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Being Gay
Do you think that people choose to be gay?
or does it just happen?
I think that it isn`t a choice, and you can`t control it. I just want to see other peoples opinions.
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Sometimes people end up just liking the same gender,well i don't but i am just saying what i think cause my grandfather get stupid when it comes to that,well i also think that some people chose to be gay maybe cause their parents are or where and kids grow up to be just like their parents and they end up choosing,but a lot of people just end up liking the same gender
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i honestly think it could be either. but here's my take on the situation: we accept the world with which we are presented. which basically means, in the society our grandparents were brought up in, nobody talked about gay people. it was almost like they didn't exist. but now, talk of sexuality is more common, especially in the media. so with influences from the media and everyday life, more people are becoming okay with homosexuality. it's almost like it's a completely normal thing (not that i'm saying it's not, but bear with me), almost as if asking somebody what their favorite color is. so in a way, you can choose to be gay. have you ever noticed... and i'm not really sure about this, maybe it's just at my school. but the kids who are self-labeled outcasts are more likely to be bisexual or homosexual. this is just from my personal observation. but these groups of kids have been sort of hanging out with each other since the third grade when everybody had cooties, and now they're all bisexual. is it coincidence, or is it just becoming more average to be open about sexuality? i honestly think it could go either way though. i mean, my friend was telling me about how if the father of a child does not give enough testosterone when the sperm fertilizes the egg, then if that child is a boy and carries the y chromosome then he could have girly tendencies, or be homosexual. so i guess anybody can choose their sexuality, but there are also those who were born with it. things like that don't really influence me because i'm a girl and i like boys. i wouldn't discriminate against somebody because of their sexuality simply because it is not that big of a deal to me.
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i think it just happens by birth!
my mother said the main cause of causeit is when a male is born with too many femaile traits, like thinking like a girl, talking girly etc.
i personally think theres nothing wrong with gays! =]
--ashley
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YES! I do believe people choose to be gay.
And in order to believe this, I must also believe that the opposite is true; People also choose NOT to be gay.
These statements might sound confusing but I have seem many examples of both cases.
In this world you always have a choice; to live as you want to live, to live as you know you ought to live, to live as others think you should live. You, too, have this choice. Myself, I have choosen all of these. I chose, and some may say selfishly, to live a gay life. But I could of just as easily chosen not to, like many have for one reason or another. I chose to try very hard to live my life as a considerate, empathetic, good person because I believe there are good and bad people in every social group and in every race and gender. I know that there are many people who have been taught wrong information about my lifestyle, so for their benefit I chose to live the life of a role model despelling all their preconceived notions as to how I should act, speak, and live. And lastly, I chose to live as a created being -- which is the actual point of your question. Yes, I believe I was born gay, but this belief brings me no comfort. Being gay is just another one of my physical characteristics, a part of who I am. It is not for me to know whether God made me gay, and I could honestly spend my entire life wasting time pondering whether or not I was biologically born gay. If the search for this answer helps you in any way please persue your goal. But for me, I don't need an explaination. If anything brings me discomfort, if anything in this world lowers my self esteem, its not the Christian spiritual belief that I am a selfish sinner, that I chose to be gay and that my soul is going to Hell. I feel sorry for the religious zealots who, to quote Jesus on the cross, "who know not what they do". They are just being spoonfed their beliefs rather than doing the gruntwork by validating their own independent beliefs. (To correct one of these poor souls who chose to respond to your question - its "Adam and Steve", not "Steve and Eve") No, what brings me shame and discomfort is the way I am treated by other gays. Day to day, I am judged more ruthlessly by bigoted, egotistical, bitter, depressed gay people than any other social group. This is the world I chose to live in, this is the reason I try to be a good person, this is my disclaimer to those that judge us.
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I think it's in between a choice and it just happening. I definitely think that you are not born gay. If God created you, he certaintly didn't let you come into this world gay. It says in the Bible that being gay is a sin. God didn't create sinners, sinning is your choice. Not that I'm saying being gay is the most terrible thing in the world. Nor, do i know if you're gay or not. My views on it are God created Adam and Eve, not Steve and Eve.
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Different people believe different things I happen to be biseual did I choose that no was I born that way? Yes I think I always looked at other girls and now that I am a woman I look at other women. I do not believe it is someting that can be controlled
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There are two sides to evrey coin, and multiple answers for this question. I believe that some people choose to be gay, and I believe that some people are just born gay. Science is getting more, and more advanced as we continue to move forward in time. When studying the brains of gay men, they found out that most, if not all, of them had an excess of femail hormones in their brains. Another thing to think about is thoes people born with both sets of genitles. Doctors have to preform a surgery immediatly to decide the sex of the child. But, what if you choose the wrong gender for the child, and the child ends up becoming gay. OR, what if a boy was abused by his mother when he was growing up, so now that he is older, he feels more secure with men. Are you catching my drift here? There are thousands of different situations. The thing to remember is not to be judgmental in any situation that you find yourself in, be it AIDS, drugatics, dragqueens, the homless, alcholoics, or anyone else. I hope that this gave you a clear picture on what I thought about your question. C yah.:)
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If you ask me, sexuality is a really fluid thing. I don't believe, in most cases, that we should label ourselves as gay/straight/bi. Plenty of "straight" women fall in love with other women, and the same goes for men. It doesn't mean you're gay, and I don't think it makes you bi either.
You can't choose who you like/fall in love with. You can't change who you're attracted to. I believe it's best to fall in love with the person rather than the gender.
I, for instance, am only attracted to guys at this point, but who knows if I'll fall for a girl one day? Or want to experiment with girls one day? It's possible, even if I don't want to right now. Experimentation is a good thing...it helps you figure out who you are and what you like.
I believe that whether someone is gay, straight, or bi, it shouldn't make a difference. We're all people trying to find someone to be happy with. It shouldn't really matter WHO we're happy with, just the fact that we are indeed happy.
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I think I'd have to agree with you to a certain degree. It's much like falling in love or liking someone. You can't control who you like or love, it just happens and I think it would make sense to say that it is the same as a persons sexual preference and it just happens.
However, that said I think some may even decide to just choose to be gay. Many girls (and guys) who have been through a traumatic experience with the opposite sex may no longer feel any kind of connection with the opposite sex because of what happen, so choose to be gay instead. So I think it would actually work both ways.
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