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cant beleive this happened! so i need advice.
I planned on having sex for the first time a few months ago with the amazing guy i was dating. He is 16, im 15. Neither one of us have ever had sex. The time came and we messed around a little (fingering and handjob) and then we tryed to put it in and it didn't fit, like at all. Me and him both were surprised and a little embarressed. Him and i still talk about hang out alot but we only kiss now we have never tryed again. I have been masturbating with a toy alot since then to try and make me loosen up. Do you think that since i have been masturbating alot that it will help us when the time is right?
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hey hunnie xx
yea it will make it easier babe :)
mwah xxxxxxxxxx
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yea stretching it works
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you were probably really nervous soyou tightened up
if you really want to ahve sex with him loosen up
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Reasons of why he was not able to penetrate inside of you could be because of the following.
1. You were not aroused enough. Just having a wet vagina isn't good enough. You need to be completly aroused and wanting sex.
2. You were nervous. This usually leads into a big chance that you won't be able to sex or have trouble fitting his penis in you.
3. Lack of lubrication. It is important that you use a lot of lubrication. It is preferred that you use Astroglide.
If you were relaxed, had a lot of foreplay done to you, and was really lubed up and still not able to have sex, then you should talk to your gynochologist. If you want to talk more about this whole penetration issue, stop by my advice column and e-mail me if you wish. My e-mail address is on my Advice Column.
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well the toy will really help losen you up, think, a whole baby is supposed to come out of your vagina, so a dick will be able to fit in. anyways, you also have to be wet, if you arent wet try a lubricated condomn or jelly.
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Masterbating will help loosen you up and stretch the skin a little. Were you wet when he tried putting it in? If not than that could be the reason. When my boyfriend and I first tried having sex, it wouldn't fit either. It was really embarrasing, but we loved each other and just laughed it off. You are a virgin, so it will be hard the first few times to get in. I would suggest KY Jelly or lubricated condoms. That should help a little.
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Making sure you are relaxed and feel utterly comfortable with each other will really really help.
Foreplay is a good way to help put you in the mood, not just "fingering" and a "handjob"...
Try lube if all else fails =]
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Hi, the only way for your vagina to open up is for it to get a little wet. If your turned on it should start to wet a little bit making it easy for him to slide the penis in and out. Just practise maybe getting it to open up. Also you might want to think about contraception. Daniel.
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yup im sure of that ....you have to relax n stuff..oh and make sure ...lol that your wet ok?
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I'm sure it will fit a lot better now. It should be more loose. But make sure you use protection, and make sure you are absolutely ready for it.
Good luck.
//X0 H0LLY
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