When not at my hippie college I live in a tiny rural town 11 miles from the nearest traffic light. I love history and can tell you more about the sex lives of various historical figures than you'd ever want to know. I also collect socks.
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Age: 20
Member Since: December 20, 2005
Answers: 58
Last Update: September 3, 2006
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heyyy erm do any of you know any sites where you can download music that is totally free? thanks :) (link)
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I recommend LimeWire Pro. It isn't exactly free -- it costs like $20. But once you have it you can download unlimited numbers of songs, forever. So it's almost free in the long run. Mine has paid for itself many times over.
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i hate going to school everyday and i just hate everything about school. (especially since im a freshman) i know this is sort of hard to answer, but what do you think i should do to enjoy going to school?
ps. im not athletic so i cant do sports lol (link)
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You haven't really said why you hate school so it's hard to give a specific answer to your question -- I mean, are you being bullied? Are your grades in the toilet? Do you have no friends? Do you just hate school?
Since I'm not sure exactly what your school problem is, my advice would be to pretend to be happy. Seriously. Force a smile onto your face the second you step into the building and keep it there all day. This might work because:
A. People will want to be with you more when you appear happy; no one wants to hang out with a miserable or grouchy person.
B. If you smile enough, and try to appear happy, you might eventually become happy for real. Sort of fool your brain.
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Okay so i'm 14, and my boyfriend is 17.(he just turned it about a month ago, and i am turning 15 in November).
We are seriously crazy about each other, and if you want to say that a 14 doesn't know what love is, then i'm the next closest thing to it. We've been together for about a year (16 days shy). We want to be together forever. Yeah, you can think we're crazy, it's alright. lol. What i'd like to know is, is it normal to feel like this at an age like 14, and is it realistic that we could last forever? (link)
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I think this is a perfectly normal feeling if you've been with your boyfriend so long. Will it last forever? I can't say -- I doubt it, simply because the statistics are against you. But don't let statistics stop you from keeping up this beautiful relationship. Love him for as long as you can. Being in love is beautiful at any age but especially when you're young.
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ok i have this spot on my shoulder that hurts i didnt do any thing to pull it or hit it ,it just started to hurt it only hurts when i move it and when i dont it feels funny the pains not horrible just kinda hurts what could it be??? (link)
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You didn't mention if the hurt place was discolored or swollen -- I'll assume it's not. I think chances are you just strained your shoulder somehow. I've done that before a few times and I can never even remember what I might have done to strain it. Just try not to stress out your shoulder with heavy physical activity or anything over the next few days. If the pain doesn't go away in a week or so, or if it gets much worse, see a doctor.
Most people are sometimes subject to random, seemingly causeless pains. I used to get this thing where my chest would, once or twice every few weeks, HURT BAD for a split second like I'd been stabbed, and I'd wince and gasp in pain, then the pain would go away. It went away on its own after a few years.
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Me and my boyfriend have been dating for a while now (10 months) were ready to take it to the next level (sex) I am a virgin and i am young, and havent really experienced much and i've heard you have to be shaved, i'm not familiar with it so i was wondering if someone could give me a few tips on how to shave.
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I wouldn't recommend shaving your vagina. It's not at all necessary for sex. Though some men find a shaven vagina attractive, I don't think the trade-off is worth it, as shaving would be very painful and you could risk hurting yourself. If you're convinced you need less hair down there, here are two other options:
1. You could get a bikini wax. You can have them done at salons or you could give yourself one. They're expensive at salons and they hurt too but it's better than shaving.
2. You could buy a trimmer. I have one for my underarms. It's a little motorized thing that cuts the hair very short, only a few millimeters in length, but doesn't quite shave it. I did try it on my pubic area once or twice and it didn't hurt, it just tickled. I think you get a trimmer at a pharmacy -- not sure, as my boyfriend bought me mine.
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This might be the strangest question ever, but how do you gain weight but still have a nice figure?
People always say Im to skinny and I agree. But i dont want to just like eat alot nd be un healthy nd have the weight come in bad ways.
can you help me? (link)
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I would go to a pharmacy and ask for assistance. I bet they have protein shakes and stuff you can drink.
(And in answer to your feedback question: know, they make you gain weight. Wrestlers eat them, and wrestlers want to be heavier.)
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what does cankersores mean? (link)
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A canker sore is a small, painful, extremely annoying sore in your mouth. They really hurt, especially if they get under your lower lip, but they go away after a week or so. I believe they're caused by some tiny puncture -- perhaps a shard of potato chip that jabbed?
Do NOT eat anything hot (hot soup, hot pizza, etc) when you have a canker sore. You will want to scream.
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hey im 15/f my boyfriend just broke up with my last night and im not in school today because i cant handle all this pain. We were going out for four months and i really thought that this time we could work you know. Because i've went out with him in the past. He says that he just doesn't want anybody to love right now. And i dont know what to do i cry every single minute of the day. I need to be with him. We still talk and we're still friends but i want to go back to the way it used to be. Please can somebody help me out!!! i'll rate high!
-Ashley- (link)
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I believe the answer to your troubles is time, which heals most wounds. This is going to sound horribly cliched, but you are young and there are a lot of fish in the sea. I understand how awful it feels at the moment, but it you wait it out, you'll be surprised how much better things will seem in even a week's time.
I would recommend avoiding the boy for now. Even if you guys want to be friends, at this point speaking to him would only be making your hurt worse.
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well i used to like this guy named *ray and well i wrote him a letter sayin he was cute then my best guy friend went up to him and asked ray if he like me he said:oh yeah i know who she is, shes cute. then later by 2nd semester i had him for 4th pd. we said our occ. "hey" or "wassup" but we never talked to each other.. his best friend would only ask about me. then later i find he has been tryin to hook up with this girl name *dana and now they're boyfriend and g/f, thwy've been goin out for 2 weeks now. does he sound like he ever liked me? or not.? and also i think his younger brother is cute, would it be wrong to hit on his brother? & no, i'm not tryin to make him jealous,when i 1st saw them both i both said they were cute.p.s. im kinda scared that ray might be mad if i start to take a hit on his brother.? (link)
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Why should you care what Ray thinks? Obviously he doesn't care that much for you, or he wouldn't gone out with the other girl. Or he would have at least spoken to you directly. If you really want to go out with his brother, go ahead and try for it. Ray shouldn't really have anything to say about it.
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my name is Rachel and iam a 16 year old girl from georgia and my mom's making me break up with my boyfriend Donnie just becouse she says since he's 18 he's to old for me and becouse he smokes,but I still have feelings for him what should I do? (link)
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I think your mom's overreacting. After all, you could do much worse than date a smoker who is a measly 2 years older than you. You might try to change her mind somehow -- get Donnie to quit smoking, at least around her, and impress upon her his good qualities.
The age of consent in Georgia is 16, so you can't be legally prevented from seeing Donnie. So continuing to see him quietly is an option. However, if you continue to date him on the sly and your mom finds out, she can still make both your lives miserable -- especially his.
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Just making sure. When using a conjunction like "and" or "but" you put the comma after it correct? Say if i said "She likes eggs but, he doesn't." Was that right? Im just making sure for my report :] thank you (link)
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You put the comma before, as in "He likes eggs, but she doesn't." It is not necessary to have a comma at all though. It is more "proper" to have one, but if for example you were writing fiction and wanted to give the sense that a character was speaking hurriedly, then not having a comma is still punctuationally accurate as I am lead to understand it.
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i have ad-aware SE and i have to option to either quarentine all the critical objects to to send them all to the ignore list.. which one is better for my computer, send them to the ignore list or quarentine them? and also, what is the difference?
thanks, i will rate 5's if you help (link)
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I have the same program and I've always quarantined and then removed the objects. That seems to work just fine -- the random advertisements stop popping up anyway.
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I met this guy 2 years ago while we both we legally separated.I was not the other woman.I just had my divorce finalized but he is still ongoing.A lot of nasty custody and money issues on his side.We both had a separate apartments.We met and fall in love.Everytime my boyfriend faces a problem, he will withdraw and break up with me. He has problem having access to his children and was deppressed for not being able to see them for a period of 5 months strecth.His wife use the kids as pawns.We broke up everytime because of this.He will then come back again when he thinks he has sort out the issues. His wife met me and him while in the restaurant and eversince that, she has given him unlimited access to the kids. He is so overwhelmed with this new arrangement and now he said that he can't do both.Having a relationship and his kids in the picture.He broke up with me again. I know he is confused.This man was married for 15 years since the age of 22. He misses the family life but he don't love the wife anymore.Both had an affair and he left the marriage.I am deeply in love with this man and everytime he comes back, i will never give him a hard time cause i know how much his kids meant to him.I am disappointed with his decisions. He told me that he is going away with the kids and the wife for a holiday which is something he has not done so for the past 3 years.He wants to be close with the kids again. I am so heartbroken right now as i don't know if he will go back to his wife after being separated for 2 and half years. His wife wanted him back badly and she is trying so hard to have him back in his life. I am stuck.I really love this man but i'm torn as well because i really believe of the vows we make in marriage but my guts tell me that he is not going back with her. Too many resentments from the divorce proceedings and multiple affairs from both sides.Please help me.I keep thinking there is hope that he will come back again once he smooth this one out again.I can't quit thinking about this and i really believes i can be happy with this man. (link)
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I don't think this relationship is doing much for either of you. However much you love this guy, he is keeping you dangling on a string and is trying to have his cake and eat it too. (Sorry all the cliches.) The guy may not be intentionally selfish, divorce is hard on everyone, however he doesn't seem to take into account how you feel whenever he dumps you. You need to stop being a doormat and forgiving him and taking him back each time -- put your foot down and tell him the next time he turns you off again, it's off for good.
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All right, I'm a relatively healthy (physically and mentally, I hope) young woman. I've never been intimate with a man. However, I've realized more and more that violence turns me on. For instance, when I see rape on TV or in a movie, I feel myself becoming aroused. When I fantasize, I always have these dark fantasies where a man is hurting me and forcing himself on me. It's not like I don't appreciate or crave romance - I do! Why am I having these thoughts though? I don't want to be hurt or violated or anything, but it just turns me on. Is it all right? Would a man be freaked out if I shared this with him? Would he take advantage of me? I've always thought I was a "good girl". (link)
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I don't think there's anything particularly unusual or alarming about such fantasies. I think most people have them. I wouldn't talk about them in detail to a man you didn't know well -- wait until you have known him awhile and are reasonably sure he won't "freak out." But what you think about privately is your own business and there are no bad thoughts, only bad actions. I think a lot of people have such fantasies as you're describing because lust always involves an element of mystery -- and what is more mysterious than some stranger who compels you to make love to him?
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so I get bored alot when im at home && i was wondering if you knew any fun sites or anything I might be interested in .. im up for any suggestions (14/f) thanks (link)
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Ever been to bored.com?
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I am 13 and my sister is 28, married and has 1 child. She is very clean, doesn't drink, doesn't smoke (Anymore). But she is depressed. She is in debt, and her husband is never home because of his job. He is a truck driver, so it's usually her and her baby which is 2 years old.
Every week that her husbands not home I have to go spend the night with her. It feels like a second home. One night, not to long ago, I went to her house to spend the night (of course) and she was crying. I asked her why and she started to tell me but didn't and I took it as if she was depressed or that she was alone and afraid because I wasn't there.
People have tried to steal things from her and her husband many times. Her neightbor thinks they sell drugs and take the money to buy all of the things she has. Which isn't true of course. She's in debt. My sister and I have never argued. I like to make her laugh because it makes me feel good that she can accually have fun.
Another thing is her weight. She's shorter than me and she is a little chubby. Everytime she see's herself in old photos she says she wishes she could look like that. One night I didn't want to spend the night with her and my mom made me go. The next day I found out that she was crying because she thought that I wasn't comming out. I really don't know what to do anymore. Can anyone offer any help? (link)
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I think this is a big problem -- too big for you to really help with alone. You need to talk to your sister's husband -- either call him or something, or wait till he comes home next -- and tell him about the problem. If your sister is suicidal as you are saying, the husband needs to take action to help his wife. It may involve quitting his job and getting one that doesn't have so much travel. Or she could get into counseling. Either way, it's not something you can do for your sister alone. Talk to her husband and other family members and if she has any close friends, talk to them too, before it's too late.
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So I got kicked out of my school and Im not aloud to go back there.. My mom doesnt want me to go in another town because it costs money So basicly Im not aloud to go to school anymore. I really want to be back in a school just not my old one. I want a fresh start. What should I do? (link)
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You didn't mention whether it was a high school or a college, but I am guessing it's high school. You can't not go to school. Every child under 18 has a right, indeed an obligation, to go to school no matter how many he/she's been kicked out of. I suggest you tell this to your mother and also talk to the local education officials so they can find a school for you to go to. Otherwise you will get in even more trouble for being truant.
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I think I have a yeast infection. Its itchy down there a lot. My discharge is a normal color though. Do I need to get this checked out by a doctor? And how do I tell my mom? I'm 13. Do I just buy something like Monistat? And what if I use medication and I don't have a yeast infection?
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If this is the first time you've had those symptoms, you should see a doctor. You probably have a yeast infection and the doc can give you medicine to cure it. You might have something else, though, in which case the doc can find out.
Monostat works really well but it's kind of expensive -- and obviously it won't do any good if you DON'T have a yeast infection.
In either case, you definitely need to speak to your mom about this. Don't be too embarrassed -- one time my mom was not available and I had to tell my dad and THAT was embarrassing. :-)
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15/f For the past 9 years i have been constantly bullied and since september 05 i have been homeschooled. the bullying was to much for me to handle it was literally every one! and no im not over reacting. if it was a few people i would of been able to deal with it but it was groups of people from each year in my school.
And i would sit in my classes with every one chanting names at me, dont get me wrong i often fired back with comments about there bad points but i felt so mean, im not the sort of person to bully or be nasty!
I was born with cleft lip and pallette and of course i had operations to correct it but i have a few scars and so on.
I used to get comments like.. fish lips, bulldog, lipricorn, half moon and so on and i still get them every now and again when i go out.
but now i have no friends what so ever except for the people i speak to online as all the friends i did have have now turned against me and joined in with the bullying!! YEH GREAT MATES RIGHT?? erm no.
The thing is i feel so ugly, i know im not ugly ugly but im not exactly pretty either and its getting me down! what can i do to give myself the confidence boost i need?
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I was pretty much in the exact same situation -- had to leave school prematurely because of bullying, was homeschooled. Except there wasn't anything wrong with my appearance.
If you are embarrassed about your cleft palate, you might try a reverse psychology approach: don't try to hide it. Walk around with this "devil may care" attitude. People might actually notice the scars less if you do this -- because people always notice what you're trying to hide. It's like in that book "Johnny Tremain" where his hand was messed up and he was always trying to hide it and people stared at him. Then one day he went to a party and had a good time and forgot about his hand being messed up and lo, no one at the party noticed it.
As for finding new friends, that may be difficult. I didn't find any till I started taking college classes, and even then it was slow going. You might try joining local homeschooling organizations in your area, they usually sponsor events for homeschooled kids to get together.
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i have to get a physical for next year or else i cant go to school.. by the way im going into 10th grade. and the thing is, i wanted to know what the doctors do during a physical, thanks! (link)
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When I got physicals in junior high school (the last year I attended school) they only measured my back to make sure my spine was growing straight.
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