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Which is worse?
I was just wondering what most people thought.
Would you rather regret something you said or regret not saying anything at all? And why? Your opinion means nothing if you don't explain.
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It really depends what's being said. Care to tell us what you're thinking of saying?
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Done both a fair number of times and I'd say I've always regretted saying nothing more than saying something purely because at least in the latter situation you KNOW the outcome and response of whoever you're speaking to whereas the unsaid is left to fester and there's always a little bit of "what if.." left over. Plus it just makes life a little clearer if everyone knows where they stand.
I can see how other people would say differently but personally I know i can't get over and forget about something until I've said it and faced the person's reaction, though it generally takes me a while to build up the courage to do so.
Plus I'd hate to think there were things people wanted to say to me but couldn't/chose not to but maybe that's just nosiness on my part :)
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i would regret not saying anything at all.
if you never have the chance to express your opinions to someone, you'll never know what might've happened. you'll always wonder "what if?" and i think that is definitely worse than regreting something you said
actions speak louder than words.
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I've been through both a number of times. I've talked about my true feelings, taking a shot in the dark and not knowing what the response would be, and I've kept my mouth shut about feelings too.
In my experience, it was far easier on me when I didn't say anything at all. People speak of the constant wondering of what could have been, but honestly, it's not always constant. You normally meet someone else.
When you tell someone how you feel, you risk a lot. I've had a number of situations where I was almost sure of how the other felt. But when you ask someone out or tell someone you like them, and they nervously change the subject, it's another constant wondering. Why don't they feel the same way or why did their feelings change? It's normally something as simple as "they just did", but I'm guessing rarely is anyone satisfied with that answer.
Since in the question you're doomed to regret something, I would rather regret not saying a word. It's far less awkward and painful.
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i think not saying anything would be the worest. what if someoene bad were to be able to happen and you could have been able to stop it but you didnt say anythign to anyone about it.
♥ Steph
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hmm good question...
after thinking about it for a little bit, i would regred not saying anything at all. why?
well, if i say something and then later regret it, it's only because of the reaction i got. for example, if i want to tell a friend that something she is doing is bothering me, the only reason i might regret it later is if she gets really mad at me and decides to never talk to me again. but even though i might regret saying something, at least i got an outcome... i moved in a certain direction.
on the other hand, if that same friend is bothering me and i choose not to say anything, i would regret it because i would always ask myself "i wonder what would have happened if i told her?" in this case, i said nothing, and the problem did not get resolved. basically, i stayed in the same position and moved in no direction... there was no outcome.
so by saying something, you are moving in a direction... maybe a good one or a bad one, but at least your moving and that's what life is all about. on the other hand, by not voicing your opinion, you are standing in once place. but you have to take chances to get anything in life, so voicing your opinion is important, even if you later regret it. hope that made sense! :)
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I think not saying anything is worse because everyone says things they don't mean in the heat of the moment and even though those things can't be taken back, they can be forgiven. But, when you don't say anything, you might not get another opportunity to say what you want and it sometimes builds up.
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