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My friend needs help
One of my friends has been with her bf for ever it seems like. A few years. Anyway, they are in a tuff spot right now and possibly heading toward a break up.
Ive never been w/ a guy for 2-3 years so Im far from knowing how she feels. All i would like to do is be there for her.
Any suggestions to how I can help w/o butting in to there relationship?
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I think you should treat it as you would any other time a friend goes through a crisis. Whenever my friends are bothered by something, I tell them I sympathize with them and am thinking of them, and invite them to open up to me if they wish to. But don't ask too many questions because the friend may find the whole thing too painful to talk about. If she does decide to talk, still don't ask too many questions or try to give advice -- just listen to her and make sympathetic noises, and maybe do something to distract her, like you could go to see a funny movie or something, and it would take her mind off her problems for a few hours.
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Just be the shoulder she can cry on, its all you can do. Just listen to her, and the "i know how you feel" thing makes it way worse, so i wouldnt do that...but if they do break up, just be like, im here for you no matter what. And if she needs to talk she will. goodluck<3
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The best possible way to help, is by being there for her when she needs you. There is nothing you can do or say that will make them get better. To this day I have love for the friends who were there for me to talk to, or just hang out with whenever i went through the ups and downs of relationships.
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i would say just give her advice about what to do.. but dont be nosy and dont ask too many questions about her relationship.. especially if it hurts her too much to talk abuot it.. you shold just tell her over and over again that you ARE there for her when she needs a shoulder to lean on or someone to talk to about things. Talk to her about her life & try to compare it to things in your life.. try to make her happy also by making her laugh or hanging out with her more.. its hard to be sad & depressed when your with a friend cheering you up <3*
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well. a start would be trying to imagen how she feels by putting your self into her situation. picutre like LOSEING ur boyfriend. and a good way to help is just to listen to how she feels and just be there to comfert her and tell her everything is okaying to be okay and it might just not be ment to be. =) you dont have to relate but listen instead.
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k i was the girl dating the guy in this situation once. when me and my ex were dating we were so close. we dated for 4 yrs. ya holy shit huh. im 16. adn a junior in high school. when my family moved his did too. we were not only bf and gf but also best buds. towards the end we started drifting away. adn it scared me. then we just got into a fight. cuz he thought i cheated on him. but everyone told him i didnt. so i dont know. what my friends did for me was they did their absolut best to make me happy. they did a good job. we had girl nights and talked. if you want to keep their relationship going then you need to maybe help her set up a cute little dinner date for them. you and a couple other friends can be the hostess'. you know. i hope everything turns out for the best. bye.. xoxo
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♥ oh my god.
♥ that SAME exact thing is happening to me. only I am the girl. so I think i'll know how to help you.
♥ me and my boyfriend have been dating for 3 years. and we are also going to break up soon i think, and yes it is veryyyyy tough.
♥ honestly. i don't think you should do anything until after they break up. and let her know that your always there for her and that your gonna like help her get through it. that's what i would want. just let her know that you're sorry.
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