I'm curious about something. Well being a girl I know that we like to talk to our female friends about guys we like. So is it the same for guys? Do they talk to their close male friends about girls they like? The reason I"m asking is because they is a guy from work who has a crush on me (who I like back). Well in the last couple of shifts I've noticed that this other guy (who is friends with him) has been staring at me and then looking away when I look at him and his been being alot nicer to me then normal. So I think they have been talking about me. DO you think I'm right?
Xenolan answered Tuesday May 29 2007, 5:56 pm: Definitely, guys talk to their friends about girls. But the conversations they have aren't generally very deep. Usually, guys talk about girls in terms of how physically attractive they are, how much they want to have sex with them, and how they would look naked; very rarely might you hear a guy speak to his friend about how much he enjoys talking to a girl, how fascinating it is just to spend time with her, and how he can imagine that they might really have a chance at a meaningful relationship.
Not that guys don't think about the deeper things - they just don't talk to their buddies about them. We men tend to be a little more private about those thoughts and feelings.
One of the side effects of guys talking to each other about the girls they like is that sometimes, one of them starts taking notice in a given girl that he might not have paid attention to before. When he's looking at you, he's probably thinking something like, "Wow, she DOES have nice legs. I wonder why I never saw that?"
You haven't actually asked for it, but since this is an advice website, I'm going to offer some unsolicited advice. I suggest you make a move on the guy who has a crush on you, before you have the makings of a triangle on your hand. You really don't want two guys who are friends pursuing you at your workplace; things could get ugly. It might be best all around if you locked in with one of them before the other gets too many ideas. [ Xenolan's advice column | Ask Xenolan A Question ]
Heyman answered Tuesday May 29 2007, 5:50 pm: It most definitely depends on the guy. (while practically all girls talk about this sort of thing) I have 2 good guy friends. One said that he rarely would and it's just too weird. He likes to keep that stuff to himself. On the other hand, my other guy friend always confides in his friends about girls and everything. The more outgoing one will not tell his friends, but the more quiet one will tell his friends, which i thought was interesting. hmm.
If i were to think about it, i am pretty sure that these two guys have been talking about you, going on what you told me.
KellyHappy answered Tuesday May 29 2007, 5:50 pm: yea, my boyfriend claims that he and his friends talk about girls way more than we talk about them. lol
so yea they probably have been. [ KellyHappy's advice column | Ask KellyHappy A Question ]
XJellybeanx03 answered Tuesday May 29 2007, 5:50 pm: I think your crushes friend might have a crush on you.
As for your other question about if guys talk to their friends about girls
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