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locked up.
my parents are way too overprotected. yea everyones are, but mine take it too literally. im in 10th grade and havent done things most middle schoolers have already. ive never drank, smoked, or done anything with a guy... i dont want to drink or smoke.. but having a boyfriend would be nice. my parents only let me out of the house for school, sports, and babysitting. if i want to go somewhere else they have to have a list of names, phone numbers, addresses,... you get the point. even if its just across the street. and i have to call them every hour while im out. not that i go out alot because they dont let me and i have to fight if i really want to go. how can i gain their trust when they wont listen to me when i try to talk to them about it? ugh im just so frustrated.
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My advice is to obey their rules. Start going out more often, but make sure you do what they want. After awhile you will gain their trust and they may give you some more freedom. That's the best way to go. Parents aren't stupid. If you lie to them they'll know. You've already tried talking to them about it and if you do it too much they'll think that you're up to something, which you're definitely not. I think it's just that you haven't gone out much before, so they have nothing to base their trust on. You need to build up their trust by following their rules. As much as this really stinks it's what you're going to have to do if you want to make any progress. Good luck.
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hey, you have to try talking with them about it again. maybe try to find a " happy medium " aka comprmise. maybe try little things like instead of calllign everyhour ask them how about every 2 hours. cait ♥
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Here are some choices.
A - Talk to them about it. Even though they have their pissy mood swing moments, just do it. It won't hurt, trust me. Fights are fights. They'll get over it.
B - Respect their wishes. They make rules and such for a reason. And, I'm guessing you're their only child? If so, they're just protecting you because they worry. I'm the baby and the only girl in my family, so my parents worry about me a lot, but I let them know things, so they don't worry so much. Just respect their wishes & rules. They're put there for a reason.
And last but not least, C - In order to gain trust, do responsible things. If you're already responsible, be more responsible. Do more things around the house, get your grades way up there. By doing exceptional things, there will be rewards. In this case, your reward is pretty much freedom. And if you need to call them every hour...Cell phone. =] Use a family plan, it won't cost anything to call them.
&TiNA;
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There's this thing most kids don't think of, and it's "respecting your parents wishes and rules." Try it sometime.
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I'm going to tell you the unfortunate truth, and then I'm going to tell you a few thing you could do that could go well, or could backfire.
It's sounds like you're a pretty responcible person. I think that if your parents cannot see that in you now, then they'll never be able to see it.
I guess you could have them overhear you talking (to a friend) about how they don't trust you and how you've never done anything wrong.
Also, you could fake depression. Cry, put on eye liner when you're around them, not talk much and pretend not to eat.
Find a book about how keeping kids on too short a chain can make them turn wild.
Lie and have a backup. (Risky, and can and will backfire).
Make a list of the freedoms your friends have.
I know, it sounds crazy and I'd never do these things, but I feel for you here.
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