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is this bad?
im 14/f my bf is 17. he is always talking about how he wants to marry me and how much he loves me. i love him. i know you will think im to young. im not to young to know love. alright. so he got me this necklace for christmas that has a heart on it that on the front our names are ingraved and on the back it says "7 or 8 more years..." theres a story behind it...but its about me and him getting married in 7 or 8 years. then for valentines day he got me a ring. he wants to get married in 4 or 5 years now.... and he calls me his wife. like when he intorduces me to his friends he callse me his wife. and even to his mom he says hes going to see his wife and stuff. and whenever i see a baby i want one of my own.... is that normal? to want to have his kid? me and him have never had sex or anything. were really jsut good kids in love. so is that bad/wrong/weird/normal?
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it's very normal to dream the way you do. and he seems like a keeper. but you just have to realize that if your dreams to become a reality, you're going to miss out on a lot of things such as boy watching with friends at the beach and all that fun stuff. but i totally understand that when you say you love him, then you love him. that's really sweet of him to wait for so long for you. this can be true love, but you'll never know when it comes to love. it's a hard topic to understand. and your other questions? "is it bad/wrong/weird..?" not at all.
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That's so normal. Once wen I had my first bf it happened soo much:p lol I actually planned out my kid's names. My friend's bf is jus like that too he wants to get married n buys her rings n stuff and I think it's just one of those instances wen you're relly relly relly inlove!
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yeah I think it's the norm. I mean I want to have my bf's kid but no time soon. I'm the same age as you. But like I believe in young love and it's real. XOXO hope I helped! :)
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I kind of have to differ in opinions with everyone else here! Young love is awesome, I've experienced my fair share of it. But sometimes you have to look past that first love, think about what you're going to be doing in 8 years... Like, for instance, even though I loved my ex-bf, I broke up with him because we had very little in common. It's definitely not bad/weird/wrong to feel this way about him... but remember that you are young and there's a lot to experience out there! It's a big world :)
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Yes, wanting a baby is completely normal. My boyfriend and I are basically in the same exact situation as you. He does the same things that your boyfriend does to you. The only difference is we are both 15. I have thought about having a baby a lot, and I have come very close to it. But I have come to learn that it would absolutely ruin my life, and the baby would not have a good life. And I think the main thing stopping me from having a baby, is the fact that the baby would have a bad life. I mean if you really think about it, you can't rely on your parent. I don't know how supportive your parents would be, but you can't just expect them to take care of the baby and pay for everything. So I know how it feels to have that feeling, but you need to think about the baby's life, and how it would probably not have a good childhood, and that would probably lead to a rough life for it in the future. So you really need to focus on how it would effect your life AND the baby's.
Well I hope you make the right decisions.
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That's great that you consider yourselves "good kids in love" I like to hear that :-)
Yes, it's quite normal and not bad at all to want to have a baby with your b/f. The maternal instincts kick in early in some girls, and are even more intense when they sense that they are in love. Since you seem to be so mature about your relationship with this guy, and since you are asking, in essence you already know that even though you want a baby, now is not the right time. A baby puts a huge strain on even the most devoted married couples relationship. (Trust me, I know this). Devote time to each other now--as a childfree couple. (Oh the freedom--I remember it well) and there will be plenty of time to plan for a child after you are married. You'll both make much better parents that way, and it is the unselfish thing to do.
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There is absolutely nothing wrong with wanting to have his kid. It is not weird at all. My last bf I loved to death and still love. To make a long story short, we aren't together right now, but we still love eachother, it was just too hard being together. And he called me his wife to his family and friends and everyone. He wanted to marry me and told me how amazing are kids would be. And when I saw babies I pictured how cute our kids would be. But I never, EVER thought about actually trying to get pregnant at my age and actually have his kid. And I am 17 and he is 18 and we are both juniors in high school. The thing is, we both are young and we both have big lives ahead of us. We both know we wouldn't be able to handle having to raise a family at this point in time. Kids may seem cute and all, but they really put your whole life and future on hold, and can really jeopardize an amazing relationship. You guys obviously love eachother and want to be together. And if he wants to really marry you, then in a couple of years you will see how that plan works out. You are only 14 and he is 17, and priorities change in years. You guys are both young and have plenty of life ahead of you. so don't stress the love you both have for eachother by the possibility of a kid. It could really break a relationship, despite how strong it really is. Just focus on the love you have for eachother and being with eachother. If you guys really stay together all the upcoming years, then when you are around 18 or 19 and out of highschool, that would probably be the best time to think about having kids. Not right now. Like I've said before, you are young, and you never know what is going to happen in the future. And the whole sex thing... that should wait too. Until you are a little older for sure. Having sex might not be a big deal to some people, but everytime you have sex, keep in mind how you would feel if you got pregnant. It might seem like a walk in the park, but if you have known anyone who was your age that got pregnant, their life story is very long and sad. These years you should be having a good time, growing up and just being young. Babies and all that good stuff comes later. You seem like a very mature girl who knows what she wants in life. Just never compromise that. Love is unpredictable, so you never know if the relationship you are in will last. That is part of the fun of it. So just don't make your relationship that serious that quick. It is better to take things slow. Best of luck! Need anymore advice just note my inbox. (Sorry the reply was so long lol)
~Sherah
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