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Im stuck between 2 guys, both who i like alot!
Hey! im a 16 year old female..So i dated this guy josh for almost 7 months and he lives a town away from me..i broke up with him a week ago because i was having confused feelings about everything in my life and i rarely get to see him because my parents dont let me do much of anything anymore so it was just hard on me so i ended it..theres a guy in my grade (mike)- he goes to my school and ive liked him for awhile now and he likes me back..we went to a movie with a group of people and we've held hands and stuff...Schools is out in about a week and a half..Josh is going to college and i dont know who i will see more often. I just dont know who to chose and i like them both so much!!
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Hi.
This is a hard choice for you to make but at the end it really must be your choice. I don't think anyone here can really make this kind of decision for you.
I think the best thing you can do is sit back and have a think about what it is you want. You obviously can't be with both and then you also have to bare in mind the very reason you broke up with Josh in the first place which was that you wouldn't get to see him much because he lived a town away. You said he will be going to college soon so that may just put a bigger strain on the relationship if you decide to get back into it. Not saying that distance matters but it has to mean you both can handle it. I don't know much about this Mike guy but as I said it's all up to you.
Even I am indecisive on what I should say to you. I'd like to say that you should take your time to decide - get to know Mike a lot better first to see he is who you want to be with and he is who he is making himself out to be (every guyis an angel when they have a girl they need to win over). On the other hand you may not have time to wait because Josh may move on after thinking that you won't be coming back to him. Given that risk though I think this is an important decision for you so you should take some time to think about it and decide who it is you want to be with and who you see yourself with long term since I'm guessing you want this relationship to be a long term one.
Sorry I couldn't help more though and good luck.
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Consider carefully whether your relationship with Josh can survive the distance. LDRs can be very rough, especially as people tend to change when they separate and when they get back together they often find that the spark is gone. You will both have temptations; Josh will be surrounded by new women who he's never met before, and you've got this fellow Mike nearby who you already feel some attraction to.
It will be hard, but I advise you to end your relationship with Josh. Try to do it on a good note; explain to him that while you still have feelings for him, it just doesn't seem fair to either of you to continue a relationship where you won't see each other, especially as that's what led you to break up with him the first time. Give him the gift of freedom to take to college with him.
Of course, that might be the wrong thing to do. You don't know what the future will bring. So in the end, you're just going to have to follow your heart on this one. Either way you go, you'll likely end up wondering what might have been, and that's just life. Sorry I can't give you any absolutely firm advice, but in the game of love, there are rarely absolutes.
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