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what happens when you run outta answers, and you dont know what to do anymore? what happens when your not happy with yourself and your lost and confused? what happens when you think your fat and everyone else tells you your wrong? what happens when you lose your bestfriend because shes just not the same anymore? what happens when you life falls apart?
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I can relate to all of this! I'll try to answer most of your questions.
About losing your best friend: I can relate! I was best friends with a girl for 4 years, but then our interests slowly started to change. We started hanging out and talking less and less, until we finally stopped. It isn't that simple, but that's basically what happened. Okay, enough babbling; onto the advice!!
You have to understand that as you grow up, you change, as do your friends. Some friendships can stay alive for a very long time (and sometimes forever), no matter what changes may occur in either friends' personalities. Other friendships don't stay together as long. Why? Well, it depends on the friends. Some can't stand being friends with people who are too different from them, which is why many great friendships fall apart.
I know how you feel right now, and I'm sorry that you have to go through this, but it, like everything else, will pass. It takes time, sure. But just remember all the great times you had with your friend. Be thankful for the friendship and what you learned from it.
"What happens when you run out of answers and you don't know what to do anymore?" This is a vague question, and since I don't know what it's about specifically, I can't answer it. You can leave a question in my inbox with more detail if you want.
When you're not happy with yourself: You seem to be lacking self-confidence, hun. That happens during that confusing, mysterious time we call "the teen years." Everyone goes through lack of self-confidence, no matter how popular or glamorous they may seem on the outside.
Many things can make you confident. Here are some tips:
Be positive. It makes a difference, trust me. I used to be negative, saying things like, "This sucks!" or "I won't ever be able to do this." I realized that I didn't like being negative because I was so miserable. From then on, I started replacing those negative thoughts with positive ones. Back to the best friend situation. You're sad and angry about it, but you should think of what you learned from the situation and focus on the good that came out of it. Good comes out of everything, no matter how horrible the situation may be at the time. Sometimes it takes a while to see these good things, but believe me, you will see them!
Another tip: Do what you love. Love to paint? Paint. Love to play basketball? Shoot some hoops! Take up a new hobby or sport. Hang out with friends. Volunteer at a local animal shelter. Don't mope around; that solves nothing.
I hope I helped, and if you have any more questions, feel free to leave one in my inbox!
♥Manders
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Oh hunny, I think some therapy would be good. It sounds to me like your sorta depressed. You should find someone you can talk to about it. That always makes me feel better when I'm upset about something.
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its called depresion. and your not the only one going through it. i am too. and sometimes i dont even want to wake up in the morning so i no where you are coming from. you just have to have hope that the good things are comming along. before dawn comes thers always darkness. and it helps to pray about it. if you need to talk to someone you can im me at hallieLUVSu 64... i hope i can help!!
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you spend some time coping and feeling pretty crappy....then you start living life all over again.each time you wind up in the bottom of a hole you crawl back up stronger than before you fell. you try to learn from the past and do your best to keep history from repeating itself. you realize no one has all the awnsers and quit trying to have them all, you look to your faith if you have one, to yourself if you dont, for the strength to keep trying, to achieve self happiness, and self worth. if we as humans were always happy wed have no goal in life, wed feel as tho we were sitting still and never getting anywhere and life would seem to be a waste of time. life has to suck, once in awhile , if it dident wed never do anything, change anything, try to make anything better. without the suckiness of life to motivate us, wed all be bumps on a log. prolly all on the same damn log too, cuz no one would move.
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I lost my girlfriend of 3 years, my grandma died, i had no money, got kicked out of school,felt depressed, dident know what to do all in the same week. What did i do? how did i deal with it?
Prayer and strong will. Life is never meant to be easy, many obstacles will get in the way of true happiness, but in order to get over any bumps, one must keep moving forward full speed while keeping the head up high. You can never go back to the past and start from scratch, however you can always start from this moment and make a better ending for yourself. Life is way to short to be crying over spilled coffee, if you fall get up and try again and again, as many times as needed until the moment comes that you will have cleared all the bad things getting in your way. Your life has not fallen apart, it may seem that way, but the fact that you are still breathing lets you understand that the fight must continue. Cowards run away from their problems, heroes run to them and face them head on, after all its the only way you will come a winner. Dont feel sorry for yourself, wake up, snap out of your self pity, new day, different issues to tackle. At the end this is what makes life worth living, the challenges you will face and overcome, i guess what im saying is that one must face pain in order to really understand and appreciate happiness. Keep your head up my friend, life will get better. I know i been down bottom. You ever need any one to talk to, heres my email whoami_2_u@hotmail.com feel free anytime, you can even add me on messenger
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You pick yourself up and start living for your goals, find a best friend that you can have some commonality with, and create your life over. It sounds like you can't, but I've been there. Truly. Make a list of the things you're not happy about and then work to change them.
As far as the weight issue goes, I can't judge. Your friends might be right, or you might, but it all goes back to whatever you're happy with. If you're not happy with yourself, then work to get healthy. You were a little vague with your questions, but if you want to share a little more I'd be glad to help. Drop a question in my inbox or email me at Nevaeh314@gmail.com. My messenger adress is either elithraniel26@hotmail.com or elithraniel268@aol.com, feel free to add me. I hope this helps, and that things start improving for you!
Love,
Nevaeh
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I would love to help you truly but I am woundering the exact same thing. Try opening up with a friend tell them how your feeling/wondering and maybe they can talk it all out with you and you'll understand all your questions.
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You ask for help.
We're social creatures, you know. And that's one of the reasons that we're the most successful species on this planet: we help each other.
There are people out there who can help you get through this. You don't have to suffer through it alone. Talk to your parents, to a counselor, to a spiritual advisor - any adult that you trust. Or talk to your doctor. It sounds to me as if you're simply going through a really bad time; that is, you haven't described anything that sounds like a mental illness to me (although I'm not a behavioral specialist). But it really sounds as if you need to talk to someone to help you get through this.
So please take that step, and get some help. It's nothing to be ashamed of; almost everyone has gone though something like this at some point in their lives.
I wish you the best of luck.
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