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she doesn't even know her!
I've known my bestfriend since 7th grade (we're now both juniors) and we're the closest two friends can get and I love her to death.
Our freshman year, we'd always hear about this girl Meagan and how slutty and bitchy she is. Meagan is a grade ahead of us. Well, 2nd semester of freshman year my bestfriend had a class with her but only for about a week because she got switched out.
Last year, my sophomore year, I was in a class with her for the whole year and at fisrt I didn't like her because of the things I've heard but we started talking and she wasn't that bad. Yeah, some of the rumors were true but she was still a good, fun friend. Now we're really good friends. Not as good as my bestfriend and I, but nevertheless, friends.
So whenever I'm with my bestfriend, and I talk about Meagan, she gives me this disgusted look and talks smack about her. I tell her to shut up and not talk about people she doesn't know and then that's the end of it.
Meagan and I are going to a concert in July and I asked my bestfriend if she wanted to come with us because I know she likes that band. Well, she told me that if Meagan is going, she isn't.
How can I get her to stop being so judgmental and at least try to actually meet her?
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well, maybe your bestfriend doesnt like meagan for a reason and she probably doesnt want you to know. but you should also respect ur friends desicion if she doesnt like meagan then theres nothing you can do to make her change her mind. but sometimes it'll help if you ask why she really doesnt like meagan and maybe if you can get them both to settle things then maybe your friend will change her mind and will probably like meagan better.
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even tho your best friend is being judgemental and really shouldnt talk about a person she really doesnt know, you should also be considerate of your best frineds feelings. She doesnt like this girl that you've become friends with, maybe because she things Meagan is stealing you away from her, and she needs to kno that you are not going to ditch her for meagan, especially by going to a show with Meagan by a band oyu kno your best friend likes.
There may also be another reason your best freind doesnt like Meagan...she may know something about her that you don tknow...Your best friend could be trying to protect you... you never know, so talk to your friend and see whats really up.
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I know everyone here has been saying that your best friend needs a bit of shaping up. I say the opposite. I'm sorry if this is insulting to you, but I think YOU'RE not being considerate. Your best friend has every reason to be angry with you. I don't think it's because Meagan has a bad reputation. She thinks that you're replacing her with Meagan. Stop talking about Meagan all the time. This happened to me once. I was in your best friend's situation, and I hated it. Instead of making futile attempts to get Meagan and your best friend chummy together, keep them as separate friends. Don't talk about Meagan when you're with your best friend; don't talk about your best friend when you're with Meagan. If you do so, it will make them feel like you'd rather be with the other. Give your friends the undivided attention they deserve when you're one-on-one with them. Don't bring the best friend to the concert (you've already invited her, but she declined, right?), and spend some quality time with Meagan.
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Your friend probably feels strange about you being friends with someone who everyone calls a slut and so it probably makes her think that you're changing, and all you need to do is let her know that you've taken the time to know her so far and she's not all what everyone makes her out to be.
Also, let her know that you do still value your friendship with her very much and that you don't want to cause a war between her and your new friend. Tell her that you'd like for her to meet her first and then decide whether or not she wants to go to this concert with the both of you.
-TheTeenGirl
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Well, try to get the two of them together to meet and get to know eachother better, but ofcourse, dont let your bestfriend know your friend is comming.
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well set up something so that your bf can meet you and megan but dont tell your best friend that megans going to be there like a movie or something that way she will get to meet her but some people are going to listen to rumors more than their feelings so watch out but it wouldnt hurt to try
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I had the same problem. My friend Dujuan didn't like my best friend Noreene. Dujuan invited me to a concert that I said yes to but didn't mean too. I had actually already made plans with Noreene. I asked Dujuan if Noreene would come since she made a big deal out of me backing out of the concert because I had another comitment. She just abruptly said, "no", and she barely knew Noreene. Now, me & Dujuan aren't friends anymore because I decided to go with Noreene.
Don't let this happen to you to. Talk to your friend & tell her to give the other girl a chance! If she says "no", then she isn't being a true best friend. You need to tell her that even though she is your best friend, you have other friends, & that you really want her to go. Make sure she knows that she is still your best friend. If she says "no" once you say that, then just let her do what she wants & tell her that you really wanted her to go.
This is a tough situation, & it takes a strong person to handle it. I'm sure you will be able to handle it! Hope I helped, Good luck, & please rate.
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I think that your friend is believing the rumors, but shes gone beyond that. Talk to your friend and tell her that you're hurting her feelings because Meagan is now your friend and your best friend is just going to have to accept that. If she's stubborn and doesn't want to reconsider, then maybe she's not a true friend? Let her be that way. If she still doesn't give in by the time of the concert, then I say, go ahead and go with Meagan. You shouldn't let your friend ruin your friendship with Meagan.
Hope I helped!
♥ SiMA
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I think your friend might not like her not only because of the rumors, but she also might feel like she is being replaced. Tell her how much you care about her, and also tell her that it would mean a whole lot if she would atleast give Meagan a chance. With any luck she will say yes and then it is concert time! Hope for the best!
~*Brianna*~
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I say if your friend wants to be that way just because she has heard bad things about Meagan, let her. She will miss out on meeting a great person and going to a great concert.
Tell your friend it's too bad she won't come to the concert with you and Meagan, it'll be fun, and leave it at that.
And next time she has nasty things to say about Meagan, ignore her or better yet, walk away from her. She can think what she wants, but there is no reason you need to listen to such bull. If she wont even meet the girl, there isn't any reason to take what she says about her seriously.
I would be nice if there was something you could say to make your friend realize how mean and unjust she is being, but honestly I think the best way to make her realize what a jerk she is being, is to treat her like a jerk.
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tell her to give Meagan a chance. if people would stop listening to every freaking rumor that goes aroundd! tell her some stuff that made you and Meagan friends, and tell her that she'll NEvER be replaced cause you love your best friend to death! sounds like you gave meagan a chance, and you became friends. your best friend hmmm.. do the stuff she's doing. but not in a mean way. she'll notice it. if she asks you to stop judging people than say well _____, its sort of what you're doing w/ Meagan! good luuckk.
ask your bff why she's judgemeantal. there may be a reason behind it all. and just ask meagan totally be nice to ____<--your bff. than hopefullyy all three of you can be friends. as long as your bffs NOT BEiNG REPLACEDD !!! good luccckk hope that helped! ♥care♥
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You should just tell your friend that you're friends with Meagan and that you would like it if the three of you could all hang out together sometime. If she says no, just let her go on acting the way she is right now. Maybe you should remind her that rumors around high school aren't always true... People talk about anything and everything. It's not really all that uncommon for things to be exaggurated along the way either. I'm sure there have been some false rumors spread about your friend before... it's happened to everyone. It might do some good to remind her of that when she's judging Meagan.
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try and get them to hang out
and just say "okay, you dont even know her, so dont try and judge her, a lot of the shit people say isnt true."
do you dislike some of her friends?
just say "you know you would say the same thing if i bad talked one of your friends, so cool it"
idk, girls can be bitches... :)
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