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friends party?
the other day my friend invited me to her party. we are pretty good friends but not the closest. an hour later she told me the party was canceled cause her mom said she couldn't. well in everyone's away message it says "can't wait for sarah's party on saturday" so its obvious shes lying. i dont wanna bring it up to her and sound like a bitch or get her mad at me.. but like how should i bring it up? i really dont know why she'd do that to me. =/ the party is tomorrow night.
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Well don't leave her a message or anything saying "Why did you lie to me?" because that would be REALLY rude, someone did that to my friend and it was just really rude. Just say 'So what was up with the party this weekend? I heard a lot of people say they were going but you said it was canceled...? I'm not mad or anything, I just wanna know.'
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tell her in the most poliet way that you saw your friends away message saying that they cant wait for the party. If she continues to lie about it then let it go. But maybe she still hasnt told her other friends that the party was off . =]
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Haha, I agree with icey. It would be a really funny idea to put her in that awkward position and see her try and lie her way out of the lie.
Of course, she probably un-invited you for a reason. Maybe you did something to get her mad at you? Or maybe she has a legitimate reason, like her mom said she can only invite a certain amount of people and she wanted to be nice and say that /no one/ was invited.
So really, crashing the party will get you revenge, except she'll be pretty mad and I doubt your friendship will recover. On the other hand, you don't to just pretend that everything's fine and normal when you talk to her, and have her thinking that you still never found out about the party.
It's up to you to decide how close you are with her =/. Good luck.
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Honestly i think it would be hilarious to crash the party and just show up. When you see the girl be like heyy im glad your mom let you have the party afterall!
Another iddea is to team up with a friend of yours who is going and thinks what she did was mean. You go up to the girl with tyour friend and you say.."man im glad your mom let you have the party afterall." then your friend says "what do you mean?" and you say..'you know, the party was cancelled at first.." your friend says "no it definately wasnt.."then you can be like "hmm i see how it is" lol or somethin like that.
Another idea is to take the high road and forget about it..just take her off the list of any parties you will be having in the future :)
(If it were me i would probably team up with a friend haha)
-Melissa-
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It certainly does seem like you were "un-invited" to the party. If you agree with that assumption, then what is the next step? It was really mean of her to do that. This calls for thinking about all the alternatives and seeing which one you can live with. I certainly understand that you want to go to the party.
Now if SHE un=invited you, what could that mean? Is she jealous of you? Will there be a boy there that you both like, and she wants total access to him without your interference?
What if she "un-invited" you at the request of someone else. Who could that be?
ARe you willing to crash the party? Are you willing to have someone else take you to the party? If you do decide to attend, you could say. Hey, glad to see your mom changed her mind! Then just enjoy yourself. She may be to busy to do anything about it. Or is she the type to start a fight with you in front of other people? I think you should think about these questions, and what the answers might be, than make your decision.
I know is sucks. If you decide it is not worth the risk, is there a special friend you can call, and make some awesome plans with?
I do hope that you end up at the party, if that is what you want.
GOod luck.
Michele
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Maybe you should bring it up just tell her you don't really care about the party but you just want to know why she dosn't want you there cause if you don't she will always do this to you at anything like at sleepover ect
xoxo mwa
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