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taking advantage of me
my friends are constantly making me feel bad or blaming me for something. and i always end up feeling bad and apoligizing even tohugh half the time it isnt my fault...any advice?
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I think you should make new friends..
I wouldn`t even talk to them anymore..You don`t deserve that..♥Dez
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If you didnt do anything. You shouldnt have to apologive. They will get over it. If not there not really worth your time. Dont be around people who dont make you feel good. Im not saying drop your friends over somthing to where you could easily just confront them. So talk to them before you offically decide that they arent really acting like true friends. Sometimes friends can blame you for stuff that is completely obsurd. So just sit them down and nicely talk to them about how you feel about them blaming you for the stuff you DIDNT do.
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be more assertive. the next time they blame you for something youre not a part of, dont back down and automatically say youre sorry. dont make yourself look weak and make everything youre fault, because it's not. the minute they discover you're assertive side, THEY'LL back down and trust me, they would never blame you for anything again. unless it really is your fault. haha. you can always ask "how is it my fault" and if they can't give you a decent answer, it`ll make them look stupid. hope it works out.
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Don't let them push you around like that. If you keep letting them treat you like a doormat, then you'll be like that for the rest of your life.
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You know that's happened to me before so I know exactly how you feel. But eventually I told them how I felt and they said sorry. You should stand up and tell them that you don't appriciate it. Maybe they aren't really your friends.
If they aren't maybe try to find other people to hang out with and who share your interests. =)
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Dont say sorry, for anything you know you didnt do.
Honestly they ARE NOT your "friends" you need to make new friends. No excuses, they are not good friends, and nobody diserves friends like that. stop apoligizing, and stick up for yourself.
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you should stick up for yourself. tell them you didnt do anything. and if you did do something just say it was an accident or apologize but not all the time. you need to show some back bone so they won't mess with you all the time or maybe ever again.
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Stop Apologizing.
Although I'm all for telling your friends you don't like what they are saying and they are hurting you, you've got to take some responsibility for yourself too. (Don't worry I mean the good kind of responsibility.)
Look and the mirror and practice saying this: It's not my fault. I am not sorry.
I have a similar problem in my life. I apologize for everything. Messes that aren't mine, lateness that was out of control, the state of my hair, even poor weather! You name it I say sorry for it. Eventually I realized it wasn't my friends fault, they weren't making me feel guilty, I was making me feel guilty and I was the one who had to make it stop, and I am getting better about it.
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talk to your friends about it. ask them why they always blame you, and let them know its not always your fault.
and DONT feel bad or always apologize. apologize when you think you did something wrong, but dont be a doormat. if theyre mad at you or blaming you but you dont think you did anything, say, "I'm sorry you feel that way, BUT i do not agree with you becuase ...."
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Stand up for yourself and stop being such a pushover. People treat you exactly as you allow yourself to be treated. If it isn't your fault, don't apologize. If they want to make you feel bad, don't let him. Walk away. Make better friends. Do whatever you need to do but don't allow yourself to feel bad. There's no reason to. Life is too short for that shit.
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i hope this helps because i dont kno much about it!
maybe your friends think of you as a bit of a pushover (please dont take offence!!)
try 2 stand up to some of the people who are making you feel bad when its not even your fault; but in a jokey way as not 2 start an argument.
good luck!!
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