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does age really matter?
hi...im 16/f
here's my problem...im dating this guy named john and hes very nice, caring, sweet...i like him very much but the only problem is that his 7 years older than me...hes 23 yrs old,is it ok if hes older than me?
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Well, personally i don't think there's anything wrong with it, if you love eachother, it shouldn't matter what your ages are. It's all really base on people's opinion. The only real question is if u or him have a problem with it and if not then what everyone else thinks shouldn't matter.
and also it is illegal so just make sure u dun get caught, :D
good luck!
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Hmm, as much as you probably didn't want to hear it - with your situation age does really matter. Yes it is true that age should not matter between love, but there are many factors that easily outweight it, and most have been mentioned already.
You are also not fully grown and developed physically or mentally (by law). While it is acceptable for a 26 year old to marry a 33 year old, there is a much wider and deeper gap between 16 and 23 than there would be 26 and 33. Basically the older you are, the more range you have, but again to a certain limit. It really is up to you, but do your parents know about this? Ask them to see what they think, nothing wrong with that.Hope that helped.
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I don't think it's a big deal,but john can get charged with satchitory rape for dating a minor I think both of you need to talk to each other about your relationship.
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Honestly i dont think its that big of a deal. It is illegal but if you're comfortable with him and you know he really cares about you then its fine. When i was only 13 years old i dated a guy that was about to be 19. Just make sure hes in it for you and not to use you. Good Luck!!
xoxoJessxoxo
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It is kind of wierd becuase i think its illegle to have a relation ship with someone over 21 if your not 18. But if you really like him and your comfterble around him and he likes you to then it might be ok. I personly think he's to old for you and watch out since he's older you never know if he's just going to use you. Well i hope it turns out ok.
♥ jackie
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yeah i dont see anything "weird" or "wrong" in your relationship with him. I am 15 and it might seem "bad" but i havnt gone out with a guy my age for like 2 years. My boyfriend right now is 22 (almost 23). He is the only one I think I could ever be with again. We have been dating for almost a year. We even picked out are wedding date last night. Septemeber 11, 2010. It has been a hard thing for my friends to deal with. My mom thinks we are only friends. But if you really like him. Its a good person to have around. And 7 years isn't far away. Arnt girls supposed to be 7 years maturer? lol.. Good Luck
x33 K.B.
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I'm sure a lot of people are going to say it's weird that this guy is older than you and he's probably just out to use you. Unfortunately, this sometimes is true so I would be careful. However, as far as an age gap relationship, I personally don't see a problem as long as you're compatible with each other. My husband is several years older than me and we get along great. People may not understand why I would be with someone his age, but I love him and he makes me happy and that's what's important. As far as the legality of your relationship with John, I would be very careful. If you choose to have sex, even if it's consensual, he can end up in jail for statutory rape.
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It's illegal. Yeah I'm pretty sure there are a million other guys around your age that you can date. He could be out of college yet and you could still be a sophmore. You may think it's "cool" because he's older, wiser, many even more expriernced in some areas, but I can doubt that he really likes you. Now don't get me wrong he could but most of the guys out there who want younger girls is to ruin their lives for them. But whatever it's your life, just make sure you know what your getting yourself into.
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Yea, it's fine. I like a guy that's nine years older than me, of course I'm only 14 so I have to wait. :] *Just be careful that if you two hook-up, you don't get pregnant.* Whew. That has happened wayy to many times to girls your age and really gets to be annoying, especially when they got themselves into the mess, and plead on the Parenting section of the site.
Hope it works out!
Jessx33
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Really I dont think its a problem if you guys get along well. In the end, whether you are in school or whether he is working, is not really that relevant as long as your relationship seems to work. The only person who can judge that is you of course.
The seven years gap will become less and less visible as you guys age, but some people will naturally think its weird for a while longer. The only thing you shold make sure (but this is no different that any other relationship regardless of age) is that you guys expect the same thing. That you are equally emotionally commited and so on.
Anyways what I am trying to say is that its all ok if it works between you guys. Oh, and probably you shouldnt go breaking any laws if you live in the US... there thats my political correctness statement of the day :)
Good luck.
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To me it's weird that you're probably a sophomore in high school and he could already have his 4 year degree and then some.
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i am not going to tell you what to do because i am sure lots of people already have i just going to say first of all why isnt he with women his own age and plus what do you guys have in common he is out of school and is trying to further his career ,hopefully, and you are in school i mean just think it through.
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