no hoe ,
and wont get pregnant in highschool ,

stick to your belifs and don't let anybody , especially any boy change that .

Q: Im donee with relationships now bcuhz all guys do is hurt ya.
but i still want to, ya kno, have fun.

how can i still do bf/gf things with a guy who im not wit without being known as a whore?
do guys like that better than a relationship?

well its basically a thing called friends w. benifits .

if you sleep around and do stuff with many other guys , then you would look like a hoe ,
but if its one dude , then maybe it will actually go somewhere .

and guys do like doing that ,
but it depends on how the guy is .
if they are the committing type or the one that likes to go around from girl to girl .

xoxo

Q: okay so my boyfriend has fingered me a lot. i like it to a point but he like scrapes me when he does it. i know, ouch. but like on the outside to find it. how do i tell him that that DOESN"T feel good?

well if he is your boyfriend ,
then that relationship needs honesty and communication . right ?

well don't cut around the bush ,
tell him straight up .

it might be a lil embarissing for him ,
but if you do that ,
then you can tell him what really feels good .
so you and him can enjoy it .

that last thing you wanna do is fake it .

Q: what is making out? is it like frenching for a long time, or what?

making out is yes , french kissing for a long time , that will possibly lead to more then just kissing .

Q: does having sex hurt?
and how much does it bleed the firt time you have it?

oh and does it hurt to be fingered

does having sex hurt?
- it only depends if you are stretched or tight / or if the guy is big or small ,

if you are tight in your viginal area and the guy is big , it will most likely hurt ,

if you are stretched and the guy is small , it may not hurt .

it jsut depends on if you have had anything up you , like: masterbating or getting fingered ,

if you havn't then it probably will hurt you because you are getting stretched out .

and if it is your first time getting fingered then it may hurt the first time , but the second time around may be better because you are getting more stretched out each time .

xoxo