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I am17 years old and 7 months ago my boyfriend and I had sex for the first time. I got pregnant and he left me, now I am pregnant with triplets. My mom says that I shouldnt give them away. I'm not sure what to do.
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wow well i just want to tell you that you should listen to your mom because she is probably right and you dont want to get rid of the beautiful babies you r about to have. cherish this and just think about what you do before u do it.:) hope i helped
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I agree with everyone else. You're 17, you had sex, and now you have to accept the consequences for what you did. If you weren't ready, then you shouldn't have had sex. I'm sorry that this happened, but the way to not get pregnant, is to NOT have sex. In 20 years, you're going to regret giving the babies away. Please just don't get an abortion.
If your mom is telling you to keep them, she is willing to help, and you should definitely take this offer. Moms usually know best.
Good luck <3
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Whether or not you used birth control when this happened is completely irrelevant and the question shouldn't have been asked. You had sex, you got pregnant, and it seems you have accepted the consequences.
If you feel you are emotionally and/or physically incapable of caring for three babies, that's your choice. If your mom thinks you should keep them, obviously she's willing to help you. So if I were you, I would keep them.
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OMG, wow i really don't know how i would handle it if i were you, i think i would probably end up killing myself. But you really shouldn't do that because you already made it most of the way though your pregnancy. Is it possible for you to arrange an open adoption? You would still get to see the triplets and get pictures of them. Or keep one of them?
Wow this is a really tough situation so i'm sorry if this doesnt help
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don't give them away if you do then in twenty years would you be sorry for doing that or think you made the right choice but you might want to have your mom help you a lot with them
sorry about your boyfriend and you
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Woah...thats a tough decission...in a sucky situation. First of all, i'm sorry that your boyfriend left you...he's an ass. And as far as what to do with the kids, i would say to do what's in the best interest of the kids, because it is their lives that are being discussed. Your mom doesnt want you to give them away...but is she going help you support them, and raise them, and watch them while you are at school? If she is willing to help you fincially, and in watching them, then i think that it would be nice to keep them. But if you are going to have to drop out of school to get a minimum wage job (i dont know what your financial situation is and what not) then i think you should give them to a family (that is willing to take all three) that will be able to take care of them properly (I know that you would love them...but unfortuanly that isnt always enough, because these kids deserve parents that will always be around for them, and that will be able to financially take care of them).
This is a really hard choice, and i wish you the best of luck, i'm sure whatever you decide will be the best choice for both you and the children.
*If you do keep them, make sure you get child support from the babies father...and if he refuses to pay, then you should take him to court...because you have leagal rights.
Once again, GOOD LUCK.
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This issue is about what is best for the children.
Would you like your children raised by a single teenage mom, or by a family who wants them and can take care of them?
Are you emotionally ready to have three children always needing you?
Would you be able to support your children financially?
Can you afford to send them to daycare while you work to support them?
What about their college education? Will you be able to help them financially then?
These babies didn't ask to be born. They deserve every opportunity in life that you can give them; if that means giving them up, then that's what you have to do.
Now for yourself.
Do you have plans for your future (i.e. education)?
Are you willing to put up with the stigma of being a teen mother?
Are you willing to give up dating? You won't have time for it with three children to take care of. Plus, no teenage guy wants to walk in on a ready-made family.
Once you've thought of what's good for the babies, think about what's good for you. This isn't just a couple of years; you've got a lifetime commitment ahead of you that you may not be able to fulfill.
Good luck.
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if i were you i would maybe have an open adoption so that you could still be able to see your kids but they would have a better life... they would get the care they deserve that you might not be able to give them also they might be able to have a somewhat normal life...if u keep these kids you will be exhausted and might not even be able to achieve what you want out of life...yea they are your kids and you probably want to keep them but think of them...would you be able to provide them with both a mother and father figure? would you have enough money to live off of?..children are not cheep ...give them the life they deserve and give them up... one day they will thank you for it
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Aww tough decision. Well since you are young and need to finish school it would be really hard to have triplets. Plus it would be hard to afford them. But I think that your mom is right, you shouldn't give them away. Maybe your mom could help you take care of them for a while until you can be a full time mom, and possibly have found a husband. But it is completely your dicision.
Best Of Luck,
Nicole x0x0
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Please, keep in mind this is only my opinion of what you should do. I'm not here to judge you for your actions, I'm only here to try to help you as much as possible.
I think you should keep these triplets. I know, it has to be hard being a single mother of three. However, you could regret giving them up or having an abortion in time, and want them back. If you get an abortion, they'll never be able to come back. If you give them away, you'll more than likely never be able to get them back.
Children are a great part of this world, and being a mother of three -- I think one day you'll be proud of them and glad you had them, love them more than anything in this world and wouldn't know what you'd do without them.
As I mentioned before, this will be no easy task, but in your heart, I'm sure you don't want to give these kids away -- your kids.
I wish you nothing but the best of luck with your decision! :)
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im just curious did you guys use protection at all?? condoms,birth control etc. just message me back in my inbox, i'd be surprised if that happened and you did use protection so im just curious, thanks
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hey
well, you can give them away if you want to & if you can't support them. you still have to go to school & college, and triplets, well, will interfer with that.
if i were you, i'd be very sad to give them away, but what other choice do you have? you can't possibly watch all three of them at the same time WHILE going to school.
is it too late to get an abortion? how many months pregnant are you? maybe it's a possibility.
i'm sorry, but there aren't that many choices. youre probably going to have to give them away. or, because your mom says that you shouldnt give them away, you could let her watch them for the first year while you catch up on school, and then you can start taking care of them.
best of luck & i hope i helped :]
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Accept the consequences of your foolish actions.
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